I feel like I need to point out that being emetophobic isn’t about being squeamish. I could clean up dog shit and puke all day. I could help someone throwing up from being drunk or some kind of non-contagious issue. But I absolutely panic at the thought of catching a stomach bug so if that’s how OPs H is, I definitely see both sides.
Yes I am emetophobic and also have anxiety that is mostly tied to that. I also have kids. I am less anxious when I know it’s not contagious, but still not good. Both of my kids are in schools and I spiral if they so much as say their stomach hurts (usually it’s just from hunger, but they don’t know how to say that yet I guess). My anxiety symptoms manifest as GI symptoms (like instant diarrhea when the kids say they don’t feel good, whether they are actually sick or not), so that makes me spiral even more bc I’m convinced I’m getting sick. Luckily my H knows this and takes over when the kids actually are sick (except the time the two kids and I all had norovirus and he was on work travel.. omg it was literally my worst nightmare, and my anxiety has only gotten worse since then).
Yeah nobody wants to get sick and nobody likes dealing with puke. But absent an actual mental health diagnosis, sometimes you have to suck it up and deal with it anyway. OP's H is already sick, anyway, so that ship has sailed. It's not fair to leave mom struggling when you are both suffering.
I once caught dog puke in my hands when my dog was sick and on the bed. Gross, but you sign up for it when you choose to be responsible for a living being.
Really low key weekend here. H and I are going to play a board game together later, and tomorrow I'm meeting a friend for lunch at a wine bar. Other than that I plan to do school work and we are going to set aside an hour somewhere to get the house clean. I can't even remember the last time we actually cleaned the whole apartment - it might have been November, lol. Obviously we've cleaned the kitchens and bathrooms a bunch of times since, and we run the robot vacuum regularly so it's not really all that dirty. But it's time to do all of it at once and actually have a fully clean place.
I always feel like I'm wasting my life when we have nothing exciting planned on the weekend, though. We live in an area where there are literally hundreds of cool places to eat/drink/explore and I get a lot of FOMO when we don't take advantage.
No big plans this weekend! We are going to a Tunisian-Italian place at some point but that’s all we planned. We’ve been so scheduled lately it’s pretty nice!
ETA - that is to say I don’t think fearing illness/not wanting to get sick are even on the level of an actual phobia.
For sure just an asshole. It’s a recent thing, but he feels like he “can’t be sick.” He missed almost a week of work due to the flu and he’s really behind so I get it, but we’re also a family. When your little boy wakes up sick and you tell your H to go lay down with him - because you need to immediately get back to other child who is throwing up and can’t make it to the toilet and needs you to catch his puke - and the little boy says “no mom. I’ll be ok. I don’t want dad to get sick too” and then H says to you “ds1 is ok” (basically meaning he can puke alone and he isn’t going to lay down with him) then that makes me a homicidal maniac. At my age when I am sick I want to be left the f- alone, but ds1 even at 11 still wants his back rubbed and to be reassured that it’s going to stop and he’s going to be ok (he asked me like 30 times today when it was going to be over). He did help with some of the laundry but I am still livid that he couldn’t provide that level of care to his kid when i was preoccupied with another one.
@ I've had a really rough year at school this year, with some discipline issues and I've felt like the principal hasn't been terribly supportive. In general, the whole building pretty much feels like the principal has checked out. I've been teaching full-time K-12 for 5 years and I've been really stressed.
It makes me wonder if I want to even keep teaching, but I don't know what I'd do otherwise. I wouldn't mind college teaching or something in the field of education policy or nonprofits, but those jobs are hard to find and I feel stuck.
I’ve been here. It’s hard. Sometimes finding a new school does the trick, if you don’t want to leave teaching yet. I’d apply for what looks good to you and see what happens.
I’ve been here. It’s hard. Sometimes finding a new school does the trick, if you don’t want to leave teaching yet. I’d apply for what looks good to you and see what happens.
The thing is, I really like the school I'm in and the staff. Plus, I'm in year 2 of my 3-year contract. With our district, you never know what principal you're going to get, so my best hope right now is that maybe he'll be reassigned next year and we'll get someone more with it.
I’ve been here. It’s hard. Sometimes finding a new school does the trick, if you don’t want to leave teaching yet. I’d apply for what looks good to you and see what happens.
The thing is, I really like the school I'm in and the staff. Plus, I'm in year 2 of my 3-year contract. With our district, you never know what principal you're going to get, so my best hope right now is that maybe he'll be reassigned next year and we'll get someone more with it.
Ah, ok. Well, I hope that happens. But if those policy or nonprofit jobs look good to you, apply to those and see what happens.
The thing is, I really like the school I'm in and the staff. Plus, I'm in year 2 of my 3-year contract. With our district, you never know what principal you're going to get, so my best hope right now is that maybe he'll be reassigned next year and we'll get someone more with it.
Ah, ok. Well, I hope that happens. But if those policy or nonprofit jobs look good to you, apply to those and see what happens.
I am looking a bit, but all I've ever done is teach or go to grad school, and I don't have a high level of confidence right now--my principal doesn't rate me highly--so I have to constantly remind myself that yes, I could actually do one of those jobs.
Ah, ok. Well, I hope that happens. But if those policy or nonprofit jobs look good to you, apply to those and see what happens.
I am looking a bit, but all I've ever done is teach or go to grad school, and I don't have a high level of confidence right now--my principal doesn't rate me highly--so I have to constantly remind myself that yes, I could actually do one of those jobs.
Don’t let your principal ruin your self-confidence. Sounds like this person absolutely sucks. I find we tend to last longer than they do.
Post by blondemoment123 on Feb 22, 2020 18:38:23 GMT -5
I went to the Lowe’s for the third time to look at paint colors. We still can’t agree what color to paint our living and dining room. I really want to get this done.
We made an offer on a house in my hometomwn this afternoon. I'm a ball of anxiety over it--the house is amazing, but I'm not super familiar with the neighborhood because it's not very close to where I lived/friends lived when I was growing up. My parents drove through it this morning and gave it a thumbs up, and our realtor texted us a lot of photos and did a video last night after showing us the house, but it's still stressing me out. H will fly out for the inspection and get a better sense of it then, which will hopefully help me calm the hell down.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 22, 2020 19:50:13 GMT -5
Hs bday was today. I totally boned it and didn’t do much. I didn’t forget just didn’t plan well at all. Oh well. In my defense he always claims “adults shouldn’t care about their birthdays like kids do”. We went out to dinner and I got him his favorite cake, so better than nothing?
The kids and I went strawberry picking this morning and I cannot stop eating strawberries. So. Good.
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I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
I haaaate packing. We just went on a trip last weekend, so you’d think this would be super easy, but it’s a completely different kind of trip for work, so I’m overthinking everything. I need to stop thinking about the fact that I have to wake up in less than 8 hours, and just keep packing!
Post by pinkballoons on Feb 22, 2020 20:21:41 GMT -5
I picked up an RX for the cat today. I had to make up a birthday for him for his record. I forgot it by the time I had to pick it up ten minutes later.
Also, apparently when I signed the 3 million screens before I could pay the $12 for his meds, I signed him up for his own CVS Rewards account. I look forward to him receiving coupons in the mail for cough syrup and greeting cards.
His meds came with warnings that he shouldn’t operate heavy machinery or vessels or drink alcohol while he’s on this stuff. I can’t stop laughing at the thought of this grumpy old cat captaining a yacht with a scotch.
I picked up an RX for the cat today. I had to make up a birthday for him for his record. I forgot it by the time I had to pick it up ten minutes later.
Also, apparently when I signed the 3 million screens before I could pay the $12 for his meds, I signed him up for his own CVS Rewards account. I look forward to him receiving coupons in the mail for cough syrup and greeting cards.
His meds came with warnings that he shouldn’t operate heavy machinery or vessels or drink alcohol while he’s on this stuff. I can’t stop laughing at the thought of this grumpy old cat captaining a yacht with a scotch.
My dad has the flu and my mom was joking about putting little masks on the cats. It made me giggle.
My FIL wrote to us yesterday that my MIL was too weak for him to change her clothes. She had also said no to two feedings (she usually gets three) and is sleeping a lot. I had H call his dad to get more info and during that call he told his dad he wanted to fly out this weekend. MY FIL asked her if she wanted to see him and she said yes (she can now just wiggle one foot and that is how they are communicating with her).
He is flying out tomorrow morning. When he called today we were told she has not had anything to eat today and has slept almost the entire time.
I am just asking for prayers or good thoughts that she is able to hold on for him to get there and that she somehow can go peacefully. And to keep his dad, sisters and my girls in your thoughts.
I think I lost my glasses. I got into the car and put them near the shifter. I went around a corner and they slid off. I remembered thinking that I needed to be careful to not step on them when I got out of the car but then I got distracted and forgot about them. I looked all over the front seats, front floorboard, under the front seats, in the back floorboard...nothing. Idk where they could have gone but I’m kind of freaking out.
Oh, cleo29 , I’m so sorry. I feel like she declined so fast. I hope your H is able to get some peaceful moments with her.
For her age, she is in the range of how long they live after diagnosis. Well, after symptoms which his cousin noticed a difference in her voice fall of 2017 and I think they say it can be 1-3 years from that, so she is within that, but yes, she really taken a turn.
My SIL is finally going out there on wednesday. I am happy that they are all having a chance to tell her goodbye and whatever else they want. The girls are going to make little videos which I will send to H. I just think, not being able to say good bye is so hard and I want my girls to have that chance even if they are not there with her. That she will hear how much they love her one more time.
Ugh, this is so hard. She is a really good woman, she was an amazing doctor who really cared and took the time for her patients. We always think we will have all this time with the people we love.