We are having a rough go of it with DS. I think the new medicine is helping, but I also think his depression is entrenched. Friday, the head of the elementary school called and said when they were writing their “buddy letters” (supposed to be a nice note they write to another friend in class to practice their writing skills), DS wrote “Please kill me.” She said he was just in a really dark place and they felt like he needed to go home. So I picked him up and called his therapist, who still hasn’t bothered to call me back, three days later. Wtaf. I called a new therapist, who was recommended by our new pediatrician and she will have openings in her schedule mid-June. She recommended he have a check in with his current therapist since she agreed an 8 year old wanting to die is not okay. So today I’m going to call and be a bitch to his therapist. “This is a great way to get sued” is going to come out of my mouth.
He was up and down all weekend, sometimes feeling better and sometimes feeling pretty bad. Luckily, this week is half days every day and pretty chill since it’s their last week. Today is Kindness Day, where they are going to make cards in his class for people in a memory care facility. I sent him with a bag full of foam stickers and fancy paper so he doesn’t have to draw, since art makes him feel bad about himself.
It was a busy, hot weekend. We raced around for DD1's sports on Saturday, then raced around for DD2's sports and a birthday party on Sunday. DH and I snuck out for dinner on Saturday night, which was nice. I've been feeling very disconnected from him, so it helped to have a little time alone without kids stuff.
I had to have a long conversation with DD2 about effort this weekend. She's gotten very lazy about everything. Her last 2 weeks at soccer have been awful. She just stands there and watched the game go by. I don't expect her to be the best, but I expect her to try - and that's what I told her. I'm tired of rushing to get her to practices and games an hour away just to watch her literally twirl around at mid field. She's not 4 anymore - that's not acceptable.
This week will be busy again. We don't have our normal Wednesday evening break because DD1 has an event at school. I had a bit of a freak out at the thought of dealing with the parents in her class that night, so DH is taking this one for the team. I'm grateful because my anxiety is at an 11 when I have to deal with them.
The kids have a 1/2 day Friday, and they also have next Tuesday off for an extra long weekend. I have so much to do that I want to cry. So I will do my best to jam it all in so we can enjoy a little time together in between sporting events.
mommyatty, I'm so sorry. That is heartbreaking that he's feeling that way so young. And totally inexcusable that his therapist just hasn't reached out! I'd be furious! Is there an on call line or something that you could reach out to in the future?
We had a rough weekend here. The kids were all just super grumpy and difficult all weekend long. Beau's son was on the verge of tears and whining about literally every single thing in his life. It was exhausting. The girls were bickering and ended up in physical altercations multiple times. I was furious and took away screen time for the foreseeable future. We had a big discussion about how they'd never pull that behavior at school because they know they'd end up in the principal's office and in major trouble, same rules apply at home. I think they got it. Our evening was much calmer and this morning went well. Beau's son has had an asthma cough all weekend, I think due to allergies. But he is milking it hard and home from school today. I'm annoyed beau is letting him get away with it. Then yesterday we discovered beau's ex is pulling some super shady stuff right now and beau is reaching out to lawyers about it. So we're just tired and honestly ready to all go back to work/school and reset.
I've also come to terms with the fact that we need to get DD2 re-evaluated for autism. She was screened for it and came back borderline but they chalked it up to "quirky because she's gifted." But now all the OCD behaviors and rigidity in her mindset, along with a bunch of other stuff, it all seems to be pointing to her being on the spectrum. I'm dreading dealing with school and testing again, but I know it's the right direction to go to make sure we're giving her the supports that make sense, especially since she only has one more year in elementary school. I'm really worried about how she'll handle middle school.
mommyatty, I'm so sorry that this is happening. I can't believe the therapist hasn't called back. That therapist better be hospitalized or worse to ignore a call like that. I'm glad you'll be able to get into another one soon.
This weekend was rough. I was feeling crappy when I woke up and it just went downhill from there. By dinner time, I was miserable with a head cold. I took some NyQuil and passed out. Saturday was worse. The boys had soccer and it was the hottest day ever here (low 90s with high humidity). I was still miserable, but I had to coach DS2's soccer academy because there weren't enough coaches. I managed as best I could then came home and crashed hard. DH was a saint and let me wallow/sleep/cry when I needed it. By Sunday morning, I felt so much better that I was able to exercise a bit. Then I worked for a few hours and relaxed. The kids were able to entertain themselves for the most part. This week is the last full week of school for DD and DS1. Next week, they have school on Tues and Wed and then a half-day on Thursday, which is their last day. Time really flew this year!
Well since I was at a tax convention my weekend was very short. Yesterday was lots of laundry and outside projects. I had to transplant my tomato plants into bigger pots since my garden isn't close to being prepped. This week is busy. DD has a tour of the middle school she will be going to next year Tuesday at 2:30, then I have acupuncture at 3:30 on the opposite side of town and she has practice at 4:30. I think I got it all figured out so we both can get to everything. No school Friday and we are heading to friends after DD's practice Friday night.
The dog had a good time at my friends' while we were gone. She was sneaky and kept opening the screen door to get back inside. When she got home yesterday, she was 100% puppy crazy for a good 30 minutes and then crashed hard. When she woke up she wouldn't put weight on her back leg and is still limping today. We are really hoping that she just over did it. I had to block her in at work because she can't stand up on the slippery vinal plank up front where she normally lays down. I've poked and prodded all over her back end and legs moving things around and she doesn't act like she is in pain. It almost looks like her leg fell asleep.
DD woke up this morning with what appeared to be allergies or a minor cold, but before school acted like the world was ending, got back into bed and wouldn't get out, etc. Covid tested her, negative, and told her if she stayed home, she needs to get a PCR test and she can't watch TV or leave her room. Guess who suddenly feels fine and is driving me batty??? Yep.
mommyatty , I'm so sorry. My DS1 (now 8) talked about killing himself during remote/hybrid school, when he was around his 7th birthday. I'm not sure if it was getting older or going back to in-person school and activities (probably both), but he hasn't talked about it in about a year and seems much more well-adjusted now. That's such a terrible spot to be in as a parent. I hope the new therapist can help.
This was the all-star softball tournament weekend with the hotel block I ended up organizing last minute for the league. It was only about an hour away, so DH and DD went up first, and then I met a babysitter for the two little boys in the afternoon and went up with DS1 to watch DD's second game and hang with everyone at the hotel. The hotel courtyard area had a pool, hot tub, basketball court, grilling and gathering areas, so it was perfect. The weather was not great (very May gray/chilly) but it was so much fun to hang out with all the other families and eat and drink while the kids played. It was nice not to have the two little boys there, because the older kids just ran around with their friends and I didn't have to worry about them. I drove back home Saturday night and then since DS2 woke me up at 5:45 am Sunday, I drove the little boys back up to watch the 8 am Sunday game. Unfortunately we all seemed to have too much fun partying at the hotel - every team in our league had an absolutely abysmal performance in their early Sunday games. The kids had too much sugar and not enough sleep, and the coaches and parents were hungover. Oops. I think it was worth it though I took a nap during DS3's nap.
Last night I went to a nice dinner with 3 friends - while I run into a couple of the women regularly, I hadn't really seen one of them since pre-pandemic. So it was great to catch up. I have my book club tonight and then tomorrow is my birthday and I'm trying to take most of the day off and going to lunch with two friends.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 23, 2022 13:43:05 GMT -5
mommyatty, that's awful. And even worse that the therapist hasn't called. It feels like a betrayal.
This weekend we went to see a cat DH wants to adopt because his cat passed away a couple years ago. We had to drive quite a ways to see it which I found incredibly annoying until we got to the house and figured out it was not a house but a concrete dome out in the country. It was incredibly interesting.
We also looked at a couple houses that we could potentially upgrade to but we were left with feelings of being nervous about moving so I don't know what we'd realistically do.
I got the kids their boosters Friday night. Saturday DD was feeling the side effects, so we laid low and gave her Motrin and Tylenol. She was able to play her soccer game.
Sunday, DH and I had a minor spat about how stressed we were, and then we picked up my bike. I am loving the bike. I know everyone said my butt will adjust, but it never did, and I know I posted before and people said put on bike shorts, which I do. But I am loving that now I can just hop on my cruiser, no bike shorts needed, and minimal butt pain. Yeah, I guess I have no muscle or fat on that part of my butt, so it never got used to it, and I've had that bike since 2012, so plenty of time and rides to get used to it.
So anyway, thanks for listening to my ted talk on bike seats. Afterward, I did a bike ride with the kids. I also like that the gears are numbered, so I can easily tell what gear I am in.
I am fighting off whatever DS had. Tested negative for Covid, but I feel really crappy and tired in the morning just like DS. I'm going to guess an enterovirus. Feels kind of like when I had HFM minus the spots.
mommyatty , I'm so sorry. My DS1 (now 8) talked about killing himself during remote/hybrid school, when he was around his 7th birthday. I'm not sure if it was getting older or going back to in-person school and activities (probably both), but he hasn't talked about it in about a year and seems much more well-adjusted now. That's such a terrible spot to be in as a parent. I hope the new therapist can help.
This was the all-star softball tournament weekend with the hotel block I ended up organizing last minute for the league. It was only about an hour away, so DH and DD went up first, and then I met a babysitter for the two little boys in the afternoon and went up with DS1 to watch DD's second game and hang with everyone at the hotel. The hotel courtyard area had a pool, hot tub, basketball court, grilling and gathering areas, so it was perfect. The weather was not great (very May gray/chilly) but it was so much fun to hang out with all the other families and eat and drink while the kids played. It was nice not to have the two little boys there, because the older kids just ran around with their friends and I didn't have to worry about them. I drove back home Saturday night and then since DS2 woke me up at 5:45 am Sunday, I drove the little boys back up to watch the 8 am Sunday game. Unfortunately we all seemed to have too much fun partying at the hotel - every team in our league had an absolutely abysmal performance in their early Sunday games. The kids had too much sugar and not enough sleep, and the coaches and parents were hungover. Oops. I think it was worth it though I took a nap during DS3's nap.
Last night I went to a nice dinner with 3 friends - while I run into a couple of the women regularly, I hadn't really seen one of them since pre-pandemic. So it was great to catch up. I have my book club tonight and then tomorrow is my birthday and I'm trying to take most of the day off and going to lunch with two friends.
Same as sdlaura - our 7 year old at the time (during early Covid) also told us she wished she was dead. It was the anxiety stemming from the major life change because of Covid. It’s a terribly scary place to be as a parent. I hope you can get him to a better place. ❤️
Post by sandandsea on May 23, 2022 20:46:37 GMT -5
I hope everyone is on the mend soon. My allergies have been brutal this year and I’m hearing the same from many. Idk if it’s because we’ve been cooped up inside or if it’s the wacky weather and wind this year that’s made it worse. My eye has been watering for three weeks and I’ve been taking meds daily.
I had to write evals today and it sucked because I have one low performer. Basically as soon as I sent the review, he said he needed to back out of some work he was slated for. Like dude, can you not see how bad this looks? Of course if I said that to him directly he would deny and deflect and make excuses til kingdom come. Ugh.
I want to go back to the weekend. We had soccer for both kids Saturday and DS1s game was near the beach so we did a quick ice cream and beach drive by on the way home.
DS2 tried out and made the comp team for soccer so he’s thrilled he gets to do more soccer and I’m happy for him. But two kids in competitive sports…..whew!
Thanks, all. I think he’s doing a little better. He’s having longer flashes of the ability to play and smile and be present than we have seen in a long time. He was a-okay during Covid. Scared sometimes, but overall fine. I think it was the Adderall that started this but now he has to work on some awful entrenched thoughts that he doesn’t realize are thoughts. Like that he has no friends and people don’t like him. Both are untrue.
Update on my poor doggy. She let me mess with her foot yesterday afternoon and I pulled out a 1/4 inch splinter/thorn that was stuck in a pitch pocket. She continued to do the 3 legged limp yesterday but woke up today walking normally. I'm so relieved.
I got my new glasses in the mail yesterday. DD loved them but no one else has noticed. The frames aren't close to what my old frames look like. I've seen a dozen people and not a soul has said anything. The prescription is much stronger and I feel like the words are jumping off my computer screen. I also can read signs 2 blocks ahead of me while driving.
186momx, it took me a week to notice my boss had new glasses. And I spend more time with him/looking at him than I do with my own husband. (That's... a really pathetic statement to make.)
More importantly, I'm glad your dog is doing well! It's so dry here that taking the dog to the park sucks. I comb out anywhere from 10-60 burrs from him every afternoon. He is amazing and just sits still for it, even though I know it can't feel good. He puts up with a lot.