Vents, randoms, whatever

[blondemoment123]

This didn’t need its own thread, but I wanted for vent. My mom picked DS up from daycare yesterday and he has a black eye. No one seemed to know how he got it. It looks terrible. I asked DS and he’s saying X hit him, but I think he’s thinking of the last time (don’t get me started).

Rage!

[cricketwife]

blondemoment123 , argh. That’s so frustrating!!

I’ll add to my litany of daycare complaints. Thursday at pickup, the class was at the playground. There were no teachers near the gate. I called DS. A teacher near the swings saw us and I waved and she waved back. DS told me that was not his teacher so I asked where his teacher was and he said ihe didn’t know. Then we found one who was standing in the playground area but on the side fence adjoining the toddler play area and she was very engrossed in a conversation with the teacher in the other side of the fence. I called her name (loudly) repeatedly but she didn’t hear. Understandable enough with masks amd the outside noise. So when we went to the door to pickup DS’s backpack, I told the director what happened and I wasn’t sure if any of his teachers knew he was picked up and I wanted to make sure they knew. She radioed to them and they said they didn’t know he was picked up. She asked someone to stand by the gate. All that gets a giant eyeroll from me, but I wasn’t annoyed by it. However, I *was* annoyed when I got a follow up email on Friday from the director in which she asked me to please go on the playground to find the teacher, should that happen again. Um, how about the teachers monitor the kids and the gate. 🙄

[blondemoment123]

cricketwife Ugh!

[al dente]

Oh I would be heated over both those situations. Esp a director asking a parent to go trapezing through the playground to get a teacher. That's just asking for a gate to be left open and kids let out wtf.

My complaint is my 3 yr old woke up with a runny nose and cough, and I'm pregnant so a little concerned more about covid. I called the nurse advice line who said to get her checked by urgent care so I got us all packed up and up there, and then urgent care did everything by phone while I sat outside so I could've just stayed at my house.
My second complaint is self induced, but Im letting my kid was tv now and she is such a monster after watching tv I know this is going to come back to bite me in the butt.

[ohgillian]

blondemoment123, I would be so angry. I'm sorry!

[Becca]

My daughter has been going through some medical stuff lately which has come with a bunch of testing. Including a brain MRI.

We have a HDHP (emphasis on high 🙄) and we are on track to max out every individual/family limit, for the second year in a row.

I talked to a doc yesterday about my daughter’s testing and was told, “yeah, I wouldn’t have ordered the MRI for any other patient, but thought it might give you peace of mind given her dad’s medical history” (dad has done several rounds of treatment for brain cancer)

Oh... the MRI that I had to take off work for, and am going to pay $2,000+ for, was absolutely unnecessary? Awesome.

[pandorica]

blondemoment123 cricketwife I would be so mad about both of those situations!

H and I watch an old movie every Saturday night on a certain channel. I think we've probably only missed 1 or 2 the whole pandemic. However, suddenly that channel isn't working on our TV (via digital antenna) for no reason. I'm SO annoyed.

[suzubell]

Oh my gosh, Becca. RAGE!

[keweenawlove]

Do grocery store cashiers hate reusable bags or something? I feel like I always have to watch them like a hawk to make sure they don't sneak a plastic bag in. Yesterday I had to tell the guy 3 times, no, I don't want my sugar wrapped in a plastic bag.

[loira]

Apr 18, 2021 7:50:05 GMT -5 keweenawlove said:

Do grocery store cashiers hate reusable bags or something? I feel like I always have to watch them like a hawk to make sure they don't sneak a plastic bag in. Yesterday I had to tell the guy 3 times, no, I don't want my sugar wrapped in a plastic bag.

This is pretty much the opposite of where I live. Every time I forget my reusable bags I feel embarrassed, and then it's just paper on offer and I have to pay for them - the main grocery store here no longer uses plastic bags. You have to specifically ask for one of those little plastic bags to cover any meat you bought. I'm not knocking it but sometimes it's useful to have a collection of plastic bags to take refundables to the recycling depot.

[ssmjlm]

Apr 18, 2021 7:50:05 GMT -5 keweenawlove said:

Do grocery store cashiers hate reusable bags or something? I feel like I always have to watch them like a hawk to make sure they don't sneak a plastic bag in. Yesterday I had to tell the guy 3 times, no, I don't want my sugar wrapped in a plastic bag.

Ours won’t bag reusable due to Covid, so if I go through a regular line, I bag myself.

I just use self checkout 99% these days.

[Becca]

Apr 18, 2021 7:50:05 GMT -5 keweenawlove said:

Do grocery store cashiers hate reusable bags or something? I feel like I always have to watch them like a hawk to make sure they don't sneak a plastic bag in. Yesterday I had to tell the guy 3 times, no, I don't want my sugar wrapped in a plastic bag.

I think that some of them are trained (either by the store or by other customers) that certain products which are prone to leakage - raw meat, sugar/flour, etc. should be bagged in their own bag to prevent cross contamination or spreading of the leaked bits.

I usually just do curbside these days, but I used to pick the longest check out line, so I would have time to load my groceries on the belt in the exact order I wanted them bagged, and I would hand the cashier the bag I wanted each chunk in. And I still had to convince them not to throw random plastic bags in from time to time.
(I sound like a control freak, but I just try to make sure that all cold stuff ends up together, that I don’t get raw meat in a bag usually used for produce, etc.)

[Becca]

Apr 17, 2021 20:08:17 GMT -5 suzubell said:

Oh my gosh, Becca. RAGE!

Right??? I didn’t say anything at the time because I want to gather my thoughts and discuss with the doc without my daughter present. If she needs a test, absolutely, no question, we will do it. I do not however, want to spend thousands on tests that she doesn’t need.

I was already guilted into an ambulance ride for her that I’m still annoyed about. Ugh. Why is medical care in this country so darn expensive?

[vamoose]

We had a nice long stretch during the past year where my two older kids played SO well together and really carried each other through the lockdown. And now that phase has ended. Its like a switch flipped and now all they do is argue. They argue about everything - one of them being too loud or too quiet or too fast or too slow or walking in the wrong place or eating the last apple or literally any other trivial shit you can think up. This started maybe a month ago. They are finally (as of a week ago) back in full time school, so they are actually getting more time apart than any other time in the past year and I was hoping that would help. Nope. I swing back and forth between patient and understanding (its been a tough year!) and OMG I AM GOING TO MAKE YOU GUYS LIVE IN A TENT IN THE BACKYARD UNTIL YOU GET YOURSELVES TOGETHER. 

[suzubell]

Apr 18, 2021 10:45:48 GMT -5 Becca said:

Apr 17, 2021 20:08:17 GMT -5 suzubell said:

Oh my gosh, Becca. RAGE!

Right??? I didn’t say anything at the time because I want to gather my thoughts and discuss with the doc without my daughter present. If she needs a test, absolutely, no question, we will do it. I do not however, want to spend thousands on tests that she doesn’t need.

I was already guilted into an ambulance ride for her that I’m still annoyed about. Ugh. Why is medical care in this country so darn expensive?

I would be furious. You should be given the option and the doctor should be assuming there is a big cost for you. As you said, if it’s required, absolutely no question. But optional additional testing? It should in fact be optional.

[pandorica]

I hate throwing stuff away but also dealing with people through FB is super annoying. Posted something for free on the side of the road with my road name - 2 people at least have now asked where I'm located. Omg read the 2 sentence ad!

[expectantsteelerfan]

Apr 18, 2021 11:20:22 GMT -5 vamoose said:

We had a nice long stretch during the past year where my two older kids played SO well together and really carried each other through the lockdown. And now that phase has ended. Its like a switch flipped and now all they do is argue. They argue about everything - one of them being too loud or too quiet or too fast or too slow or walking in the wrong place or eating the last apple or literally any other trivial shit you can think up. This started maybe a month ago. They are finally (as of a week ago) back in full time school, so they are actually getting more time apart than any other time in the past year and I was hoping that would help. Nope. I swing back and forth between patient and understanding (its been a tough year!) and OMG I AM GOING TO MAKE YOU GUYS LIVE IN A TENT IN THE BACKYARD UNTIL YOU GET YOURSELVES TOGETHER. 

I feel this.  I was so glad my kids had each other this past year.  But now the arguing is out of control.  The worst part for me though is that when I give in and separate them, 2 minutes later they are begging to play with each other again!

[ellipses84]

A vent and FYI post: DH usually goes to Costco but I told him I’d run there quickly after my outdoor socially distanced workout class because he had to leave for work in less than 2 hours and I secretly wanted to see if they had something I wanted to get him for his bday. There was hardly a line at the gas station which is rare, so I pulled in, then realized I forgot my purse with my Costco card and Costco credit card. I remembered I could go to customer service for a temp. and I had a different visa on me. I thought, hey it’s 2021, maybe I can do this digitally so I pulled up my apps and asked the person at the front door. They told me I could not use the app, to go to customer service and pointed to the return line which was a long way out the door. I wait forever, get to the counter and have the guy tell me I’m in the wrong line and there’s been no wait for customer service. I go there and they tell me I can use the card on the app. Also I can connect my Costco visa to Apple pay and use that. The app says you can’t use it at the gas station but the person I talked to says you can if you call an attendant over. It has the same photo as your regular card, QR code and membership number. When I went to the front door the second time there was nobody even there to check my card! I barely made it home in time for DH to go to work (kids were home so he couldn’t leave until I got there).

[shauni27]

Apr 19, 2021 10:28:37 GMT -5 ewall said:

DD (almost 3) wakes up MOTN screaming because she wants someone to sleep with her. Sometimes we give in, but the past few nights it's really ramped up so we held firm last night. I tried bribing her by saying she would get a quarter for her piggy bank in the morning if she stayed in bed all night. Well that was an epic fail, but we still refused to sleep with her. I told her she could sleep on the floor or go back to her bed. She chose the floor and this morning we found her UNDER our bed on the bare floor. At least she slept?

man, we have been going through this with our 3.5 year old. Knock on wood he seems to be doing better for the last few days, but it was exhuasting--WEEKS and weeks of him waking us up to either sleep in our bed or go sleep with him in his.

[mccallister84]

DD2 has been potty trained for about two months. It had been a while since she peed in her night time diaper and she has woken me up on multiple occasions in the middle of then night to take her to pee on the potty. So I decided to not put her in a diaper last night. Of course she wet, and of course she was in our bed when she did. And not even on the side where she normally ends up where I had put a waterproof pad under the sheet.

[moonpie]

Our state has been making national headlines for our Covid surge. Youth sports have shut down, middle school and high school have reverted back to virtual learning. We’ve had a positivity rate of 18% (and no shortage of testing) and case numbers in our city are hitting earlier peaks.

And DD gets invited to a birthday party. Ugh, I said we couldn’t make it but of course she cried because she’s 6. I hate how other parents keep putting me in this situation.

It’s all crazy because I know 8 families right now that have Covid. No way am I sending my kid to a birthday party.

Education is more important than bars and birthday parties. Can we keep repeating that until it comes true?

[shauni27]

Apr 19, 2021 10:49:45 GMT -5 mccallister84 said:

DD2 has been potty trained for about two months. It had been a while since she peed in her night time diaper and she has woken me up on multiple occasions in the middle of then night to take her to pee on the potty. So I decided to not put her in a diaper last night. Of course she wet, and of course she was in our bed when she did. And not even on the side where she normally ends up where I had put a waterproof pad under the sheet.

We went through something like this. S, 3.5, suddenly started waking up dry. He asked to keep wearing his pull up, just in case, but it was always dry when he woke up. For a month. So he finally decided not to wear it, and he did great, for 2 weeks. Then suddenly wetting the bed EVERY NIGHT. But refusing to wear a diaper. It was fucking exhausting. 

We finally bartered with him to wear a diaper to bed again and after a lot of tears, he now wears them to bed again. 

[sent]

A vent post. There's just a lot of things hitting me at once. Running a small business is no joke, a key employee gave me her 2 weeks notice yesterday over something I can not control, her childcare issues. The rest of my staff aren't exactly susperstars, and I'm already spending lots of money on staff training to become that well oiled machine but that requires so much time from me that I don't have to devote. Then I have my young kids who adore me but leave me absolutely ragged. There is the unsupportive spouse hell bent on making me feel small about almost everything. And parents who help me with childcare, but not without a strong dose of guilt that I should be living the ideals for a wife/mom from the 1950s, maybe 1970s at best. Like maybe work a little but not work that much and just devote my life to my kids.

I vented to my brother this morning who replied that yes, feeling unsupported from all sides just sucks.