Are your kids going BSC?

[ssmjlm]

I mean that somewhat TIC of course.  We're all going crazy!

Anyway, I think we've hit the she's completely out of her routine that everything is a struggle.  We've had a lot of issues with sleep since the weekend and just looking for commiseration mostly.

Friday night she didn't go to sleep until almost 11.  Last night it was 10.  She's still up by 7am.  No naps.

Compounding thing is despite the all clear to start walking, that is a STRUGGLE.  So I set a goal of us walking to the end of the driveway (not far) each day to get the mail.  Yesterday she made it to the mailbox, then had a full meltdown about having to walk back.

Maybe it would be easier if I wasn't doing this solo and DH was here.  Then at least we could tag team.  I have to do phone interviews at some point this week/next week and I guess she'll be on the tablet a lot since that's the only way to keep her quiet.

[abs]

DD is holding it together better than I am. I think 9 is the sweet spot for this. Old enough to understand but young enough to still like hanging out with her parents. Letting her have full access to Kids Messenger was a game changer for us. She will go up to her room and video chat with her friends whenever she can. This keeps her spirits up.

However she has no interest in distance learning. None. She wants no part of it. I feel horrible having to make her to do it every day because honestly I have no interest either. She also backslid on entertaining herself. If she isn't talking to her friends she is superglued by my side. It's annoying but I know she also needs me more right now so I'm trying to be understanding.

[minniemouse]

Yep! Week 3 is not going well.

[kdubs923]

My 4 year old is living her best life. She would always be at home with me 24/7, if she had her way. Going back to daycare (whenever that will be) is going to be a tough adjustment.

DS is starting to get antsy. Like bouncing off the walls. At first, he thought it was fun to have a pj day or two (twelve?) in a row. Now he needs more socialization and structure than I can give at this time.

[ssmjlm]

Oh and everyone in my house eats like crap until dinner right now. I lived off chips and salsa yesterday and my kid just basically ate chips and chocolate.

Even the dog is currently refusing breakfast because she's tired of everyone being all up in her space and she can't sleep all day anymore.

[jnibean]

I honestly thought it would be worse than it is, but I think because we stay home in the summer it's not unusual for him. He will ask to go to the store or to go to his sitter's house, but so far saying "No buddy, not today" is enough for him.

I'm thankful that he's only 2 and has no idea what's going on. At some point over the last two weeks H was saying something about people being scared, but that he didn't have to be (I don't remember how this conversation started), and every so often he'll shout "Don't be scaredy, people!" and it cracks me up!

[noodleoo]

No, but I am!!! My kids are too young to have almost any individual play. DD1 can watch TV and do some iPad time, but I'm trying not to use screens too much since her behavior gets worse. The little one is driving me crazy. I can't focus on working because she needs pretty much constant attention. At least she still naps, so I get about an hour in the afternoon to work. H and I have been going to bed way too late because we work after bedtime and then need some downtime after that. Now DD2 has started waking up overnight again. Today she was up at 5 AM and WOULD NOT GO BACK TO SLEEP. This situation is slowly killing me...

I think the kids are actually pretty happy, other than being bored. kdubs923, same here, the eventual transition back to daycare (or K in the fall for DD1) is going to be ROUGH.

[dcn]

Bedtime here is a disaster. They aren’t getting their playtime with friends like usual so I guess they just aren’t tired? They are usually asleep by 8 (ds2) or 8:30 (ds1). Last night I finally went in their room at 9:30 to put a stop to their shenanigans.

We have been getting lunch from school during the week so they are eating somewhat normally. Lots of candy and treats though bc I’ve been baking a lot bc why not.

I’d love to get some projects and organizing done but they have both been pretty clingy and needy and won’t leave me alone.

[redheadbaker]

DS didn't fall asleep until 11:30 last night.

SEND ALL THE LIQUOR.

[macmars45]

DS (4 next month) has been super emotional and sad. He was spent last night and pasted out in minutes. It is so hard for him to see daddy all the time yet daddy can't play with him because he has to work. H works in an open area alcove so he can't be out of sight unfortunately.

[brooke77]

My kid is also living his best life. He’s 2y8m and always hated daycare. I ask him everyday if he misses school and his friends and he says no and he wants to stay home with Mama. It is absolutely gonna suck when he has to go back.

The only thing he is struggling with is getting enough outdoor playtime. DH and I are trying to carve time out of our schedules to take him for bike rides and walks during our “lunch breaks”. He’s going a bit stir crazy if we wait until 5.

DH and I are going BSC trying to work and take care of him...

[Mrs.flang]

Mar 31, 2020 8:51:03 GMT -5 noodleoo said:

No, but I am!!! My kids are too young to have almost any individual play. DD1 can watch TV and do some iPad time, but I'm trying not to use screens too much since her behavior gets worse. The little one is driving me crazy. I can't focus on working because she needs pretty much constant attention. At least she still naps, so I get about an hour in the afternoon to work. H and I have been going to bed way too late because we work after bedtime and then need some downtime after that. Now DD2 has started waking up overnight again. Today she was up at 5 AM and WOULD NOT GO BACK TO SLEEP. This situation is slowly killing me...

I think the kids are actually pretty happy, other than being bored. kdubs923 , same here, the eventual transition back to daycare (or K in the fall for DD1) is going to be ROUGH.

Mostly this.  Except I'm not really limiting screentime much at all.  DD1 can recite scenes from Mickey Mouse clubhouse and bubble guppies from memory.  DD2 is at least a good napper and sleeper for us, but DD1s bedtime is creeping later and later.  Going back will definitely be rough.  We're also switching DD1 to a summer camp in July which is the first time she won't be at her regular daycare, so I hope she has enough time back so that the next transition won't be too hard.

On days that DH is going in to work (2-3 days a week), I'm trying to keep a rough schedule of at least having outdoor play from 11-12, DD2 nap from 12-2, and more outside time from 4-5.  Yesterday DH was home so I got a good chunk of work in the am.  I'm still up late 7 days a week working from 8-10 or 11 since its the longest uninterupted stretch I'm able to get.

[fancynewbeesly]

No real adjustment for our family. DD1 has done this for years on and off; so to her, she goes "now all my friends know what I had to do for months"

But because of that, she has always been able to entertain herself. The toddler is trying because I like to break up the day to get out with her-but DD1 and her play together so nicely. Yesterday they made banana bread and built a fort.

We are lucky though because to our family it ISN'T a life style change. We have been living this on and off for 6 years, so we just got back into the habit quickly.

[jamaicam]

Yes they are climbing the walls! They are both very sporty and sociable so are missing school, soccer training and swim training a lot. They are still getting a lot of outside time but not enough so they are having more issues falling asleep. DS1 needs routine and I had let that slack a bit so I actually woke them up this mornign in an attempt to get back on some sort of schedule.

[redpenmama]

Yes, especially this week since it's spring break and they have no schoolwork. The older two are taking turns playing together and getting in massive fights about what they are playing. The youngest isn't napping and then is mean and cranky or passes out on the couch at 5 pm and then stays up until 11 pm. I'm about to start driving her around during her normal naptime just to get her to go to sleep.

I am simultaneously looking forward to school starting up again next week and dreading it.

[joy]

Yes. She cries over everything and wants to zone out in front of the TV. My husband and I need to work so we allow it far more often than ever and it’s a compounding mess at this point.

[nicolewi]

Bedtime is getting crazy late and I need to work on that, personally. Otherwise, though, they are mostly doing well. I feel like we have a really good situation b/c my kids are good ages--5 through 11. No teens who are desperate to see friends/boyfriends. No babies with nursing and naps. They all still like to hang out with and play with each other, and they HAVE each other to play with. We have a big yard and plenty of room inside for everyone to have their own space if they need it.

I think doing this in a tiny city apartment would be SO HARD, but we are doing well overall.

My anxious DD was loving being off school until she realized they may not go back...now she's concerned about that. She wanted to finish the year with her fifth grade friends and teacher and have fifth grade farewell. Next year is middle school.

The kids are dealing okay with distance learning so far. WE are only on day 2, since the first week off the teachers were just working on plans, and last week was spring break.

[circa1978]

Mar 31, 2020 7:54:37 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

Oh and everyone in my house eats like crap until dinner right now. I lived off chips and salsa yesterday and my kid just basically ate chips and chocolate.

Even the dog is currently refusing breakfast because she's tired of everyone being all up in her space and she can't sleep all day anymore.

This is my household. Our dogs were thrilled for the first, oh, 10 days. Now they are clearly like, you people need to put on your shoes and get the f out. We're trying to sleep here.

My DS9, who has been skinny his entire life, has developed a bit of a tum. We need to get moving somehow. 

[expectantsteelerfan]

Mine are not, until they are. I'd say their meltdowns aren't more than I'd expect...usually when they've been left to their own devices for too long without me giving them something constructive to do. DD's amped up the intensity of her meltdowns to a level I never expected. She feels all the feels and doesn't seem to know how to deal with it without flipping out even though we practice A.LOT.

[osulori]

My almost 7 year old, absolutely. Today marked the first "when are you coming home from work" text from my husband since all this started (for him and the kids it's been 6 working days) because AJ is bored and being a jerk.

The 9 month old is absolutely going BSC but that's because she keeps crawling for the dog's water dish. Despite the fact that as soon as she gets her hand in there she's PISSED that her hand is wet. Otherwise she is generally a delight. Especially if she's eating.

[cincodemayo]

I thought not, but then today we apparently hit the wall. His teachers did a great job providing work and videos and things to do, and I really liked it. It would probably take like 2 hours max if we did it all right away, but I had put in lots of breaks for physical activity and playing. He did one activity today and then literally freaked out about how boring it is and how much he hates it. So he laid on the couch and cried for an hour. I am not going to punish him and take away outside time or anything. I guess we will try again tomorrow. Obviously Moms shouldn’t be teachers to their own kids.

Hope tomorrow is better for us!

[gibbinator]

Mine are doing really well. Honestly not having my 5yo around a couple bad influences in his class has improved his behavior tremendously. In turn, he and his 7yo brother are fighting less and play together happily and more or less unparented most of the day (with a few hours of Netflix and Nintendo mixed in).
Dh made a big chart of things they need to do on a daily basis to earn video games and it involves about 2h of reading/outdoors/homework.

So we're all in a really nice wah/homeschooling quarantine routine. It's quite surprising. I don't want to let Ds2 go back to school because he's been so reasonable and pleasant. Ds1 kind of misses his friends but he also loves being allowed to play Nintendo on weekdays so he's not complaining.