Post by followyourarrow on Sept 2, 2021 11:04:16 GMT -5
I had dinner last night with my cousin. She asked me about our family history, stuff her parents had refused to tell her, or simply told her that we don't talk about it. I was very open and direct, sent her newspaper articles. She wanted to know if all families had a past like ours. I told her I anticipate more people than she thinks probably have family members that were convicted of crimes and to remember what people post on social media is far from how their lives really are. But, now I'm curious.
Lots of families have people who go to jail or even prison. DHs step-dad killed a man and went to prison. DHs bio dad went to prison for drugs and child support.
I saw someone on tik tok who found out her grandma killed her great grandma and it was in the news because her grandma chopped up the body and stuffed it in barrels. And her mom left her as a kid to be babysat by grandma 😱
Yes, I had a cousin that committed a really terrible crime in the early 90s. It destroyed his marriage and his relationship with his son (who was a child at the time and didn't want a relationship with him once he was grown). He did 15 years in prison. His relationship with his parents and his sisters once he got out was incredibly difficult because he was never able to admit his guilt. He passed away a couple of years ago, and that has been the best thing for the family.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Sept 2, 2021 11:14:28 GMT -5
My xh (and Miss R’s dad) did time, both before we were married - that he neglected to tell me about until after we were married- and after we separated - RO violations.
Legend has it that my great-aunt on my dad's side was a bootlegger and brothel madam during Prohibition/Depression. She was arrested and convicted a few times. But she rallied!
I intentionally left that vague. I know different crimes are on different levels. In our family we have one that I'd consider very serious, another that is not so serious.
I intentionally left that vague. I know different crimes are on different levels. In our family we have one that I'd consider very serious, another that is not so serious.
I was only asking to influence my answer. I think drugs and domestic crimes are common.
But mob king pin and serial killers probably less common.
My Dad went to jail for child support back in the late 80's early 90's. I'm kind of foggy on the details, only really remember that my Grandmother would take us to see him in jail.
I also have a cousin who has quite the rap sheet, mostly things like burglary and grand theft auto, no violent crimes that I am aware of.
Post by mysteriouswife on Sept 2, 2021 11:31:29 GMT -5
I have a family member who was in prison for extremely heinous crimes. I have cousins in for far less. H has family history that still shocks the hell out of me when I hear the stories. One family member died in prison from hep C. He was serving life for drug trafficking
No one recently that I’m aware of! My grandfather’s family ran some illegal clubs during prohibition and there are some stories about running from the cops and arrests that made the paper.
My uncle was murdered and apparently there was a lot of drama in his life but I don’t think he was ever arrested. ETA: he was murdered by his girlfriend’s estranged husband, it wasn’t part of any crime on his part.
I know a few other people who have been arrested and convicted of a crime. My next door neighbor growing up killed some people when he was in his 20s and I was in high school. Various drug charges for other people.
I think it is pretty common especially if you consider things like DUIs, possession charges, protesting, vandalism, disturbing the peace, charges related to fights, theft etc.
Not all convictions end in jail or prison time.
My friend’s sister is a total buttoned up, soccer mom stereotype but I know she was in jail for a year (maybe 18 months? I know she got out a couple years early for good behavior) in her twenties. You’d never guess it. I think it was theft and minor drug charges?
I swear, if you met me you would think I was making this all up as I’m super buttoned up (I don’t even drink) but yes, most definitely. My biological dad has been in prison a number of times for drugs, DUI including vehicular manslaughter, theft, non-payment of child support, and so on. My great uncle was a big time drug dealer in our area. He went to prison a few times, the last being over a decade in San Quentin. Then there’s a cousin with drug issues, a cousin with some mental health issues that kidnapped her own kids, an aunt with a repeat shoplifting issue. My family is a barrel of fun.
My cousin was recently arrested for excessive force as a police officer. I have no idea what’s happening with it. My mom cut off contact with him after her dad died (he did some really shitty stuff and claimed some things that should have gone to her), so she doesn’t have any interest in knowing what’s going on and I have no real connection with any of my extended family.
My dad had a couple of DUIs. Never went to jail or prison but had his license suspended for a while. Not that that stopped him from driving. Thankfully he only ever caused 1-car accidents. Addiction is a bitch.
About 1/3 of American adults have an arrest record on file with the FBI. Obviously not all arrests result in convictions but it's a huge number nonetheless. Almost 1% of the population is incarcerated at any one time in America.
I have a couple cousins that have done time for DUIs and drug related charges. Same for a niece. My uncles (and my Dad) were arrested/spent a couple nights in jail for street racing
My mom's cousin did time for attempting to poison his ex wife. We didn't really interact with that side of the family though.
My oldest sister SHOULD have done time... after she blatantly stole my middle sister's identity to open and run up a bunch of credit cards. Middle sister was 20 or so at the time. And while they went in front of a magistrate, middle sister decided to not press charges. Let me tell you this is ALL kinds of fun family drama that still goes on. Because Dad (oldest sister is his kid from 1st marriage) still has a relatively pleasant relationship with oldest sister. AND she lives closest to my parents (but no longer has a key to their house). So should anything happen, my job is to book it to their town and basically stand guard to keep her out. Yay!
My mom’s cousin was murdered by her husband. There’s a dateline about it. My XH had a DUI. I’m surprised only one. 2 of my 3 hs bffs also had DUIs, one more than once.
I would not be surprised if there are more family members with DUIs, or drug possession.
Two of my nephews for fighting with family members and drugs, although honestly it’s undertreated mental illness at play here and shouldn’t be criminalized.
Post by schrodinger on Sept 2, 2021 12:46:28 GMT -5
TW and PDQ
My cousin's husband was convicted of sexually assaulting a child over a decade ago. None of us knew this until his stepdaughter accused him of assaulting her and the press did some digging into his past. He was acquitted of the assault of his stepdaughter (not sure of right term, the grand jury chose not to bring charges).
Through all this there are still people in my family that support him, which I find just horrifying and have been quite vocal about. His recent victim understandably wants nothing to do with my family because of this.
Post by fivechickens on Sept 2, 2021 12:52:05 GMT -5
My cousin’s mom stole $50k from an elderly lady she was caring for. I don’t think she ever got caught even though her kids knew about it. I am pretty confident my other cousin (same mom) has been arrested for stuff.