So where is everyone at on this journey

[jennistarr1]

We need another check in

[tacom]

Yes I like this idea! I lurk, but not much activity.

Currently getting our ducks aligned before we TTC #2. Hoping we can start soon. We have a 16 mo old son.

[jennistarr1]

Jan 5, 2020 21:17:05 GMT -5 tacom said:

Yes I like this idea! I lurk, but not much activity.

Currently getting our ducks aligned before we TTC #2. Hoping we can start soon. We have a 16 mo old son.

How was ttc#1 for you?

[jennistarr1]

I'm frustrated because I accepted the first appointment they had available without checking my schedule. When I had I realized the appointment is within a 30 minute span that I'm actually doing something pretty important. Trying to reschedule is impossible. They literally were into February and can't find a single appointment. I mean seriously? I'll be out of my first trimester by then and I'm still having blood.

I've actually wanted to switch to a midwife practice and I think this is deciding it for me. I think I may call and see when they could see me and just see who could see me first

[tacom]

Jan 5, 2020 22:49:42 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

Jan 5, 2020 21:17:05 GMT -5 tacom said:

Yes I like this idea! I lurk, but not much activity.

Currently getting our ducks aligned before we TTC #2. Hoping we can start soon. We have a 16 mo old son.

How was ttc#1 for you?

We were lucky - i was pregnant by our fourth month of well timed sex / 3rd mo of temping and OPKs.

My pregnancies are high risk because of a medical condition / immune modulating drug I take, so there have been a few months of prep work before we start (ensuring normal labs, clear MRIs, accurate med dosing). That’s the season I’m in now.

How are you feeling? I know this road has NOT been smooth for you. You could always see the midwife practice and keep the MD appointment anyways, right? That might allow you to see who is a better fit.

[sassystace]

Hi! I just had a mmc at around 9-ish weeks and a d&c beginning of December. I am not sure if I am TTC or not going forward as my last pg was not planned but made me consider that another baby could still be possible. I'm still stuck in the "what if" phase post-mc so I'm still hanging around the boards. I'm 44 so I didn't think I was likely to become pg, but then I did and had a loss and it has me thinking if I should/could keep trying or is it a lost cause because my eggs are old. But it's hard to let go of the idea for some reason.

[jennistarr1]

Jan 6, 2020 10:31:40 GMT -5 sassystace said:

Hi! I just had a mmc at around 9-ish weeks and a d&c beginning of December. I am not sure if I am TTC or not going forward as my last pg was not planned but made me consider that another baby could still be possible. I'm still stuck in the "what if" phase post-mc so I'm still hanging around the boards. I'm 44 so I didn't think I was likely to become pg, but then I did and had a loss and it has me thinking if I should/could keep trying or is it a lost cause because my eggs are old. But it's hard to let go of the idea for some reason.

I completely feel you!!!

Your post has me scared and hopeful.

I'm scared because I'm at 8 weeks

but hopeful knowing that you were able to conceive at 44

We were on the fence about kids altogether but a loss is what really opened my heart up so I definitely get your feeling

[jennistarr1]

Jan 6, 2020 10:31:40 GMT -5 sassystace said:

Hi! I just had a mmc at around 9-ish weeks and a d&c beginning of December. I am not sure if I am TTC or not going forward as my last pg was not planned but made me consider that another baby could still be possible. I'm still stuck in the "what if" phase post-mc so I'm still hanging around the boards. I'm 44 so I didn't think I was likely to become pg, but then I did and had a loss and it has me thinking if I should/could keep trying or is it a lost cause because my eggs are old. But it's hard to let go of the idea for some reason.

So the midwife practice has me down for 1/29 and my regular doc has me down for 1/23.

HOnestly it's a little freakin crazy how long it takes to get an appointment

my best bet with both of them is to call every day for a cancellation

[jordanbaker]

I mostly lurk too, but we’re starting our 11th cycle of TTC #2. We got lucky and conceived #1 in our fifth cycle using OPKs despite my PCOS and frequent comments from doctors since my teens that I may have trouble. I have an appointment with my OB/GYN if a few weeks to talk about steps moving forward.

[bcv513]

I’m still lurking. We’ve been TTC #2 for two and a half years.

[lolc]

Hi! I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant! Due 8/25/20 but will probably be at least a week early due to repeat c-section. Got my BFP Dec 9th, was negative on the 5th so I found out super early! Had an ultrasound on NYE where baby’s heartbeat was a healthy 151bpm!

Similar to sassystace, I had a miscarriage a few months back, and it really made us feel a void. We decided we definitely wanted another baby.

We miss that stage terribly, even pregnancy, so I’m thankful to be pregnant and praying that nothing goes wrong. I had uneventful pregnancies in the past, but I wasn’t even 30, so I’m hoping the same for this pregnancy. I had a terrible scare on NYE!! Long story short I was extremely constipated, went to use the bathroom, was straining, and suddenly felt a “pop” at/around my cervix followed by a gush... fresh blood, and a clot!! I thought for sure I had lost the baby, or that I would lose it. -Nobody- can explain what happened, and my OB said everything looks and feels fine, but I will not be able to poo with ease or unstressed until well after this baby is born. I’d never had that happen and I’m still freaked!! Everything else has been great, but that event has me scared. 

I’m 38, soon 39, so “advanced maternal age.” My youngest is 9 but will be just shy of 10 when she becomes a big sister... something she was always adamant about NOT wanting, until last year when she decided she wanted to be a big sister now. My oldest (son) is turning 15 in a matter of days, followed by my 2nd turning 13 end of Jan. My daughter will be a month shy of 10 when this baby is born! This baby will grow up in an entirely different generation than it’s siblings! The age difference is crazy, but we’re actually looking forward to starting again. My H just switched careers, and he’s already been put into a better position than what he started with. We’re getting full health benefits, so it seems all has fallen into place. 

I know its so cliche but all I care about is a healthy baby and healthy me. My dd would like a sister because she has 2 brothers, but I just want a healthy baby. Wishing everyone luck, bfp’s if you’re trying, and healthy pregnancies and babies for all! Jennistar we’re due within a week of each other! 

[tacom]

bcv513 I’m so sorry it’s been that long. Have you ever gotten any explanation?


jordanbaker I hope your OB is helpful at your appointment and can help you work through your options

lolc congratulations on your pregnancy. That is quite the age gap indeed!

[sassystace]

lolc We would have had a 10 year age gap if we had another one too. I've always wanted three kids but when I had 2 young ones, we didn't feel like we could have sanely handled another. Now that my other two are older, it would have been fine and we began to look forward to the opportunity to start again. I never told them I was a pg because of the high risk of mc, I'm glad I didn't because they would have been crushed as well.

I feel for all of you that have been TTC for extended periods of time, it is so draining.

[doggielover]

I'm usually a lurker but I'm getting priming for egg retrieval num 2. All of the embryo's from my first retrieval ended in fails. I'm a little conflicted. I know there's no reason why an embryo won't stick but I feel they just keep throwing more meds at it which is frustrating. If you have under 4 embryo's at my clinic they automatically freeze all on Day 3 instead of risking them to day 5/6.

[jennistarr1]

doggielover, I feel like number 2 is a lucky number so I'll keep my fingers crossed

update for everyone. Finally had my first appointment today and things looked pretty good. The sonographer was out sick so the doctor tried it himself and we could see a heartbeat. Doesn't seem like he took measurements or anything so I think my official sonogram will be at 12 weeks

[stinker]

We casually started TTC #3 in August 2018 and then actively trying in early 2019. Miscarriage and D&C in September 2019 which was really hard. Then we had a few months of terrible timing due to my husband traveling but hoping we are back in track now. I have 2 boys ages 6.5 and 4. There are days where I’m barely handling my current situation which has me doubting our plans for another but I just can’t shake the feeling that a third belongs in our family.

[ckinla]

I usually lurk. I had a MMC (lost the baby 3 days after my first ultrasound with a good heartbeat/measuring on track) and discovered 2 weeks later. I had a D&C a few days before Christmas and am waiting for my pregnancy tests to finally turn negative (cruel). We plan to try again right away for #2 since I'm 37 and we don't want a huge gap between kids (our Daughter is 2.5). I've been temping and ovulation tests are blazing positive, but I suspect that it's picking up HCG since I have no other symptoms of ovulation that I typically do. Am also waiting for the results of the genetic testing so I can mentally close this door and move on.

[carrotsmakemefat]

I’m almost 6 weeks 😬 the got pregnant board is very dead. LOL.

I’m laughing at myself since I started a prenatal yoga group right before this 😂 guess I’ll be in it with everyone.

Edit to add: this is my first and I’m 37, almost 38. Autoimmune condition and Lyme - very nervous. Go in for my first appointment next week. So far so good ? I keep calling it a bunch of cells that want to be a baby.

[carrotsmakemefat]

Jan 5, 2020 21:17:05 GMT -5 tacom said:

Yes I like this idea! I lurk, but not much activity.

Currently getting our ducks aligned before we TTC #2. Hoping we can start soon. We have a 16 mo old son.

Omg hi !!!!!!

[tacom]

Jan 7, 2021 9:03:07 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Jan 5, 2020 21:17:05 GMT -5 tacom said:

Yes I like this idea! I lurk, but not much activity.

Currently getting our ducks aligned before we TTC #2. Hoping we can start soon. We have a 16 mo old son.

Omg hi !!!!!!

hi!!! and congratulations  

It took us a bit longer this go round (+ time off for COVID) but I'm 24 weeks now. How are you feeling physically? (I know emotionally the beginning is so nerve-racking)

[carrotsmakemefat]

Jan 7, 2021 9:37:27 GMT -5 tacom said:

Jan 7, 2021 9:03:07 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Omg hi !!!!!!

hi!!! and congratulations :) 

It took us a bit longer this go round (+ time off for COVID) but I'm 24 weeks now. How are you feeling physically? (I know emotionally the beginning is so nerve-racking)

So far so good ! Same as all my regular autoimmune stuff. Maybe a little more tired? I see the OB next week and then my endocrinologist for my Addison’s disease. I suspect my steroids will have to be adjusted for cortisol. Hoping it stays pretty smooth sailing. 🙌 I feel confident now that I KNOW I can get pregnant.

We got married in October but started trying in July. I was all ready to get checked by a fertility specialist in February.

[tacom]

carrotsmakemefat with the exception of first tri nausea and the pelvic stability issues at the end, most of pregnancy feels like vague autoimmune issues to me too.

Hope it’s an uneventful 9 months for you!