So far on match.com

[achase123]

I've talked to the following:

-one guy who I met up with who reminded me of my former boss. So there was not a physical connection. He also mentioned several times BEFORE we met that he hadn't had great experiences on match so it was "up to me to change all that, no pressure-haha". I almost backed out right then.

-another guy is a "reformed engineer gone awol" whatever that means. I think it's code for unemployed and he suggested we "exchange pics". Ummmm, no thanks.

-another one seemed sweet and good looking, but a little desperate in his profile. I emailed him back anyways. He suggested that me, him, and his daughter all go on a date together. Or "we could just go the two of us" .......never met me before in his life but he'd introduce his 12 YO daughter. Wow.

-J's roomie contacted me on there and suggested we hang out but we don't have to tell J. What.the.fuck??? Really?

That's been the deal so far for the first week. Perhaps week #2 will be better, or at least equally entertaining.

[Bernadine]

Yikes at the last one, lol.

[udscoobychick]

Sept 21, 2012 16:07:29 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Oh dear! I had someone ask to meet me for coffee this week--he lives 5 hours away

^o) How exactly did he think that was going to work?

[Deleted]

Ugggg... I REALLY want to know about men's experiences are on these sites. Do women do this same stuff? Because honestly the guys I know online dating are always like these great girls keep contacting me and they have tons of dates all.the.time. WTF?

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:07:29 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Oh dear! I had someone ask to meet me for coffee this week--he lives 5 hours away

The worst part about the long distance thing is that, in all likelihood, you probably won't have a second date with the person. So someone has to travel some distance (or both) if you're even going to see eachother in person. So not worth it!

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:10:31 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Ugggg... I REALLY want to know about men's experiences are on these sites. Do women do this same stuff? Because honestly the guys I know online dating are always like these great girls keep contacting me and they have tons of dates all.the.time. WTF?

I really wonder! I've met a few good guys on there, it just wasn't a fit ultimately. But sometimes the people who contact me make me feel like I'm the only normal person on there, even though I know it's not true. I guess it's just a process.

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:11:40 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

I don't get the guys who think it's ok to meet kids on a date. What's wrong with them?!

Right? I don't even know how to respond. I just...haven't.

Plusandalso-he said "prolly". I think that's short for "probably" but I cannot be sure.

[doriswe]

Sept 21, 2012 16:11:40 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

I don't get the guys who think it's ok to meet kids on a date. What's wrong with them?!

I had one guy suggest a play date for us and our kids....I'd not met him in person, btw! When I told him that I don't mix my kids with my dating life he went on a lonnnnngggg rant about how it's common place "in the big city" to do this and he told me he did not see it working out between the two of us!

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2012 16:11:33 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:10:31 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Ugggg... I REALLY want to know about men's experiences are on these sites. Do women do this same stuff? Because honestly the guys I know online dating are always like these great girls keep contacting me and they have tons of dates all.the.time. WTF?

I really wonder! I've met a few good guys on there, it just wasn't a fit ultimately. But sometimes the people who contact me make me feel like I'm the only normal person on there, even though I know it's not true. I guess it's just a process.

I'm genuinely curious if their is a female equivilant of the creeper "hey sexy" "hey foxy lady" profile posters

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2012 16:15:43 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:11:40 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

I don't get the guys who think it's ok to meet kids on a date. What's wrong with them?!

Right? I don't even know how to respond. I just...haven't.

Plusandalso-he said "prolly". I think that's short for "probably" but I cannot be sure.

I wouldn't respond that's super weird. Or maybe just they "actually I don't think we're a match. Best of luck" email.

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:17:26 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:15:43 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Right? I don't even know how to respond. I just...haven't.

Plusandalso-he said "prolly". I think that's short for "probably" but I cannot be sure.

That's hella not ok. Dude needs to chill-ax

Maybe I just need to chill-ax. I mean, he's probably totally normal. The way things are going I could be married by next weekend if I play my cards right with him.

[formerlyak]

Sept 21, 2012 16:10:31 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Ugggg... I REALLY want to know about men's experiences are on these sites. Do women do this same stuff? Because honestly the guys I know online dating are always like these great girls keep contacting me and they have tons of dates all.the.time. WTF?

Fi said when he was online dating he found it frustrating because most of the girls he was matched up with on eharmony totally lied in their profile.

Another good male friend of mine said that he'd go on one or two dates with girls who seemed normal, but turned out to be psycho. He was on match and OKC. So I guess his experience was similar to what most all of us on here who have done online dating have experienced.

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:32:34 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:10:31 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Ugggg... I REALLY want to know about men's experiences are on these sites. Do women do this same stuff? Because honestly the guys I know online dating are always like these great girls keep contacting me and they have tons of dates all.the.time. WTF?

Fi said when he was online dating he found it frustrating because most of the girls he was matched up with on eharmony totally lied in their profile.

Another good male friend of mine said that he'd go on one or two dates with girls who seemed normal, but turned out to be psycho. He was on match and OKC. So I guess his experience was similar to what most all of us on here who have done online dating have experienced.

I think it goes both ways. And I've met PLENTY of crazies IRL too so it's not like they confine themselves to the online dating world.

[bowies]

My local radio station has a call-in relationship 911 thing in the mornings and there have been quite a few people that have called in to complain about a date showing up with a kid in tow. Total surprise. It's not confined to just men or just women either. The offenders are then ripped new assholes by the callers. It's quite entertaining. I just don't understand how people think this is OK. Kids are not dating props.

Achase, maybe you are the only sane one on there right now. I remember asking R what the women on Match were like and he said the vast majority were super skeevy. Both my BFF and I had a hard time with Match (it took a while to find some good within the very very bad) so maybe skeevy is the norm.

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:35:19 GMT -5 bowies said:

My local radio station has a call-in relationship 911 thing in the mornings and there have been quite a few people that have called in to complain about a date showing up with a kid in tow. Total surprise. It's not confined to just men or just women either. The offenders are then ripped new assholes by the callers. It's quite entertaining. I just don't understand how people think this is OK. Kids are not dating props.

Achase, maybe you are the only sane one on there right now. I remember asking R what the women on Match were like and he said the vast majority were super skeevy. Both my BFF and I had a hard time with Match (it took a while to find some good within the very very bad) so maybe skeevy is the norm.

Unfortunately my area is pretty rural so match is definitely the most popular. I have a friend who said she's meeting some great people on eharmony but that site just doesn't have much of a following here.

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2012 16:32:34 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:10:31 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Ugggg... I REALLY want to know about men's experiences are on these sites. Do women do this same stuff? Because honestly the guys I know online dating are always like these great girls keep contacting me and they have tons of dates all.the.time. WTF?

Fi said when he was online dating he found it frustrating because most of the girls he was matched up with on eharmony totally lied in their profile.

Another good male friend of mine said that he'd go on one or two dates with girls who seemed normal, but turned out to be psycho. He was on match and OKC. So I guess his experience was similar to what most all of us on here who have done online dating have experienced.

this makes me feel so much better about my guy friends and their gloating!

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2012 16:40:58 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I am going to a match.com event in Boise next week! It's going to be amazing (not).. my friend and I are going together to check it out

Tell me more about this? Is this what they've been advertising on TV?

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:41:47 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:40:58 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I am going to a match.com event in Boise next week! It's going to be amazing (not).. my friend and I are going together to check it out

Tell me more about this? Is this what they've been advertising on TV?

I've seen those events too. I think it looks like fun!

[achase123]

Sept 21, 2012 16:46:53 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:41:47 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Tell me more about this? Is this what they've been advertising on TV?

Yeah... I can't believe they are actually having one in Boise but it's a bar/lounge next Thursday. It's from 6-9pm and so far 80 guys have rsvped. I think it will be interesting because you can meet /see so many of them in one place

I like it because it's a little more like "traditional" dating. You don't have to communicate with someone via text or email for several days before deciding if there's an initial spark/attraction.

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2012 16:48:24 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:46:53 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Yeah... I can't believe they are actually having one in Boise but it's a bar/lounge next Thursday. It's from 6-9pm and so far 80 guys have rsvped. I think it will be interesting because you can meet /see so many of them in one place

I like it because it's a little more like "traditional" dating. You don't have to communicate with someone via text or email for several days before deciding if there's an initial spark/attraction.

I like it a lot actually. RV I can't wait to here how it goes!

[turtle1120]

Sept 21, 2012 16:42:54 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:41:47 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Tell me more about this? Is this what they've been advertising on TV?

I've seen those events too. I think it looks like fun!

I think so too. Do you have to be a match member to do it?

[Deleted]

Sept 21, 2012 16:51:27 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 21, 2012 16:49:14 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I like it a lot actually. RV I can't wait to here how it goes!

I will let you guys know. I think it's nice that my friend is going with me also so we can talk to each other and I won't be totally alone. I am going to work out hard and eat well this weekend and next week to feel really pretty for it

Remember it's not all about being pretty