March Check In

[katespade]

How is everyone doing?


I just got a BFN at 13DPO. Expecting AF to show up on Monday, and then it'll be onto the next cycle. I had my annual exam on Tuesday and my OBGYN gave me the okay to drop the progesterone for ovulatory cycles, because the side effects are kicking my ass and it isn't really necessary unless I don't ovulate. I've had two successful ovulatory cycles with letrozole now, so I'm hoping that trend continues. I'm also thinking that I'm going to add acupuncture back in once I can establish care with someone. My previous acupuncturist had to close her business due to COVID, so I'll be reaching out to her for a recommendation. 

[ste]

I’m supposed to call the RE office on CD1 (should be ~a week and a half from now) to schedule an US and... something else I’m forgetting. I already have an order placed for BW, just waiting for the right CD. After all of that she said we should be able to get a reasonable idea of how successful IVF might be. She also wants me to get a mammogram before starting any meds bc of family history, but I have to call and talk to them because I’m still nursing DD (and no plans to wean).

[Jalapeñomel]

My period is late, not really sure what that means but I fear my cycles are longer because of my age. 😢


Doc wants to do another hysterscopy and then I’ll do the final donor cycle.

[pinkpeony08]

In the 2 ww. Happily distracted by the adorable dog we got from a rescue a few days ago. I’m usually anxious to test ASAP but instead I’m “what cycle day is it?” Thanks to all the excitement.

[thedutchgirl]

Our regroup to move forward with donor eggs is Friday. We are considering asking one of my cousins (4 biological kids with her husband and adopted a teen who also has a baby) to give us eggs. We’ll decide after our meeting on Friday

[doggielover]

I was supposed to meet with an RI to do more immune testing however I ended up needing a root canal instead. As much as I hated to decide between spending the money on my teeth or more testing I had to spend it on the teeth. I still haven't paid for the crown yet (which insurance doesn't cover) but am thankful my insurance at least covered 50% of the root canal which I still ended up paying 1500 for.

DH and I talked about it and I have 3 frozen day 3 embryo's left so I might transfer at the end of this month and then if that doesn't take see the RI.

[turboteal]

My only embryo from my retrieval (a day 7 blast, we had no blasts on day 5 or 6) turned out to be abnormal following pgs. Before we got that result I had a saline sono (required post d&c before a transfer) and there was a little polyp or something, so that's cool too. We will do another retrieval cycle first, if we have embryos after that I may need a hysteroscopy to remove that polyp if it's still there before we can do a transfer. Fun. We talked about how different my response/outcomes were this time, doc isn't really sure why but agreed to let me go on metformin again (I was on it last time bc I had been on it for less invasive attempts leading up to ivf) and they plan to add more meds next time (like groth hormone). Hopefully we can get a normal embryo with another round.

[Jalapeñomel]

I'm sorry turboteal . It's so sucky.

Update on my post above TW for many of us who struggle.

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So my late period actually means I'm pregnant. Who would've thought. I had bloodwork done today. I'm trying not to think anything of it, because I've been here 6 times, I think. But for today, I'm pregnant [\spoiler]

[ste]

Jalapeñomel

Me too.

[thedutchgirl]

We had our meeting on Friday with our doctor, and it went really well. We were ready, I think, to start looking at donor eggs through our clinic, due to their better success rates. When we started looking the next day, my H freaked out about not really wanting to have a child "with" any of the candidates. (We were looking at frozen eggs, but they do have fresh candidates too. We just can't see them.) We had a serious talk, and the talks continue, about whether now we are just done with any bio children attempts. It's hard to wrap my mind around, as I thought we were on the same page. Damn being old.

[Jalapeñomel]

Mar 16, 2021 15:41:11 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

We had our meeting on Friday with our doctor, and it went really well. We were ready, I think, to start looking at donor eggs through our clinic, due to their better success rates. When we started looking the next day, my H freaked out about not really wanting to have a child "with" any of the candidates. (We were looking at frozen eggs, but they do have fresh candidates too. We just can't see them.) We had a serious talk, and the talks continue, about whether now we are just done with any bio children attempts. It's hard to wrap my mind around, as I thought we were on the same page. Damn being old.

This is so hard. (((Hugs)))

[pickel]

Mar 16, 2021 15:41:11 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

We had our meeting on Friday with our doctor, and it went really well. We were ready, I think, to start looking at donor eggs through our clinic, due to their better success rates. When we started looking the next day, my H freaked out about not really wanting to have a child "with" any of the candidates. (We were looking at frozen eggs, but they do have fresh candidates too. We just can't see them.) We had a serious talk, and the talks continue, about whether now we are just done with any bio children attempts. It's hard to wrap my mind around, as I thought we were on the same page. Damn being old.

It’s a really really hard decision. I got there because I was ready to look at adopting after 2.5 years of secondary infertility, but the process was so overwhelming. It finally dawned on me that if I was good with adopting, why wouldn’t I be ok with a donor? I really wanted to be pregnant again so choosing a donor was a good choice for us, I love my twins just as much as my “biological” son, they are my babies, same as him. I will say sometimes difficult emotions creep in like worrying how my twins will feel about it when they’re older and I was oddly sensitive about people remarking on them looking like me for a long time. Hugs and good thoughts to you! I hope you find peace in whatever you decide.

[thedutchgirl]

Mar 16, 2021 19:36:48 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Mar 16, 2021 15:41:11 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

We had our meeting on Friday with our doctor, and it went really well. We were ready, I think, to start looking at donor eggs through our clinic, due to their better success rates. When we started looking the next day, my H freaked out about not really wanting to have a child "with" any of the candidates. (We were looking at frozen eggs, but they do have fresh candidates too. We just can't see them.) We had a serious talk, and the talks continue, about whether now we are just done with any bio children attempts. It's hard to wrap my mind around, as I thought we were on the same page. Damn being old.

This is so hard. (((Hugs)))

Thank you. It really is. I'm not upset at him at all--I just feel bad that it seems like we maybe weren't totally understanding one another. Or perhaps the idea of donor eggs was more abstract to him till we started looking at candidates.

[thedutchgirl]

Mar 16, 2021 20:56:44 GMT -5 pickel said:

Mar 16, 2021 15:41:11 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

We had our meeting on Friday with our doctor, and it went really well. We were ready, I think, to start looking at donor eggs through our clinic, due to their better success rates. When we started looking the next day, my H freaked out about not really wanting to have a child "with" any of the candidates. (We were looking at frozen eggs, but they do have fresh candidates too. We just can't see them.) We had a serious talk, and the talks continue, about whether now we are just done with any bio children attempts. It's hard to wrap my mind around, as I thought we were on the same page. Damn being old.

It’s a really really hard decision. I got there because I was ready to look at adopting after 2.5 years of secondary infertility, but the process was so overwhelming. It finally dawned on me that if I was good with adopting, why wouldn’t I be ok with a donor? I really wanted to be pregnant again so choosing a donor was a good choice for us, I love my twins just as much as my “biological” son, they are my babies, same as him. I will say sometimes difficult emotions creep in like worrying how my twins will feel about it when they’re older and I was oddly sensitive about people remarking on them looking like me for a long time. Hugs and good thoughts to you! I hope you find peace in whatever you decide.

Thank you! He's fine with adoption, which I may or may not be interested in doing. I'm undecided right now. I think I'd feel like you describe, but there's something about the donor eggs that apparently to him strikes him different--as though he's having a child with that person, and he wouldn't normally choose to do so. I get that, even though I know he'd ultimately feel like it is our child, right now it is about choosing someone else's genetics.

I think I want to do the testing this clinic requires when it is time in early April, since I have insurance coverage now, but we still need to talk more about it.