done online dating

[jen623]

Just need to vent for a minute I guess. I had been talking to this guy for a little bit online, & we made plans to finally meet tonight. Well, we were texting last night, & the conversation turned to hooking up. I playfully told him to get his mind out of the gutter, because I'm not like that. He never answered and I've heard nothing since. I'm not really upset that he turned out to be that way, I think I was just really looking forward to getting out and doing something. My life sucks right now. I have a really painful medical issue right now, that I had to leave my job over, I honestly dont know at this point if I'll ever be able to go back or if I can, when. I've been out of work for three months now. I rarely go anywhere, I just take care of the house & my daughter. My life consists of getting my daughter off to school, cleaning the house, napping because the meds im on exhaust me, picking my girl up from school, cooking, cleaning, reading my daughter a bedtime story... repeat. I am just annoyed because I finally was going to get a night out and actually get to be social, & he turns out to be an ass. Oh well, such is life

[bullygirl979]

First of all, I am sorry that he did that but it sounds like he did you a favor by showing his true colors right off the bat.

Second, I don't think you should base your entire experience of online dating off of one guy. I mean, if you eat one bruised apple are you going swear off apples or would you just try again and pick another one? Dating is hard. Period. Whether it is online or in person you are wading through a sea of people trying to find someone that you are compatible with. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. But I don't think you should give up because one jackass demonstrated that he wasn't worth your time.

That being said, it also sounds like maybe you just want to work on your social life. Have you thought of other things besides dating? Meetup groups, taking a class, joining a club...Maybe just getting out of the rut and doing something different would help.

[redredwine]

Sept 21, 2012 21:52:26 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

First of all, I am sorry that he did that but it sounds like he did you a favor by showing his true colors right off the bat.

Second, I don't think you should base your entire experience of online dating off of one guy. I mean, if you eat one bruised apple are you going swear off apples or would you just try again and pick another one? Dating is hard. Period. Whether it is online or in person you are wading through a sea of people trying to find someone that you are compatible with. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. But I don't think you should give up because one jackass demonstrated that he wasn't worth your time.

That being said, it also sounds like maybe you just want to work on your social life. Have you thought of other things besides dating? Meetup groups, taking a class, joining a club...Maybe just getting out of the rut and doing something different would help.

I totally agree with this. Don't let one guy stop you...and he sounded like an ass that you shouldn't have gone out with anyways.
Keep giving it a go, but maybe screen a bit better before you start texting?
And honestly, it sounds like you've got alot going on outside of dating. Dating can suck the life out of you, even if you have everything else great in your life. Trust me. I'd focus on the other things first and then start with getting out there with other things you enjoy (like hobbies, etc.). Maybe after a good dose of focusing on you, then attempt online dating again if that's what you want. But honestly, go in with no expectations and high standards.

[doriswe]

I agree with PPs!