Potty Stubborness

[missbella]

Is she 3 or nearly 3? Because this sounds like a 3 year old thing in my experience. My daughter does things like this as well. Sometimes I can’t even figure out what the problem was. I’m not sure I have any advice but I definitely understand the frustration. Sometimes I just pull down her pants and sit her on the potty while she is screaming sometimes she stays on and goes other times she hops off and then I just walk away. Do you think she is capable of being independent in the bathroom? My daughter potty trained at 22 months and has been totally independent in the bathroom since probably before she turned 3. I would try to let her do as much as possible by herself and only offer assistance where absolutely necessary.

[joy]

Can she unfold her seat, put it on and get on the potty herself? If not, do you have a potty she can use independently? We have the seat with step combo so she doesn’t even needs us. She may just crave independence and maybe a new system will help her have it.

[isabel]

Well, for starters, I’d eliminate as many variables as possible. A fold up potty seat sounds like hell. We have a standard one that stays on the toilet (there’s a hook on the tank so we can take it off if an adult is using the toilet) and a stool. DS2 trained in October and has been pretty independent with the toilet at home for a few months now (he’ll be 3 in May). If she can go by herself, I’d definitely give that a shot. Seems like there’s less risk if she’s handling it herself.

[jordylee]

My almost 3 year old loses her shit if attempt to help. If I accidentally flush the toilet, it’s WWIII in our house. I agree with everyone who said do whatever you can to let her be as independent as possible. We have a stool and a toilet seat with a kid size and an adult size. Other than a “check” wipe after poop, she’s 100% independent and it is NBD anymore.

[dcn]

I know exactly what you mean. My 4 year old will also lose his shit if I help him do something he wants to do himself. Definitely streamline the process and let her handle it.

[felicity]

I generally find when DS is feeling out of control in other areas of his life that it spills over into meltdowns like this, especially related to using the potty since eating and using the potty are the only things kids can really control. I usually just say things like "it's really hard when things are different, huh?" but don't bend over backwards to try and change how they feel or avoid meltdowns. It's really not about whatever small thing was that they didn't like. I'd try and figure out what else might be bothering her.

[macmars45]

Solidarity in the meltdowns over helping DS do something he wanted to do himself. DS will be 4 in 2.5 months. Is 4 better?

felicity thank you. That's a good reminder. There are some big changes in store for my family currently (we are getting our house ready to sell and moving out of the Seattle area). We are feeling the loss of control spill into everything DS has even a bit of control over.

[pugz]

Solidarity. My 3 year old is Boss Baby

[pooh8402]

Yep, sounds like 3 years old. I would let her be as independent as possible (easier said than done, I know). E1 likes his privacy when he is going to the bathroom too. We used to stay within earshot when he was younger, but now he's like 98% independent (although sometimes he still calls for help with wiping).

[dcn]

Feb 19, 2020 9:45:06 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

Solidarity in the meltdowns over helping DS do something he wanted to do himself. DS will be 4 in 2.5 months. Is 4 better?

felicity thank you. That's a good reminder. There are some big changes in store for my family currently (we are getting our house ready to sell and moving out of the Seattle area). We are feeling the loss of control spill into everything DS has even a bit of control over.

Yes. 3 is THE WORST

[Poppy]

My DD is a little over 2 and is doing the same thing. It's frustrating to say the least. I agree with others, try to let the child be as independent as possible. I pick my battles.

Sometimes I do force her to stay on the potty awhile if I am very concerned about an accident, which works some of the time. But, if she gets herself very worked up she will not relax enough to pee so we might just try again in a couple min and avoid carpeted areas in the meantime.

It's a phase. Went through it with my older child, too.

[numbers]

al dente

For shared bathrooms, we use this removable potty seat plus a step stool.

www.amazon.com/BABYBJORN-Toilet-Trainer-White-Gray/dp/B077GBJB9H



Solidarity on the 3-year-old boss babies. Right there with y'all.

[dcn]

We have a toilet seat with an integrated small seat for the kids. And a stool that folds up.

www.homedepot.com/p/TOPSEAT-TinyHiney-Children-s-Elongated-Closed-Front-Toilet-Seat-in-White-6TSTE9999CP/300591233?mtc=Shopping-B-F_D29B-G-D29B-29_32_TOILETS_AND_SINKS-Multi-NA-NA-PLA-NA-NA-Toilet_Seats&cm_mmc=Shopping-B-F_D29B-G-D29B-29_32_TOILETS_AND_SINKS-Multi-NA-NA-PLA-NA-NA-Toilet_Seats-71700000040795031-58700004374350564-92700048656978138&gclid=CjwKCAiA1rPyBRAREiwA1UIy8Jh9hdxVrTJTP-jVvABjUZ8vuexLzw6Rf-ECuuQdAjJv5UQ0CQbu0hoCsX8QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

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[cricketwife]

Feb 19, 2020 13:40:35 GMT -5 numbers said:

al dente

For shared bathrooms, we use this removable potty seat plus a step stool.

www.amazon.com/BABYBJORN-Toilet-Trainer-White-Gray/dp/B077GBJB9H



Solidarity on the 3-year-old boss babies. Right there with y'all.

al dente, we have the same. We hang the potty seat from an S hook on the towel bar right next to the toilet. DS can take the seat off the hook and put it in the potty himself, using the stool.