This is me, measuring and cutting all of the plywood for our floors. I feel very “I am woman, hear me roar!” And I’m about to start laying the floors while h is at work.
Post by sineadorebellion on Sept 23, 2021 7:38:50 GMT -5
You got this!
Idk why my kids have to open the door and verify what I and the weather app have told them. Whether it be that it's raining, or like this morning that yes they needed a sweater, they always ignore me then open the door and act shocked.
Idk why my kids have to open the door and verify what I and the weather app have told them. Whether it be that it's raining, or like this morning that yes they needed a sweater, they always ignore me then open the door and act shocked.
Not that someone telling you you’re wrong when you know you’re right is ever enjoyable, but DS1 pulls this kind of shit all the time and I find it far more enraging than I probably should. Child. I brought you into this world…
Twice this week DH and I were in the middle of sex when DS interrupted us. Our door was closed both times, but the first time he woke up crying (he's 12! hasn't woken up crying in ages) and the second time was this morning when he lightly tapped on our door to let us know that he clogged the toilet. OMG kid.
Idk why my kids have to open the door and verify what I and the weather app have told them. Whether it be that it's raining, or like this morning that yes they needed a sweater, they always ignore me then open the door and act shocked.
Are you in my house? It was POURING here this morning, which I told DD and offered to drive her to the bus stop so she could wait in the car until the bus arrived. She insisted she was fine walking, and then opened the door and immediately changed her mind, lol.
It's perfect weather for going back to bed, or at least snuggling up on the couch with the dog and a book, but I've got meetings all day.
Post by brandy0331 on Sept 23, 2021 8:04:20 GMT -5
I’m getting laser hair removal of my hooha done this afternoon and am nervous as a mofo. I’ve had my upper lip and armpits done already but this is a whole different ballgame. I know it will be worth it since I spend most of my summer in a swimsuit but man, I hope she numbs me up good and is quick about it.
After years of doing more with less, and doing more to cover other people's asses, and doing more to make sure everyone else has a weekend and some work-life balance, and doing more because it's an emergency, a crisis, a pandemic, a tragedy - I finally started advocating and drawing a hard line for myself at work.
I have had two candid discussions with my AVP and VP that my team - especially me- is burned out. Not just that, I pointed out that the labor distribution and compensation model (particularly to me, the youngest person on our leadership team but also the one who works the most and is always at the table and at the beck and call of our highest leadership) isn't equitable. I asked for more employees and a review of my pay, as well as for my own boss to do more of the managing up with top-level leadership. I straight up called out an asshole for his sexist behavior (saying I was acting irrationally due to stress and whining that I'm unresponsive when I've answered his every email within hours for the last 10 years). I also signed off the work system chat for the first time ever and told people to leave me the F alone for the day, LOL.
I did this without crying. It is so hard to advocate for yourself as a middle manager but particularly when you are a woman (see above about my fragile, stressed feminine self), so, snaps for me. I just sent DH out to get me a pumpkin spice latte and am going to finish this week like the basic boss bitch I am.
Trader Joe's pumpkin brioche is back and I bought 3 loaves this morning because my self control is registering negative.
I got some the other week and it with the TJ's pumpkin cream cheese on top is SO GOOD.
I wish TJs would get into more pumpkin adjacent products. Like, they would make an amazing cinnamon ice cream that would be fantastic with some of their other stuff. Same with cinnamon butter or cream cheese. I like pumpkin but I want to layer.
circa1978 - Good for you! The thought of having those kind of conversations gets me so worked up, so kudos to you for standing up for yourself and your team.
It's so rainy and dreary, I should have taken today off to lay in bed and watch tv.
I was up early so I made a pot of hot italian sausage soup. It smells so good simmering and now I don't have to worry about lunch for the next 4-5 days.
My 1:1 with my boss went well, she said she'd hate to lose me as a BA, but wouldn't want to get in the way of my career development. She did say I should probably wait another 6 months or so to apply for any open PO positions, just because I'm so new to the company, but I clarified that I don't really want to leave my current team at this time and was only bringing this up now because there might be a possibility of me doing a BA/PO hybrid role because our project is so small I think those can be done by one full-time person.
Because y'all. I have, like, an hour of work to do each day lol. I didn't tell her that, but I diplomatically said I thought the workload could be handled by one person. So she encouraged me to email the new Director who will be overseeing the POs to start with and so I've got a meeting with him next Wednesday. Coincidentally, I also worked a bit with this guy last summer when I was an intern so that's nice to have that familiarity.
This hybrid role would be perfect for me to get PO experience while on a product I'm already familiar with. So we'll see!
circa1978, good for you for advocating for yourself!
Any tips on how to do this without crying? Because I literally don't know how to do that. I refuse to allow my bosses (all male) to see me cry, so I just never say anything and then internally stew over shit for years.
Post by emilyinchile on Sept 23, 2021 9:04:16 GMT -5
Our upstairs neighbor is an older man who lives with his very elderly, now housebound mother. He's always been a little intense but is very friendly and generally a good neighbor and person.
He's apparently schizophrenic, and he appears to have stopped taking his medication and is going through a crisis that's getting worse by the day. He yells (sometimes in gibberish), laughs hysterically and throws/hits things literally all night long and as of today into the daytime too. We're trying to get in touch with his family in the hope they can do something because otherwise, according to my BIL who's a psychologist, the only option we have is to call the police over the disturbance, and that doesn't necessarily seem like it'll be the best possible care and outcome for him and his mom.
We're in the middle of a never ending kitchen renovation that is stressing me out more than our actual move to this house in 2020, which says a lot.
We were scheduled to have our quartzite countertops installed today, but of course, that's not happening. I've been without a full kitchen sink since July. I am caught in the middle with a fabricator that has made it VERY clear they are uncomfortable with the material, refusing the slabs that I tagged over a month ago. And of course, all the additional slabs ordered by the distributor are on a boat in the ocean with no port date scheduled.
I got *such* a great deal that I thought I'd be okay with the risk and able to roll with the delays, but now I'm rethinking it all.
Post by starburst604 on Sept 23, 2021 9:09:53 GMT -5
I had my 1 month follow up appointment for my Mirena placement this morning. When I described the cramping I've been having (constant and low-level, taking Advil almost round the clock) she thought it might be out of the range of normal. So now I'm having an ultrasound Sat. morning to check that it's in the right place. She could see the strings but said they're very short. FML. If it's out of place they'd remove and replace if I wanted. Well I don't want. If that thing has to come out, H is up. I've done my share, he can sit with a bag of peas on his junk for a couple of days.
I had my 1 month follow up appointment for my Mirena placement this morning. When I described the cramping I've been having (constant and low-level, taking Advil almost round the clock) she thought it might be out of the range of normal. So now I'm having an ultrasound Sat. morning to check that it's in the right place. She could see the strings but said they're very short. FML. If it's out of place they'd remove and replace if I wanted. Well I don't want. If that thing has to come out, H is up. I've done my share, he can sit with a bag of peas on his junk for a couple of days.
Pre-Kid I had a mirena and it was the worst birth control experience.
So after the kid was born, I sent DH off to get snipped. No regrets.
I had my 1 month follow up appointment for my Mirena placement this morning. When I described the cramping I've been having (constant and low-level, taking Advil almost round the clock) she thought it might be out of the range of normal. So now I'm having an ultrasound Sat. morning to check that it's in the right place. She could see the strings but said they're very short. FML. If it's out of place they'd remove and replace if I wanted. Well I don't want. If that thing has to come out, H is up. I've done my share, he can sit with a bag of peas on his junk for a couple of days.
I had Paraguard IUDs both before & after pregnancy. DH got a vasectomy about 5 years ago and it was the best decision ever.
circa1978 , good for you for advocating for yourself!
Any tips on how to do this without crying? Because I literally don't know how to do that. I refuse to allow my bosses (all male) to see me cry, so I just never say anything and then internally stew over shit for years.
An internet stranger is seriously proud of you.
This was the hardest part! Because trust me, I cried before and a little after.
Your mileage may vary but I just tried to take control of HOW the conversation happened. With my AVP, I did have an emotional conversation (she's also a woman and friend) but stepped back that weekend and wrote, and rewrote, an email saying, I was speaking to you before as a friend but these problems exist and here are the solutions I want to see. Then I edited it several times thinking, how would a man say this?
With the VP, AVP went to him with my concerns and he wanted to have a conversation immediately out of concern for me. I knew I would cry then, so I scheduled it for a few days away, and responded to his email re: that scheduling taking emotion out of it and just saying what I needed and why as background for our future conversation. I kept the paragraphs short and focused on the problem and a proposed solution for each. That was a blueprint for our in person conversation and because I had already expressed those frustrations and put forward solutions, that's what the conversation focused on.
He has already said he is going to be dedicated to adding members to the team, and shared with me some other things that are going to improve work-life balance. I don't know what is actually going to happen but I feel better for having advocated for myself.
I look forward to a workplace culture where tears are understood to be a signal of powerful emotion and investment in things we take pride in, and not weakness. I do think this next generation will bring us there.
I had my 1 month follow up appointment for my Mirena placement this morning. When I described the cramping I've been having (constant and low-level, taking Advil almost round the clock) she thought it might be out of the range of normal. So now I'm having an ultrasound Sat. morning to check that it's in the right place. She could see the strings but said they're very short. FML. If it's out of place they'd remove and replace if I wanted. Well I don't want. If that thing has to come out, H is up. I've done my share, he can sit with a bag of peas on his junk for a couple of days.
Pre-Kid I had a mirena and it was the worst birth control experience.
So after the kid was born, I sent DH off to get snipped. No regrets.
I know he's feeling kind of shitty that I'm dealing with this. It wasn't that he was totally unwilling to get snipped, he just has been through a lot medically in the last 18 months and was dragging his feet about scheduling yet another thing. I took the initiative so I didn't end up surprise pregnant at 45. But this is the end of the road for me, if this Mirena needs to come out I'm done with the birth control being my job.
mel , I’m more focused on you having morning sex on a weekday. Props. I could use that in my life. Also, glad to see you back around here!
The ironic thing is that we don't typically have sex more than once a week, and it's almost always on Saturday. We had a little talk a bit ago about how we should prioritize sex a bit more, so I took the initiative this week. Joke's on us. It's like DS KNOWS.
And thanks! It's good to be back. Busy season is winding down at work, so I need this place to help me through the day.
Pre-Kid I had a mirena and it was the worst birth control experience.
So after the kid was born, I sent DH off to get snipped. No regrets.
I know he's feeling kind of shitty that I'm dealing with this. It wasn't that he was totally unwilling to get snipped, he just has been through a lot medically in the last 18 months and was dragging his feet about scheduling yet another thing. I took the initiative so I didn't end up surprise pregnant at 45. But this is the end of the road for me, if this Mirena needs to come out I'm done with the birth control being my job.
The vasectomy wasn’t as bad as DH had expected it to be. He mostly got to lay around on the couch for a long weekend with ice on his nether regions. I felt zero guilt having him do this and he’s never complained. 1) He was willing and 2) I had made four people and subsequently pushed them out of my body. My uterus and vagina had done more than enough, it could be his turn. I’d definitely bring up the conversation again if you haven’t already.
I got some the other week and it with the TJ's pumpkin cream cheese on top is SO GOOD.
I wish TJs would get into more pumpkin adjacent products. Like, they would make an amazing cinnamon ice cream that would be fantastic with some of their other stuff. Same with cinnamon butter or cream cheese. I like pumpkin but I want to layer.
I don't generally flock to pumpkin products, but MAN. This bread is unbelievably soft.
I have been also looking for their apple caramel granola but I haven't seen that back yet.
I know he's feeling kind of shitty that I'm dealing with this. It wasn't that he was totally unwilling to get snipped, he just has been through a lot medically in the last 18 months and was dragging his feet about scheduling yet another thing. I took the initiative so I didn't end up surprise pregnant at 45. But this is the end of the road for me, if this Mirena needs to come out I'm done with the birth control being my job.
The vasectomy wasn’t as bad as DH had expected it to be. He mostly got to lay around on the couch for a long weekend with ice on his nether regions. I felt zero guilt having him do this and he’s never complained. 1) He was willing and 2) I had made four people and subsequently pushed them out of my body. My uterus and vagina had done more than enough, it could be his turn. I’d definitely bring up the conversation again if you haven’t already.
Oh believe me I already have, I texted him as I was leaving my appointment and said "If this thing has to come out, you're up buddy!" Seriously, I had my abdominals sliced open to deliver our kid. He can prioritize getting this done. I think he just doesn't take it seriously that I can actually still get pregant given that we needed help to have our one kid and a second one never happened. Dude, we are exactly the people this happens to!!! Nothing is certain until I finish menopause. We have settled into being a family of 3 and I can't even think about everything that would surround a surprise pregancy at our age and this point in our parenting journey.
circa1978 , good for you for advocating for yourself!
Any tips on how to do this without crying? Because I literally don't know how to do that. I refuse to allow my bosses (all male) to see me cry, so I just never say anything and then internally stew over shit for years.
An internet stranger is seriously proud of you.
This was the hardest part! Because trust me, I cried before and a little after.
Thank you for this!
I always struggle with taking emotion out of it and giving myself some time to settle before addressing issues. I need to start doing that - Sometimes I'm a bit too impulsive and go in with guns blazing and then the tears just come without warning.
why do the kids friends keep moving? Couldn't we have one year when a close friend didn't leave the state or country? Both kids are losing a bestie next month.