Post by Patsy Baloney on May 4, 2021 19:48:23 GMT -5
Probably a card and an, “I love you so much.” I don’t really understand doing much more. I’m an adult - she hasn’t been in the trenches with me for a while 😂
I used to get my mom geraniums through a sale my employer did every May, but she moved 800 miles away a few years ago. So now I just send her money to go out and buy any annuals she wants, or anything she wants I suppose. But I do tell her it is for plants/flowers.
Probably a card and an, “I love you so much.” I don’t really understand doing much more. I’m an adult - she hasn’t been in the trenches with me for a while 😂
I’ve seen this said before, and it sounds great, but do families really operate this way? Lol. I don’t have kids, so that part is a non issue. But, at least all the families I know, it seems like a multi-generational affair. Is this regional? People here do stay there entire lives, so you’re likely to be living in the same city as your mom, grandma and obviously your own kids.
ETA: I think Mother’s Day is a PITA all around, ftr.
I tried the whole, “Cater to the old moms,” stuff when I first got married, but it turned out I spent the whole day working and not actually appreciating my mom. And then moms that weren’t even my mom we’re getting bent out of shape because I didn’t worship them enough or something.
So, I just stopped doing it. No one has said anything about it to my face. I’m sure when they die I’ll be written out of wills, but that’s ok, because none of them have good stuff anyway, lol.
I am a mom of little kids, and I think Mother’s Day is pretty dumb. I just, like, want to not cook dinner that day or something, nbd. Maybe a flower to put in my garden if we’re getting fancy.
I'll have to probably go to my mother in law's for lunch and then my mom's for dinner. I already complained about this on MM moms so I won't rehash it, lol. As far as something for me goes, maybe the 3 of us will go out for breakfast since we don't typically do that.
As far as presents go, I usually get them both nice hanging baskets, and get myself some as well. I also got a night alone in Pittsburgh a couple weeks ago with some girlfriends, so I don't really need anything else!
Post by notoriousmeg on May 4, 2021 20:28:09 GMT -5
I got MIL a bag I hope she will like. I haven’t gotten my mom anything yet but am hoping to go see her and take her shopping. She lives in FL most of the year but is coming back up north this weekend. I haven’t seen her in months, but we are both vaxxed now and I look forward to spoiling her if she is up for company. Mother’s Day is always a crap shoot. My brother passed away and his birthday is always right near Mother’s Day. Sometimes my mom likes to be alone. I get it now more now that I have a kid than I did before.
I invited my whole family for brunch on Sunday, but I think only my Mom, adult son, and sister are coming which I’m totally fine with. I’m just going to do a bunch of make-ahead foods and call it a day. I usually just get her a plant and will do the same this year.
My boys painted plant pots and we’re planting flowers in them for my mom. I also got her a couple of decorated cookies, and I’m taking her to lunch tomorrow.
My MIL is states away, so the boys are drawing pictures and my H will send a gift card. I try to give him better ideas, but he insists on handling it, which means an Amazon gift card emailed the day of because he didn’t buy it in advance. Sigh.
A gift for your own mother sure but your MIL? Is it on behalf of your spouse?
I was wondering the same thing. I thought maybe I was just biased because I can't stand my MIL.
My mom is getting a text. Lol. She was here this weekend for a visit and I was going to pay for her to get a pedicure, but she didn't wake up until 10 am and she then took a three hour nap. She also left the box of Cheryl's cookies here that I had bought for her birthday, so a text it is. She will be camping for 28 days (leaving Friday) so I wouldn't be able to get a card mailed on time at this point anyway.
Post by iheartbanjos on May 4, 2021 21:59:09 GMT -5
I sent my mom and MIL Farmgirl Flowers. I went in with some girlfriends to send our newly divorced friend a Barefoot Dreams blanket and a nice candle just in case her XH does nothing.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on May 4, 2021 22:09:29 GMT -5
This will be the first Mother’s Day w/o mine ... I’m not looking forward to it. DD has been crafting like crazy and J is framing 2 of my mom’s cross stitches that she finished and I brought back w me. This year’s will be bittersweet.
We don’t/won’t have kids and my mother scoffs at even the $$$ things I’ve gotten her. So now I’ve pulled back on gifting, actually just sent my sister some cash to pick up a nice grocery store bouquet since she lives close. I’m not fully vaccinated yet but will probably visit for Fathers Day which is really going to piss off my mom hahaha!
Mother’s Day and Birthday I do flowers, I’m trying to end Christmas gifting and just do togetherness around Thanksgiving as we vacation over Christmas (just my husband and I).
Post by keweenawlove on May 5, 2021 5:49:31 GMT -5
My mom and two sisters are visiting me this weekend. First time we've been together since my sister's wedding in Oct 2019 (with an adoption and new baby in there). Hoping that's enough of a gift but I'll probably find a bottle of wine and some chocolates to throw in there too.
Post by underwaterrhymes on May 5, 2021 6:04:43 GMT -5
We don’t live close by any of them, so I sent some rustic looking elephant candles that go with her theme to my mom, a cookbook my MIL requested to her, and a cute camper mug (they’re into camping) to my stepmom,
Post by Leeham Rimes on May 5, 2021 6:46:35 GMT -5
I dislike Mother’s Day. I love my mom but don’t really feel she needs to be celebrated for doing less than the bare minimum of being a mom or grandmother. I don’t want anything. I just want people to leave me the fuck alone. Don’t ask me for shit. Don’t leave the house a wreck. Just fuck off. Lol.
I have to see her bc my sister wants to announce her pregnancy in a cute way and I need to help with that. (When I tried my mom called me stupid, so I hope she’s more excited for my sister than she was for me)
All that said, I’ll be getting her a cheap printer bc she needs one.
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Post by expectantsteelerfan on May 5, 2021 6:47:41 GMT -5
I seriously dislike mother's day. Like others mentioned, the guilt to celebrate the older moms versus the desire to do what YOU want to do since it's also a day to celebrate you is never fun.
We are moving soon, so I asked dh to go look at furniture with me sometime over the weekend as what I actually wanted to do. We'll see if we have time to actually do it.
Dh's sister always coordinates something for MIL, and this year we're doing a family photo shoot, but couldn't actually get it scheduled till June. So we still need to do something else, but dh told me last night he isn't sure what yet. This is also SIL's first year as a mom herself (her baby is about 3 months old), so planning something should NOT fall on her, but neither dh nor his brother will step up if she doesn't, so I'm guessing she still will plan something.
We're doing take-out dinner with my mom on Saturday and I sent her the surprise tulips and will probably also bring her some other plant type thing she can actually plant in her yard and a card. Having dinner with her is not what I'd choose to do if I didn't feel significant guilt, but I do, so I will.
ETA: I think Mother’s Day is a PITA all around, ftr.
I think of it as a land mine holiday. No matter what you do or say, it’s probably going to blow up. But in that silent disappointment way where you can feel the tension.
It’s also another time that it becomes obvious that women are expected to be the ones who handle gift giving occasion, and get the “blame” for something going wrong with the celebration.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on May 5, 2021 8:08:05 GMT -5
We usually go to SIL’s and have dinner there with MIL and FIL and her family, but she’s away and being kind of shady about it. I secretly think she’s taking the ILs and we aren’t invited. (She did this on Father’s Day a few years ago- took them out to dinner but didn’t invite us. MIL ends up inviting us, it was super weird and rude considering we always do the parents days at her house. Ditched again!).
Anyway, we will bring my mom breakfast and see what MIL is up to fir dinner that night. As for me I’ll hopefully get a nap?
Isn’t it funny how fathers are all “let’s do something as a family” for Father’s Day, but most moms I know are “get me a hotel room and some Ambien and leave me alone.”