I also can't believe it is June. Virtual hugs to everyone who needs them..
School is done next week and we aren't being required to make up time!!! DD starts very short practices tomorrow for gymnastics. 2 days a week for an hour with a billion rules including no spectators. I'm trying to figure out a quick errand to do during it because it really doesn't pay for me to drive home and I don't like the idea of sitting in the hot car waiting in the no shade parking lot.
DH wouldn't go golfing yesterday because we had so much to do at home so was in a foul mood and was super frustrated when neither DD or I wanted to do anything. Last night I told him we told you to go play golf for a reason. Saturday we redid DD's room. Took the twin bed out and moved the queen bed from the spare to her room and then rearranged her other furniture. Took the gym bar out and she still has more floor room than she did with the twin and the bar. The spare room will eventually be turned into a gymnastics/reading room but it is so full of crap and is so mentally overwhelming to work on. I also would rather work on it without helpers.
Happy Monday! Kids are at daycare and it feels SO WEIRD.
We had a really nice weekend at home, girls wine on the porch after kids were a sleep, and lots of playing with the neighbors. As an extra benefit, I found out that we have a legit trail within walking distance of my house. Not huge, and far enough away I can't do it daily, but a trail. No complaints about that!
Post by supertrooper1 on Jun 1, 2020 11:09:12 GMT -5
I bought a dirt bike and spent the weekend riding! I haven't had a bike since I was in high school. Beau and I went Saturday morning to our local dealership and they had one left. I had been watching all of the local dealership's websites and knew they were going fast and inventory wasn't being restocked. The salesman told me it was the last one on the west coast and I actually believe it. I already had a helmet from riding his four wheeler so we went and bought all the other protective gear. Saturday was very rainy so we just rode a bit around his property so I could get used to my bike. Yesterday we went up in the mountains and made it to the top where we could see all the way to the bays in our area. I also snuggled with beau's three day old beagle puppies. It was a good weekend.
We painted all of Dds furniture this weekend. Dh was involved, so it took a long time because he is a perfectionist, but it looks great. Now on to Phase 3 painting the room, and then we can finally set everything up for her bday.
Great weekend. Grill out Friday. Drinks with the neighbors after all day painting Saturday. Sunday was glorious. Mowed the yard and worked in the garden. We then grilled burgers.
We came home from our weekend away in the early afternoon yesterday. I was able to get a grocery order in and delivered in the same day, which was amazing! Got some laundry done and picked up the house a bit. After beau dropped his son off at mom's he came back to my place and we ordered sushi and read for hours together. I love that beau reads just as much as I do. Being able to just sit together outside or in bed and read together is such a nice way to spend free time.
Beau just keeps surprising me with his cooking skills. He always tells me he's not the true chef of the family, which might be true, but damn. He can cook! And it's usually some form of super yummy Chinese food that I've never had before. He made duck over the weekend, rice with seaweed wraps, and then turned the leftovers into this rice porridge that was the most delicious comfort food. I could have eaten a bucket of it. Meanwhile I'm over here throwing chicken in the instapot and microwaving frozen vegetables and forgetting to even put salt and pepper on stuff half the time before I cook it.
We saw my mom for the first time in 3 months. We had a nice dinner at an outdoor patio at a restaurant on Sunday so it was less crowded. I guess Saturday at some of the restaurants was mobbed.
Our babysitter reported today, but I left before she got there. I am doing good with work, so not sure what I will be doing this afternoon after my 4 hour shift is over with.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jun 1, 2020 11:50:30 GMT -5
We had kind of a rough weekend. DS has developed a couple of tics (excessive sniffing and kissing his hand/arm) and we aren't really sure if they are the result of an underlying issue or stress/anxiety. I think he is picking up on some of the worry that MIL has shared regarding 4H and most likely some of my own struggles over the last few months. But the tics are definitely recent within the last week for the kissing and 2 weeks for the sniffing. My brother has one similar to the sniffing and my dad had some hand related tics according to my mom. My dad's dad OCD and tics wouldn't surprise me but I don't remember. So I spent Friday beating myself up for not catching on that something was bothering him before now even though I know this may be beyond my control. I'm trying to be proactive and there will be some books for us to read with DS and some different multivitamins arriving today. Some quick research tells me his is low on magnesium after one of those signs is teeth grinding. Which he does A LOT in his sleep. ADHD is also likely since he shows a lot of signs and I have it as well.
So the weekend was spent trying to navigate this new chapter. I'm behind on folding laundry and the house is a cluttered mess.
And finally, I think I might be pregnant. My period is 2-3 days late based on my "average" cycle and I have felt so nauseous since Saturday. I took a test yesterday afternoon and this morning and I think I see a very faint line. We have 2 kids and were 99% sure that were done when it came time to move so we sold everything. We have nothing for a baby. Nothing! Not even a place for one to sit in a vehicle.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jun 1, 2020 13:49:11 GMT -5
sdlaura I will update either way. I haven't said anything to DH since he started his new PT gig today and he was nervous about that. He was at work yesterday too. I will ultimately be happy and excited, but right now there are mixed feelings. It would be great to start my period and not having to rearrange our house, my car, etc. But neither of us have been able to commit 100% to being done.
This past Friday was the last day of school for DD and DS1! So that's one less worry. I worked all day Saturday and part of yesterday to finish up some testing. I'm glad that I only went to the office in the city for the morning since I had a therapy appointment at noon. Then I came home to finish my work (after I watched the SpaceX launch, of course). When I flipped on the evening news I was very shocked that rioting started at 4pm in the city and all of the tunnels and bridges to town were closed. The word on the news was that the protests were peaceful until a guy vandalized and lit a police cruiser on fire. I am so angry and sad at the turn of events here. All the more reason to stay home for a little longer. However, on Sunday morning, there were many volunteers cleaning up downtown.
Yesterday, I slept in a little, cleaned up DD's mess of a room, worked out, finished up some work, and pulled some weeds.
We swam a lot this weekend. And last night we had a family chicken foot tournament. Chicken foot is a dominoes game that’s really fun. It was a really nice weekend.
I feel like work is a shit show right now. The company is looking at return to work plans. Our VP is out because his wife died. He would normally be the one deciding how and when our department will trickle back to work. But he’s not here. And we don’t know when he will be, or frankly if he will be. He’s devastated. His kids are devastated. I don’t think he needs the money, so he might have a “screw it, I’m taking a year” moment. Plus we have had targeted layoffs in the company, and we won’t know what’s happening to our department until he’s back. If he’s back. If he’s not, who knows what will happen.
I am so pissed at H right now. The first day of the babysitter and he has the kids (mean her supervising them) clean their rooms and pick up dog poop. FFS, way to make a good impression. What a jerk. She said it was a day already, and it is only 2. She will probably quit now and ruin our childcare. I thought he had more sense than this.
Post by traveltheworld on Jun 1, 2020 14:25:07 GMT -5
We had a really nice weekend. We had a small birthday party for DD on Saturday with the 2 families we've been hanging out with; and yesterday we went for a nice 10 km bike ride. I was pleasantly surprised that DD made it!
I did have to work quite a bit over the weekend. But I managed to do it before the kids got up / after they went to bed. And DS and DD are finally starting to sleep in their own separate rooms instead of both in DS's room; so they are waking up later, which has been nice.
Our anniversary was yesterday and since our favorite restaurant is closed we ordered from Cheesecake Factory. Only to find out at pickup that it was cancelled due to the curfew implementation late in the day. I asked if they had any cheesecake at least that we could take since it was for our anniversary and they gave me a random “dead order” that they had cancelled on someone else that was already cooked. So we had random food for dinner but at least we didn’t have to cook and it will be free since they technically cancelled everything after 7pm.
I'm ready for the kids to start at camps next week and also apprehensive about going back into work with everyone. We are considering putting DD1 in a 3 day camp instead so I asked my boss if I could WFH one day a week. We shall see.
Our neighborhood has a water drainage issue where the water isn't flowing into the retention pond and they aren't doing anything about it because there's no money. This area was previously a marsh. The water in our ditch has been stagnant for over a year so DH decided to move all the rock, pull up the weeds and dig a trench in ours and the next door neighbor's this weekend with my help. It was so disgusting. We found mice and crayfish in the ditch along with a ton of bugs. The water is now flowing down to the main culvert so we are hopeful. The neighbor behind us stopped by today to tell us if we're thinking of installing drainage pipe to do it overnight or on the weekend because the town won't permit it or allow us to bring in rock or anything else. That's what he did. Sooo now DH is talking the neighbor into helping him with this next water project to keep the water moving. If we don't do anything, it will return to swampland like before.
Also, DH had to go to urgent care this morning because his fingers are a painful, swollen and infected mess with pus coming out. Doctor told him to listen to his wife next time and wear gloves if he's going to play in the swamp.
It has been such a day today. DD1 was grounded because of a neighborhood skirmish yesterday that led to one kid completely destroying another in a rant that DD1 recorded and texted to the kid who was the subject of the rant. She does not know what she did wrong. She feels very victimized because she’s been grounded and the girl that was screaming and saying awful things wasn’t. She has been whining all day and has generally been a huge jerk because I won’t let her out and I won’t give her technology. Lack of empathy and ADHD go hand in hand.
DD2 is DONE with distance learning thank you very much. It’s just a little over a week left and OMG she is having none of it.
I have a feeling that it’s going to be a looooong summer.
The kids both had a great time at daycare. DS's class had 5 kids total. DD's had 3 total. They both spent 7 hours with NO screen time. Which is 7 hours more than they'd have done if they were home.
The kids both had a great time at daycare. DS's class had 5 kids total. DD's had 3 total. They both spent 7 hours with NO screen time. Which is 7 hours more than they'd have done if they were home.
Yes to this! DD1 had her first full day with her bestie and the nanny. They did their school work but otherwise no screen time for 8+ hours!
Tonight was the easiest that she has gone to bed in 3 months. These kids need socialization.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jun 2, 2020 9:16:49 GMT -5
Update and TW for the end: the faint line was an evaporation line and my period started after I spent another $25 on tests. The Murphy's Law of periods. I am more relieved than sad. It would have been a BIG deal financially in terms of getting ready for a baby (new car, finishing our attic or back porch to move my office then move DS or DD, all new baby things and clothes. Literally thousands.) And physically/mentally I don't know if I can do 3 kids. I'm by myself 3 days and nights each week and am already overwhelmed most days. I had to do progesterone shots and had diabetes with DD. It's for the best but there's still a small part of me that is a little bummed. DH too. We both like the idea of another baby but we know the 2 we have are the ones we are meant to have. We had a miscarriage between DS and DD that neither of us really dealt with until last year. Long story short, last year around this time I saw a medium looking for closure with my dad and the medium ended up talking with a little girl that was mine. I had given her no indication that I had a loss until she asked if I had kids. I told her I had 2, she asked if I was currently pregnant, I told her no and she said this little girl is yours and gave a name that I had always loved but had written off because with our last name she would have sounded like a cartoon character.
erinshelley21, I'm sorry, and I understand some of your mixed emotions. Logically, I knew I could not handle more than 2, but I still get a twinge (and there shall be NO MORE BABIES, but still... feel the twinge).
erinshelley21, mae0111, I totally get it. I would love a third, but logistically and financially it wouldn't work. But I have that same thought all the time. Was high risk with DD because DS was an unexpected preemie, and I'm not sure that I would want to go through that again.
We interviewed our first of two nanny candidates yesterday, she was great, the second one is today. I am so excited, we are making a final decision tonight, and then letting the person we hire know. The plan is for them to start next week. On the bummer side, I had to officially withdraw DD from the preschool she loves, they *might* restart at the end of June, which would only provide us about 5 weeks of care until she would have graduated to kindergarten otherwise. But its still sad that she never really got to say goodbye to her friends and teachers.
There are so many pros and cons to different numbers of kids, but I’ll say that one reason we ended up having a fourth is because three kids is tough - odd numbers are just hard because someone is always left out or two can gang up on one.
DH and I both only had one sibling and no one in our extended families except for my sister (who has 3) has more than two kids. So our families think we’re really weird and don’t understand why we’d have four kids. We definitely did not plan for a global pandemic where childcare isn’t available - that has not made it easy to have four!
I guess this is all to say - there are lots of great reasons to stick with two kids