Post-St Paddy's Check in

[Jalapeñomel]

How is everyone doing? Any new updates to share?

[pinkpeony08]

No luck last cycle, just went to the clinic today and everything looks good on ultrasound. Still waiting on lab results.

[Jalapeñomel]

Had my first US today, all is normal. The waiting game continues until next Friday. I forgot how awful this part is.

[ste]

I had a confirmation appointment last week, required to get an MFM consult. Still hadn’t heard from MFM this morning, so called to check on the status. They had no record. Called the OB office and spoke to a nurse, who was like yeah why do you need to see MFM anyway? UM READ THE FUCKING NOTE DUMMY OR ASK THE DR WTF.

Still haven’t heard anything. Ugh.

[katespade]

CD13, done with letrozole, waiting to (hopefully) ovulate. Skipping post-O progesterone this cycle because it’s making me miserable and my doctor thinks it’s unnecessary as long as I’m able to confirm ovulation.

[thedutchgirl]

It's hard to know exactly how to answer this, but I'm optimistic for everyone who is posting. I think we decided I should do the baseline testing again with this clinic, which will be in late March or early April. And I think H will do a SA and genetic testing too.

Whether we move forward with donor eggs, if we can find a donor we both agree on and like, or try a shot or two with mine since I have fertility coverage this year, we haven't decided.

I'm 43. In some ways, the idea of maybe it really is too late isn't terrible, as for years I thought I'd be childfree (by choice). But it's also weird to close the door. So, I'm sort of all over the place right now.

[Jalapeñomel]

Mar 19, 2021 20:09:27 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

It's hard to know exactly how to answer this, but I'm optimistic for everyone who is posting. I think we decided I should do the baseline testing again with this clinic, which will be in late March or early April. And I think H will do a SA and genetic testing too.

Whether we move forward with donor eggs, if we can find a donor we both agree on and like, or try a shot or two with mine since I have fertility coverage this year, we haven't decided.

I'm 43. In some ways, the idea of maybe it really is too late isn't terrible, as for years I thought I'd be childfree (by choice). But it's also weird to close the door. So, I'm sort of all over the place right now.

Nothing wrong with exploring all your options and changing your mind. And just because you were CFBC, doesn’t mean you can’t feel differently now.

[turboteal]

Just hanging out, waiting for a period or to do some meds as a priming cycle if no period shows up after a week or so. Plan to do growth hormone during a priming cycle before starting stims for another retrieval. I'm fine with waiting at the moment because I want to push back possible retrieval date to avoid a weekend when I'll be out of town at the end of april. @@@ also going through craziness of quickly starting my toddler in daycare as our primary helper (my mom) has suddenly developed cardiac issues that have her out of commission. So yeah, fine with putting retrieval on hold for a minute while we get settled again

[jerseyjaybird]

We had a FET on March 9, after two months of Lupron Depot and Femara.

TW

It turned out to be a chemical pregnancy.

Waiting to see what the RE recommends and figure out what we want to do. On the one hand, we want to move ahead with another FET ASAP, to take advantage of the Lupron Depot/Femara effect while it's around (3-6 months?); on the other, our instinct is to hit pause for an ERA/autoimmune testing before touching our last two embryos.

[Jalapeñomel]

Mar 21, 2021 23:02:03 GMT -5 jerseyjaybird said:

I'm so sorry. 

[red]

Has anyone had a D&C? I am having trouble deciding between that and waiting to naturally miscarry. Leaning toward the D&C so I don’t need to drag this out any longer. Anyone have personal experience in this decision? 7.5 wks.

[Jalapeñomel]

Mar 24, 2021 11:10:30 GMT -5 red said:

Has anyone had a D&C? I am having trouble deciding between that and waiting to naturally miscarry. Leaning toward the D&C so I don’t need to drag this out any longer. Anyone have personal experience in this decision? 7.5 wks.

I have had several, and would definitely choose it over delaying the inevitable.  

I'm sorry again. 

[ste]

Mar 24, 2021 11:10:30 GMT -5 red said:

Has anyone had a D&C? I am having trouble deciding between that and waiting to naturally miscarry. Leaning toward the D&C so I don’t need to drag this out any longer. Anyone have personal experience in this decision? 7.5 wks.

I had a d&e and a natural miscarriage. The natural miscarriage was one of the more traumatic events of my life, although it does vary somewhat how far along you (I was 10w). And I don’t just mean the waiting for the inevitable, but there was a LOT of pain and blood and I was honestly really not remotely prepared for it. The d&e was physically extremely uneventful.

I’m so sorry. Both options suck.

[claudiakishi]

Mar 19, 2021 20:09:27 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

It's hard to know exactly how to answer this, but I'm optimistic for everyone who is posting. I think we decided I should do the baseline testing again with this clinic, which will be in late March or early April. And I think H will do a SA and genetic testing too.

Whether we move forward with donor eggs, if we can find a donor we both agree on and like, or try a shot or two with mine since I have fertility coverage this year, we haven't decided.

I'm 43. In some ways, the idea of maybe it really is too late isn't terrible, as for years I thought I'd be childfree (by choice). But it's also weird to close the door. So, I'm sort of all over the place right now.

This is me, exactly, with regards to closing the door. I was CFBC as well, and now that I’m 41 I’m beating myself up. It’s hard to close the door but I don’t think we’re going to attempt any additional fertility assistance and it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen the traditional way.

[thedutchgirl]

Mar 24, 2021 17:29:41 GMT -5 claudiakishi said:

Mar 19, 2021 20:09:27 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

It's hard to know exactly how to answer this, but I'm optimistic for everyone who is posting. I think we decided I should do the baseline testing again with this clinic, which will be in late March or early April. And I think H will do a SA and genetic testing too.

Whether we move forward with donor eggs, if we can find a donor we both agree on and like, or try a shot or two with mine since I have fertility coverage this year, we haven't decided.

I'm 43. In some ways, the idea of maybe it really is too late isn't terrible, as for years I thought I'd be childfree (by choice). But it's also weird to close the door. So, I'm sort of all over the place right now.

This is me, exactly, with regards to closing the door. I was CFBC as well, and now that I’m 41 I’m beating myself up. It’s hard to close the door but I don’t think we’re going to attempt any additional fertility assistance and it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen the traditional way.

I'm sorry we are sitting together! It is such a weird place. For all of us, I think, but the CFBC folks particularly too. I look back now and wish I'd frozen eggs when I was younger. But with my XH and at that time, I really didn't want it and never thought I would. It's hard to give yourself grace.


There's an episode of Terrible, Thanks for Asking, called Tell Me About Yourself. From June 4, 2019. It began as an interview with a woman that was intended to focus on how doctors tend to overlook women's health complaints. And it ends up with the woman talking quite a bit about how she feels about that door closing. I've listened to it several times since I first heard it in the summer of 2019. It does tend to make me cry, but I also really like it. I recommend it if you are a podcast person and in a space to hear it. (The initial issues surround what turns out to be a really large cyst on her reproductive organs.)

[red]

Thanks for your experiences @jalepenomel and @ste. My RE cannot get me in until Tuesday, I’m not sure if things will progress on their own before then our not (1 wk after stopping meds). I’m just numb at this point until this is over.

[turboteal]

Mar 24, 2021 11:10:30 GMT -5 red said:

Has anyone had a D&C? I am having trouble deciding between that and waiting to naturally miscarry. Leaning toward the D&C so I don’t need to drag this out any longer. Anyone have personal experience in this decision? 7.5 wks.

Yes, quite recently. Last October I had a MMC between 6 and 7 weeks (saw a heartbeat at 6.1, none at 7.2). We had another scan a few days later to confirm and I stopped PIO that day (actually had last shot the night before and waited for scan to avoid another unnecessary shot). I thought about it over the weekend and my mom told me to do the D&C (she had personal experience with a miscarriage), which was the "permission" that I guess I felt I needed to go that route. Had the d&c the next Thursday (so a week after stopping PIO, never had bleeding or cramping in that time despite bleeding at 5 and 6 weeks from SCH). It was under IV anesthesia, pretty quick once I went back (delayed in preop due to ongoing cases taking longer than expected), I barely had any cramping or pain after, no bleeding the first couple days and then a little bleeding after that for a week or so. I definitely think it was the right choice, it was a little weird to be no longer "pregnant" without feeling like anything had happened or changed, but I don't think going through the MC process would have been better for me mentally/emotionally.

[claudiakishi]

Mar 24, 2021 18:25:21 GMT -5 thedutchgirl said:

Mar 24, 2021 17:29:41 GMT -5 claudiakishi said:

This is me, exactly, with regards to closing the door. I was CFBC as well, and now that I’m 41 I’m beating myself up. It’s hard to close the door but I don’t think we’re going to attempt any additional fertility assistance and it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen the traditional way.

I'm sorry we are sitting together! It is such a weird place. For all of us, I think, but the CFBC folks particularly too. I look back now and wish I'd frozen eggs when I was younger. But with my XH and at that time, I really didn't want it and never thought I would. It's hard to give yourself grace.


There's an episode of Terrible, Thanks for Asking, called Tell Me About Yourself. From June 4, 2019. It began as an interview with a woman that was intended to focus on how doctors tend to overlook women's health complaints. And it ends up with the woman talking quite a bit about how she feels about that door closing. I've listened to it several times since I first heard it in the summer of 2019. It does tend to make me cry, but I also really like it. I recommend it if you are a podcast person and in a space to hear it. (The initial issues surround what turns out to be a really large cyst on her reproductive organs.)

Thank you! I will definitely check this out.

[red]

turboteal, thank you for sharing your experience, sorry for your loss. Sorry for making anyone think back to that difficult time. This is the longest week of my life.

[pinkpeony08]

red. I’m so sorry. I’ve also had multiple d&c’s. Physically they are very easy. Still hard emotionally, but I also preferred having some control - knowing when I was having the procedure vs the unknown of starting the miscarriage at any time.

[red]

I started bleeding pretty heavily yesterday, my RE still wants me to come in tomorrow for an US to make sure things passed. At this point I’m hoping it’s just taken care of. I feel like my hormones are stabilizing at least so I’m not crying all day now. Still very sad though.