barney96 we will be done with any sort of attempt. This is the line we agreed to prior to starting treatment. I have a history of brain tumors/cancer and we (me) just don’t feel comfortable perusing anything further after what my body has already been through and will continue to go through (monitoring for cancer).
Sending you love.
I hate that anyone has to have these conversations or make these decisions. Everyone deserves to have the family they hope for. But I completely understanding needing to have a line in the sand. This is all emotionally and physically taxing, and it's important to know what is best for you.
I hope you are able to be kind to yourself, and I hope you are able to do something with your SO in the next few months to recharge and reset.
Thinking of you, and so very sorry that this was the outcome <3
Thank you shananasplit That was a really kind message I needed to read today. I appreciate you and your empathy
Mid-month update: I'm on the last day of Clomid for our final IUI. And now the husband needs gall bladder surgery on what is typically my ovulation day and when we would do the IUI. I'm going to ask my RE if we can trigger instead of waiting for LH surge like we usually do to make sure that we don't miss out this cycle.
Thank you shananasplit That was a really kind message I needed to read today. I appreciate you and your empathy
Mid-month update: I'm on the last day of Clomid for our final IUI. And now the husband needs gall bladder surgery on what is typically my ovulation day and when we would do the IUI. I'm going to ask my RE if we can trigger instead of waiting for LH surge like we usually do to make sure that we don't miss out this cycle.
I used a trigger shot last month cause my partner was going out of the country. We didn’t do IUI, but timed sex. Anyway, my point is that my doctor monitored with an US to tell us when to have sex and not waiting for LH surge. I think my follicle was actually a little on the small side, but I had no option but to trigger anyway cause my partner was leaving the next day and my doctor said it would be fine. So fingers crossed that the timing works out for you!
Post by wanderingback on Oct 18, 2021 16:50:42 GMT -5
It doesn’t bother me too much, but my god, I swear everyone is prenant/announcing their pregnancies. From friends, to acquitance a, to celebrities and others. There is no escaping it on social media!
wanderingback omg yes! I am finding the same with my social circle. ETA - except some of my peers I went to high school with are now becoming grandparents!! Like how? I just turned 40 two months ago?
Post by wanderingback on Oct 20, 2021 19:56:34 GMT -5
Updating to say I have an ectopic pregnancy. Got my first injection of methotrexate today. It was a very hectic day between some meetings, seeing patients and dealing with a 25 min ultrasound and running around to get the methotrexate and then go back to the doctor’s office. What a day! I’m so over appointments at this point, ha.
I had scan yesterday and my lining wasn't quite thick enough, so we are continuing estrogen patches and FET date pushed back about 6 days til Nov 1st. I've been doing acupuncture again this time, but only went twice before the scan, hopeful it will help too.
Post by wanderingback on Oct 21, 2021 13:56:05 GMT -5
Thanks all! I’m completely fine, and am happy to know that hopefully this shows that I have the ability to get pregnant so that’s good news. So I guess it’ll just be a waiting game for the next couple of months to retry again in the new year.
I had scan yesterday and my lining wasn't quite thick enough, so we are continuing estrogen patches and FET date pushed back about 6 days til Nov 1st. I've been doing acupuncture again this time, but only went twice before the scan, hopeful it will help too.
I did about 2 months of acupuncture and I really liked it! However, the person I was doing it with I wasn’t getting great vibes from and thought it was too expensive for what she seemed to advertise vs what I was getting. I was supposed to do 6 more sessions with her but canceled. And maybe it did help me get pregnant?
I have a new consult with someone next month. I’m hoping they’re a better fit and if so I def plan to continue for the next few months. I really enjoy learning about different modalities for health and wellness! Wishing you success.
I'm glad you are handling so graciously, wanderingback .
I had an ultrasound and bloodwork today and had 2 good looking follicles (1 on each side). With my husband having surgery next Thursday, I asked about triggering early so we don't miss the cycle. They are open to it. Instructions are to keep OPK-ing it util Monday. If I surge on my own, unlikely IMO based on my previous trends, we will schedule an IUI - same song/dance as last cycles. If I don't surge, I go in again on Monday for another ultrasound and bloodwork to see if follicles are mature enough. Assuming that is good, we trigger Monday for a Wednesday IUI.
*vent ahead, so feel free to skip over* I am so done with TTC. As far as I'm concerned, this will be our last cycle. We are embarking on a cross country move for a job MH is supposed to start in Jan 2022. I have to sell this house, buy another, quit my current job, find another, pack/unpack, AND if I choose to continue TTC (pretty unlikely), find another RE at the new place. Mind you, this is all during the holidays in the middle of a pandemic. I'm just overwhelmed and tired of the disappointment. Time isn't on my side to wait out the chaos to find another doc.
Post by thedutchgirl on Oct 21, 2021 17:53:41 GMT -5
wanderingback, I’m sorry about the ectopic but I like your attitude and optimism.
I’m doing a modified natural FET (normally no meds till starting progesterone), and transfer is probably next Wednesday or Thursday. My lining is looking good but has been thin all week. We added estrace suppositories Monday and now I’m upped from 2 to 3 per day. I have yet another ultrasound in the morning to check progress. The only day I haven’t gone this week is Wednesday. I truly don’t know how people without flexible jobs could do this (I’m a partner at a law firm, so I can move things around and don’t really report to anyone but clients). And I never even did an egg retrieval!
Post by stellelinds25 on Oct 23, 2021 11:46:11 GMT -5
dove you have a full plate...that's enough to stress anyone out, let alone throwing IF into the mix. I hope your move goes smoothly and that your IUI cycle is a success!
AFM, we've decided to wait to do another FET until the new year. I go back Monday for another HCG and I'm hoping it's at 0. I want to work on losing some weight (I'm really uncomfortable with my current weight) and get through the holidays. We only have 1 frozen embryo left and we likely won't pursue another retrieval, unless something changes, so I want to give myself the best possible chance and losing some weight will aid in that (I'm very close to my clinics BMI cut off).
Post by wanderingback on Oct 24, 2021 11:28:07 GMT -5
Ugh the side effects from the methotrexate are making this process a little more frustrating than I anticipated. It’s mostly nausea, low appetite and abdominal cramping. I also don’t think it helps that I’m supposed to be eating low folate foods so my diet has shifted since I typically eat a lot of lentils, beans and greens and very few carbs (personal preference). So since I can’t eat lentils, beans and greens I think the increased carbs aren’t helping how I feel.
Thankfully I coincidentally happened to take 2 days off work tomorrow and Tues, so hopefully I’m feeling better as everything I read said side effects usually are around a few days after the injections.
Dove always frustrating but definitely pause and wait until you get settled to restart with your move.
Hi everyone I am not really around here much but thought I would pop in today. This afternoon is my pre consult phone appointment for the reproductive immunologist. My appointment in office is in a week. Then I need to schedule a re-consult with the clinic we think we will be switching to for Jan after I get the results back from the immunologist.
wanderingback, I'm so sorry the side effects are not great. I hope you feel better soon.
Thank you! This afternoon I’m feeling much much better, phew. Follow up Bhcg tomorrow to make sure my numbers are going down. Crossing fingers they are so I don’t have to get another injection!
wanderingback , I'm so sorry the side effects are not great. I hope you feel better soon.
Thank you! This afternoon I’m feeling much much better, phew. Follow up Bhcg tomorrow to make sure my numbers are going down. Crossing fingers they are so I don’t have to get another injection!
Fingers crossed! I hope you don't need another shot.
My update - Went to the RE for an US this morning where we found two 18.5 mm mature follicles on my right side. Nothing mature on the left. I haven’t surged naturally yet as expected. I will be triggering tonight for an IUI on Wednesday, just in time for MHs surgery on Thursday.
*According to my tracking, I was expecting the LH surge on Wed/Thurs for an IUI on Thurs/Fri.
Post by stellelinds25 on Oct 26, 2021 10:52:43 GMT -5
TW and vent ahead...
Do the HCG blood works checks ever stop? I've had 4 since they discovered the mc and yesterday's was 19. I can wait 2 weeks for the next one (unless my period starts). I feel like every time I go in there it's just another reminder. And it doesn't help that the phlebotomists obviously don't know your history because at my draw last week she said "I hope this is your good luck tube." No, it won't be. I'm also annoyed that I need to have another saline sono before we do another FET...I JUST had one 2ish months ago. Let me just throw more money down the drain. Sorry, my mind set is a little negative right now. I needed to vent.
My update - Went to the RE for an US this morning where we found two 18.5 mm mature follicles on my right side. Nothing mature on the left. I haven’t surged naturally yet as expected. I will be triggering tonight for an IUI on Wednesday, just in time for MHs surgery on Thursday.
*According to my tracking, I was expecting the LH surge on Wed/Thurs for an IUI on Thurs/Fri.
Do the HCG blood works checks ever stop? I've had 4 since they discovered the mc and yesterday's was 19. I can wait 2 weeks for the next one (unless my period starts). I feel like every time I go in there it's just another reminder. And it doesn't help that the phlebotomists obviously don't know your history because at my draw last week she said "I hope this is your good luck tube." No, it won't be. I'm also annoyed that I need to have another saline sono before we do another FET...I JUST had one 2ish months ago. Let me just throw more money down the drain. Sorry, my mind set is a little negative right now. I needed to vent.
Ugh I’m sorry. If it was a miscarriage and not an ectopic can you just ask to do a urine pregnancy test at home to confirm you’re below 10? My experience with taking care of patients with miscarriage and abortions the last little bit of hcg can be stubborn and it can take 6 weeks or sometimes a little longer. So urine test at home would be a lot more convenient and mentally better it seems. I would def do that if I were in your situation.
Post by wanderingback on Oct 26, 2021 11:42:53 GMT -5
I’m also a little frustrated because my hcg went from 1402 to 1500 so I have to get another methotrexate injection. He said since it didn’t go up too much he’s hoping this 3rd injection will do the trick. But on Friday if it hasn’t gone down by 15% I’ll have to have my tube removed. I was planning to go out of town on Thurs evening but obviously I can’t do that now and he said don’t eat anything on Fri morning in case I do have to go in for surgery. My hcg was so low last week, I think 600 that I was hoping this wasn’t going to be the case. I really hope this 3rd dose doesn’t make me feel crappy either.
I already sloshed through the rain this morning for my blood work so I am not doing that again to get my injection later so I’m gonna treat myself to a taxi/lyft/uber.
Thank you! This afternoon I’m feeling much much better, phew. Follow up Bhcg tomorrow to make sure my numbers are going down. Crossing fingers they are so I don’t have to get another injection!
Fingers crossed! I hope you don't need another shot.