Final TWERK of 2022

[186momx]

I got the instructions from my payroll software company on how to implement the new paid leave tax.  It is super time consuming! I have 13 step process to do for each employee for each client.  I do 30 small business!  Plus I have no idea how this is going to translate to actually paying the taxes and if I will have to do something different to figure that out.  UGH! 

Sorry DD looks like next week mom isn't going to be able to slowly move to working late.  Not ready to work 8am-7pm the 1st week of January.  

[186momx]

twinmomma did your DS make it home from CA?
k3am how many tests are the doctors running to need that much blood?

[waverly]

I sent the invites out for DD's sleepover birthday party. No one responded yet, but it's only been an hour. It's only 3 kids for a sleepover/ under, but I am worried no one will come because some haven't been to the house before- DD wanted to branch out her friendships. I guess I have some more girls we could invite if they say no.

I am hosting her family birthday party this weekend and we are having burgers again (boring) because the one guest only eats beef. So anyway, I am looking for store bought appetizers to go with this to make it more fun. If you have any suggestions let me know. We have regular grocery store, Costco, Aldi, and Target. We will have 10 people, so bonus points if there are 10 in the package, but I can always buy 2 packages. I have no interest in making my own appetizers, just open and serve. Or maybe open, bake/ microwave and serve. Also, I am leaning towards making Sangria if anyone has good recipes.

[k3am]

186momx, yesterday's 11 vials ended up filling 18 labwork orders, I think. PCP put in 20 orders between her and dermatology, and one was urine, one is stool (which DH is going to be in charge of, because I'm done with poop.) We have 21 left to go, which are all allergy related and ordered before the whole original labwork fiasco, so we're not rushing in to get them done.

[twinmomma]

He’s home! Beau had to drive an hour to the airport to get him, but he was back at our house at 2 AM. Now we get to enjoy our long weekend all together and we don’t have to deal with the ex until next week.

[k3am]

Mono antibody test was also negative… liver levels and iron are still abnormal, and one other new antibody test seems WAY of out whack (he’s >8.0, and the range is <0.9), but everything else on the panel
Is entirely normal, so who knows.

[mae0111]

Mom of the year post.

DD1 is 13 and 7th grade, and seemed to be questioning Santa, but also kind of entrenching herself in Santa belief. So I decided to use a car ride without dd2 to kind of break the news.

So I told her I wanted to let her in on a little secret…

Omg

So many tears. She was totally blindsided. I feel awful. But I had to tell her, right?? She’s a teenager… I feel like it’s time…

I’m the worst.

[mommyatty]

mae0111, yes, you had to tell her. She’s not neurotypical. There is so much written about neurodiverse kids and the whole Santa situation. And the A-#1 thing is tell them before their peers do it. Because their peers will not be kind.

[twinmomma]

Im so proud of my girls and BFF 1. Tonight they went to the wake for BFF 2’s mom. They were so nervous about it and not sure they wanted to go. We assured them we could leave immediately after walking through if they wanted to. But they did it, and it gave their friend such a good break in all the somberness. We ended up staying for an hour and the girls all just hung out in one of the side rooms. I think BFF 2 really needed it. And we were there at the same time as all the teachers and staff from school. Bless the staff, the immediately leapt in to helping the four girls process and provide comfort in the short time they were all there. I’m so grateful for our community.

[mae0111]

mommyatty - her finding out from kids at school was a huge concern of mine. The kids at her school tend to be less mature about things like this, and I think the ones that figure it out tend to stay quiet because they’re always around the littles (school is 3 year olds up through 8th grade, and there is a “buddy” system). But still, I didn’t want her going back to school talking about what Santa got for her…

[sdlaura]

My 2-year-old is addicted to barbecue chips. This morning he brought a tub of them with a handle (we got the container at the zoo when we bought popcorn) to drop the older kids off at camp. And carried it around with him when we got out of the car to sign everyone in and watch DS1 at the skateboard park for a bit. 4th kid…..

Tomorrow we head out to the desert (Palm springs area) with two other families. I’m sure it will be fun, but it’s a lot of work to move the whole 4-kid operation for just 2 nights We’re staying in the resort next to the resort where our friends are, since we were able to get a 2-bedroom place next door. There will be lots of logistics of going back and forth…

[k3am]

sdlaura, my mom grew up in the high desert and we spent all our holidays there growing up - mostly in Yucca, but my cousins moved to Pioneertown in the early 90's which was... a mistake lol. Both of those places are now nothing like I remember them being. That's my long way of saying I'm jealous because it would be nostalgic to go back..

[186momx]

sdlaura, I'm jealous of your trip. At least you should be guaranteed good weather.

Our friends cancelled coming over. DD is very upset and sad. She has been messaging with them all week about this visit. They got hit with an ice storm last night and just don't want to chance the driving. Plus, it is supposed to rain nonstop all weekend here so we couldn't do much. On the plus side I have a nice clean house to start tax season, but I'm exhausted from cleaning and prepping all week. Will still do pizza for dinner Saturday and have mimosas for breakfast.

Vent: DH got me a very expensive fancy pedicure gift card for Christmas. He is mad that I don't want to use it now. No one but me will see my feet for the next 3 months. Why can't I wait until after tax season when the weather is getting better to go get pampered?

[k3am]

186momx, I vote use it now while you're relaxed and go for another pedicure when you're done with tax season... but then again, the nail salon is one of my happy places. If you need help spending more money, I'm you're gal.

[supertrooper1]

I’m disappointed with ex-h’s attorney again. The final divorce paperwork has been signed since the end of November but she still hasn’t filed it with the court. Her paralegal replied that it will be done by January 9th since that is when the required background check will expire. So much for being divorced by the end of the year.

I took this week off from work to do stuff with DS. Yesterday we went to Canada for his first time and went to a kids hands on science museum.

Holidays are always tough for Beau after the loss of his wife and son. This year was no exception and I hate feeling helpless. I’m frustrated that his family didn’t make it easier on him either with their lack of planning and communication. His DIL wanted to cook dinner. But then she canceled so we were just going to stop by with gifts. And then his mom offered to cook. Then DIL changed her mind a couple days before and said she was cooking and his mom was coming to their house. We show up at his son’s house, DIL went to her other grandmas house and wasn’t coming back until just before dinner. And then Beau’s mom called and said she had dinner ready. We end up spending the afternoon at beau’s moms house and then the evening at his son’s house. DILs toothless meth addict mom ended up cooking and it grossed me out watching. I’m hosting everyone next to avoid the lack of communication.

[sandandsea]

We made it home around midnight and amazingly our flights were all on time. The kids were happy to be in their own beds and we woke up early (thanks to being on east coast time zones) and had Christmas at home this morning. So now the kids are playing with their new toys and I’m making cinnamon rolls and ready for a day of unpacking and hopefully relaxing. We will watch the ball drop with the east coast and head to bed at 9 tonight. I’m so thankful for a long weekend at home before heading to work Tuesday.

[mommyatty]

I just finished my continuing legal education credits with 12 hours left in my reporting period. Why do I do this to myself every year?

[twinmomma]

We’re officially, publicly engaged!
We are spending New Year’s at a hotel in Boston with the kids. While out walking around taking in the first night sights and fun, I was looking at ice sculptures with the kids. Beau called my name and when I turned around, he was down on one knee! Definitely surprised me even though I knew it was coming at some point.
DD1 watched the whole thing and was so excited! Beau’s son and DD2 were oblivious in typical kid fashion LOL they basically missed the whole thing, so we re-enacted with the three of them all watching. It was hilarious! Our good friends, his mom, and his sister were with us. His sister captured the whole thing on video, which is fun to have.

[sdlaura]

186momx I think today is the crappiest weather that ever happens here - 56 degrees and cloudy/drizzly. Which feels freezing with no humidity Yesterday was sunny when we arrived, so we got some pool time then, but today has been pretty not fun to be outside. Tomorrow is only a 40% chance of rain, so hopefully we can do more outside stuff.

k3am somehow this area manages to be nostalgic even for people that didn’t grow up coming here. I never saw the desert until I was an adult and I love it. There’s so much cool old mid century modern stuff here. Last night we went to the coolest restaurant with an aqua sunken bar and dance floor. When we arrived, there were old ladies in fur coats leaving, and by the time we left, there were lots of young dressed up hipsters.

[mommyatty]

supertrooper1- what is her excuse for taking more than a month to file the freaking paperwork? That’s insane. It takes like literally 10 minutes if they do electronic filing and like 20 max if you have to stand in line at the clerk to get it stamped. Can your attorney file it? I’m so annoyed for you.

[supertrooper1]

mommyatty, I’m not sure what her excuse is. It has to be delivered to the courthouse in person and it’s over an hour away from her office. The only response I’ve seen is from her paralegal saying it will be done before the background check expires again. I’m not sure why my attorney can’t deliver it. I think she’s moved on because I only get responses from her new paralegal that doesn’t know the background of our case.