mel, I'm sorry. The whole situation stinks. After being off and on of UI for several years, my H wanted to avoid having to go on unemployment at all since it caused him massive amounts of anxiety- even if it meant no income. I had to convince him to apply. I hope things turn around for you and your H soon.
mel I am so sorry you guys are going through that.
Is your husband open to talking to a doctor about possibly going on medication to help with his depression, or doing some therapy? There are low cost sliding scale options out there.
mel I am so sorry. In 2008/2009 we went through something similar and it was so hard. It changed our lives. In a lot of ways for the better, especially now looking at how the current crisis has impacted us. But in a lot of ways, for the worse. It’s the hardest thing we ever had to go through as a couple. I hope he finds something soon and y’all can start to rebuild.
mel I am so sorry you guys are going through that.
Is your husband open to talking to a doctor about possibly going on medication to help with his depression, or doing some therapy? There are low cost sliding scale options out there.
Thank you. I'm working on him with therapy. He's a bit stubborn about it, but hasn't totally ruled it out yet. He's not real big on medications (I have a hard time getting him to take allergy meds when he needs them).
mel I am so sorry. In 2008/2009 we went through something similar and it was so hard. It changed our lives. In a lot of ways for the better, especially now looking at how the current crisis has impacted us. But in a lot of ways, for the worse. It’s the hardest thing we ever had to go through as a couple. I hope he finds something soon and y’all can start to rebuild.
Thank you. We went through it in 2008/2009 also, but with my job. I was a couple years out of college and couldn't find a job in my field (teaching). But I found the industry I'm in now and have worked my way up. This has definitely been a bit of a wake-up call for us with some things.
mel I am so sorry. In 2008/2009 we went through something similar and it was so hard. It changed our lives. In a lot of ways for the better, especially now looking at how the current crisis has impacted us. But in a lot of ways, for the worse. It’s the hardest thing we ever had to go through as a couple. I hope he finds something soon and y’all can start to rebuild.
Thank you. We went through it in 2008/2009 also, but with my job. I was a couple years out of college and couldn't find a job in my field (teaching). But I found the industry I'm in now and have worked my way up. This has definitely been a bit of a wake-up call for us with some things.
Being an older millennial/gen x is super fun, right? Two giant crises in 10 years as adults. Really great.
Thank you. We went through it in 2008/2009 also, but with my job. I was a couple years out of college and couldn't find a job in my field (teaching). But I found the industry I'm in now and have worked my way up. This has definitely been a bit of a wake-up call for us with some things.
Being an older millennial/gen x is super fun, right? Two giant crises in 10 years as adults. Really great.
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Let's add that DS1 (my step-son) was born in November in 2001 and is graduating high school this year. Super great. Awesome times abound.
Post by breezy8407 on May 14, 2020 14:41:39 GMT -5
mel I wanted to say sorry as well. And to all of those struggling that have shared so far.
I spent most of 2010 unemployed it was a really hard time for us. It completely affected my mental health. I had a high school reunion that year and I told people I was working at my job still. I felt so ashamed all the time, and then guilty for spending any money even on groceries. Like eclaires it changed a lot about us as people and a couple. I hope your H finds something soon and things start to improve.
The last time I was unemployed was in 2010 and I was seriously depressed the entire time. Now that I’m unemployed again, I’m really worried about slipping into the same. It’s awful. Oh and the UI plus the $600 doesn’t come close to replacing my salary, and I’m the primary breadwinner. Cool.
The last time I was unemployed was in 2010 and I was seriously depressed the entire time. Now that I’m unemployed again, I’m really worried about slipping into the same. It’s awful. Oh and the UI plus the $600 doesn’t come close to replacing my salary, and I’m the primary breadwinner. Cool.
Yes, my long-winded post can be summarized by exactly what you wrote here. I'm sorry you're also in this position.
mel I am so sorry you guys are going through that.
Is your husband open to talking to a doctor about possibly going on medication to help with his depression, or doing some therapy? There are low cost sliding scale options out there.
Thank you. I'm working on him with therapy. He's a bit stubborn about it, but hasn't totally ruled it out yet. He's not real big on medications (I have a hard time getting him to take allergy meds when he needs them).
my husband was really struggling with anxiety last fall and going on medication has helped so much. I reminded him that it didn't have to be forever. I think since he's seen the difference it has made in my mental health it was easy to convince him. He was not sleeping well, unable to relax, mind was constantly thinking about work. After 3 weeks on meds he was himself again
Post by starryfish on May 15, 2020 18:35:09 GMT -5
My DH is one of the ones that makes more on UE than being at work. But we BOTH want him to go back ASAP. And we are praying he does (airlines industry so who knows when that will happen).
This extra $600 is only around for a few months, we won’t be getting rich off of it at all. Just paying bills and trying to save a bit of it for when he won’t get the extra $600 Bc we are uncertain when he will go back.
I feel like the real answer to this is because people who would normally feel like bootstraps are enough are getting unemployment probably got the first time. So, we have increased the amount so that the working poor seem to be complaining about nothing in a few years, people will remove that they could pay x bills but not that it is because they're was a modification to social program.