How are y’all doing?

[doglove]

It’s pretty quiet in here. How are y’all doing?

We’re trying to work through what seems like reflux issues with baby D. A has been sick this week so it’s been a little bit of a struggle to find time to sleep, but he saw the doctor today and has meds to be on the mend. My sister is coming down to visit and help next week and I can’t wait. Tell me what’s going on with you?

[tiramisu]

Good luck with the reflux issues doglove! I'm glad to hear A got meds and will be on the mend.


Not much is going on here. Working, as usual. Pretty sure my work crush has a crush on me too, which is kind of hilarious. I took two days off, which was really nice. Went to Disney with a friend Saturday and Sunday and then yesterday I just relaxed. It was amazing. Sayying is still going nowhere, but I'm keeping at it and trying to keep hope alive.

[neonpink]

I've been slammed at work and home. I feel like I am just moving from one fire to another. I leave for vacation in 22 days and can not wait.

[doglove]

Feb 19, 2020 12:56:10 GMT -5 neonpink said:

I've been slammed at work and home. I feel like I am just moving from one fire to another. I leave for vacation in 22 days and can not wait.

Where are you headed?

[neonpink]

I’m heading to Paris, Bruges and Amsterdam. My husband, brother and some friends are all going together. I’m really looking forward to it. Also I got the tickets for 300$ so it’s pretty awesome.

[neonpink]

I’m heading to Paris, Bruges and Amsterdam. My husband, brother and some friends are all going together. I’m really looking forward to it. Also I got the tickets for 300$ so it’s pretty awesome.

[doriswe]

Hamster on a wheel....feeling pretty stagnant in a lot of areas of life. Thankfully, nothing is bad, just boring.

[chalupa]

Work went haywire this week. I’m now nine whole weeks into the job, and I just went from one direct report to 5 when a counterpart accepted an internal position in another department. I barely know what I’m doing, and now I have to figure I what the heck these 4 other people are supposed to be doing on a daily basis 😂

Besides work, not too much exciting news over here. My horse is still super sore and gimpy and grumpy and I’m really hoping to see a change in another week or two as his Lyme meds kick in.

M has a man cold and it’s the end of the world. He’s currently on his third day off of work, lololol.

Next week is a short week for me - it’s a 3 day bachelorette weekend in NYC. I can’t wait for a weekend with friends and zero responsibilities.

[bullygirl979]

I'm here...just busy. I've picked up three new projects/contracts at work since 1/1 so it's kind of bananas. Half marathon training started on Tuesday and I officially signed up for my half.

Other than that, just trying to do fun stuff. P and I are going to the next city over tomorrow to see a comedian, which should be fun. Trying to plan our trip to Iceland, but haven't gotten very far.

[tiramisu]

Well, I had a friend breakup this morning. She said let's take space from each other for a bit, but I don't expect to hear from her for a while. I called it, I told her not to push me away and then she just kept trying to dig up reasons to be mad at me. So I cried and it's sad, but it's also a relief. I've been doing a ton of emotional labor the past 8-9 months because she's been going through such a tough time, but it's really worn me down. So I'm trying to just appreciate the space to not be expected to be there whenever someone has a crisis. Honestly, in a lot of ways it feels freeing.

[gault]

I had surgery on Tuesday and am home now which is so nice. The pain gets less and less every day. Watching 90's thrillers now and waiting for my brother and his family to come for a quick visit.

I am so sick of thr clear liquids diet already. I'm on it for two weeks. Lots of strained soup and jello and cream of wheat. Flavors have changed, so sweet is too sweet. It's a byproduct of the surgery which is kind of crazy to experience.

Overall the physical recovery has gone well and i feel incredibly lucky.

[spindle92]

I'm on a fist name basis now with the local donation place. I am there so much dropping off stuff.

When I left xh I took almost everything but I ended up putting most of it in storage because I moved in with my sister and her house was fully furnished.
Well last fall my sister moved to the south side of the city to be closer to her job, and I live and work in the northern part. Our house sold in less than a day and the new buyers wanted in asap. I found the most perfect lot, builder and home design in a brand new development and got in on ground floor pricing. The only downfall is that they are not breaking ground until spring, so I moved into a rental for the time being.

So I have been going thru not only all my stuff from the storage unit but also every drawer, box, tote and what not of everything I own and purging, purging, purging. It feels great to get rid of so much stuff. It is also kind of sad the amount of "stuff" I have accumulated but clearly have not needed for years.

[chalupa]

spindle92! Buying/building is HUGE! Congrats!

I, too, need a good couple weekends spent purging. Our basement is overflowing, and I know it's just holding "stuff". I mean, I never go down there to grab anything - it just keeps holding more and more.

[spindle92]

Feb 25, 2020 11:22:22 GMT -5 chalupa said:

spindle92 ! Buying/building is HUGE! Congrats!

I, too, need a good couple weekends spent purging. Our basement is overflowing, and I know it's just holding "stuff". I mean, I never go down there to grab anything - it just keeps holding more and more.

Thanks, I am getting really antsy for them to break ground. 

All this purging is a REAL eye opener to all the useless stuff I have accumulated over the years.
Just money thrown out the door on crap.  I mean I must have loved it when I bought the stuff but now, I am a tossing/donating machine.

[chalupa]

Feb 25, 2020 11:49:21 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

Feb 25, 2020 11:22:22 GMT -5 chalupa said:

spindle92 ! Buying/building is HUGE! Congrats!

I, too, need a good couple weekends spent purging. Our basement is overflowing, and I know it's just holding "stuff". I mean, I never go down there to grab anything - it just keeps holding more and more.

Thanks, I am getting really antsy for them to break ground. 

All this purging is a REAL eye opener to all the useless stuff I have accumulated over the years.
Just money thrown out the door on crap.  I mean I must have loved it when I bought the stuff but now, I am a tossing/donating machine.

Man, the clothes I never wear, or wear once or twice could fill half a closet themselves. On the other hand, I wear the same 5-10 things over and over. I really need to get better about identifying what it is that makes me love something so much so I can stop buying all the other crap. It isn't the price tag - it's totally fit/comfort for me. Plus black. Why do I even attempt to add color to my wardrobe when all I want to wear is black? 

[spindle92]

chalupa, I cannot tell you the amount of clothing I have found with tags still on it from years ago. I am actually embarrassed by this.
and yeap, add me to the "all I wear is black" camp.

[bullygirl979]

spindle92, that is awesome! Congrats on the house!!

[cleo29]

So, H plays words with friends and realized on Saturday night that the OW had engaged in a few games with him under a new name. Then she started to play around with her name or at least aspects of it, dropping clues until he realized it was her. So, that was fun.

Her final change was putting "So much left unsaid" as her name. So yeah. Our therapist felt she might try if she learned of my MIL's passing two weeks ago. stuff like this is what would have her reaching out in the past.

And this is the song that she was using in her screen name. Superposition.:

I don't believe in fate
No psychic vision
But when things fall into place, superposition
In any universe you are my dark star

I want you to want me
Why don't we rely on chemistry?
Why don't we collide the spaces that divide us?
I want you to want me

Superstition aims with imprecision
But when things can't be explained, superposition, oh
In any universe you are my dark star

I want you to want me
Why don't we rely on chemistry?
Why don't we collide the spaces that divide us?
I want you to want me
I want you to want me

No matter what we do
I'll be there with you!

I want you to want me
Why don't we rely on chemistry?
Why don't we collide the spaces that divide us?
I want you to want me

Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Eric Matthew Cannata / Francois Paul Comtois / Jacob John Tilley / Payam Reza Doostzadeh / Sameer Gadhia
Superposition lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.

[downtoearth]

Mar 9, 2020 10:13:50 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Then she started to play around with her name or at least aspects of it, dropping clues until he realized it was her. So, that was fun.

Ack - I asked you about this, but now I see it's totally nefarious. I hope you therapist helps him confront her and tell her to stop directly. 

[downtoearth]

I should mention that I'm doing pretty great. I'm working on some new career changes, but nothing concrete or planned yet. I just feel good that I am open to looking for something different or re-defining my role at my current company. I also got to ski with my kids two days in a row this weekend and the second day was great. I wish I had skied in better places this year - I was stuck mostly skiing with kids at our local hill that didn't get much snow while surrounding areas were dumped on. I think I'll plan a girls' ski trip in April for spring skiing up higher. That would be fun to just have women skiing back-country together and something to look forward too for a month from now. I have the kids for next 8 days since their dad is out of town later this week and I'm loving it. I miss having them all the time, but I also realize I work out and hike a lot less when trying to get three kids and the dog to jump-up spontaneously and go. I also leave right after having kids for 6 days on vacation with my boyfriend and am SOOOO ready. I want to leave the state and relax, connect with my person more, and be somewhere warmer. But I'm also nervous to meet some of his family and friends. It seems exciting.

Oh and I still get frustrated with the boys (ages 13, 11, 7) when they tease incessantly, especially the oldest. Why can't they just ask the other one to hang out or go on a bike ride or play a game instead of tease to try to get any sort of attention?! As soon as my oldest registered for high school (three weeks ago) it's like all of a sudden he is a moody high school kid?! I think I'm off to the library tonight to find more guidance on growing empathy in teens. My oldest seems so stoic with people he knows, but seems empathetic to online stories or novels. He is a good kid - mostly A's, involved in skiing/biking teams, helps around the house as asked, etc., but it's hard to see his vulnerability slip away to more barriers and walls. It's weird how boys learn to (or maybe it's nature?) slowly close-off emotions to people as they age into teens. It's like open emotions and vulnerability are weaknesses. Any advice or good resources? So far my friends, therapist, and especially my sister have been great, but I'm always glad to have others to help.

[dixienormous]

I've been gone for something around 4 years. I'm semi(?) back.

Pastrami is now almost 5. He's incredibly smart, sweet, and amazing. I'm registering him for kindergarten and I can't believe it. He fences (as in "en guarde!"), loves dinosaurs, fossils, and going to the flea market with his dad.

Petite Fleur is 9. She continues making progress in her own way. She's working on using an iPad app for communication, though she has some words and makes her wants and needs mostly known. We're also working on potty training her. Walking is still hard without a hand to hold, though she keeps saying "myself". Her sass is unbelievable.

After 4ish years of working late evenings in retail, I landed a part-time day job in the office of a local church. It's been fantastic. I really like it and the community. It's right across the street from my synagogue and less than a mile from my house.

We're very involved at our synagogue. I'm on the board, we brought our fencing club there to use the facility, I was recently in a production of The Music Man that we put on.

H and I have been working hard on our relationship and things feel more settled. It helped enormously that I'm still in therapy and he's started to take an anti-depressant.

I still deal with major bouts of depression and anxiety, but I'm working through the roots of those things. There are a lot of days that I'm ready to give up. PF's needs are mounting as she gets older. Some things are easier, but a lot aren't. She amazes me every day, I'm just so tired of fighting. With her, for her, medically, educationally, therapeutically. I'm just tired. I'm putting more effort into doing things that make me happy. I'm auditioning for community theatre again and trying to sing as much as I can. If I can find time for my happy place, I"m in a better mental space all around.