This was the hardest part! Because trust me, I cried before and a little after.
Thank you for this!
I always struggle with taking emotion out of it and giving myself some time to settle before addressing issues. I need to start doing that - Sometimes I'm a bit too impulsive and go in with guns blazing and then the tears just come without warning.
This is me 100%. I wish I could catch myself instead of immediately reacting, and at that point it's so hard to control the emotions.
I got 2 acorn squash and a butternut squash in my CSA box. Any low carb suggestions?
For the acorn squash, slice it in half lengthwise, put them flesh side down on a greased cookie sheet and roast for about 30 min. Flip them over and sprinkle w/ cinnamon and nutmeg.
I received a job offer and think I want to take it, but I'm feeling down about the comp. It is a bump for me, but they won't do a signing bonus, so taking it means walking away from a significant 2021 bonus. Losing this year's bonus + higher salary and bonus in 2022 = break-even. In 2023, I will finally feel the impact of the salary and bonus bump.
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I feel like everyone else who's making a change right now is getting crazy money, and I'm like, "What's wrong with me?" I did negotiate, and this is where we are. But it is a bump, and I already make a good salary, and it's a lateral move. So what exactly should I expect? At the risk of pissing them off, I'm going back once more to ask for a better title or a written agreement to evaluate me in a few months and give me something if we all agree I'm performing well.
I got 2 acorn squash and a butternut squash in my CSA box. Any low carb suggestions?
Can you do fruit?
I have a butternut squash and crushed pineapple "casserole" that's good. My mom always simmered peeled and cubed acorn squash with apples adding some butter, brown sugar, and cinnamon to taste.
I just learned a very good and decent employee was let go. I spoke to her often and we were close at work and I knew there was a situation going on but if it was from that, I can't imagine that was enough to let someone go. She seemed to do her job to the best of her ability. She also has a SO with cancer and now she had no income or insurance. I am just appalled.
And not to seem selfish but they fucked over the rest of us too cause we have to cover her work and there's another employee on maternity leave.
And in other news, MH just got the results of his sleep study back and he has severe and life threatening sleep apnea. I had to push him to do this after 15 years of horrible sleep and snoring. Sigh.
I’m currently sitting in my parked car. I brought my Dad to his doctor appointments today and I’m not allowed in the treatment center while he’s doing chemo so I have a few hours to kill in my car. My brother took him to his appointments yesterday and my Dad asked the doctor what his prognosis is and he said he has a 50% chance of making it a year. That sounds terrible to me but my H thinks it sounds promising, I’m such a glass half empty person so this hit me hard.
I ended up eating my feelings yesterday which was not good. Ugh. Sorry I’m a Debbie Downer today.
followyourarrow, I PMed you the butternut squash recipe that we loosely follow. I don't have the acorn squash one. I think my mom has it memorized, she's been making it since I was a kid.
I got 2 acorn squash and a butternut squash in my CSA box. Any low carb suggestions?
I love to roast an acorn squash and then stuff it with some kind of cooked meat (ground turkey, sausage, etc), rice and cheese and bake until heated through. You could omit the rice.
I also like butternut squash soup. Skinnytaste has a few varieties.
After years of doing more with less, and doing more to cover other people's asses, and doing more to make sure everyone else has a weekend and some work-life balance, and doing more because it's an emergency, a crisis, a pandemic, a tragedy - I finally started advocating and drawing a hard line for myself at work.
I have had two candid discussions with my AVP and VP that my team - especially me- is burned out. Not just that, I pointed out that the labor distribution and compensation model (particularly to me, the youngest person on our leadership team but also the one who works the most and is always at the table and at the beck and call of our highest leadership) isn't equitable. I asked for more employees and a review of my pay, as well as for my own boss to do more of the managing up with top-level leadership. I straight up called out an asshole for his sexist behavior (saying I was acting irrationally due to stress and whining that I'm unresponsive when I've answered his every email within hours for the last 10 years). I also signed off the work system chat for the first time ever and told people to leave me the F alone for the day, LOL.
I did this without crying. It is so hard to advocate for yourself as a middle manager but particularly when you are a woman (see above about my fragile, stressed feminine self), so, snaps for me. I just sent DH out to get me a pumpkin spice latte and am going to finish this week like the basic boss bitch I am.
OMG...I am going to just live vicariously through you for the present being.
My parents are visiting, and my dad is currently replacing the awful recessed lighting in our kitchen. We bought new ones that are the same size but about 40 years newer, and they look so much nicer AND have brighter light, plus they use less energy. I'm glad my dad knows how to do this stuff AND likes tinkering around the house so I don't think he minds. I dropped $300 at Home Depot getting that and some other stuff yesterday, though, and now we have HVAC guys here cleaning our system for around $600. Buying a house has been expensive. I am very hopeful that once we get all of this maintenance stuff that the old owners neglected out of the way, and finish replacing a handful of other things, it will get cheaper? But I am guessing at that point our roof will start leaking or our appliances will break or something and we'll never stop throwing money at the house, lol.
This is really hard. My situation is a little different, however I get your concern especially when you look at others who are making changes, where the position would be a significant increase in salary but in terms of the company being a much smaller entity in the market than what I'm coming from I'm really concerned.
Why are you leaving your current company? Are there things about this role that are worth the disparity in terms of signing bonus and etc.? I'd really try to zone in on those areas and maybe you'll find some solace there.
My 1:1 with my boss went well, she said she'd hate to lose me as a BA, but wouldn't want to get in the way of my career development. She did say I should probably wait another 6 months or so to apply for any open PO positions, just because I'm so new to the company, but I clarified that I don't really want to leave my current team at this time and was only bringing this up now because there might be a possibility of me doing a BA/PO hybrid role because our project is so small I think those can be done by one full-time person.
Because y'all. I have, like, an hour of work to do each day lol. I didn't tell her that, but I diplomatically said I thought the workload could be handled by one person. So she encouraged me to email the new Director who will be overseeing the POs to start with and so I've got a meeting with him next Wednesday. Coincidentally, I also worked a bit with this guy last summer when I was an intern so that's nice to have that familiarity.
This hybrid role would be perfect for me to get PO experience while on a product I'm already familiar with. So we'll see!
I don't think this could have gone any better! Fingers crossed.
Post by newnamesameperson on Sept 23, 2021 11:01:28 GMT -5
I am being ridiculous. I have a recruiter calling today but I am in a very what's the point type of mindset. I really need to get my head from where it's at and reset. I've only been at this for weeks. Wth did I think was going to happen? Someone was going to beg me to join their company...sigh. I just don't think I was prepared the number of interviews, ghosting, and everything in between.
My parents are visiting, and my dad is currently replacing the awful recessed lighting in our kitchen. We bought new ones that are the same size but about 40 years newer, and they look so much nicer AND have brighter light, plus they use less energy. I'm glad my dad knows how to do this stuff AND likes tinkering around the house so I don't think he minds. I dropped $300 at Home Depot getting that and some other stuff yesterday, though, and now we have HVAC guys here cleaning our system for around $600. Buying a house has been expensive. I am very hopeful that once we get all of this maintenance stuff that the old owners neglected out of the way, and finish replacing a handful of other things, it will get cheaper? But I am guessing at that point our roof will start leaking or our appliances will break or something and we'll never stop throwing money at the house, lol.
I once heard that homeowners should plan to spend roughly 1% of the value of their home on regular maintenance each year. So we've started a sinking fund that we deposit into monthly to be prepared, and then ramp up those deposits when there's a specific project we know we want to do (or a bigger maintenance item we know is coming).
I got 2 acorn squash and a butternut squash in my CSA box. Any low carb suggestions?
For acorn squash, I roast them and then stuffed them with italian sausage, kale & pine nuts.
I dislike eating butternut squash on its own, but if I have one, I cube it, roast it until the pieces are caramelized and then I blend it into my tomato sauce and eat over a pasta or simmer meatballs in it.
I got 2 acorn squash and a butternut squash in my CSA box. Any low carb suggestions?
peel and cube the butternut squash. slice some chicken sausages into rounds. Toss with salt, pepper, olive oil, sage and other herbs you like (you might not need much salt or oil depending on the sausages). Roast.
My parents are visiting, and my dad is currently replacing the awful recessed lighting in our kitchen. We bought new ones that are the same size but about 40 years newer, and they look so much nicer AND have brighter light, plus they use less energy. I'm glad my dad knows how to do this stuff AND likes tinkering around the house so I don't think he minds. I dropped $300 at Home Depot getting that and some other stuff yesterday, though, and now we have HVAC guys here cleaning our system for around $600. Buying a house has been expensive. I am very hopeful that once we get all of this maintenance stuff that the old owners neglected out of the way, and finish replacing a handful of other things, it will get cheaper? But I am guessing at that point our roof will start leaking or our appliances will break or something and we'll never stop throwing money at the house, lol.
Can you send him to our house when he’s done? Floor installation is…not going well. Lol.
wildrice, it's amazing what lighting can do! We replaced some fixtures a few months ago and I could not believe what a difference it made! I think my H got tired of me commenting how much much brighter it made the space LOL.
wildrice, it's amazing what lighting can do! We replaced some fixtures a few months ago and I could not believe what a difference it made! I think my H got tired of me commenting how much much brighter it made the space LOL.
Shavonda Gardner is an interior designer I follow on Instagram (@sgardnerstyle) and she says if you’re on a budget, lighting is by far the easiest and cheapest way to transform a space.
This is really hard. My situation is a little different, however I get your concern especially when you look at others who are making changes, where the position would be a significant increase in salary but in terms of the company being a much smaller entity in the market than what I'm coming from I'm really concerned.
Why are you leaving your current company? Are there things about this role that are worth the disparity in terms of signing bonus and etc.? I'd really try to zone in on those areas and maybe you'll find some solace there.
I wasn't looking and don't hate where I am, but I have had concerns about growing bureaucracy and lack of growth opportunities where I am. This opportunity came along and is with a smaller org that acts more nimbly and would let me focus on parts of my job I love without some (most) of the pieces I only tolerate. The whole org is focused on this thing I do, whereas my area of focus is a tiny blip on the screen at my current org.
It's also a WFH opportunity, which is really appealing to me. Getting rid of my commute has been life-changing, and I've been dreading returning to it, even on a part-time basis (hybrid mode) once they call us back.
Thanks for responding and prompting me to weigh the intangibles.