Kid Stuff

[estrellita]

Didn't want to completely infiltrate the other thread with too much kid stuff!

I am at a complete loss with these kids. E is 6. I filled out a questionnaire at their last check up. The doctor said everything pointed at E having oppositional defiance disorder, except that he does well in school (minus some behavioral issues but he's super smart and does well academically). He just does things that I completely can't understand. He has very little impulse control. Just now, he was in the bathroom and was spitting ALL over the floor. He proceeded to blame it on A, saying she told him to do it. Which is ridiculous for several reasons. I'm just at the end of my rope with his constant bad attitude about everything. We try to stick to routines, I try to give him some one on one time every day, I try to lean toward positive discipline, but idk what else to do.

A on the other hand has been insane lately. I will say she's been home for the last week because of covid exposure at daycare, so I'm trying really hard to be understanding. But recently, she flat out refuses to sleep in her bed, either for nap or bedtime. We battle for a while and try to comfort her without taking her out of bed (she's still in a crib). Eventually she gives up but it's a fight. She also has been screaming, hitting, throwing things, just uncontrollable anger. And not listening whatsoever. I get it, she's 3, but it's getting really hard to handle. Oh, and she STILL refuses to poop on the potty. Just won't do it no matter what we do.

If anyone has advice, please let me know. I love my kids but I'd love nothing more than a weeks vacation alone right now.

[luv2rn4fun]

((Hugs)) estrellita. All of that is so frustrating. And yes, 3yos are the worst as is...hopefully with age all of that improves. Honestly, I have questioned if there is more to DS1 than his ASD and both ODD and ADHD are always on my mind. I can relate to your post so much...so much chaos and behaviors at home but a perfect little angel (who just doesn’t talk hardly at all, even when he needs to) at school. We have done so much therapy and this last year has not led to much, if any, progress. What did your pediatrician suggest for next steps?

[estrellita]

Mar 30, 2021 22:40:03 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

((Hugs)) estrellita. All of that is so frustrating. And yes, 3yos are the worst as is...hopefully with age all of that improves. Honestly, I have questioned if there is more to DS1 than his ASD and both ODD and ADHD are always on my mind. I can relate to your post so much...so much chaos and behaviors at home but a perfect little angel (who just doesn’t talk hardly at all, even when he needs to) at school. We have done so much therapy and this last year has not led to much, if any, progress. What did your pediatrician suggest for next steps?

We did meet with a therapist at the pedi office, so we need to follow up with her. He does also meet with the school social worker which he seems to like.

This last year has definitely made things difficult! Luckily our schools have been mostly in person minus about a month and a half when they were virtual. He definitely seems better when he's IN school, but still issues. I know H and I have some work to do too with staying calm and learning how to provide the right consequences.

[HoneySpider]

I'm so sorry! I have no advice, but my kids have been horrible lately as well so I commiserate.

[HoneySpider]

We are potty training TJ...he doesn't seem to get that he needs to go in the potty EVERY time, not just the first time.