Mid February check in

[Jalapeñomel]

We are trying to decide if we want to do one more shot with the donor embryos. Our insurance will pay for one more, but I don’t know if emotionally we can do it.

But will we regret not trying one more time? But I said we were done after the last one. This is the cycle we are in.

A friend of mine has had one retrieval and two transfers, both took first time. And never had any 2 week waits or years of trying. I’m insanely jealous of her.

[red]

Jalapeñomel- it’s so hard to watch others have natural or even assisted successes when you are still trying. Only you know what is right for your family. Sometimes we change our minds and decide to stop or keep going.

[red]

We had our FET yesterday, I have an awful migraine, maybe do to the estrogen and/or progesterone. Finally some sunshine after a week of rain but I feel like crap.

[Jalapeñomel]

Feb 20, 2021 17:41:01 GMT -5 red said:

We had our FET yesterday, I have an awful migraine, maybe do to the estrogen and/or progesterone. Finally some sunshine after a week of rain but I feel like crap.

The estrogen PIO combo is brutal. Fingers crossed for you!

[pinkpeony08]

Feb 20, 2021 16:52:38 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

We are trying to decide if we want to do one more shot with the donor embryos. Our insurance will pay for one more, but I don’t know if emotionally we can do it.

But will we regret not trying one more time? But I said we were done after the last one. This is the cycle we are in.

A friend of mine has had one retrieval and two transfers, both took first time. And never had any 2 week waits or years of trying. I’m insanely jealous of her.

I have had many “should we just stop” moments. And asking myself the regret question. It’s so hard.

Meanwhile, I am back on my immune meds (off after chemical then covid vaccine) and going in for my uterine blood flow and lab appointment on Wednesday.

[Jalapeñomel]

Feb 20, 2021 21:08:13 GMT -5 pinkpeony08 said:

Feb 20, 2021 16:52:38 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

We are trying to decide if we want to do one more shot with the donor embryos. Our insurance will pay for one more, but I don’t know if emotionally we can do it.

But will we regret not trying one more time? But I said we were done after the last one. This is the cycle we are in.

A friend of mine has had one retrieval and two transfers, both took first time. And never had any 2 week waits or years of trying. I’m insanely jealous of her.

I have had many “should we just stop” moments. And asking myself the regret question. It’s so hard.

Meanwhile, I am back on my immune meds (off after chemical then covid vaccine) and going in for my uterine blood flow and lab appointment on Wednesday.

Part of me is like, insurance will pay, why shouldn’t we? But the donor clinic is 2 hours away, and the emotional cost is a lot.

I’m also thinking I’d go super strict anti inflammatory, no red meat diet, acupuncture, etc just to make it totally worth it (miserable).

[pinkpeony08]

Feb 21, 2021 19:38:16 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Feb 20, 2021 21:08:13 GMT -5 pinkpeony08 said:

I have had many “should we just stop” moments. And asking myself the regret question. It’s so hard.

Meanwhile, I am back on my immune meds (off after chemical then covid vaccine) and going in for my uterine blood flow and lab appointment on Wednesday.

Part of me is like, insurance will pay, why should t we? But the donor clinic is 2 hours away, and the emotional cost is a lot.

I’m also thinking I’d go super strict anti inflammatory, no red meat diet, acupuncture, etc just to make it totally worth it (miserable).

The emotional cost is huge for sure. Then I start thinking about the long term emotional cost of not trying and having regrets. And it puts me back here.

Commiseration. I’ve found my immune labs are actually better on no dairy, no gluten, low sugar, no/low alcohol diet. I admit that’s easier with the pandemic and less eating out, but it’s still not fun.

[thedutchgirl]

We're still waiting on our 3/12 appointment to discuss donor eggs, so no real updates here. I need to continue to get my fitness back on track. I'm a healthy weight, but I'd like to be in better shape before I'm pregnant, if I'm fortunate enough to get pregnant. I really slacked off in the pandemic.

[katespade]

CD19 here. I ovulated this weekend and start progesterone today, so now I'm just waiting to see what happens. I'm not feeling great about this cycle, but I'm relieved that I've had two ovulatory cycles in a row thanks to the letrozole. I have my annual GYN exam on 3/2, which will give us an opportunity to talk about when we'll need to consider next steps and what that would look like.

[Jalapeñomel]

Feb 22, 2021 15:56:12 GMT -5 katespade said:

CD19 here. I ovulated this weekend and start progesterone today, so now I'm just waiting to see what happens. I'm not feeling great about this cycle, but I'm relieved that I've had two ovulatory cycles in a row thanks to the letrozole. I have my annual GYN exam on 3/2, which will give us an opportunity to talk about when we'll need to consider next steps and what that would look like.

Does your insurance require you trying for a certain amount of time? You may be able to get your doc to say you have IF, so you can skip over the 6 month requirement and go straight to intervention (of course only if you want to do that).

[katespade]

Feb 22, 2021 17:32:14 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Feb 22, 2021 15:56:12 GMT -5 katespade said:

CD19 here. I ovulated this weekend and start progesterone today, so now I'm just waiting to see what happens. I'm not feeling great about this cycle, but I'm relieved that I've had two ovulatory cycles in a row thanks to the letrozole. I have my annual GYN exam on 3/2, which will give us an opportunity to talk about when we'll need to consider next steps and what that would look like.

Does your insurance require you trying for a certain amount of time? You may be able to get your doc to say you have IF, so you can skip over the 6 month requirement and go straight to intervention (of course only if you want to do that).

I've technically been TTC for over six months, since I had my BC removed in early June. I just didn't actually have any cycles until I started the meds in January. That plus my medical history should hopefully be enough to get me to an RE if/when my GYN recommends it. My insurance doesn't provide any IF coverage, so I'm really only worried about having an RE be willing to see me sooner rather than later.

[thedutchgirl]

katespade, in my experience, an RE will see anyone who is paying out of pocket. I don't think you'll have any issue getting an appointment.

[katespade]

Feb 22, 2021 19:27:33 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

katespade, in my experience, an RE will see anyone who is paying out of pocket. I don't think you'll have any issue getting an appointment.

That’s good to know!

[doggielover]

Jalapeñomel, the emotional risk is huge regardless of continuing or not and only you guys can make that call. For me personally I'd try it again with donor especially if the insurance will cover it. I think if I didn't try again I'd regret stopping, but again just my opinion.

I'm waiting an appointment with an RI. I finally got all of my medical records and called the insurance. I was shocked to find out they'll cover all of the immune testing at 100% (every blood draw) however the hysteroscopy and biopsy are fully my responsibility since I haven't met my deductible. It's still a lot to process and at times I question do I really need to an RI and what will he find that wasn't found before. I know he'll be the one to do my protocol instead of the RE and I'm ok with that but it's still the head in the sand approach. My initial call with him was good and he said it doesn't matter if they are day 3 frozen or day 5 frozen and tested versus untested embryo's - if he finds anything I'll have a much better chance than continuing where I am now.