She goes to bed at 8:00. This was a random thing but still..... 10:00 on a school night but I am a bad mother because I wanted her to come home early. Just wait. He is a piece of work.
She goes to bed at 8:00. This was a random thing but still..... 10:00 on a school night but I am a bad mother because I wanted her to come home early. Just wait. He is a piece of work.
Did he have any good reasons to drop her off that late or he was just being a dick.
I remember that when I still lived close to my ex, He used to get overnights during the week and I would get her at around 8am the next morning. He picked up DD at 4 30 pm and told to come pick her up at 10. I went out that night, and I was making out with a guy when I received a phone call from him at 11pm asking me why I wasn't there to pick up DD. I flipped first because he never told me 10pm he just said 10 and who the fuck does a visitation exchange that late?! Needless to say, he never did it again.
A few months ago EH asked if he could take Ella to this music festival yesterday because it fell on my weekend. I agreed. There was no discussion of times then because the details for the festival were not released yet.
Fast forward to Saturday night before the show... Text conversation b/t me and ex went something like...what time are you picking E up tmrw morning..8:30, OK, what should I put on her (thinking he had something already but had a different mindset), he replied, "it is going to be 72 so a dress or skirt but give her something warmer for at night" I replied..home by 8:00 though. didn't hear anything back from him.
Yesterday am, EX comes to pick up DD and asks me where her uniform and stuff were for today. I asked him why and he said b/c she was staying over. I said she wasn't and we never discussed that. He started yelling at me in front of DD and I remained calm and asked him to stop yelling at me. DD started sobbing and telling us to stop fighting. I wasn't fighting, he was. He yelled at me why I change things all the time on him. I replied I didn't change anything, nothing was discussed and my text to him was that she was to be home at 8:00. He said he thought that meant I would be home by 8 in the morning. :-| (He is so fucking stupid) During this I was getting DD and taking her upstairs to calm her down and get her a pair of leggings and her sweater. I guess he went outside when I was upstairs.
E and I came down and he was outside still yelling at me. Ugh. I just ignored him and stood at the door watching E walk outside. In the meantime I looked for my support check from last week that he left on my table. It was no longer there so I asked him if he took it back. He said yes because I wasn't letting her stay over. I said it didn't work that way and he said it does now. Ugh, again. If I had noticed the check wasn't there, I would have probably just closed and locked the door before sending DD out and refused to let her go. It was my weekend after all.
So I text him and remind him she needs to be home by 8:00 because it is a school night. Typically on Sunday nights, she is home by 7:00 so I was already giving him MY day and an extra hour. He said no. He wouldn't have her home by 8:00 and that by me allowing her to go, I was OK with this. Told me not to play dumb and that DD was happy and this was about her and not me. [WHAT?] I said that she had school in the morning and she wasn't 3 where she would get a nap at daycare and that if I didn't care about her, I would have stopped her from going altogether. I suggested I go to the festival and pick her up to bring her home in enough time for bed. He said that it was a great idea and to text him when I got there. I wasn't sure if he was being serious or not so I asked him and he didn't get back to me for a few hours.
When he got back to me he said it was "crazy but fitting" and how I had to make her upset and miserable like me because I wanted to come get her early. Saying I was only hurting E and doing it out of spite.
My reply was "WTF is wrong with you? It is a school night." In other words I'm not doing anything out of spite, I'm doing it out of love. I asked him what time he was planning on having her home and if he had to drop his GF and her DD off at home first. He did so I asked him again to please tell me what the plan is. I said "why do you play games? Should I drive up there to get her or will you have her home at a decent hour?"
His reply was that he hadn't changed anything he said. Um, he didn't say anything...but whatever and she will be fine if he brings her home late.
Me: "Just STOP. I can't deal with this anymore. What time are you planning on her walking through my door. Just give me a fucking time, you fucking idiot." Yeah I got a little pissed.
Him: "You are an embarrassment. All I did today was show our daughter a great time. We have VIP passes and all you want is her to leave?"
Me: "Just give me a time. She has school in the morning, give me a time.
Him: "9 latest"
Me: "thank you. That is all I needed to know"
Him" "You are a joke. I couldn't respect you any less"
Me: "Do you think I care? You are a piece of shit loser who will never amount to anything in your life because you are a lazy ass mama's boy.
Him"Means a lot. Just try to be a better mom. Isn't a lot to ask for the one good thing in your life."
Me "I'm a great mom"
Him "you are full of shit. Go take a nap"
Me" Don't need one but thanks. I'm not a great mom because I wanted my child home on a decent hour on a school night? How does that even make sense. Go back to your poor unsuspecting girlfriend who thinks you are so much better than you actually are and our daughter. I am done talking to you now. I will see you when you drop E and the support check off to me. "
Him "Pathetic joke of a person you are"
At 8:26 he texted me again saying he was on way to GF house .
Post by turtle1120 on Sept 24, 2012 12:44:06 GMT -5
Well, I guess that's the last time you let him take her on one of your days, huh? I'm sorry you had to deal with him. That was such a douchetastic move on his part.
Well, I guess that's the last time you let him take her on one of your days, huh? I'm sorry you had to deal with him. That was such a douchetastic move on his part.
Agreed. No more accommodating for him if he can't play by the rules. Did he give you the support check?
Post by explorer2001 on Sept 24, 2012 12:47:07 GMT -5
How involved as the courts? He stole back the support check! He's a nutter. You're a great mom and yes hurting your daughter by keeping her out too late on a school night and taking away her legally required support. What a douche.
Oh no. No more allowing him to do this. I was supposed to take DD to the same festival on Saturday but decided against it. If I had taken her, I would not have allowed her to go yesterday.
He did give me the check back.
He is really messed up. I don't think I did anything wrong by wanting her to come home at a decent hour. OH and she called me after the middle texts when he said 9 latest and said thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you mommy for letting me stay. So he told her I was making her go home. fucking douche bag. I really can't stand him.
I tried and I did not reply after I said I was done. I needed to reply to get answers. I probably could have just continued to ask what time without saying anything else.
She is 7 and she goes to bed at 8:00. I usually start bed time at 7:50 with her having to go upstairs and brush her teeth and get her book and get into bed. The latest she ever stays up is 9:00 on the weekends but it is usually just because we are hanging watching TV snuggling on the couch...she isn't up running around the house.