Waiting to hear back from the foreign exchange coordinator to see if the local private school will take our student. If so, we’re back on! I hope I’m not getting excited again for nothing.
I've started writing this on a post-it note every morning. It's not helping: "Procrastination is the VOLUNTARY and UNNECESSARY delay of IMPORTANT tasks, despite knowing you will be WORSE off for doing so."
I've started writing this on a post-it note every morning. It's not helping: "Procrastination is the VOLUNTARY and UNNECESSARY delay of IMPORTANT tasks, despite knowing you will be WORSE off for doing so."
I had a math teacher in high school that was really open about her struggles with procrastination. She said she felt she procrastinated as a way of sub-consciously putting herself under the gun with a lot of projects at the same time. If she succeeded, then she could sit back and be like, "WOW look how awesome I am! I was really in a crunch and I got it all done and done well!" but if she failed she could abdicate responsibility - "Well, I just had too much to do and not enough time to do it. Not my fault."
That really resonated with me! I try to congratulate myself a lot when I get things done immediately and place value on prioritization/action. When my own procrastination causes an issue, I make sure to hold myself accountable and not try to shrug it off as just having too much to do. Nope, you didn't have too much to do a week ago when this project was given to you! YOU caused the issue.
So I don't know if that will help you. Her openness really did change my mindset for the better. I'm not perfect, but I do find myself erring toward the side of, "Just do it now," instead of sitting on things.
I've been in queue with the hospital's billing department for over an hour. A bunch of bills have come in for my dad, all the same account number, covering the same dates of service, yet each invoice is a different total. I can line up most of the charges among the bills, but then there are some that drop off and some that come on. It's so bizarre. I'm not inclined to pay anything until I can understand what are the true charges. But I'm surprised there was anything billed because he more than hit his deductible before the date of service. I hate dealing with this stuff - I feel like I go around in circles numerous times and talking to multiple people until it gets resolved. I just have to hope the person I talk to is knowledgeable and helpful.
I am a terrible procrastinator. I am more or less at the point where I am just accepting that that is how I am and it's not going to change. I've been procrastinating for about 30 years now so it's not likely that I'm going to suddenly become a different person for the latter 25ish years of my working life.
I just opened a new bank account at a local bank. I realized a few weeks ago that my debit card expired in February and I figured that was a good enough reason to finally take the plunge and switch banks. I mean I could order a replacement from my old bank, but there is no reason to stay with a credit union in Iowa for the rest of my life when I don't live there and likely won't ever live there again. I went with the bank that has an ATM in my building at work, so that should be really convenient. Of course, given that it took me 6 months to even notice that I couldn't use my debit card, it's not like I take out cash very often lol. I only have like $3 cash at this point though so I am sure I will need more sometime in the near future.
I am a terrible procrastinator. I am more or less at the point where I am just accepting that that is how I am and it's not going to change. I've been procrastinating for about 30 years now so it's not likely that I'm going to suddenly become a different person for the latter 25ish years of my working life.
This is me exactly! In college every paper I handed in was warm from the printer (dating myself!) I do work well under pressure and it hasn't come back to bite me in the ass yet but it does make my life pretty miserable at times. In the next 5 weeks, my promotion & tenure dossier is due along with other evaluation stuff that takes forever to compile, it's the start of the semester, and I have all these orientations and classes to teach. And I'm so in the weeds already. I don't know what I did all summer but I was busy. I just didn't get any of this done.
I've started writing this on a post-it note every morning. It's not helping: "Procrastination is the VOLUNTARY and UNNECESSARY delay of IMPORTANT tasks, despite knowing you will be WORSE off for doing so."
Man, that's really harsh and blaming - I wouldn't respond well to it.
I've shifted my thinking on procrastination from being a moral failure to being an executive dysfunction that is directly impacted by my emotional state. If I can figure out what is making me anxious/bored/whatever about the thing I'm procrastinating and fix it - I'm much better about not procrastinating.
Post by NewGirlNic on Aug 11, 2021 10:23:18 GMT -5
I've had the worst tension headache since yesterday. My neck feels so stiff, no matter how much I try and stretch/relax. I'm going for a facial this afternoon and she always gives me a good shoulder and neck massage while the mask sits. So hopefully that, plus an hour of pure relaxation will help.
My DD is 10 and her 'dream' is to be on a Disney show or in commercials. I'm definitely concerned about her being involved in the industry, but she does have some talent and I don't want to crush her dream. She's obsessed with Millie Bobby Brown.
Has anyone hired an acting coach or an agent? I have no idea what I am doing, other than I know she needs head shots and an agent.
I was just out in my yard to turn off my pool pump and got stung by a bee on the back of my leg. It is currently in the painful itching stage so I'm icing it down. I usually get stung a couple of times each summer because honestly, I'm just not careful, but I was hoping this would be the year I didn't since I made it all the way to August. Oh well. Luckily I'm not allergic.
I just realized that I leave for vacation in 10 days and have done virtually nothing to prepare. Usually I at least have packing lists done by this point.
I've started writing this on a post-it note every morning. It's not helping: "Procrastination is the VOLUNTARY and UNNECESSARY delay of IMPORTANT tasks, despite knowing you will be WORSE off for doing so."
I had a math teacher in high school that was really open about her struggles with procrastination. She said she felt she procrastinated as a way of sub-consciously putting herself under the gun with a lot of projects at the same time. If she succeeded, then she could sit back and be like, "WOW look how awesome I am! I was really in a crunch and I got it all done and done well!" but if she failed she could abdicate responsibility - "Well, I just had too much to do and not enough time to do it. Not my fault."
That really resonated with me! I try to congratulate myself a lot when I get things done immediately and place value on prioritization/action. When my own procrastination causes an issue, I make sure to hold myself accountable and not try to shrug it off as just having too much to do. Nope, you didn't have too much to do a week ago when this project was given to you! YOU caused the issue.
So I don't know if that will help you. Her openness really did change my mindset for the better. I'm not perfect, but I do find myself erring toward the side of, "Just do it now," instead of sitting on things.
What your teacher described is life as an adult with ADHD.
And the comment about "Voluntary" is just rubbing me badly this morning. I really wish my brain functioned better. It just....doesn't.
My DD is 10 and her 'dream' is to be on a Disney show or in commercials. I'm definitely concerned about her being involved in the industry, but she does have some talent and I don't want to crush her dream. She's obsessed with Millie Bobby Brown.
Has anyone hired an acting coach or an agent? I have no idea what I am doing, other than I know she needs head shots and an agent.
I would start her in local theater classes, trying out for any local productions, school productions. We have a friend who is filiming a movie for a month right now. She has a local agent and has been taking all kinds of classes for years. She is 14 now. If your area has any shows/movies being filmed, try to be an extra. The Atlanta area has tons of shows being filmed. My ds has been an extra in several for the CW, Netflix and HBO. Most of those only need cellphone headshots. It would give her a good idea of the time involved (only a few minutes on set, mostly waiting around all day).
I've started writing this on a post-it note every morning. It's not helping: "Procrastination is the VOLUNTARY and UNNECESSARY delay of IMPORTANT tasks, despite knowing you will be WORSE off for doing so."
I’m the worst at procrastinating, and after seeing a few other signs that I saw in Wes (who was dx with adhd late last year) I went in for myself and surprise, I have adhd as well.
I thought I was lazy and unmotivated my whole life, but no. Just undiagnosed.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
My DD is 10 and her 'dream' is to be on a Disney show or in commercials. I'm definitely concerned about her being involved in the industry, but she does have some talent and I don't want to crush her dream. She's obsessed with Millie Bobby Brown.
Has anyone hired an acting coach or an agent? I have no idea what I am doing, other than I know she needs head shots and an agent.
toepick , I am a procrastinator, well definitely was as a student, but a little bit better as an adult. The ADHD struggle is real.
What I imagine my brain functioning looking like:
As for my randoms: I am trying to get more stuff out of my house that we no longer need (talk about procrastination) including a big box of books I am taking to the school for the preschool teachers and toys, getting ready for our trip to the beach on Saturday and getting the girls their back to school stuff done since we start school the monday we get back.
Oh and I am now constantly bloated or something. Like bigger in my lower stomach, but it is firm, not soft. I am starting to feel like my body hates me. lol
And last , but not least, I think I am totally losing money working for the rates that the local title company wants to pay me. My account has not been this low in well over a year. and I know they are making money off of it. I'm just feeling frustrated and will have to see what they are going to offer to bring me on full time, but if it is not enough, I think I will start looking into something else.
Post by starburst604 on Aug 11, 2021 11:16:12 GMT -5
Amazon is dumb. I bought a cooler the other day then happened to notice the price dropped by $30. So I did a customer service chat asking for them to credit me the difference. They said no with a whole lot of blah blah blah so I ordered it again at the sale price and am returning the first one. Since I can take all my Amazon returns to the UPS store across the street it's not even a hassle.
My DD is 10 and her 'dream' is to be on a Disney show or in commercials. I'm definitely concerned about her being involved in the industry, but she does have some talent and I don't want to crush her dream. She's obsessed with Millie Bobby Brown.
Has anyone hired an acting coach or an agent? I have no idea what I am doing, other than I know she needs head shots and an agent.
I would start her in local theater classes, trying out for any local productions, school productions. We have a friend who is filiming a movie for a month right now. She has a local agent and has been taking all kinds of classes for years. She is 14 now. If your area has any shows/movies being filmed, try to be an extra. The Atlanta area has tons of shows being filmed. My ds has been an extra in several for the CW, Netflix and HBO. Most of those only need cellphone headshots. It would give her a good idea of the time involved (only a few minutes on set, mostly waiting around all day).
I think you’re in CT. If you’re anywhere north- central, Newington Children’s Theatre is great, and there are classes at Hartt Community Division at UHartford.
I’m debating about getting a helix piercing or something else in my ear and am trying to look at non-creepy or gross pictures of ears.
This is when being able to covertly look at people’s ears at a concert or festival would be helpful. My ears are small and I want to see what it looks like on smaller ears. These super close ups of ears on jewelry sites aren’t helping with scale. I just want some more accessory options! lol
My DD is 10 and her 'dream' is to be on a Disney show or in commercials. I'm definitely concerned about her being involved in the industry, but she does have some talent and I don't want to crush her dream. She's obsessed with Millie Bobby Brown.
Has anyone hired an acting coach or an agent? I have no idea what I am doing, other than I know she needs head shots and an agent.
Our friend’s son was in a soap opera as a child for years and started him in lessons and in community productions to see if he liked it. He did some open auditions too. You don’t need an agent for that.
I would start her in local theater classes, trying out for any local productions, school productions. We have a friend who is filiming a movie for a month right now. She has a local agent and has been taking all kinds of classes for years. She is 14 now. If your area has any shows/movies being filmed, try to be an extra. The Atlanta area has tons of shows being filmed. My ds has been an extra in several for the CW, Netflix and HBO. Most of those only need cellphone headshots. It would give her a good idea of the time involved (only a few minutes on set, mostly waiting around all day).
I think you’re in CT. If you’re anywhere north- central, Newington Children’s Theatre is great, and there are classes at Hartt Community Division at UHartford.
I'm closer to New Haven, but thank you!! We do have some local production companies and I did find a local acting teacher who could get her started that sounds reasonable cost wise.
I am a super procrastinator and have struggled with focus and attention for my whole life....and I actually crossed off an entire list of "adulting" tasks today. Phew. I feel so relieved. That sh*t was weighing me down!
I think I may have finally found an activity for DS who is so hard. He loves sports but is not competitive with them, but he just did a tennis camp with a buddy and they both loved it. Way less intense (at least around here) than other sports and he hasn't complained about being out in the heat or anything.
court26, My oldest loves tennis. It is a great social sport to learn and a lot of vacation places will have tennis courts to use, so once you learn a bit, you can continue to practice. I do like that it can be as light or competitive as the person wants it to be.
I had a math teacher in high school that was really open about her struggles with procrastination. She said she felt she procrastinated as a way of sub-consciously putting herself under the gun with a lot of projects at the same time. If she succeeded, then she could sit back and be like, "WOW look how awesome I am! I was really in a crunch and I got it all done and done well!" but if she failed she could abdicate responsibility - "Well, I just had too much to do and not enough time to do it. Not my fault."
That really resonated with me! I try to congratulate myself a lot when I get things done immediately and place value on prioritization/action. When my own procrastination causes an issue, I make sure to hold myself accountable and not try to shrug it off as just having too much to do. Nope, you didn't have too much to do a week ago when this project was given to you! YOU caused the issue.
So I don't know if that will help you. Her openness really did change my mindset for the better. I'm not perfect, but I do find myself erring toward the side of, "Just do it now," instead of sitting on things.
What your teacher described is life as an adult with ADHD.
And the comment about "Voluntary" is just rubbing me badly this morning. I really wish my brain functioned better. It just....doesn't.
I'm sorry - I didn't mean to make sweeping generalizations about procrastinators. For me, it's not a matter of brain chemistry. It's a choice I make that later comes back to bite me in the ass, and I am frustrated that I continually do it. It's because I've never been "punished" by waiting until the last minute. Everything I have going on in the next few weeks will get done, and it will get done well, but I will be miserable with stress the whole time, and that part could have been avoided.
PSA: don't order the crispy chicken sandwich at McDonald's. It's just a bun, crispy chicken and 2 slices of a pickle. No sauce, no cheese, no lettuce or tomato. Just a dry, tasteless sandwich. At first I thought they gave me a custom order and then I looked at the ingredients and it was correct.
I am so tired of trying to make friends in this town. Meet up isn't super active here, but our local Reddit board is. Someone pitched the idea of getting together a female book club, and the idea had traction. Picked a place (local coffee shop with outside seating options) and a time (today after work).
We had two people cancel - one for childcare and one for not feeling well and staying home out of caution. Now others are dropping like flies... Everyone in the chat was gung ho excited, and now people are flaking. This constantly happens, and is why meet up groups dried up. I just want to make some more friends so that I can have a regular thing/human interaction after starting my work from home job!
PSA: don't order the crispy chicken sandwich at McDonald's. It's just a bun, crispy chicken and 2 slices of a pickle. No sauce, no cheese, no lettuce or tomato. Just a dry, tasteless sandwich. At first I thought they gave me a custom order and then I looked at the ingredients and it was correct.
You have to order the deluxe sandwich to get all that other stuff 😁
My sister and BIL are excitedly stalking the AirBnB location we're supposed to be staying at next week, and she's texting me about how where it is, and how cute it looks. Meanwhile my H and I are about to leave to go get our covid tests and in a few hours I'm going to have to call her and either tell her we can't come at all, or warn her about our exposure and tell her if we do come our trip will have to be a little different than we envisioned and give her the option to tell us to stay away. 😢
I'm so mad at my SIL right now. And I don't know if I should be, but I am.