4/20 Check-in

[Jalapeñomel]

How is everyone doing? Anyone gearing up for cycling? Are you making plans for the summer?

[pinkpeony08]

In the TWW here. My body may have been weird with ovulation this cycle - follicle was smaller CD11 when I had my US than usual, looking like I would ovulate a few days later than usual but I was told it may catch up. Now my temperature chart goes up then stays there for 3 days then up again. Unsure if my age (will be 40 in the fall) is starting to impact my cycles or if this just happens sometimes?

[jerseyjaybird]

This month is a break, basically, so we decided to do an HSG just to do SOMETHING. It was normal, which we expected, but that hope of finding some minor, fixable issue never dies, does it?

Planning an ERA next cycle, and debating whether that cycle and the FET that follows will be semi-natural or medicated. Our RE finally agreed to add Lovenox and Prednisone, too, and agreed that he will cooperate with an RI if we see one.

We have consults booked with a few other REs that we're debating keeping/cancelling. We're not sure whether we're looking for someone to manage FETs with our final two embryos (switching clinics is less compelling now that our RE is open to basic immune stuff), or for someone we'd switch to before another retrieval cycle. Our insurance won't cover anything RI-related, so we're also debating self-paying for a workup with Derbala before a final FET or just waiting for January 2022, when we can be enrolled in more comprehensive insurance. Just all-around decision fatigue around here.

[vmars]

I don’t have any major update, but we just paid our storage bill for our 2 frozen embryos. My sister in law just confided in me she is going through her 3rd unexplained loss. I mentioned she could always use our embryos, but would it be weird to donate embryos to a close family member? This is 5 steps ahead, but I have not formally decided what we would do with them if we decide to not do any more transfers. I don’t like the idea of having them destroyed, but financially and physically I don’t know if we can have anymore. I never thought I’d have to make a choice, I was told before my IVF cycle I would be lucky to get 1 PGS normal embryo.

[red]

vmars that’s a tough decision. Some donate to research as well. I hope you find an option that sets your heart at ease.

My HCG is finally back to 0 after a few weeks of bleeding after my miscarriage. I have a consult next Thursday to start another FET. 2 embryos left. Hoping to transfer late May or early June.

[thedutchgirl]

Our regroup after genetic testing for my partner and my US and hysteroscopy is 4/26, as I mentioned in our last check in. It feels like a long wait, but now it is Monday. We'll know more after that. We have a frozen donor we think we like, but we'll see what the doctor says about his genetic testing.

[Jalapeñomel]

Apr 21, 2021 18:21:23 GMT -5 vmars said:

I don’t have any major update, but we just paid our storage bill for our 2 frozen embryos. My sister in law just confided in me she is going through her 3rd unexplained loss. I mentioned she could always use our embryos, but would it be weird to donate embryos to a close family member? This is 5 steps ahead, but I have not formally decided what we would do with them if we decide to not do any more transfers. I don’t like the idea of having them destroyed, but financially and physically I don’t know if we can have anymore. I never thought I’d have to make a choice, I was told before my IVF cycle I would be lucky to get 1 PGS normal embryo.

Are you not interested in transferring both of them? Or you are just too worn out to consider anymore?

[stellelinds25]

Dipping my toe back in...I've been lurking around for awhile, I used to go here.

***TW***
We have an 18 month old from a fresh transfer and have 2 embryos on ice. We're talking about shooting for a FET sometime late summer/fall time frame. I need to call my RE because I know some of our testing will need to be redone and should probably get things rolling. I just turned 38, so I feel like the clock is ticking, but at the same time, I'm enjoying my little guy a lot and I'd also like to lose some weight. We've already decided if our FET(s) (I'm conflicted on transferring more than 1) we won't do another egg retrieval. Just wanted to stop being a creepy mccreeperson and tell you all that I'm rooting for you!!

[vmars]

Apr 22, 2021 11:17:44 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Apr 21, 2021 18:21:23 GMT -5 vmars said:

I don’t have any major update, but we just paid our storage bill for our 2 frozen embryos. My sister in law just confided in me she is going through her 3rd unexplained loss. I mentioned she could always use our embryos, but would it be weird to donate embryos to a close family member? This is 5 steps ahead, but I have not formally decided what we would do with them if we decide to not do any more transfers. I don’t like the idea of having them destroyed, but financially and physically I don’t know if we can have anymore. I never thought I’d have to make a choice, I was told before my IVF cycle I would be lucky to get 1 PGS normal embryo.

Are you not interested in transferring both of them? Or you are just too worn out to consider anymore?

I had severe pre-eclampsia with both pregnancies and the last pregnancy it started earlier and continued after delivery for 3 months. Also, depending on what happens with our jobs we may not be able to afford more children.

[turboteal]

Finishing up a priming cycle, been taking growth hormone this time and will keep taking it through retrieval, which looks like it will be around May 8th. Hoping for better results this time, then we'll see from there if we have any embryos to transfer.

[Jalapeñomel]

Apr 22, 2021 20:25:14 GMT -5 vmars said:

Apr 22, 2021 11:17:44 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Are you not interested in transferring both of them? Or you are just too worn out to consider anymore?

I had severe pre-eclampsia with both pregnancies and the last pregnancy it started earlier and continued after delivery for 3 months. Also, depending on what happens with our jobs we may not be able to afford more children.

Ah, I understand.

[Jalapeñomel]

Apr 23, 2021 2:11:19 GMT -5 turboteal said:

Finishing up a priming cycle, been taking growth hormone this time and will keep taking it through retrieval, which looks like it will be around May 8th. Hoping for better results this time, then we'll see from there if we have any embryos to transfer.

I’m rooting for you!!

[thedutchgirl]

Our appointment this morning went well. My bloodwork was all normal, and my uterus looks "great." Of course, I've never been pregnant, so who really knows, but no concerns. My H's sperm count was excellent, and he's a carrier for just one super rare thing that none of the donors we like carry, so no concerns.

We just have to do our psych eval (tomorrow), and then really pick a donor. We have a difference of opinion on our top too choices, so I expect some negotiation there. As soon as we pick, we select a thaw date, which will be the date of fertilization also. Then PGS, which will take about two weeks, then a transfer cycle. If we pick soon, she said 6-8 weeks, but realistically probably June at the earliest. So June or July for transfer, which is crazy, but exciting.

[katespade]

I ovulated earlier than I expected to, so now I’m hanging out in the TWW. Letrozole cycle #4, CD18, 3DPO. If this cycle isn’t successful, it’ll be time for me to start talking to my doctor about next steps and additional testing.

[ste]

TW

SPOILER: Click to show

I had blood drawn this weekend for NIPS. Now we wait. I was doing ok preparing for it mentally and the first day or so, but my anxiety has been dramatically increasing as each day goes on. I don’t know if I’m depressed, or just anxious, or normal first tri feeling shitty/tired but I’m pretty miserable. I’m mentally preparing myself to get bad news again, and I don’t know if I can go through all of the extra testing and waiting again. I did ask the genetic counselor to call MH when the results come this time.

I just want this to be over.

ETA I actually have my first real OB appointment this afternoon, and the nice thing about the NIPS anxiety is that this isn’t even on my radar to be nervous about like I probably would be otherwise! lol

[pinkpeony08]

Ugh, well no luck again this cycle. I've been spotting since 6-7 DPO. All just so frustrating. I'm unsure if we should just be done at this point. I keep thinking "well, one more cycle."

TW -


I had a faint line on Tuesday morning that was gone by Wednesday morning.

[Jalapeñomel]

Apr 29, 2021 9:40:24 GMT -5 pinkpeony08 said:

Ugh, well no luck again this cycle. I've been spotting since 6-7 DPO. All just so frustrating. I'm unsure if we should just be done at this point. I keep thinking "well, one more cycle."

TW -


I had a faint line on Tuesday morning that was gone by Wednesday morning.

This is the worst feeling. I'm sorry. 

[pinkpeony08]

Apr 29, 2021 13:09:21 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Apr 29, 2021 9:40:24 GMT -5 pinkpeony08 said:

Ugh, well no luck again this cycle. I've been spotting since 6-7 DPO. All just so frustrating. I'm unsure if we should just be done at this point. I keep thinking "well, one more cycle."

TW -


I had a faint line on Tuesday morning that was gone by Wednesday morning.

This is the worst feeling. I'm sorry. 

Thanks.  It is not a fun feeling and so hard to know.