I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. Your MIL's passing sounds very similar to my mother's. She took a turn for the worse when I arrived from out of town and after a day of sitting with her almost around the clock she passed while I was in the shower and my Dad was making breakfast. I'm sending peaceful vibes to your family.
I am sorry. To echo others, my mom waited until she had a last alone time with my dad and when he left and no one was really paying attention to her, she decided when to go. Many hugs to you and yours.
And it is a bit of a shit show because no one will give me numbers to call people. My FIL was sending out emails to some, not sure his sister saw hers, but basically she found out on FB. If i were out there I swear i would have just taken his phone and made the calls. I was able to call his cousin.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I will continue to pray for all of you.
If your H mentions being upset that she passed when he stepped out, please tell them that happens often. I firmly believe that people have a lot more control over their passing than we think. It was likely her last opportunity to “protect” him from that heartbreaking moment. I hope he’s able to see it as her final gift, not that he wasn’t there...but that may take time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. The quoted is absolutely true. I have had many patients who wait to pass until family leaves the room. One of the most vivid in my memory passed in the elevator when we transferred her. It was literally the only time she had been without family in 48 hours. I hope you are all able to take comfort in her peace.
My Mom waited my dad was in the washroom, my aunt was putting away a load of towels, and my sister and I had run to the grocery store.
Post by downtoearth on Feb 25, 2020 19:29:37 GMT -5
So sorry, Cleo - for your husband and family. Loss like this is so hard and even harder on your FIL, I imagine. Hugs. And also extra hugs for being the strong one to call and coordinate calling people without being there.