Week of April 4 randoms

[formerlyak]

Yesterday I had a phone interview for my dream job. Everyone who knows me in real life who I’ve told about the interview comments how much of a fit this job would be for me. Within a few hours of getting off the phone, I got an email trying to set up a next round interview for tomorrow. The time she proposed doesn’t work for me, because I’m on an interview committee for my current job and can’t sneak out early because I serve as the affirmative action compliance person on the committee. Someone on their team is out Thursday and Friday so they want to do it tomorrow. I sent them all my Wednesday availability and am waiting to hear back. Crossing everything that one of those times works!!

[eponinepontmercy]

Fingers crossed, formerlyak!

[bears]

Fingers crossed, formerlyak.

I made a stupid mistake yesterday. We are getting a screened in deck added and, since I work from home, I send my husband updates throughout the day. Yesterday they were drilling supports for the roof into the house and doing related calculations, so I texted my husband "not much of a visible change with the deck." Unfortunately, I sent this to the group text with the project manager. Poor project manager felt defensive and sent me a VERY long text explaining why I wasn't seeing much of a change in one morning and outlining all the work the carpenters were doing. Luckily, I was able to meet with the PM this morning and smooth things over. I am so excited for this work to be done!

[eponinepontmercy]

I finally finished my coffee mug wall. It makes me so happy.

Attachments:

[just]

For the Brits and Brit-lovers - Dot Cotton (June Brown) died. Actors who spend decades on soap operas just become such a part of life. My mam used to watch Eastenders (and Corrie) religiously. I never did, but just by being around between 7:30 and 8 in the evening, I remember so much about the show from that era.

Also a great clip of June and Lady Gaga

[mrsukyankee]

just, first thing I heard this morning on the clock radio. Such a loss to any British soap opera lover

[winecat]

I have a burst blood vessel in my eye. I've never had one before and Google MD says it's NBD as long as it's on the white of the eye. It itches like a mofo though and not rubbing my eye is all I can think about.

[glw]

How is it 2022 and people STILL do not understand not to reply-all to a listserv?
Or, like, ever.

[msmerymac]

I voluntarily went into an office today to work.

[Vespasia]

Apr 5, 2022 11:51:57 GMT -5 glw said:

How is it 2022 and people STILL do not understand not to reply-all to a listserv?
Or, like, ever.

The "please do not reply all" reply alls are my favorite! 

[formerlyak]

Well, tomorrow didn't work for all involved, so they scheduled it for Tuesday of next week. I hate waiting, but at least it is on the calendar

[SwimDeep]

My H has this habit of saying "we need to do xyz." And he really does mean we. But I have this annoying habit that when he says "we" I hear "you."

We're having someone out to look at the dishwasher (it grows mold and mildew... I have told H this multiple times. He has seen me scrubbing it out multiple times. He has told me multiple times I'm being obsessive compulsive about it and it's not that bad... then he did the dishes this weekend and freaked out. I almost bit my tongue off).

Anyway, he said this morning we need to clear the sink out and the cabinet under the sink and make sure the washer is empty. We... I'll give you one guess who will actually do it.

Can I borrow a cup of patience from someone? Or some bail money?

[TR]

SwimDeep - SAME. But I'm pretty sure it's not just me who is hearing that I should be the one to do it, I think he means I should do it a lot of the time. I will say, he will also tell people "we" did something or baked something when he did it and I didn't help at all lol. So at least he's consistent with his use of the royal we?

[SwimDeep]

Apr 5, 2022 14:17:26 GMT -5 TR said:

SwimDeep - SAME. But I'm pretty sure it's not just me who is hearing that I should be the one to do it, I think he means I should do it a lot of the time. I will say, he will also tell people "we" did something or baked something when he did it and I didn't help at all lol. So at least he's consistent with his use of the royal we?

good to know I'm not alone, lol! And my H is also consistent with the royal we and I do appreciate that. I've started replying to his "We should"s with "you're right. We should do that." And then I let him take the lead. Nine times out of ten he decides whatever it is isn't that important and we never do it 😅

[idahome]

SwimDeep: SAME! I never thought to break it down that way but you’re exactly right. And all this we = you in my head makes me so frustrated and downright shitty that I just check out. Because he definitely isn’t doing it.

Thanks for making me feel less alone!

[lilypad1126]

SwimDeep, SAME. It got so bad at one point, I started doing it back to him. WE need to do [insert annoying task here]. I also usually care less than he does about whatever task he's asking "we" to do, so most times I'm able to ignore it until he either does it or forgets about it.

[Saudade]

My ex h told me today that he's most likely going to be moving in with his new girlfriend that he's only been dating since mid September....she's also 11 years younger than him. I don't care about that part, but I worry about our 3 @

[bronxgirl]

Apr 5, 2022 12:19:10 GMT -5 Vespasia said:

Apr 5, 2022 11:51:57 GMT -5 glw said:

How is it 2022 and people STILL do not understand not to reply-all to a listserv?
Or, like, ever.

The "please do not reply all" reply alls are my favorite! 

along with the "please remove me from this list" reply alls. Rather than following the directions to actually remove yourself.

[Deleted]

I am in a really good place in my job and career right now. I’ve been working between a few small and connected-ish communities for almost 20 years, and have made a good number of professional contacts. Twice today I was approached for advice or assistance, and I was able to use my network of professional contacts to assist them. I feel respected that people would ask me for advice or mentorship, and that people would use me as a contact for others. It’s altogether amazingly fulfilling.

[rubytue]

I just turned down an invite to speak at a conference in June because of logistics. I’m feeling a bit guilty because I should be excited to get out and embrace my new-ish position and this would be a great opportunity. But dude, it’s a one-day conference in Seattle. I live in Maryland. My body just cannot take a 6 hour flight, terrible sleep, presenting at a conference, and then a 6 hour flight home. I’d do east coast, Chicago, maybe even as far as Denver.

Plus also in-person conference with planes. Just noping myself out.

[bears]

Apr 6, 2022 7:53:38 GMT -5 rubytue said:

I just turned down an invite to speak at a conference in June because of logistics. I’m feeling a bit guilty because I should be excited to get out and embrace my new-ish position and this would be a great opportunity. But dude, it’s a one-day conference in Seattle. I live in Maryland. My body just cannot take a 6 hour flight, terrible sleep, presenting at a conference, and then a 6 hour flight home. I’d do east coast, Chicago, maybe even as far as Denver.

Plus also in-person conference with planes. Just noping myself out.

That would be miserable. I'm flying for the first time in 2 years soon and I'm not looking forward to what I need to do to keep myself feeling okay for a 2.5 hour flight. Like, I need to be adequately hydrated beforehand, preemptively take ibuprofen (because otherwise I get a terrible headache), and just chug sports drink afterwards just to feel semi-normal. 

[SwimDeep]

Warning: venting and hyperbole ahead


Found solace in a cupcake, so I deleted the rage vent... now I'm just tired.

[redheadbaker]

I just got my salary adjustment for the next year. Humblebrag, but it was way more than I was expecting! My boss really went to bat for me to get me a good raise. There are actually good managers out there!

[mbcdefg]

I have to mail a small package to the UK (an award plaque) for my job. I have a USPS office and a UPS store right by my house - is one better than the other? Work will reimburse me so the cost isn’t a huge factor, as long as the price isn’t drastically different.

[just]

<life vent ahead>

I'm feeling so ... stale. There's one big thing that you can oversee in my career, and I'm halfway through it at my current institution, so I don't want to leave my position for another 12-18 months to see it through but I'm so BORED! And I don't even know what I want to do anyway.

My DH just went part time as part of an early retirement plan. I'm benefiting a ton from home help, but I'm so jealous.

My therapist has been having me focus on building a life outside of my job/marriage - which I agree with - so I've signed up for some stuff that I'm somewhat interested in - pet first aid, craft felting, improv. But it feels so artificial - I do know though that it's a case of fake it til you make it, just try shit - I need to get more comfortable at failing at stuff, trying things without being 100% committed.

[mrsukyankee]

Apr 6, 2022 18:09:43 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I have to mail a small package to the UK (an award plaque) for my job. I have a USPS office and a UPS store right by my house - is one better than the other? Work will reimburse me so the cost isn’t a huge factor, as long as the price isn’t drastically different.

UPS - our postal service is struggling due to Covid. We just got a card from the US that was sent in January. Lots of packages from overseas sent via postal services are taking months. 

[mrsukyankee]

just, yeah, keep reminding yourself that your brain is trying to problem solve when it sends you messages about things feeling 'fake' or 'wrong'. There's a fear to making mistakes or whatnot and so your limbic system is just trying to protect you (but like all our brains, is doing a horrible job of it). Hugs.

I'm heading out in less than an hour to a hotel & spa about 2 hours away from our house for the night to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary. Cooper is being looked after by his doggy day care people tonight. I can't wait to go for a swim in the indoor pool, lounge in the hot tub, get a massage, eat good food and drink wine, along with sleeping in. Yay!

[eddy]

Apr 5, 2022 12:19:10 GMT -5 Vespasia said:

Apr 5, 2022 11:51:57 GMT -5 glw said:

How is it 2022 and people STILL do not understand not to reply-all to a listserv?
Or, like, ever.

The "please do not reply all" reply alls are my favorite! 

Or “please take me off this list”

The joy it brings me when this starts going down is very unhealthy lol. 

[Bad Dingo]

I ordered some chicken eggs to hatch and I am so giddy.  It's been a few years so I really need to review all of the details of how to do it.

Pics of some of the hens that laid the eggs:
  
   

I can't wait to see what weird chicks we hatch.

[neverfstop]

I'm renting a beach condo for 1 night next month b/c we are doing family pictures down there. They keep asking me for more and more info, name and age of every guest, vehicle make/model, and now they are asking for license plates. I have rented VRBO's tons of time and never been this interrogated. I don't' eve know which car we will take down there or which one my parents will drive. FWIW - it's a management company, not an individual. It seems a bit excessive??

ETA: had to upload a selfie and also a picture of my license