Normally I love that you’re not a med pusher. But DS is struggling hard with school this year. I can’t have him melting down and hiding under his desk because he’s overwhelmed. So let’s give ADHD meds a try, shall we?
Dear mommyatty, Good luck! We're still messing with dosages and meds over here, but I have hope that it will make a difference at some point! Signed, Fellow ADHD mom
Dear ExH, You are seriously a piece of work. Your texts to me last night included gems such as "The swim coach told me I look too young to be their dad" (gag me) and "Why is the staff always so gruff with me when I pick them up?" Staff reactions may be justified given that last night you showed up to practice 20 minutes late with all their gear and then left all of their school supplies there overnight! How do you pick up your children from after school care and LEAVE THE SCHOOL BAGS BEHIND? They called me to tell me, but it was already too late for either of us to go get the stuff, so no homework or teaching responsible routines happened last night at your place. Also, is your fiancée admitted again? Seems like she might be, and I know that shouldn't be my problem, but I would kind of like to know instead of you lying/hiding it. The kids told me a guy picked her up to go to therapy for a few days. How is this my life? Signed, How Did I Ever Agree To Marry You?
Dear Work, I'm so exhausted by COVID decision making in all aspects of my life. Can someone else just make the decision on return to office and tell me what to do? I realize that's not a luxury I have in my leadership position, but oh my god. I can't handle analyzing data and recommendations and listening to people rant about masks anymore. My brain is fried and this isn't good for my mental health. Do I have to show up next week or not? Signed, Tired Director
It’s September 8th. You were supposed to welcome students September 1. And a pipe burst because no one took care of you and maintained you. Pipes don’t usually burst in the middle of summer. And the water ran and ran for days because no one noticed. And it flooded the basement, including the electrical switch gear. Which takes months to replace. So you planned to run on generators.
Now your asbestos is shedding all over - so no school again. No plan to reopen. Literally thousands of kids with nowhere to go.
But no one is talking about the black mold or the raw sewage that backed up into the bathrooms. Or the lack of heat 2 years ago that was never fixed. Awesome bonus in a New England school.
I hope the kids can get back in at some point…
Citizen
Dear DH -
I wanted to move, but noooooo… so we went the private school route. So every time you’re moaning about those tuition payments, see above.
Mom who shall not be sending her kids to a poopy moldy school
Dear School We should have started yesterday instead of today. Yesterday DD was excited to go and ready. This morning no let me sleep, do I have to go, I don't want to get dressed. She did log in and seems to be doing okay so far. But the extra day off after the holiday really screwed with her brain. Me who had a cranky 5th grader this morning
Dear Jury Duty Please when I call tonight tell me there are no trials tomorrow. Not looking forward to jury duty or sitting waiting to see if I'm picked Jury 258
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 8, 2021 12:04:22 GMT -5
Dear DD,
This weekend you picked a dress for picture day. We all acknowledged you don't normally wear dresses but this one was simple cut and camo and you loved it. We spoke again about your outfit choice last night and you confirmed the outfit, picked out your socks, and picked out your shoes.
Waking up this morning and coming downstairs in tears dressed only in your brothers t shirt saying wearing that agreed upon outfit was crushing your soul is...FFS! You look cute in the outfit from your closet but I just can't with you.
Signed, Sending her child out to be adopted by wolves
You really surprised and disconcerted me when you accosted me at the self check making me think something was wrong. Then you kept demanding I put in my phone number even when I said I don't have a phone number with you. Which is true but also I have the right to not put in my phone number just so your store can have marketing data. There is a reason that people go to self checks and it is to avoid you. So then of course you had to tell me that I didn't push the card button even though I already used the card reader because you were right over my shoulder with the accosting. How about you tone it down a notch.
Signed, Scared customer
Dear Facebook and Message Boards (not working parents),
You used to be OK, but lately all the topics are complaining about Covid, kids quarantined, testing, etc. I am trying to pretend like my kids will be OK this school year. We are all masked. So I am asking that you all tone down your angst as well. Quarantines are super sucky, I get it, and I am worried too, but reading 700 of the same posts about it is not helping the fear.
Signed, Scared during a pandemic
Dear DH,
I'm sorry I haven't replied to your last 2 complaining texts. It's like I look at my phone see it is a work complaint, put it down and promptly forget to write you back.
Signed, Scatterbrained
ETA-Dear WP, I know I am complaining. But I think I am over all the complaining. I have a co-worker that does nothing but that. I worked with her last night, and it is not just work. She also complained about the relatives living with her FIL not caring for him, and her son's MIL babysitting when someone has tennis rather than when her DIL actually works. It's just lately all I hear is complaining. Co-worker should try being positive, IDK. I was going to ask if there was anything I could do, but I know there isn't because you can't make someone everyone happy. And the complaints are partially legit.
Dear Honda Thanks for the $10 off coupon for an oil change/rotation. I just called to find out how much the service would cost. $174, I almost dropped the phone. Guess I will be stopping at the store for an oil filter and oil so I can do that pesky project Friday. Think I will still stop at the local tire place that charges $15 for a tire rotation as that will take me a good 4 hours so worth every penny. Shocked Consumer
Dear close friends I share my Apple watch data with,
I know we all work in the same industry and all have little kids and crazy lives. But could you please stop making me feel bad that I get a real workout in everyday? We all manage our time differently, and it's a non-negotiable for me, and I am willing to put off other things to do it. I realize we all have different priorities and schedule challenges. My kids are not sick at home this week, luckily (like two of yours), so I can workout at 6:30 am instead of having to get ahead on work then. I have less time to work out on weekends because four kids. It bothers me to hear that getting my workout updates on weekdays makes you "ragey."
Signed, should I just stop sharing with them?
Dear fashion world/retailers/whoever sets styles,
Why are so many clothes "in" right now that are so ugly and unflattering?
Hoping your DS has a great day, and that the meds are right. But don't get discouraged if they're not. Because once you find the right answer, things improve so, so much. I wanted to cry when DD1 told me her meds were "like magic" when we got the right one.
"Fair" is not always "equal". You will learn this more and more in life. I'm doing something small specifically for DD2 to make everyone's lives better, not because I love her more.
If you'd like me to shift from "fair" to "equal", I will do that, but I can guarantee that you won't like the results. After all, we don't spend $7k per summer sending your sister to camp. That's just for you. So I'd be happy to pocket that $7K and Daddy and I can go on a nice trip together. Or, you can just, you know, pipe down.
mae0111, I outright tell my kids that life's not fair and to suck it up They know the thing that bugs me the most is when they act ungrateful - since they are so, so incredibly lucky relative to so many kids.
Dear school tech A computer that won't charge without you holding the charger cable in just doesn't work. Lucky I didn't have jury duty and DD was home alone because it has been a sh$t show of a morning. Frustrated parent
Dear Teacher Thanks for being flexible why we try to move DD to my office desktop that isn't set up for zooming. No camera, plugged the mic in and lost all the sound. Had to kick everyone else out of everything to restart the computer. It was just a mess. She is in and can hear you but no idea if the mic works or not so maybe don't call on her the rest of class. Frazzled me
I constantly tell my kids that life isn't fair. When did I EVER say life was fair??? Life is not fair and the sooner they learn it, the better off they'll be.
Dear self,
Find a fricking hair stylist. Pick one. Spend the money. Your lopsided haircut is not going to fix itself. It's okay to spend the time/money/effort on you.
We've officially booked an AirBNB for next summer. For a trip with DH's parents and siblings and their families. I feel really badly about this because I absolutely do not want to go. DH did manage to meet my "I will not go without these conditions being met" conditions, it's a really nice place, it's in my favorite local place to travel to, and I'm sure my kids will have a blast with their cousins. I feel like such an awful person because I'm already dreading this trip, 10 months in advance.
I'm doing my best to be excited about it, I really, really am. But I have very few people that I want to be with for a week straight, and his parents are just.. not them. It's especially hard because I feel like a bitch about things because SIL seems to like them and they love her, and I think she thinks I'm an awful person because I am standoffish and polite at best with them. But I'm also pretty sure they learned all the "how not to speak to your future DIL" the hard way with me. (Like.. I haven't asked, but I'm about 99% sure they didn't offer to pay BIL $10k to not get married/have a wedding.)
I really don't know how to get excited about this and just have an impeding sense of doom.
Dear Crappy Day Now homework is take a picture of X and a video of you doing Y. This would work if the school computer was working. Call in to tech was leave a message we will get back to you. Teacher told her to just drive to the tech department at the district office and knock on the door. I'm letting her finish her assignments and that is what we are going to do. They can't ignore a student pleading for a working computer. Is the karma because I'm happy to not have jury duty? Me
k3am, I'm sorry that would be my worst nightmare. Can you schedule yourself something every other day that gets you away from the group for a while. I think you will need it for your mental health. Bury your head and don't think about it for another 10 months.
186momx , I'm sorry you guys are having technology issues. That's one of the reasons I would never ever in a million years ever willingly choose remote learning again
sdlaura and k3am - oh I totally use that line daily. I have also been known to add “buckle up” or “wear a helmet” as well. Today just really pissed me off.
So DD2 is having a hard time settling in to her fall routine, and has been melting down in the car on the way home. It’s a 25 minute ride and she’s crying/yelling/tormenting DD1 the whole way, making everyone crazy. She’s an introvert and needs quiet for a little while after school. DD1 talkstalkstalks and DD2 gets more irate…
So I told DD2 I would bring her iPad so she could listen to music and chill out. And DD1 lost. her. sh!t. I thought she would like the undivided attention and I told her that I was looking forward to hearing about her day without interruptions. Yelled alllll the way to school. So fun. 🙄
sdlaura, last year we had no tech issues really other than a couple lost internet days. DD is 99.9% capable of doing it all on her own as long as everything works. Yesterday I didn't hear a peep out of her. Today was just tech. Tech department called and told me to bring in the computer and charger to swap out they didn't even want to trouble shoot.