Too much change / sequencing change

[MrsE]

Would it be too much at once to change DD’s (4) childcare, move her to a “big girl room,”and have a new baby* within 3 months of each other? There have been several red flags at her current “school” and I am pretty certain we want to make a switch. The biggest anchor to her current school is the history and comfort she has there and that we can walk there from our house. I feel in my gut it’s time to make a move, and would prefer one Drop-Off once the new baby arrives, but don’t want to make DD go through too many changes all at once. Anyone have any words of advice or thoughts on sequencing the changes?

*Also, I’m expecting in April. 😊

[VillainV]

This is such an individual thing. However, most kids tend to cope with change better than adults. For my kid, it would have been better to just rip off the bandaid and change multiple things at once vs. spreading big changes out one after another. Doing it all at once means establishing a new routine sooner, rather than just getting used to one change when another pops up. But some kids probably do better the other way around.

[nicolewi]

Congrats on the pregnancy! I think kids will mostly roll with whatever, although obviously you may have a few bumps when they deal with not being the only kid for a bit.

I'd change the school now, if you really think it's best anyway, so it's not associated with the baby coming.

The room thing depends on her attitude. Would she be excited about moving her room, or sad? Just want to throw out that we intended to have kid in "big girl room" prior to baby but didn't work out that way; was no problem for us as we had the baby in our room for a few months anyway. Was easier for us to move the room later. But that's totally going to depend on your situation and sleeping plans. If you decide to change the room, again, I would do it sooner rather than later and give her at least a month or so to adjust to her new space before the baby arrives.

[MrsE]

nicolewi thanks for the input, she seems excited about the move to a big girl room and selecting decor but we need to pull the trigger on purchases 😊

[dcn]

Agree to just do it rather than spread it out. Fwiw, when ds1 was 3, we moved across the country, dropped his crib and had a baby over a few months. He seemed to take it mostly in stride!

[pittpurple]

I would change anything you can as early as you can so you can manage it before the new baby comes. If you can move daycare and her room a month or so before the baby it will feel like 'forever' in her head and she won't associate either with the baby.
But mostly I think kids handle this stuff better than we do!