I know it’s still Wednesday but I have a major update.
Remember ALL THOSE POSTS about DS riding a bike and all the parent and kid angst?
Well he is doing a special needs bike camp, and today he rode a bike for the first time on 2 wheels. He’s been 80% there for about 2-3 years, and if bike camp wasn’t cancelled last year due to Covid then I am sure he would have learned a year ago.
I know it’s still Wednesday but I have a major update.
Remember ALL THOSE POSTS about DS riding a bike and all the parent and kid angst?
Well he is doing a special needs bike camp, and today he rode a bike for the first time on 2 wheels. He’s been 80% there for about 2-3 years, and if bike camp wasn’t cancelled last year due to Covid then I am sure he would have learned a year ago.
I know it’s still Wednesday but I have a major update.
Remember ALL THOSE POSTS about DS riding a bike and all the parent and kid angst?
Well he is doing a special needs bike camp, and today he rode a bike for the first time on 2 wheels. He’s been 80% there for about 2-3 years, and if bike camp wasn’t cancelled last year due to Covid then I am sure he would have learned a year ago.
Finally!
That’s so great! My DD just turned 8 and is still struggling with riding a bike.
yeah...my 9 year old still can't. After he comes back from camp if he doesn't know how to bike (they say some kids learn how to ride a bike there) then I'm going to hire this new bike whisperer guy and see if that works.
In other words, I feel the pain and good on him for getting it done!!!
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jun 17, 2021 9:26:38 GMT -5
Remember earlier this week DD had a cold?
DS leaves Sunday for camp and he has DD's cold now.
He also has a covid test scheduled for today anyway, which is required by the camp. I am very confident it's just a cold and not covid since DD's test came back negatie, but I really really hope he's well enough to get dropped off, cause you obviously can't be sick with anything.
yeah...my 9 year old still can't. After he comes back from camp if he doesn't know how to bike (they say some kids learn how to ride a bike there) then I'm going to hire this new bike whisperer guy and see if that works.
In other words, I feel the pain and good on him for getting it done!!!
One thing that worked for both kids was to raise their training wheels. After a while we would watch and the training wheels really were not touching the ground. We would take them off, and away they would go. It was a good way to learn, while still having support.
DS is 10.5. The special needs bike camp teaches on rollers that are adjusted in tippyness, so the body naturally learns to balance as they go through the roller sizes. There is very little verbal instruction more muscle memory.
My daughter learned from an REI bike class but she is typically developing. He is not. This is like the opposite of an REI bike camp which is what he needed. He did 2 of the REI classes and it was very demoralizing for him.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jun 17, 2021 10:33:16 GMT -5
DS is also 8 and he's been riding without training wheels for a year, but I can't get him to start on his own. I tell him to try first and then I'll hold his bike while he starts, but he gives up too easily, worried that he's going to fall over.
In addition to ex-H wanting to be summer care and before and after school care for DS in a temporary parenting plan, he is also trying for more than 50/50 custody. There were so many stupid little things he put in his proposal that I'm going to have to refute. It's so frustrating.
DS is 10.5. The special needs bike camp teaches on rollers that are adjusted in tippyness, so the body naturally learns to balance as they go through the roller sizes. There is very little verbal instruction more muscle memory.
My daughter learned from an REI bike class but she is typically developing. He is not. This is like the opposite of an REI bike camp which is what he needed. He did 2 of the REI classes and it was very demoralizing for him.
We signed up for an REI bike class that was supposed to be March 21, 2020. Yeah....that didn't work out. And no new REI bike classes have been scheduled in our area
But hopefully that bike guy can help us.
Also, can I just say that all these people who say to take the pedals off of your bike....maybe our bike is just too cheap but I can NOT figure out how to do that to DS bike.
supertrooper1, almost all the teacher I know kids do at least aftercare as they all have way too many staff meetings to attend after school to watch their kids. They also then have aftercare available for no school days when the teachers are required to be in all day meetings. Your ExH is being ridiculous.
DD is 10 and also can't ride a bike. She has no confidence and has fallen numerous times with the training wheels on. She has no interest in learning.
I had a very interesting seminar last night on cryptocurrency done by an IRS Agent that is pretty local to me. DD listened in and wanted to turn her whole class in for tax evasion as they don't file tax returns for all their Minecraft bucks and Roblox bucks but she clarified that currency used in games that is only worth something in games isn't cryptocurrency.
Today is the last day of school! No more Mrs D! This is also DD's last day at the office until after 4th of July. She is doing camp for the next two weeks.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jun 17, 2021 11:36:07 GMT -5
186momx, you're correct. He used to complain about one of his coworkers not paying for aftercare because her kids would run wild in the school during their staff meetings. He would just leave DS in his classroom and DS would be fine on his own, but it's not a perfect solution. It's just added work I have to do to refute his ridiculous claims.
Good for your son, waverly! My BFF is 39 and still doesn't know how to ride a bike. It hasn't impacted her a ton, but it was an issue when we studied abroad together and wanted to do bike tours/get around on bikes in European cities.
4 times a week I shuffle kids and myself to therapy. We each have a different provider whether it’s CBT. play therapy, a regular run of the Mill therapist, or mine that I’ve had since May 2020 who has watched me grow.
I take care of all school and activities although he likes one sport in particular so he takes one kid to that. Looks good to others too. I handle all Pedi, dentist, orthopedic, orthodontist, speech, behavior support. Psychiatrist, what else…eye doctor. I have babysitters and family. If/when I ask for help it’s got strings attached. So I avoid that.
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4 very very painful mediation sessions in Jan/Feb.
Hearing: I have primary physical custody
I also have Sole Legal custody: all decision making. .
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I have done a refi, new car/home/health insurance. He cut up my credit cards in half so I have all new accounts. Changed all utilities to my name. He took most of our furniture so I have slowly replaced it. I have changed all bills to my name and taken over things like car maintenance, outdoor lawn care, water system, and got a handyman. I’ve dealt with life insurance, QDRO, retirement, 529s, pensions. Vehicle titles. The camper that was sold out from under me with a forged signature while I was in virtual parent teacher conferences. I got a new van that will make it up my driveway in the winter. I finally made it to the dentist today. I am clawing my way out of this bit by bit, and I am struggling. But in increments, I’m stronger. I had a playlist called “my new life alone” from a october until April that was gut wrenching. I created a new one that’s called The Bitch is Back” and I blast it in my new hybrid Sienna with the moonroof open and CarPlay and base and doesn’t have a ripped seat or broken GPS or Rusty fender or thumping transmission that is on its last leg.
campermom - I’m in awe of you. You’re doing an amazing job. I hope you can take a little time over the summer to relax and regroup a bit. You’re finding your rhythm, and your kids will be forever grateful for all that you’re doing. Maybe not in the moment, but definitely in the long term…
campermom, wow that was a hard read. I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this, and I and want to echo everyone else. You are amazing. So proud of you.
campermom, you are a strong, determined woman. You should be proud of yourself for fighting for what you and the kids need. Keep up the tough work! You and your kids will be better for it!
campermom, you have come SUCH a long way. I'm sorry that he continues to be a certified ass and you had to go through it at all, but I'm glad that you're not letting it stop you. The best thing you did for your kids was show them that you don't let anyone treat you like poo.