MH and I are both in the military. He’s part time and I’m temporarily full time. We just moved to five minutes away from his mom and stepdad and it is fantastic. She’s helped us with daily child care until DD’s school starts in a couple weeks and she’s been a God send. My parents are helpful but emotionally things are hard with them sometimes. My parents are very dependent on each other, don’t handle being separated at all, and aren’t used to a little kid. Some of the blame goes on MH because he won’t verbalize what he needs help with. His mom understands him but my parents don’t. When y’all have kids it will be a godsend to have family close. I don’t know if I’d be able to handle the same house but close is great. H walks over to his mom’s with DD all the time.
My parents aren't retired but we lived with them for the first 4 years of my DD's life. It worked really well and we only moved out because we bought our own place. But it's a condo and we'll be looking to upgrade at around the same time as my parents downsize so we're already talking about building a duplex together.