It’s going to be a very Mondayish Monday. I have a full day at work, and my kids have a mid-afternoon visit to the doctor. I don’t think I can go. DH doesn’t do well at these appointments. He becomes a chatterbox who talks about literally everything but our kids’ health. The kids do better when they’re with me than when they’re with him. Both have to get their flu shots today. Both kids will cry. It’s going to be a shit show.
Yup. Right there with you. I've got a full plate at work all day. Somehow my to-do list exploded.
Tonight I'm spending the evening frantically cleaning my house before a realtor comes by tomorrow for an initial meeting. There is nothing show ready about this situation right now. I'm sure she'll be understanding and isn't expecting it to be ready to take listing photos or anything, but I'm so stressed about setting a good first impression. The playroom is currently a "haunted house" that the kids have been constructing for weeks. I feel bad taking it down, but omg. It looks like a room full of trash right now.
I'm just a miserable lump today. On Friday, I was working out and suddenly felt very dizzy. I checked my pulse and blood pressure and they were normal. I felt ok after a bit, so I chalked it up to being completely worn out (I haven't been sleeping well at all lately). I was able to get some rest over the weekend and felt ok (very little dizziness). This morning, I feel pretty dizzy again. I have an urgent care appointment in an hour. If they can't figure it out, I might be headed to the ER. This just sucks. I don't have time to feel like this.
Weekend was good. Soccer was weird. DD1 has an awesome game on Saturday. Totally engaged, had a great time, scored 2 goals! So fun all around! Sunday she had a game with her much more competitive club team. First 2 shifts were amazing - totally engaged, focused, made some great plays, good passing. Third shift was a total mess. Coach was yelling at her because she spent the whole shift playing with her hair and the drawstring on her shorts. I don’t know what happened.
DH and I went to a nice dinner for my birthday. Our old nanny came to babysit, so it was nice to see her.
DD1 totally blew up last night over dinner. She wanted pasta, I said she was having chicken, and honestly she never calmed down. Screaming from 530-830. I’m just so worn out.
Since we can’t go to DD2’s soccer tournament, my ILs were going to visit next weekend. But now DD1 is grounded, so DH might take DD2 to visit them and leave DD1 home with me. So that should be... something.
I'm really feeling terrible as well. I am PMSing, and the change in hormones always hits me hard. I can't find anything in the news (which might be a good thing, as in the pedestrian is alive) about the accident on Saturday. And I need to figure out what to do with the staff member leaving since it was insinuated as a hiring freeze, but not explicitly said, so I don't know what they will do. She didn't tell anyone, so I think I have to be the one to break the news, and I need to do it fast, but I just want to pretend like it isn't happening instead.
One of my other employees is just odd, TBH and I just don't understand what she wants. She seems to want to work more, but doesn't want to work more than 4 hours a day, so you know how do you work more? It makes no sense to me. Lots of handholding.
I feel crappy about the state of the world right now too.
Post by traveltheworld on Oct 5, 2020 10:14:07 GMT -5
One of the lawyers in my group just quit and we are heading into our fall busy season, so I'm a bit stressed to say the least.
Weekend was good though. DS had hockey and scored a goal! He's a good skater but not a good shooter, so it's very rare that he scores a goal. I wasn't there to watch it as only one parent is allowed to stay at a time, so I was/am sad that I missed it.
Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 5, 2020 10:24:10 GMT -5
It was a good weekend. Saturday Beau and I ran errands and made spur of the moment plans to try a new ax throwing place in our town. It was so much fun that we ended up ordering our own throwing axes and knives as something we'll do this winter in his shop. Yesterday we got a slow start to our day and went motorcycle riding in the mountains in the afternoon. He took me on some more advanced trails and I did pretty well. It was really foggy so it was a little disappointing that we couldn't see from the top of the mountain. It is almost time to put our bikes away for the winter, so if this was our last ride for the year I would feel good ending it on a good note.
Just got back from urgent care. The dr thinks I might have a sinus infection, so I'm on antibiotics for that. She also gave me some meds for the dizziness and recommended some maneuvers to try. If these don't work, then I'm to follow up with my PCP. I'm hoping to get some relief soon.
We had a pretty good, chill weekend. Friday I hosted a lunchtime pool/pizza party for the 6 pod kids. Another family hosts the pod in their garage, which is amazing, so I’m trying to find ways to help them out during non-pod times more often.
Big kids decided they wanted to go to the YMCA skatepark both mornings 9-noon. That’s kind of nice because they get some energy out and I get to hang just with the little boys (big kids and I get a decent amount of alone time during the week between their activities on virtual learning days).
Saturday afternoon one of the pod families organized the three families to all go play baseball, and the kids loved it. Yesterday morning I took the little boys to meet a friend and her kids at our community pool, and it was nice to catch up.
This is our last relatively normal week for awhile. Next week is ‘conference week’ at school, so the two in person days end at 12:15 and there’s no aftercare. Then we have two weeks of fall break. Those should actually be pretty productive weeks for me, though, since the kids are in all day camps. It will be great to have some consistency day to day, and not have to worry about school assignments or homework. My parents also fly in next week, will self quarantine for a bit, and then we’ll have them to help out, which is always nice!
Post by mustardseed2007 on Oct 5, 2020 12:16:40 GMT -5
We had a very chill weekend as well. Saturday we didn't do anything other than laze around. Sunday, DS went to a friend's house and we had one of DD's classmates and his mom over. We had a lovely chat and the kids played great together. All in all the weekend kind of just slid by. I'm thankful so far this week has been slower than prior ones.
supertrooper1, why can't you ride during the winter months on non rainy days? I know the dirt bike riders and ATV riders ride year round down here.
DH was pissed because DD and I wanted to stay home and just do nothing this weekend. He is helping out the neighbor by building walls for his new dump trailer so he spent all day Sunday working on that. Some how DD and I got roped into helping stain the boards since we are going into rainy season and didn't want the boards to wrap anymore than necessary.
Got DD private lesson with her 1st gymnastics coach who loves DD and DD responds well with. She was shocked when DD told her about the deadline and can't figure out what is going on in head coach's head. She agreed it wasn't fair especially when they won't let her practice those skills in practice. We meet her at 11 on Friday and will have the gym to ourselves! Friday night Coach Jon & T had DD stay after and they talked with her. They had no idea why DD was in such a pissed off mood and asked head coach who told them on Friday. They told DD they would help this week and asked why didn't she say anything. She didn't answer but plans on telling them why Tuesday.
DH and I went on a date night Friday to a winery and we were the only ones who ate outside. The reason we are where we are with Covid numbers. We brought our blankets and bundled up. Soccer is cancelled the next two weeks so we picked out pumpkins Saturday. My parents watched the kids in the afternoon so we could go pick out lights and look at stone for our fireplace. DH finished the electric work and painting in the basement yesterday while I hung out with the kiddos at home.
Update: It was a 9 year old boy named Ben. He was in the hospital with a skull fracture that did not need surgery, and he was released today. Thank God!
The details are infuriating, so I won’t repeat them. But the lady is a terrible human.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I have an appointment tomorrow to get a preliminary download of the results of DD1’s neuropsych testing that was done in July. I’m dying to hear what’s going on. We’ve been having so much trouble with her for years, but it has ramped up significantly over the past few weeks. Lying, sneaking, tantrums... all constant.
DH met with her Psych NP today for a regular check in on meds, which have suddenly become ineffective. She believes that a lot of what we are seeing is driven by anxiety, and that her ADHD is secondary. She wants to start her on anti-anxiety meds, but not without the neuropsych report. I had such a terrible reaction to those meds that I’m terrified to put her on them.
I’ve had a Monday. First day back from vacation, waking up to that awful email, work going sideways, and my kids having that post vacation crash hasn’t been pretty.
Top it all off, my friend/work colleague has been really silent lately. She’s been on leave for a long time for cancer, and I’m constantly waiting for the news that she is done fighting. It makes me feel like such an awful person. She has come back from what I thought wasn’t possible to come back from more times than I can count, but this is the longest she’s gone consistently without texting, not even a thumbs up on random kids pictures I’ve sent or texts just to say “drove by your house and I’m thinking of you.”
I realized this morning that my meds are definitely helping me a lot. The realtor comes this morning to see my house, but I'm on calls for work right up until she shows. I would normally be at an 11 right now, frantically cleaning, freaking out that I can't get everything done, and panic crying over the realtor coming and my house not being 100% perfect. It would be a borderline panic attack episode. Instead, I am feeling a little bit of normal stress and nervousness, but I'm also able to breath and say "It doesn't have to be perfect, we will get it better in time for pictures and showings." My heart isn't even really racing. It's like a miracle!
Last night we got an email that a kid in the elementary school who was last on campus yesterday was tested yesterday and got a positive result yesterday, but the school has determined the child had “no close contact” with others. How the hell do they determine a kid with an active fucking Covid infection didn’t have close contact with the kids in their classroom? While their chairs are 6 ft apart, they regularly touch each other. They played tag in PE last week. TAG. And I’m fine with them being closer than 6 ft, because let’s be realistic. But let’s also be realistic that they are close contacts.
campermom, pin him down- he sounds like he's being slippery. Or arrange care and tell him he's paying for the 2K a month.
In regards to the weekend, don't feel that you have to take them to field hockey and baseball (or just drop off at baseball). It's survival mode, and you don't have to do it all.
Or maybe a friend can take them and you pick them up type thing.
mommyatty, the private school in our town takes that approach - no close contacts because they are "so good at social distancing with masks". Meanwhile, our public school district's protocol is to send the entire class home to quarantine. It's so confusing when my daughter is sent home for two weeks and her neighbor friend can still go to school when they had the same exposure level. This was prior to us going 100% virtual. Private is still 100% in person even though our numbers are the highest in the country.
Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 6, 2020 10:25:34 GMT -5
186momx , we could ride logging roads but the trails never dry out enough to ride in the winter. And the places we can ride are higher elevation and quite often have snow. So it's just easier to winterize.
campermom, He needs to take the time off. And if something comes up and he cannot cover the ONE DAY he committed to, then it's on him to find childcare and fill in the gap since it's his fault at that point. (I know, easier said than done)
campermom I’d send him a calendar invite for whatever day, eight hours blocked off for “Parenting DS.” Then it’s on his calendar very clearly (assuming he uses phone calendar).