Oh match.com, you stink

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So in my profile I clearly state that I'm turned off by horrendous spelling and grammar. So today I get this email.

Hi , andres , I live in queen for longe time , I'm honest . Responsable , I'm looking for some one who wants to share . I hope find a woman to have a nice relationship and get marrie , I'm interested in you lete know to [e-mail]


WOW....really??? Come on!!

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Giving the benefit of the doubt here, but perhaps English isn't his first language?

[omeomi]

Sept 22, 2012 16:05:08 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

Giving the benefit of the doubt here, but perhaps English isn't his first language?

That's what I was thinking. That's actually a lot better than the emails I get from a friend of mine that's originally from Mexico.

Is his profile just as bad?

Either way, yeah, that would bug me.

[incognitotoday]

Most people who have horrible spelling or grammar don't realize. I used to write in my profile that people should respect my age requirements and I still got emails from men who could be my father.

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Sept 22, 2012 16:10:10 GMT -5 omeomi said:

Sept 22, 2012 16:05:08 GMT -5 @kjewell said:

Giving the benefit of the doubt here, but perhaps English isn't his first language?

That's what I was thinking. That's actually a lot better than the emails I get from a friend of mine that's originally from Mexico.

Is his profile just as bad?

Either way, yeah, that would bug me.

Yeah the profile is horrendous. Sorry, but I don't have time to teach someone English. Xh's first language was not English and I really got tired of dumbing it down for him. Ugh..

[imalwaysme79]

Also, many guys don't even read the profiles. They just look at the pictures, like what they see, and send a message.

[stephbfan]

Sept 22, 2012 16:14:52 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Sept 22, 2012 16:10:10 GMT -5 omeomi said:

That's what I was thinking. That's actually a lot better than the emails I get from a friend of mine that's originally from Mexico.

Is his profile just as bad?

Either way, yeah, that would bug me.

Yeah the profile is horrendous. Sorry, but I don't have time to teach someone English. Xh's first language was not English and I really got tired of dumbing it down for him. Ugh..

You sound lovely.
Do you speak any other languages? I have found that people who are not as tolerant about this issues are people who only speak one language.

[stephbfan]

Oh and maybe the fact that the guy sucks doesn't necessarily mean that Match does.

[bullygirl979]

Sept 22, 2012 16:14:56 GMT -5 imalwaysme79 said:

Also, many guys don't even read the profiles. They just look at the pictures, like what they see, and send a message.

This.

I don't know, I guess I've never really been one to get frustrated by the emails I get from online dating. I mean, yes, you want to find someone who you are compatible with and yes, you wade through a lot of people to get to that person, but why let a few bad emails get to you?

There is someone for everyone and that person took a risk in emailing you. Maybe someone is reading emails that you sent them and getting exasperated or annoyed by your emails.

OP, I am not ragging on you by any means. I have done online dating myself. But maybe I am adopting more of a zen like attitude that if you don't like what you see, pass over it and don't give it another thought. Don't waste your time getting frustrated or annoyed.

[BlueBayou]

Eye don't sea the problum hear......

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Sept 22, 2012 16:32:27 GMT -5 BlueBayou said:

Eye don't sea the problum hear......

:Y:

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Sept 22, 2012 16:22:31 GMT -5 stephbfan said:

Sept 22, 2012 16:14:52 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Yeah the profile is horrendous. Sorry, but I don't have time to teach someone English. Xh's first language was not English and I really got tired of dumbing it down for him. Ugh..

You sound lovely.
Do you speak any other languages? I have found that people who are not as tolerant about this issues are people who only speak one language.

No need to get defensive. For many people, English is not their first language-- I live in NY, It's a melting pot--that is not my issue. I married a foreign born man. Horrendous spelling just bugs me. People who are new to the language are going to make mistakes, that's normal. But if I lived in another country for 20 years ( like the guy that emailed me), I would educate myself so I wouldn't sound like a moron.

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Sept 22, 2012 17:02:47 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I took my profile down today... It's just not worth it anymore because it's wasting my time.

I am going to be single for a long time. Goodbye sex

How long were you on there? I've only been on a month, but not so much as one date. I guess you just have to weed through the unappealing guys--just seems like there are so many.

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Sept 22, 2012 17:51:55 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 22, 2012 17:30:42 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

How long were you on there? I've only been on a month, but not so much as one date. I guess you just have to weed through the unappealing guys--just seems like there are so many.

Since June. I kept a log... I went on about 15 first dates... one person (the last guy) I went on like 5 dates with. The other ones never led to a second date.

If you do end up meeting anyone off there I would limit it to coffee after 1-2 emails.. don't text each other and don't get your hopes up. Don't waste your time going to drinks or dinner with someone on the first date... it's just too much time wasted out of your life when you could be doing something better.

I hear you on the first date coffee...I think it is better than wasting an evening for ( most likely) no reason. So take a break from match and then come back to it. My friend was on and off match for 3 years until she finally met her husband. Don't rule it out completely because you never know...

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Sept 22, 2012 18:04:48 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 22, 2012 17:58:44 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

My subscription runs out in November anyway... I won't go back on it until I move out of this town... which should be in May or earlier if I decide to break my lease. I want to move to Portland.

If I meet someone in real life that's different but I am done putting myself out there in this town... I don't want to live here long term.

Oh, I see. I can understand that. How far are you from there now?

[blackkitty]

Are you the poster that posted your profile on here and then deleted the post I think last weekend?
If so, I don't think it's match.com that stinks. Your profile reeks of bitter & jaded and would definitely prevent any decent normal guy from contacting you. That's just my opinion of course something to consider.

[doriswe]

Sept 22, 2012 17:02:47 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I took my profile down today... It's just not worth it anymore because it's wasting my time.

I am going to be single for a long time. Goodbye sex

I apologize if I'm mistaking you for someone else...but this kind of an attitude coupled with the whole "there are no educated men around" stuff is probably what is causing a majority of the issue. If you are constantly negative, you'll attract negative....if you focus on the awesome stuff in life, you'll attract awesomeness.

[doriswe]

Sept 22, 2012 20:31:44 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 22, 2012 20:02:43 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I apologize if I'm mistaking you for someone else...but this kind of an attitude coupled with the whole "there are no educated men around" stuff is probably what is causing a majority of the issue. If you are constantly negative, you'll attract negative....if you focus on the awesome stuff in life, you'll attract awesomeness.

in real life I am not so negative I swear!

I am a pretty positive person actually. It might be shocking but in real life I am quite funny and many of my friends say they like to hang out with me because they always laugh so much with me.

It's just on this board that I am letting my negative/sadness out but I agree that the constant theme in my current round of dating is me. So I am taking a break to refocus on myself

Okay...I get the need to vent and just wanted to make sure you're not all "I hate the whole stinking world!" I think spending time focusing on you is a fabulous idea! And getting out in the real world with your friends might help you meet new people!

[blackkitty]

Sept 22, 2012 20:43:05 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Sept 22, 2012 20:34:10 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Okay...I get the need to vent and just wanted to make sure you're not all "I hate the whole stinking world!" I think spending time focusing on you is a fabulous idea! And getting out in the real world with your friends might help you meet new people!

No ... I don't hate the whole world at all and I am going to try to join some activities this fall and winter to meet people more naturally and without the pressure of online dating. I think I might just be a bad online dater because when I meet people natually I have much more success and I am not so nervous and weird..lol.

this winter I am going to take ski lessons and complete the Rosetta Stone for Spanish!

Good for you!
And I just want to add, that I hear what you are saying about online dating. For me though, I found that it can be a fun and good additional way to meet people if I take the pressure off myself. If I don't take it too serious and am much more selective of the men that I will spend time talking to. If it's not right for you NBD, but I think it can be good for a lot of people with the right approach.