February Randoms

[pandora89]

Hi! How is everyone doing?

We moved DS to a double bed and moved the crib into the nursery to start preparing for DD and DS's sleep has gotten so much better. He sleeps through the night, sleeps in, and when he does wake up, he sits in his bed and plays with his animals. Vs in the crib he woke up and cried 1-2 times a night but usually put himself to sleep and then was waking up around 5 and yelling "daddy no bed!". He also seems to be much better rested and not cranky in the mornings. Hopeful this change helps improve his sleep long term.

Had our anatomy scan last week and baby girl looks good. Told work yesterday that I am pregnant and will be going on leave this spring and they all said they kind of expected it/arent surprised. My manager told me she now expects most parents to go off shortly after returning from their first maternity leave. 

[janegold]

That's great pandora89! We've converted B's crib to a toddler bed already, but our plan is also to switch him to a double closer to when the baby arrives. I hope we have a similar experience to you! He falls asleep fine in his bed, but he never stays in it all night.

I'm 20+3 and had my a/s yesterday. Baby looks great, but my cervix is measuring short. I'm going back on progesterone today (UGHHHHH) and will be rechecked in 2 weeks. FX it stabilizes and that I still have 19+ weeks to go...

[pandora89]

janegold - Hope the cervix stabilizes! How stressful. Are you guys finding out the gender? I cant remember if you were team green with B.

[janegold]

Feb 4, 2020 15:05:50 GMT -5 pandora89 said:

janegold - Hope the cervix stabilizes! How stressful. Are you guys finding out the gender? I cant remember if you were team green with B.

Yes, also a girl!  I am way too much of a planner to ever be Team Green.

And thank you.

[red]

GL janegold!

I have not been around much, busy busy with the little guy! He’s 8 wks as of yesterday. I have less than a month of mat leave left. My MIL will be watching him until Aug (from Croatia!), so I feel a little better about going back. I also have the option of taking the Summer off since I work for a College. I feel like if she is here I might work though. I’ll see how I feel and if breastfeeding is going ok still when back to work.

I am debating a trip home with DS this Summer. We moved to SC from NY in 2018, I have not been back since. My mom and dad (divorced) have yet to meet DS, but at the same time, I feel like most grandparents would have made the trek. My dad is remarried and has always but my step-family first, visited once 1.5 yrs ago. My Mom has not talked to me aside from texts since maybe 8 months ago? She has never visited here, she does not travel anywhere though. Needless to say, my parents are not close to me. I do have a few close friends I could see when we visit, one of which came down here and surprised me in Oct. We would fly and need to rent a hotel since none of the above have a place we could crash with a baby. Worth it?

[starryfish]

red I wouldn’t put forth the effort if they don’t.

However I do have a similar problem with my FIL and his wife (DHs Step mom). My dd is 3 years old and they live 7 hours away but only came and visited us once and it was Bc I was giving them a tour for step sister of my cool work place. I’m bitter about it. They always expect us or just me to come (I take my dd with just me to visit several times without my DH Bc he can’t get off work). I take her Bc she enjoys it and I feel it’s the right thing to do. When she no longer asks to go, then I will stop. Bc I think it’s absolute crap they visit step sister who lives 6 hours away allll the time but not us (and she’s just single in college). But hence I’m bitter lol

[Mushe]

red, oh man, that’s so sad! I wouldn’t go if it’s just to see grandparents, but it could be nice if you want to see friends!

[Mushe]

Life just screams by, you guys. B is almost 20mo, but not quite 18 adjusted. She’s still not talking, which is annoying, but DS was the same. She’ll say things once, but not again, like when she pointed at herself and said her name, clear as day. I have to wait until she’s 18m adjusted for a speech eval, but I’m already in contact with EI, and she will send the (amazing) speech therapist that we worked with for DS.

We are taking DS to Disneyland this weekend as a belated birthday present, and I’m so excited! My parents are watching B so we can go at big kid speed.

I’m marathon training for late March and exhausted and starving. 😂

[loira]

We might finally be buying a place of our own! Keep your fingers crossed that it all goes through. It's a cute 2 bed 2 bath condo in the area we want, right near the schools we like. It's small but property prices here are insane - almost as bad as Vancouver and Toronto. pandora89 I know you can sympathize!

The other day I had a bit of a moment though - like I was mourning the loss of my freedom. I've always been able to pick up and move wherever. Brazil, France, the UK, Korea. Now we're really locked into living here.

A cracks me up every day. She's so confident and just loves her school and all her activities. Every day I look at her and can't believe what a great kid she's turned into. We're off to my grandfather's 90th birthday party next weekend so she's excited to take a plane again.

[kellikans]

Time is a thief. DS is going to be 2 in 3 weeks. I can't believe it. I'm busy planning his party (Mickey themed because he is OBSESSED). My parents are flying out for a week to see him for his birthday, so that'll be fun. And we're going to take him to Disneyland. I can't wait to see how he reacts to a real live Mickey. He has been a turd lately though. The terrible twos are in full effect. But then he turns around and does the cutest, sweetest things.

DD is 8 months today. And she legit crawled for the first time today. I'm actually looking forward to her being mobile because I think she and L will have so much fun together.

We're going down the road of remodeling our house. It's stressful and we haven't even hired an architect or contractor yet. Just trying to figure that stuff out is hard. We have preliminary architectural plans drawn up, and it's making us realize that we may lose a BIG part of our backyard. We're really going to have to weigh whether or not we want the fourth bedroom or a bigger yard. I'm kind of leaning toward the bedroom since we have a park not too far of a walk away. We'd still have some outdoor space, but not enough to put in a playhouse or anything. We wouldn't have a lot of space for our dogs either, but as long as they have some grass to go potty, I think it should be okay since they don't really run around much. I don't know. Thoughts on 4th bedroom vs. bigger yard?

[Mushe]

loira, congrats, how exciting! Do you have a place in mind?

kellikans, how sweet! Things like seeing your DS’s face when he sees Mickey in person are the things that stay with you. 😍 I would totally go for a 4th bedroom, especially with OOT family. It sounds like a huge reno, so for the cost, I’d go ahead and get the 4th bed.

[scm1011]

Lots of exciting stuff going on around here!
pandora89 and janegold , I can't believe you guys are already more than half done with your pregnancies! I hope you're managing the cervix issues issues ok, jane.
Mushe , what marathon are you running? I got word I didn't get picked for NYC this year, boo, so now I'm narrowing down my choices for a fall marathon.

Things are pretty good here. DD is almost 9 months old! Time flies. We got referred to EI due to some gross motor delays (she's not reliably sitting on her own, not crawling in the least), so we're navigating that now. She also sucks at sleep (up 2-3x a night still), but other than that she is a joy DS is 3 and such a funny and sweet little guy.

I interviewed earlier in the week for a huge promotion, so waiting to hear how that shakes out. It would be pretty life changing for us financially. It's a bit of a stretch (I'm not as qualified as the other applicants), but I'm the only internal candidate and I hope that gives me an edge. We'll see!

[Mushe]

scm1011 woof, that sleep schedule. I’m sorry! I’m sure she’ll rock EI! I hope it’s not too crazy to arrange. They were great at doing speech for DS at daycare.

I’m running scenic Modesto at the end of March, but I’m also thinking about Santa Rosa in late August.

[scm1011]

Mushe, an August marathon - I can't imagine! Rockstar! Good luck next month

And yeah, here's hoping we can handle EI at daycare. Our first appointment is Tuesday, but it's just paperwork apparently. Frankly, I'm not all that concerned since she was sick legit the entire month of January with colds, ear infections, and pneumonia so I think she just needs a little extra time. Or maybe not, we'll see. I hope all goes well at B's EI eval and that your speech therapist works their magic again!

[shauni27]

wow, I have not been here and I missed some big updates!
pandora89, janegold, y'all are going to be having babies again so soon!!!
Mushe, I do not know how you do it all. You are insane and also such an inspiration! I want to start running more again, but my knees have been giving me a really hard time. Cannot believe you have a 20 month old; wild!
loira, ahhhh! exciting on the condo! It is scary to buy a place no matter what, but it is also comforting too. Fingers crossed for you!
scm1011, I canNOT believe D is already 9 months?!?!? you just had her!
kellikans, oooof, hard decision with the house. I personally like a bigger yard, but I also really like forfor guests to have their own spaces when staying over so a 4 bedroom has its appeal...tough call!

[shauni27]

I cannot believe it is already about to be March. Wild! I turned 35 yesterday and had a nice and low key birthday. We are settling into the new house a but more and after taking a break from unpacking and such, now we are jumping in to some projects. I am back-splashing this weekend, we have painters coming in March and then in April we will break ground on the mudroom we are building.

We booked a child-free "anniversary/birthday" trip for May and we are excited to go to Puerto Rico. Originally the plan was St. Martin, but we got such a deal on PR that it was a no brainer. We are able to fly first class direct to PR for WAY less than we would have payed to fly to St. Martin. So now we are using the extra savings for the house projects.

S is just over 2.5 and acting every bit of it. Some days he is a darling little love and other days he makes me want to lose my shit. He is doing great with potty training and is active as ever. Loves gymnastics, swimming, skiing and also just cuddling with mama. He discovered how to ask Alexa to play fart sounds and it has made his life complete, lol.

[Mushe]

shauni27, happy birthday! I always forget that you’re so young...or I’m so old. 😂 Have such a fantastic time on your trip! The Alexa use sounds hilarious. H is so opposed to them that I think we’ll never get to play.

[Chrysanthemum]

Hi! DD was born a couple weeks ago and our family is complete. The scheduled c section went so much better this time around and recovery has been much easier, thankfully. DD was more than 3 pounds bigger than DS at birth! DS loves being a big brother and has been super sweet to her. We feel so lucky.

I continue to read along here, usually in the middle of the night these days. It’s great reading everyone’s updates!

[janegold]

Congratulations Chrysanthemum !

Happy belated bday shauni27 !

Good luck on the job, scm1011! That sounds so exciting!

Thanks for the good thoughts, everyone. My cervix is still shortening despite meds, which has me nervous. I'm 24+2. I'm trying to take it really, really easy b/c my MFM thinks the shortening might be activity induced, but that is easier said than done with a 3 year old and H traveling most of the time. My mom and sister are driving 750 miles tomorrow to help out for a couple weeks - they're the best!

[pandora89]

Just chugging along with this pregnancy, reached viability! Have another OB appointment next week and will do the glucose test shortly after.

DS seems to have flipped a switch the past few days. Toddlerhood was hitting him hard but then since Tuesday has has been the sweetest thing, ever. No tantrums, no hitting, etc. I dont know what changed, but I am sure it will be very short lived. We havent turned the TV on while he has been awake since then. We also hid all the sweets (we dont buy much but my parents will.not.stop. buying chocolate and bringing it over because "DS loves it" but we put a stop to that too. I dont know if it's to do with any of that or just timing or something but I hope this kid is here to stay lol.

However, he nows considers anything we do to him that he doesnt like as us hitting him. Yesterday he told me to stop hitting him in the bath while I was putting shampoo in his hair. This morning he yelled "MUMMY! NO HITTING!" when I told him he couldnt have the popsicle he took out of the freezer drawer for breakfast. This kid.

Also his vocabulary is exploding. I got a new pair of runners this weekend, which he is obsessed with and keeps trying to put on. He had them on this weekend and was dragging them around the house and I asked him if the shoes fit. He responded with “yes a little tight”. LOL.

[shauni27]

pandora89, S and E are so similar. I swear we go through 2 weeks of hellish behavior and then 2 weeks of glorious behavior. It is so odd. I do find REALLY limiting TV time made a HUGE difference in his behavior (though it was fucking HARD.) He also does something similar to E with the hitting...every time he is touched, at all, he will go OW YOU HURT ME. OW THE FLOOR HURT ME. OW THE COTTON BALL HURT ME. Christ kid, calm your tits.

[pandora89]

Mar 4, 2020 8:14:19 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

pandora89 , S and E are so similar. I swear we go through 2 weeks of hellish behavior and then 2 weeks of glorious behavior. It is so odd. I do find REALLY limiting TV time made a HUGE difference in his behavior (though it was fucking HARD.) He also does something similar to E with the hitting...every time he is touched, at all, he will go OW YOU HURT ME. OW THE FLOOR HURT ME. OW THE COTTON BALL HURT ME. Christ kid, calm your tits.

haha omg this is E too, "ow ow mummy! mummy hit!" after I do anything like wipe his noise, put lotion on him, stop him from doing something dangerous/he shouldnt be doing etc.