MTBT - March 24

[pandora89]

1. How far along are you?

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?

3. Questions for the group?

4. Share your most recent baby purchase

5. Extra question - how are you all coping with everything going on? Vent away. 

[madDawg228]

1. 23w, 3d

 

2. I'm at the stage where I'm realizing that I need to get off my butt and get my "nesting" on, it's hard to get motivated while I've been on "House Arrest" for about three weeks now - but I need to woman up and start getting these baby projects started around my home and get my H off his butt too.

3. How are you planning on getting all your baby items to your home before baby arrives? Do you think shipping/delivery is going to be a PITA because of COVID19 related delays?

I'm due 7/18, but thinking I should put in orders sooner rather than later for the bare essentials, even though July seems so far away.

4. The only baby item I've purchased is a pair of decorative UW Husky booties for our FB announcement in late-Feb. As you can see from my answers #2 & 3, I'm very behind on baby things...

5. I'm doing better than last week, but it can vary day-to-day, sometimes hour-to-hour. I'm trying to manage my anxiety so it doesn't affect my sleep too much. WFH means I get to sleep in an extra hour, and that's been nice. I've been making a point to call my Grandma (who's in her late-80s) at least once a week, so it's been nice getting in a little extra bonding time (even if it's only via the phone).

[clseale]

1. How far along are you?
19+3

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
AW: DH was finally around to feel ds kick on Saturday! The kid never sleeps. He has been so active.
Vent: I mentioned it in the other thread, but all of my appts between now and 36 wks have been move to telemedicine

3. Questions for the group?
None right now

4. Share your most recent baby purchase
I have been coveting the Cuddle & Kind dolls for awhile now, but they are so expensive and Dd has so many stuffed animals, I couldn’t justify it. Well in each design they have a 20” doll and a 13” doll, so we told dd she could pick out a doll and she would get the big one and she could give ds the small one as her special gift to him and they would have matching stuffed animals. She was SO excited! Now we have a Evan the elephant coming for each kid.
Ugh. It’s not letting me insert a pic, but if anyone is curious: cuddleandkind.com/products/evan-the-elephant

5. Extra question - how are you all coping with everything going on? Vent away.
I’m ok. I have highs and lows, but I just keep telling myself a lot can happen between now and when I’m due. I’m mostly sad that we’re missing out on some things with dd. We had a really fun family vacation planned to Grenada (she was soooo excited) and we were going to take her to Disney in May (it’s 2 hrs away). Just special stuff that I wanted to do with her just the three of us before baby brother comes and turns everything upside down.

[tiptoetulips]

]1. 19w2d
2. My a/s is scheduled for 2 weeks it’s currently still on but I’m wondering if it will get canceled. It does make me feel like I made a good choice getting the NIPT done and we already know the sex i would be so bummed if we didn’t find out.
4. I ordered a Vera Bradley backpack for my diaper bag (it’s not designated as a diaper bag) from their outlet sale This weekend. I’m pretty excited for it! It has 2 water bottle holders that can actually hold a decent sized bottle, a built in sunglasses hard sunglasses case, and lots of pockets. It will be perfect for me + the 2 girls. I’ve also started my subscribe and save order for next month which includes diapers and PP supplies
5. I’m hanging in there. I’m in education our state has closed schools for the rest of the year which means I’m off until the baby is born and leave. I have a lot of feelings about that. I haven’t gone in public in over a week and a half. Dh has gone out for groceries and to the hardware store to get supplies for things to work on from home.

[verycontrary247]

1. How far along are you?
16w4d

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
Vent: I've been sleeping like garbage. I wake up 3x per night to pee, then around 3:30 I can't go back to sleep anymore. I am soooo tired.

3. Questions for the group?
If you had an anterior placenta, when did you first feel baby kick?

4. Share your most recent baby purchase
kinshipgoods.com/collections/kids/products/milk-drunk-onesie

5. Extra question - how are you all coping with everything going on? Vent away.
For the most part, I'm okay.
E and I are very fortunate to have corona-proof jobs that can be done remotely. My boss finally let me start working from home, barring emergencies, so I feel a lot better about that.

[madDawg228]

Mar 26, 2020 9:47:05 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

3. Questions for the group?
If you had an anterior placenta, when did you first feel baby kick?

I was told I have an anterior placenta at my 20-w u/s. I didn't feel the "typical" bubbles/flutters until 21-22w (so pretty recently), instead around 19w I felt tiny jabs on the far sides of my stomach-area on the edges of the placenta area- I think (not painful, but not the sweet bubbles/flutters I had heard about). I'm still learning on when the movements are the baby and not gas, so I'm not the best source on baby kicks. I think I have been able to detect a routine to his movements (Noon, 4pm, 7pm, and bedtime), but I'm not feeling him all the time. I wish I could feel him more, but he'll keep growing and I'll probably feel him more and more soon.

H has been able to feel him (faintly) since about a week ago, but that's mostly because we're both WFH and have been sheltering-in-place and we have a lot of time to have him feel my stomach when I think I feel something.

[anastasia517]

1. How far along are you?
18+6.

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
My anatomy scan is tomorrow! Apparently some techs are still allowing partners in for the few minutes at the end (normal here), but we won't know until tomorrow .Baby is really moving around in there now, so I'm looking forward to seeing how different things are looking from the NT scan.

3. Questions for the group?
Is this too early to feel like I'm nesting already? I've really been wanting to get the house organized, clean, and order things for baby.

4. Share your most recent baby purchase
We have a rescue, mixed breed dog and I found a stuffed dog that looks like him that I couldn't resist. douglascuddletoy.com/shop/animals/twister-black-lab-mix/ Not a practical purchase, but I love it. When it came in, the dog also tried to claim it for his own too which was sweet.

5. Extra question - how are you all coping with everything going on? Vent away.
I'm always anxious, which sucks. I don't do well with everything changing so fast. I had a bit of a pity party last night that the things we talked about & I looked forward to in the decade plus we were together before pregnancy are unlikely to happen. Mixed with feeling cooped up, even as a homebody, made for a rough night. I really want the snow to melt and for it to feel like spring, since I think when we can get to the shed to get the deck chairs out it will help.

[weetabix]

1. How far along are you? 31 weeks

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? My H painted the nursery last weekend and it turns out that rather than greyish purple and off white we inadvertently picked bright purple and yellow. It looks like an Easter egg and I hated it at first, but it's gradually grown on me and I think we're just going to leave it as is.

3. Questions for the group?

4. Share your most recent baby purchase. We bought a crib and changing table/dresser this week since we accidentally broke my son's crib getting it out of his room. Oops.

5. Extra question - how are you all coping with everything going on? Vent away. Not well. We pulled my 3 y/o out of daycare because I was so worried about him bringing coronavirus home since my FIL was just diagnosed with cancer (great timing!) and my H has been taking him to appointments so we were really concerned about exposing him to something. Working from home full time with a 3 year old is basically impossible, even with my H and I splitting the time. I get panicky thinking about this going on until my due date, which seems pretty likely. Plus the news about my FIL has added a whole additional layer to everything.

[seeyalater52]

1. How far along are you? 10+4

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? This is my first week without an ultrasound and I’m sort of managing my anxiety ok, which is surprising. My next one is on Monday and I’m hoping it doesn’t get canceled. I bought a sonoline home doppler and found baby’s heartbeat today which was super reassuring. It took me 3 tries over 3 days but it was worth it to finally hear it (faintly) beating away.

3. Questions for the group? None right now.

4. Share your most recent baby purchase
Old Navy and Motherhood Maternity had great sales this week so I got brave and sprung for some maternity stuff.

5. Extra question - how are you all coping with everything going on? Vent away.

It’s a struggle. I feel so anxious about being pregnant during the virus and resentful of all of the milestones we will probably have to miss as a result. It is so frustrating to have that hanging over the joy of finally staying pregnant after so long. It feels petty but since this is likely our only child we really wanted to enjoy it and now everything feels like it’s in flux.

[clseale]

seeyalater52 , that does not sound petty at all. I don’t have the history you do, and I am still feeling that way a bit.

With dd, my stepdad was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer two weeks before we found out we were pregnant and he passed away a month before she was born. That affected a lot of milestones for us (the way I told my family. Mom not coming to the a/s we invited her to. She almost missed my shower.) I wasn’t upset about any of those things of course, but it was just such a difficult balance between being happy about dd, but being so sad and worried about my stepdad and my mom.

Then last year we got pregnant and we did the cute announcement with my family and we were excited for things to be a bit more calm and normal, then we were given a T18 diagnosis and TFMR at 14.5 wks.

This pregnancy was riddled with anxiety and basically ignored until 14 wks when we got our NIPT bloodwork back, and I didn’t really relax until after the a/s. I finally let myself do stuff like let dd pick out a gift for ds, and we had all of these great things planned for the three of us to have special time together before he arrives and none of it will happen now. I have also been feeling really emotional about the moment dd meets ds and have our photographer lined up to come to the hospital to capture that moment, but if this is what the world looks like, I’ll be lucky if DH is even allowed to be there. And I’m just like “Fuck, can I get one normal pregnancy experience?” And then I feel like an ass, because he’s healthy and I know we are so blessed.

SO. All of that is to say that your feelings are totally justified and I am so sorry that an experience you have been waiting to have for so long is being colored by what is going on.

[seeyalater52]

Mar 26, 2020 19:21:07 GMT -5 clseale said:

seeyalater52 , that does not sound petty at all. I don’t have the history you do, and I am still feeling that way a bit.

With dd, my stepdad was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer two weeks before we found out we were pregnant and he passed away a month before she was born. That affected a lot of milestones for us (the way I told my family. Mom not coming to the a/s we invited her to. She almost missed my shower.) I wasn’t upset about any of those things of course, but it was just such a difficult balance between being happy about dd, but being so sad and worried about my stepdad and my mom.

Then last year we got pregnant and we did the cute announcement with my family and we were excited for things to be a bit more calm and normal, then we were given a T18 diagnosis and TFMR at 14.5 wks.

This pregnancy was riddled with anxiety and basically ignored until 14 wks when we got our NIPT bloodwork back, and I didn’t really relax until after the a/s. I finally let myself do stuff like let dd pick out a gift for ds, and we had all of these great things planned for the three of us to have special time together before he arrives and none of it will happen now. I have also been feeling really emotional about the moment dd meets ds and have our photographer lined up to come to the hospital to capture that moment, but if this is what the world looks like, I’ll be lucky if DH is even allowed to be there. And I’m just like “Fuck, can I get one normal pregnancy experience?” And then I feel like an ass, because he’s healthy and I know we are so blessed.

SO. All of that is to say that your feelings are totally justified and I am so sorry that an experience you have been waiting to have for so long is being colored by what is going on.

So much of this is so relatable. And honestly it’s a relief to hear that I’m not alone. It feels like an ugly feeling to have this disappointment and frustration when so many people around the world are critically ill and losing loved ones and we know how incredibly lucky we are that all has gone well with this pregnancy so far, but damn there’s still so much loss involved in all of it. And none of this is normal or what we imagined in any way. Maybe that’s ok, but it’s complicated and unfair anyways. Thank you for making me feel less lonely in this. ❤️

[anastasia517]

My husband was allowed to come in for part of my anatomy scan today!! We had been told it would depend on the tech, so it was a huge relief. Instead of coming in at the end he got to come in for the middle of it, before I was sent out to walk around the waiting room to try to get baby to change positions. It was a bit of a struggle to get good views of the head (which was super low) and heart (baby was also super active) but the tech thinks she got it all. If not, I'll get a call next week saying to come back for a second look.

DH has been adamantly team green since before TTC and I stuck it out today. I was surprised by how tempted I was to find out the sex when I was watching baby wiggle around, though.