Moms of older kids

[expectantsteelerfan]

For us, it probably depends on time of day and how well we know the parents of the friend. I would not be upset if any friends' parents gave my kids free reign of their kitchen (although I'm pretty sure my ds and his friend ate an entire package of oreos one time). But most of the neighborhood parents know that I call my kids home at 5 PM for dinner because that is our regular dinner time (due to necessity of our schedules), so they know I'd appreciate if they didn't let my kids have snacks right before coming home.

For us, if kids come home off the bus with my kids, I offer them a snack right when they get here, and then that's pretty much it (again, because we eat early, so they leave early usually).

If it's a weekend or a day off of school, I wouldn't really care and would defer to whatever the host does.

Oh, we did have a next door neighbor whose kid was always eating junk and giving it to my kids, like cans of soda and bags of candy every day. I never expected the parents to be monitoring my kids when they played with him (they were generally supposed to be outside in our yard or theirs), so the rule was if that kid offered my kids junk, they had to come home and ask me first if they wanted it, and they'd have consequences if I caught them having it without permission. But that family moved this summer. And again, the responsibility was on my kids, not the friend's parents.

[joy]

My kid is three but I literally have zero cares what she eats at other homes. Explore, see how other people live, eat stuff you can’t eat at home - this was one of the best parts about visiting friends while growing up.

[lolalolalola]

I have no expectations at all. My DD is often taken out to fast food restaurants by her friends parents after school, and it annoys me because she doesn’t eat supper. but I would never put my expectations on anyone else.

My kid is 12 and if she has friends over after school, it’s unsupervised. So I don’t know what the hell they eat. Junk, I’m sure.

[waverly]

I don’t really want my kids having soda/ caffeine or tons and tons of candy. I don’t mind if they have a few pieces at 10 I could probably talk to my child about my expectation.

Again I wouldn’t want tons of food right before they might be coming home to eat a meal, but I feel like that would be sort of obvious with meal times. My child has a food allergy. She is only 7, but she knows what to stay away from.

So I think you are fine but if you see them eating tons of candy feel free to tell my kids, mom says don’t eat any more candy. And no caffeine.

[pugz]

Since her child’s diet is being restricted at home she is likely to binge when given access to food without restriction.

[readyin07]

Feb 18, 2020 19:46:10 GMT -5 fn2187 said:

Feb 18, 2020 19:43:19 GMT -5 waverly said:

I don’t really want my kids having soda/ caffeine or tons and tons of candy. I don’t mind if they have a few pieces at 10 I could probably talk to my child about my expectation.

Again I wouldn’t want tons of food right before they might be coming home to eat a meal, but I feel like that would be sort of obvious with meal times. My child has a food allergy. She is only 7, but she knows what to stay away from.

So I think you are fine but if you see them eating tons of candy feel free to tell my kids, mom says don’t eat any more candy. And no caffeine.

We don’t ever have soda in the house so that’s not a concern. I was noticing one mom constantly restricting what her kid eats. That kid is overweight quite a bit. I serve snacks when they get here, a platter of healthier items to try to get them to eat healthy but allow free range to the kitchen after. That particular kid eats so much more after but now I think I can’t go back and just suddenly change my policy without being obvious.

I wouldn’t expect my rules or restrictions to follow my child to someone else’s home besides me making my child aware of my expectations; or if there was a true issue then discussing it with me first. When my kids get home from school they have a small snack. when they have friends come home (rarely) I will stop and get a slurpee or set up ice cream sundaes or something fun. Honestly I would probably put up some of my snacks so there is less temptation. My kids do ask for snacks when other kids are here and I will tell them “you’ve had x and y and z. Let’s take a break for a little bit:”

[jewel]

Hey guys, this is BlueSky the racist here.

Feel free to ignore her and maybe she’ll eventually go away 😊

[lolalolalola]

Feb 18, 2020 23:20:15 GMT -5 jewel said:

Hey guys, this is BlueSky the racist here.

Feel free to ignore her and maybe she’ll eventually go away 😊

Ugh. Thanks for the reminder.

[devonpow]

I have an almost 13 year old - he and his friend ate 16 thin mints each and a bag of tortilla chips while watching a movie here the other day lol. I’m apparently not one to ask. I was somewhat horrified.

At this age I feel like it’s up to them and I don’t care what they do here or at other houses. Something like the thin mint explosion of 2020 isn’t typical- they usually just have a normal snack. But more than half the time the are together with no parents around - they go out to eat dinner on their own, go to Starbucks, are in houses with no adults...they need to figure it out on their own.

[CrazyLucky]

No expectations. When kids are at my house, I try to limit them to one snack. They're usually only there for a short time. Whatever other parents want to do is fine. I just hope my kid isn't a pain like one of our neighbors. She's always asking for odd food, like, "Can I have a ham sandwich?"

[formerlyak]

No expectations at all. I remember as a high schooler going to one of my bff's houses and we'd bake brownies and eat like the whole pan. I'd be a hypocrite if I all of a sudden told my kid to monitor his eating at friends' houses.

When they were younger, I'd ask friends what they were allergic to and other parents would do the same with ds, but beyond that I really don't care. At this point, I know there are two of ds' friends who have food allergies and I will sometimes ask if a certain thing is ok if I am cooking an actual meal.

[186momx]

I just remind DD to not eat her friends parents out of house and home. My DD can eat but if you look at her you would think she hardly eats at all. Her first sleepover the mom told me afterwards she was shocked when DD ate 3 large pancakes, 3 pieces of bacon and a glass of juice while her own daughter at the bacon and picked at the pancake. At our house I put a time limit on when they can eat. Sleepovers no food after 9pm, after school you get a snack and then nothing else because of dinner (we also eat early).

[browneyedgirl9]

My son is only 6, but he has free access to the pantry to get snacks.

[pinkdutchtulips]

zero expectations ..... out of sight, out of mind

[bronxgirl]

Feb 18, 2020 23:20:15 GMT -5 jewel said:

Hey guys, this is BlueSky the racist here.

Feel free to ignore her and maybe she’ll eventually go away 😊

She'll never go away because she loves to troll us, but nonetheless, we can keep ignoring her and not feed into her bullshit.