Weight gain

[swiftlyirun]

I just need somewhere to put this.

I’m so upset with my weight gain in the past month. I have done SO WELL until now. It’s insane how much weight I’m packing on each appointment now. I gained a ton with DD1, and I actually lost it easier than with DD2 when I gained like 30lb. But still, I hate it. I have no self control with the sweets this time of year and just ugh.

That’s all. I guess I’m just looking for hairpats and commiseration mostly, but tips to keep my self more on track are appreciated too!

Feel free to leave your vents here too.

[psychmom]

I feel you. The temptation has been strong this past month. I'm hoping that with the new year all the snacks and treats around me at work and home will disappear and I won't be triggered as much.I had weight loss surgery a year and a half ago so my mind has been in hard core weight loss mode for a long time and gaining weight has been messing with my head a lot the last couple months. It's hard but stay strong! You're nearly at the end!

[chocolatelove]

I can relate also. I was on weight loss meds for the last few years. I gained about 15 pounds back when life got crazy, and then even more with my first pregnancy and the emotional eating from that loss. So I started this pregnancy much higher than I hoped. And I gained about 50 pounds. The mental process has been intense. Hugs.

[swiftlyirun]

chocolatelove , psychmom , thanks.

It's such a mind game. I wish my mom wouldn't ask me how much I've gained every.time. I see her. Also the "oh you're about to pop" comments are starting to roll in. So annoying. I want to enjoy and LOVE my bump, not feel like I have to hide it. 

[sloan]

I hate it. I was working on losing weight before getting pregnant. I’d lost all but 10 lbs of the baby weight from DS but gained a lot back when he slowed down on nursing and I didn’t slow down on eating like a nursing mom, and ended up starting out about 20 lbs higher than I did with DS. I’m already those 20 lbs higher than when I delivered him and still have about 6 weeks left. It’s hard mentally because I feel like I shouldn’t gain anymore but of course I don’t want to not eat enough for DD to get what she needs, and know a pound a week or so is the target for third trimester.

ETA swiftlyirun my mom asks too which sucks, and last week or the week before some lady asked if I was having twins, which COME ON WHY WOULD ANYONE EVER ASK A PREGNANT LADY THAT KIND OF SHIT?!

[madDawg228]

Hugs to all of you who have been dealing with any asshat-ery from others regarding your pregnant bodies. Women's bodies are always criticized, and people especially seem to think they are entitled to tell you their opinion if they even suspect you're pregnant.

I was told by my dad's gf after I announced I was pregnant, that she could tell because my face is so much rounder. Sigh, I'm sure I'll start receiving more comments as time goes on and the weather warms up and I have to wear less than my current wardrobe staple of big, warm, flowy tops.

[doglove]

Ugh the struggle is real. I was doing good until about week 30-32, but now I’m almost at 40 pounds. My eating isn’t even that bad and we barely eat out. Hope some of it is just fluid retention. I am still walking 10-14k steps a day too. The doctors don’t say anything at my appointments, but it’s discouraging to me. My face is all bloated and every time I’m in a photo I end up crying. Blah.

[swiftlyirun]

Jan 2, 2020 12:36:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Ugh the struggle is real. I was doing good until about week 30-32, but now I’m almost at 40 pounds. My eating isn’t even that bad and we barely eat out. Hope some of it is just fluid retention. I am still walking 10-14k steps a day too. The doctors don’t say anything at my appointments, but it’s discouraging to me. My face is all bloated and every time I’m in a photo I end up crying. Blah.

THIS exactly. Like. I was doing SO. WELL. Then holidays and my 3x/week tennis ended and now I'm akin to another ballon in the Macy's TG day parade. 

Thanks for all the commiseration. I know this is all dumb, but it's become so consuming for me! It doesn't help that DH has lost nearly 25lbs while I've been pregnant because he stopped eating sugar.

[doglove]

Jan 2, 2020 14:01:24 GMT -5 swiftlyirun said:

Jan 2, 2020 12:36:01 GMT -5 doglove said:

Ugh the struggle is real. I was doing good until about week 30-32, but now I’m almost at 40 pounds. My eating isn’t even that bad and we barely eat out. Hope some of it is just fluid retention. I am still walking 10-14k steps a day too. The doctors don’t say anything at my appointments, but it’s discouraging to me. My face is all bloated and every time I’m in a photo I end up crying. Blah.

THIS exactly. Like. I was doing SO. WELL. Then holidays and my 3x/week tennis ended and now I'm akin to another ballon in the Macy's TG day parade. 

Thanks for all the commiseration. I know this is all dumb, but it's become so consuming for me! It doesn't help that DH has lost nearly 25lbs while I've been pregnant because he stopped eating sugar.

One thing I keep thinking about is something Emily Oster pointed out in her book Expecting Better - she broke down the stats of weight gain and said overall it’s better to gain more than less and have a baby at a healthy weight than low birth rate. Also, her research indicated even with extra weight gain, 90+% of women end up losing it within one year after birth. I get it though, I feel yucky.

[swiftlyirun]

doglove SUCH a good way to think about it! And the loss of weight thing is a good reminder. <3 thank you

[sunflower17]

I hear you. I’ve gained more this time too. Mostly because I was so sick my first pregnancy that i lost weight initially.
Also, I’m 35 weeks and over the past 2 weeks, multiple strangers have said oh any day now and one asked if it was twins and when I said no, they asked if I was sure. 😒

[swiftlyirun]

So this is weird. I’m at the OB now, 2 weeks after my last check up.... and I’ve lost 2 lbs. strange.

[doglove]

Jan 3, 2020 12:15:00 GMT -5 swiftlyirun said:

So this is weird. I’m at the OB now, 2 weeks after my last check up.... and I’ve lost 2 lbs. strange.

Maybe just water retention fluctuations??

[swiftlyirun]

Jan 3, 2020 13:54:42 GMT -5 doglove said:

Jan 3, 2020 12:15:00 GMT -5 swiftlyirun said:

So this is weird. I’m at the OB now, 2 weeks after my last check up.... and I’ve lost 2 lbs. strange.

Maybe just water retention fluctuations??

Maybe? So strange either way!

[farfalla2011]

I think all the comments from everyone regarding my weight is probably the thing I hated most about being pregnant. And now 3.5 months post-partum, comments are still coming. I don't know why being pregnant and having a baby makes everyone think they have free reign to make all the comments (good or bad) about your weight gain or loss. We are already hard enough on ourselves about it, all the comments from everyone else are truly obnoxious.

[doglove]

Jan 3, 2020 22:26:36 GMT -5 farfalla2011 said:

I think all the comments from everyone regarding my weight is probably the thing I hated most about being pregnant. And now 3.5 months post-partum, comments are still coming. I don't know why being pregnant and having a baby makes everyone think they have free reign to make all the comments (good or bad) about your weight gain or loss. We are already hard enough on ourselves about it, all the comments from everyone else are truly obnoxious.

I hate the “good” comments just as much. Oh you look so fit and you’re doing so good! I’m growing a human, please don’t comment at all either way. One my friends keeps telling me how in shape I look, my changing body has been a struggle to learn to grow with and overall it just doesn’t help to be compared to someone else’s bump or how they ate and looked during pregnancy.

[swiftlyirun]

Jan 4, 2020 13:56:53 GMT -5 doglove said:

Jan 3, 2020 22:26:36 GMT -5 farfalla2011 said:

I think all the comments from everyone regarding my weight is probably the thing I hated most about being pregnant. And now 3.5 months post-partum, comments are still coming. I don't know why being pregnant and having a baby makes everyone think they have free reign to make all the comments (good or bad) about your weight gain or loss. We are already hard enough on ourselves about it, all the comments from everyone else are truly obnoxious.

I hate the “good” comments just as much. Oh you look so fit and you’re doing so good! I’m growing a human, please don’t comment at all either way. One my friends keeps telling me how in shape I look, my changing body has been a struggle to learn to grow with and overall it just doesn’t help to be compared to someone else’s bump or how they ate and looked during pregnancy.

Agree with all of this!