My dad died

[formerlyak]

Last night. He was battling cancer and lost.

I’m ok. My mom is ok. My kids are ok. My brother is not.

Oldest DS had a Calculus test the morning we moved my dad to hospice. He’s a very mathy kid and BOMBED it. I emailed the teacher explaining that DS and my dad were incredibly close and DS was struggling that day to keep it together, could he tell me if the errors on the test were conceptual or careless errors because his head was elsewhere that day. The teacher’s response was basically, “health issues are hard. I’ll turn back the test this week and he can analyze what he missed. But he did complete it quickly and then just sat quietly. He souls have checked his answers. Let me know if you have any questions.” I wanted to be like, “Listen asshole. What you describe is a kid who all his other teachers report is generally very engaged, disengaging himself from class that day. Can’t you just say either he made careless algebra errors or he wasn’t even applying the right formulas so I know if a tutor is necessary?” I’m probably overly sensitive today, but just answer the question! If you graded the tests, it shouldn’t be hard to answer!

I also think I’m still in shock.

[dove]

I’m so very sorry.

And that teacher is being a jerk

[circa1978]

I am so sorry.

[liverandonions]

I'm so sorry for your loss and think that teacher should take it a little easy on a grieving child.

[RoxMonster]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[blondemoment123]

I'm sorry for your loss. That teacher is a jerk.

[Saudade]

I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[aprilsails]

I’m so very sorry. While some of you might feel ok today, know that it’s perfectly normal to not be ok again soon. Grief impacts us in so many ways.

I feel so bad for your son. I totally did the same thing on some tests when dealing with stress as a teen. I would wait for the test before pursuing tutoring and then ask the teacher how he can make up the marks.

[formerlyak]

Oct 31, 2022 16:46:40 GMT -5 aprilsails said:

I’m so very sorry. While some of you might feel ok today, know that it’s perfectly normal to not be ok again soon. Grief impacts us in so many ways.

I feel so bad for your son. I totally did the same thing on some tests when dealing with stress as a teen. I would wait for the test before pursuing tutoring and then ask the teacher how he can make up the marks.

He won’t be able to make anything up in that class, unfortunately. He has a friend who had to get a schedule change because he made a sports team. The schedule change meant switching from one calculus class into DS’ class. DS’ class had already taken an exam that the class friend transferred from hasn’t. The teacher didn’t let friend take the exam and just gave him an F. Friend’s parents are a math department colleague and assistant principal at the school. They were PISSED that the teacher is so inflexible.

[flygirl]

I’m sorry for your loss. That teacher is a jerk and I’d have a very hard time not calling him out. Someone died asshole.

[mysteriouswife]

I’m very sorry

[fernweh]

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

[ksun]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I would probably talk to administration considering you mentioned how inflexible the teacher is in other cases.

[rosiebear]

I’m so sorry.

[mofongo]

I am so sorry for your loss, the teacher could have showed so much more compassion.

[underwaterrhymes]

I’m so sorry.

I would definitely talk to the principal. ❤️❤️ Fuck that teacher.

[penguingrrl]

I’m so sorry for your loss. That teacher definitely should be more compassionate given the circumstances.

[lilafowler]

I’m so sorry.

[jlt19]

I am so very sorry. And I’m sorry that other people can be insensitive jackwagons.

[sweetchix]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[lilac05]

I am so sorry for your loss.

I will cross my fingers that the teacher had poor communication skills and he will take your son’s situation into account. I think this is a VERY different situation than getting moved because of a sports situation. (Some teachers are super pissed that kids get regularly pulled from classes for sporting events, and he may have taken out his frustration on your friend’s kid.) That doesn’t make his behavior right in their situation, but I also don’t think it means he’ll be equally as harsh and inflexible with your son.

If that’s not the case, I’d talk to your son about what that grade means to his overall grade in the class and his GPA. It might be a situation where I’d take it above the teacher (if the teacher remained inflexible), but it might be a time when we talk about how grades only mean so much. Life happens and sometimes that means we’re not at our best for awhile.

[Deleted]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[Jalapeñomel]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[cricketwife]

I’m so sorry.

[sadlebred]

I am very sorry for your loss.

[sadie]

My condolences.

[beerlover]

I'm so sorry for your loss. This teacher sounds like a dick and I'd go to administration. I can't believe that other situation either about failing the kid who switched classes! That's wild.

[Nonny]

I'm sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry that on top of it you also have to deal with your kid's teacher being an asshole.

[Roc A Bee]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[Pilsy]

I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of your family.