Post by mustardseed2007 on Mar 9, 2020 9:50:10 GMT -5
First I'm so tired. Fucking Daylight savings.
Second, DD's birthday party went well but it was so. hard. The zoo in our area lets you host a party there, but also seems to actively discourage you from hosting a party there because they give you no help, allow no deliveries, and is very expensive and strict. But DD is crazy into the zoo and has big blue eyes so we did it anyway. It was hard, but we managed and everyone seems to have loved it.
So I spent Sunday recovering and doing nothing. Which means our house is a total wreck and we have no groceries. It's a short week b/c the kids have a half day Friday, and then next week is spring break. We aren't planning on going anywhere other than to a hotel in town this weekend since DH has to work a lot this week. BUUUUUUT, I also have tickets to see Lizzo. It's all doable because it's all in town, but I'm rethinking whether it's smart to go because of the virus. But Lizzo...so....
I stayed out too late on Friday night, but it was fun. Saturday, was unproductive. Sunday the mood hit and I spring cleaned for most of the day. I got the living room and some of the kitchen done. We then set out on the back porch and grilled steaks and it was a beautiful day. DD was wiped out from her retreat.
DD has a girl over Saturday. He is pretty mum about it. Do you like her IDK, does she like you, IDK, are you just friends, IDK. He's killing me.
Post by covergirl82 on Mar 9, 2020 10:08:35 GMT -5
Weekend was pretty good. We had a lazy Saturday, which was nice. I still didn’t get all the chores done that I wanted to, but we have another open weekend coming up that I can work on those. The weather was GORGEOUS here on Sunday – around 60 degrees and sunny. We went to a township park near us that has a few ball fields and practiced hitting and fielding with the kids. This will be DD’s first season playing softball (coach pitch), and I thought she did a good job hitting (she had a fair hit around 2/3 of the time). DS practiced pitching with DH while I took DD to the playground for a little while. It was so nice to go outside and enjoy the warm weather and sunshine.
DH was supposed to be gone M-W this week for a conference/seminar in New Orleans, but he had to cancel it over the weekend due to a communication from the CEO of his company on Saturday telling employees that non-essential business travel was suspended effective immediately, until April 30. So he was bummed about that – he’s never been to New Orleans and was looking forward to seeing it. Selfishly, I’m glad he’s home because everything is just easier with both of us home.
I hate the time change. It seems like it would be an easy thing to change, so I don’t understand why it never gets passed through the government to change. DD woke up grumpy and tired this morning, and I’m sure it’s because of the time change. So it looks like we’ll be doing an early bedtime tonight.
They are doing parking lot construction where I work, in the portion of the lot in which I always park, so now it’s an extra few minutes to walk to my building from where I have to park during construction. It’s such a hassle (total FWP, I know) to account for those extra minutes on days I need to leave by a certain time to either pick the kids up or be home by a certain time.
We had a nice weekend. We had some friends over for brunch yesterday, skipped lunch, and then were actually hungry around the new "normal" dinner time, so that worked out nicely. I really hate time changes. Our state has voted against them, but I'm not sure if/when they'll go away.
I spent the day ice skating with a very frustrated DD yesterday. She has one move left that she needs to master before she can move up levels, and she gets very defeated very easily. It's frustrating overall. She managed to eek it out a few times before we left, but she's definitely not proficient at it yet.
This week is going to shape up to be a long one. I just feel like I'm constantly behind on everything and don't have the time to do a thorough job of anything, which makes everything that much more work. Add in a software migration deadline coming up at the end of the month, no approval to bring in help, and it's just a recipe for disaster.
Under circumstances like this, I find it hard to get started doing anything, let alone keep going.
Post by supertrooper1 on Mar 9, 2020 10:27:17 GMT -5
DS turns 7 today! His dad threw his party at a trampoline place on Saturday and it went well. The kids seemed to have fun and I chit chatted with the parents. Beau and I did some stuff with his family the rest of the weekend but it was pretty low key and nice.
DH had a couple of sensitive arguments. He’s frustrated and he’s not backing me up with big things. I think he knows he was wrong because he’s been very attentive today.
I forgot to give DD1 her meds, and I didn’t have time to run home and get them. Can’t expect her to remember because, ADHD.
I had a meeting with the senior priest on staff at my kids’ school regarding the issues we’ve faced. He listened, told me that my argument was quite compelling and well thought out, but I do not feel confident that he can resolve anything.
Got in my car after to see that, in addition to the confirmed cases of strep, flu, etc., and the corona virus floating around our area, someone at the kids’ school has freaking shingles. I think it’s one of the maintenance guys, who has been missing for a few days. He’s super nice to DD1 and lets her borrow a basketball if she forgets hers... so she’s been in contact. She can’t get it, but DH and I sure can. I don’t know how that works, but I assume the kids can be carriers. Super.
On the plus side, so much progress with the kitchen in just a few days. So yay!!
I have decided our wreck of a house deserves to be taken back, one small area at a time. Saturday I tackled our laundry room. Sunday I finished the art center in our living room, using pretty baskets that were on sale at the Container Store. It looks so much nicer and it’s less complex, so I think the kids can actually keep it clean. Next weekend I’m tackling two kitchen areas. This weekend I started by moving all of our coffee stuff (mugs, travel mugs, etc) to the cabinets by our Keurig. I was tired of coffee mugs being in the hardest cabinet to reach in our entire kitchen. Next weekend I’m tackling a corner that’s become a junk landing spot and a counter that has a crafting of paper on it. The junk corner is becoming the landing spot for paper, and because it has a little cart, I’m adding a recycle bin for paper to the little cart.
So I’m feeling good, like I’m actually making progress. With a little assistance from DH who at least isn’t fighting me on getting rid of crap like 2 diaper pails from our laundry room considering everyone has been fully potty trained for 2 years.
I’m also trying to take Tuesday and Thursday off this week. The kids are on Spring Break and I have a light week at work. Lots of people are off with their kids.
Post by librarychica on Mar 9, 2020 11:25:56 GMT -5
mommyatty, I also bought on-sale baskets at the container store. I wonder if they are the same ones?
We had a nice weekend. Saturday was busy, the kids and I spent the morning/early afternoon at the history museum for a women’s history family day. It was well done and my “history is boring” kid wants to go back next month. Then we went to the downtown library and spent so much time there that we were nearly late for DD1’s ukulele lesson.
Sunday we hung around. I cleaned and did some organizing, kids played, H grilled and then we walked to ten neighbors and let the dogs and kids run around together. Good day.
I don’t wanna Monday and yet here I am, Monday-ing.
mommyatty, it must be a general consensus about taking back our houses from crap, since I was on the same boat. I went through our mess of a cabinet in the kitchen and one of our garage organizers. I've got a lot more to go.
Same for me mommyatty and k3am, but I attributed it to a nesting instinct. Maybe I'm also trying to control what I can control with all the crazy news lately.
I am jealous of all of those who are purging their houses. I've been able to do it a bit because we have a dumpster right now, but my house is in total chaos right now. The kitchen is in the dining room, which is about 1/4 the size of the kitchen. Stuff is everywhere, and OMG the dust.
I can't wait until I have walls and installed cabinets!!
Ditto k3am and mommyatty. It's spring cleaning and virus or whatever. A couple of weeks ago I went through all my medicines and toiletries and re-organized, purged etc. The this weekend we cleaned out DD's room and built the bed. DH always looks at me like we need to do X cleaning out, and I am like well how do you want to do this since I've purged this room 8 billions times and it makes no difference. This is how he got stuck building a loft bed lol.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 9, 2020 17:14:39 GMT -5
DD is 3 today! She was sick for her party yesterday. All grandparents still came except for my mom who was also sick. My brother came without his wife and kid, which is understandable since she is pregnant. Other SIL used it as an excuse to not come claiming she wanted DD to "get some rest" and she knew damn well people would still come. She's been on my shit list for a few months.
Now I might be getting what DD has. I'm exhausted and at lunch with my boss today my face started throbbing and I got really hot. Took my temp when I got home a little over an hour ago and no fever. So, just another day of me feeling like crap. I am so over this cold and flu season. I just cannot get better.
DD was asked to prom yesterday. She was all like Ewwww… no. It was some boy 2 years older she didn't really even know. DS refuses to ask anyone to prom. Tis my life.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 10, 2020 13:10:17 GMT -5
I forgot a vent I had yesterday and I just walked by the source of the vent. DH's extra family came to the birthday party. They brought DS presents too. Not like a small thing or some candy so he doesn't feel left out (which I still wouldn't be okay with) but more than what they brought for DD. Same outdoor toys and same number of outfits plus another thing for him. I was talking to my mom about it and I don't think they brought anything for DD to his party. I'd prefer only the birthday kid get presents because 1. That's life and 2. WE DON'T NEED ANYMORE CRAP IN THIS HOUSE.
I cant say anything to DH because he gets sooooo defensive of the mom. Every time I bring something up he says I need to talk to her or she is just loving our kids the way she knows how. Well, I dont want to talk to her. When I do she doesnt even pay attention. She means well, but this is the "MIL" that buys my kids shit just for the sake of buying it. I've also given her some kind of impression that made her feel the need to ask me if I was okay with the kids having shoes from Wal-Mart. Yeah lady. I've never spent more than $30 on kid shoes and those were for boots that DD wore the absolute shit out of.
Post by librarychica on Mar 10, 2020 15:18:33 GMT -5
She went inside and went to class. The teacher called to “just let us know we should make sure the babysitter is familiar” with late drop off procedures.
Yes. She will no longer be working for us. I am done with babysitters. There’s like a shortage here or something or maybe I have crap character judgment, but we will limp to the summer and then they’ll be in the same place again. H is being overridden and I am investigating center-based wraparound care.
Post by librarychica on Mar 10, 2020 15:21:34 GMT -5
I’m trying to decide whether I have to fire her in person, which would mean some weird scheduling and basically having her come over just to be fired, or if I can text her and mail her a check.
librarychica - We’ve done it in person because we had good relationships with the nannies. With one, the termination was immediate - she was lovely, but her mind was slipping, and I didn’t trust her to be around DD1 after being given her notice.
With the other, we all cried and gave her tons of notice. She still babysits for us.
In your case, text her and send the check, or even Venmo and be done.
Post by librarychica on Mar 10, 2020 15:55:05 GMT -5
@mae011, yes, in the past when we had full time nannies who worked with us for years, it was in one case a matter of kids getting older and in another a mutual acknowledgment that the long commute (we had moved) wasn’t working. So those conversations were done in person. But this is obviously a much briefer, only intended to go through end of May anyway.
librarychica, good on your daughter for knowing what to do. I can not believe a person would do that. I am going to double check with mine to make sure she knows what to do just in case. I can't imagine her being late but you never know.