My H is a damn idiot-obviously a vent

[flygirl]

I am sitting on the couch right now trying to restrain myself from going and screaming at my H.  You all may recall that my H thought it would be perfectly fine to wash saturated wax applicators and towels in my new washing machine.  I scrubbed that thing, bleached it, used special cleaners, etc about 20x and finally after an entire year the stainless basket is clean again.  So what does my H do?  He washes towels used to take wax off.  It’s no where near as bad as the first time,  but now where the water line was there is a 3-4 inch line of wax.  I feel like taking a crowbar to his truck. He’s definitely no longer allowed to touch the washer…for any reason.  Ever.  
I’m trying to run a large amount of bleach through it right now.  Is having separate washer and dryers a thing?

[wanderingback]

I don’t know anything about this, but could you ask him to clean up the mess? That is totally reasonable! That’s how we usually handle things like this. Or if the person who made the mess for whatever reason can’t clean up the mess right away (I’ve spilled make up a few times while rushing out the door so I wasn’t late for work) we apologize and ask nicely for help.

[sadlebred]

flygirl It should be! ex-H thought it would be a good idea to wash a muddy hair horse blanket in our washer (hint: Usually you take it to a place that has a commercial size washing machine). The fittings scratched the tub, horse hair and mud everywhere in the washer and on the floor. Who cleaned it up? Me. We then had a rule that any horse stuff for either of us (I ride horses, too) HAD to go to the laundry place that had commercial size W/D. It took me weeks to get the last of the horse hair out of the washer.

[mofongo]

Make him clean it!

[notoriousmeg]

Jul 10, 2022 18:07:00 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Make him clean it!

This should not even be a question. This is an H problem; not yours.

[clairebear]

Oh my gosh, I remember the first time you posted about that!! I'd be livid. I would also put him in charge of cleaning it and any laundry that backs up if he doesn't clean it immediately. This isn't your problem!! 

[flygirl]

He’s on his way to clean it right now. He says I rinsed them twice. Dude…it’s wax…rinsing isn’t going to make a difference. 🤷‍♀️

ETA-H said “at least I know it’s good wax.”  

[cari]

Jul 10, 2022 18:10:20 GMT -5 notoriousmeg said:

Jul 10, 2022 18:07:00 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Make him clean it!

This should not even be a question. This is an H problem; not yours.

10000% I make my kids clean up their messes (with help, as appropriate) so my H can sure as HELL clean up the mess he made.

[cleo29]

Jul 10, 2022 17:57:10 GMT -5 flygirl said:

I am sitting on the couch right now trying to restrain myself from going and screaming at my H.  You all may recall that my H thought it would be perfectly fine to wash saturated wax applicators and towels in my new washing machine.  I scrubbed that thing, bleached it, used special cleaners, etc about 20x and finally after an entire year the stainless basket is clean again.  So what does my H do?  He washes towels used to take wax off.  It’s no where near as bad as the first time,  but now where the water line was there is a 3-4 inch line of wax.  I feel like taking a crowbar to his truck. He’s definitely no longer allowed to touch the washer…for any reason.  Ever.  
I’m trying to run a large amount of bleach through it right now.  Is having separate washer and dryers a thing?

Have you tried WD-40?  This is what I had to use to remove Crayon that got all over my dryer. I think it would work on the drum of a washer too.

And yes, have separate machines is the norm in the states. 

[af1212]

Jul 10, 2022 18:55:59 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Jul 10, 2022 17:57:10 GMT -5 flygirl said:

I am sitting on the couch right now trying to restrain myself from going and screaming at my H.  You all may recall that my H thought it would be perfectly fine to wash saturated wax applicators and towels in my new washing machine.  I scrubbed that thing, bleached it, used special cleaners, etc about 20x and finally after an entire year the stainless basket is clean again.  So what does my H do?  He washes towels used to take wax off.  It’s no where near as bad as the first time,  but now where the water line was there is a 3-4 inch line of wax.  I feel like taking a crowbar to his truck. He’s definitely no longer allowed to touch the washer…for any reason.  Ever.  
I’m trying to run a large amount of bleach through it right now.  Is having separate washer and dryers a thing?

Have you tried WD-40?  This is what I had to use to remove Crayon that got all over my dryer. I think it would work on the drum of a washer too.

And yes, have separate machines is the norm in the states. 

The states like unites states? 🤔 I have never heard of this.

[fernweh]

Jul 10, 2022 18:55:59 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Jul 10, 2022 17:57:10 GMT -5 flygirl said:

I am sitting on the couch right now trying to restrain myself from going and screaming at my H.  You all may recall that my H thought it would be perfectly fine to wash saturated wax applicators and towels in my new washing machine.  I scrubbed that thing, bleached it, used special cleaners, etc about 20x and finally after an entire year the stainless basket is clean again.  So what does my H do?  He washes towels used to take wax off.  It’s no where near as bad as the first time,  but now where the water line was there is a 3-4 inch line of wax.  I feel like taking a crowbar to his truck. He’s definitely no longer allowed to touch the washer…for any reason.  Ever.  
I’m trying to run a large amount of bleach through it right now.  Is having separate washer and dryers a thing?

Have you tried WD-40?  This is what I had to use to remove Crayon that got all over my dryer. I think it would work on the drum of a washer too.

And yes, have separate machines is the norm in the states. 

I think she means separate his and hers machines, not separate washer and dryer machines!

[cleo29]

Jul 10, 2022 19:02:49 GMT -5 fernweh said:

Jul 10, 2022 18:55:59 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Have you tried WD-40?  This is what I had to use to remove Crayon that got all over my dryer. I think it would work on the drum of a washer too.

And yes, have separate machines is the norm in the states. 

I think she means separate his and hers machines, not separate washer and dryer machines!

totally took it the wrong way.

[cricketwife]

I’m not going to offer any advice because this is a vent post. I’m infuriated on your behalf!!!

[cleo29]

Jul 10, 2022 18:22:56 GMT -5 flygirl said:

He’s on his way to clean it right now. He says I rinsed them twice. Dude…it’s wax…rinsing isn’t going to make a difference. 🤷‍♀️

ETA-H said “at least I know it’s good wax.”  

seriously, have him try the WD-40.  It works, takes scrubbing, but it works. 

[isabel]

Wow. I would definitely yell. I can't believe he did it again!

[sofamonkey]

Jul 10, 2022 19:36:06 GMT -5 isabel said:

Wow. I would definitely yell. I can't believe he did it again!

I would too, and possibly toss in a “hey Brittany spears” lol

He really has it coming tho!!

[sofamonkey]

And I know you’re just venting, but bleach won’t remove wax. Heat and solvent will.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Get rid of him! ™️ HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan

[Aloe Vera]

I would be livid.

I don't know what kind of wax it is but bleach won't do anything. I would try isopropyl alcohol. A large bottle used to cost 99 cents but since Covid, they are now $3.50.
This is what I use to remove candle wax and other sticky messes and it works great. If the drum is stainless steel, it's perfectly safe. You can find it at any store, in the pharmacy area.

[ssmjlm]

I remember the first incident. WHY DON'T MEN LEARN?

Maybe look into a separate small washer? I would assume he can line dry the rags/towels.

[flex]

Make him clean up his own mess and tell him for the next six months he's going to take his own damn laundry to the laundromat as punishment.

[Aloe Vera]

Jul 10, 2022 19:12:03 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Jul 10, 2022 19:02:49 GMT -5 fernweh said:

I think she means separate his and hers machines, not separate washer and dryer machines!

totally took it the wrong way.

Although I know a lot of people who have to wash pretty dirty and stinky work clothes and they have a washer and dryer set specifically for this type of laundry. Nothing fancy. They usually buy second hand or the most basic washer which is around $500.