We had a good weekend. I got my booster Thursday, and was off Friday to recover. I did Pfizer this time, and my symptoms were way better than the last 2 of Moderna, so I think I am sticking to Pfizer. I was still a little tired, so I didn't do a ton, but we did go to Target to get a birthday present and Kohls to get jeans for DD.
Saturday, DD had a birthday party, so we dropped her off and went to the brewery. Then we had a party at 7pm. We had a hard time having even more than 1 drink at the party considering we had a couple of beers already at the brewery. Apparently we can't both day drink and evening drink even though we had had lunch and dinner in between and were sober (ha ha # getting old). The party was nice, and it was great to finally get some reciprocity back from friends. And the birthday party too getting some reciprocity back even though they were from another group of friends. The host was on a bragging streak though and had a few weeks back bragged about a certain room in their house. I took it to mean they had redone then room, so I took a tour. Nope, just removed 1 piece of furniture and put nothing back in. So funny because I was imagining something amazing due to the bragging and no not at all.
Sunday was more laundry, cleaning, DD and I did some puzzles and things like that.
Post by librarychica on Jan 9, 2023 12:55:06 GMT -5
My dog bit someone last night. Again.
She is a small dog and doesn’t really do any damage when she bites but this is not tenable. I put her in my room anytime we have company over, but it’s so stressful. If she slips past a kid — she runs out to bark and snap at nearest person (yesterday it was my brother, once it was a guy coming to buy an old bed, the first person she ever bit was my mother).
I have spent thousands on training. In home, at their facility … I have put her on anti-anxiety medication. She is sweet with us — won’t hurt a fly — but a stranger, she loses her mind.
Rescues won’t take her. One referred me to the trainer I’ve already used. The rescue I got her from ghosted me and then went out of business. I would seriously punch the person who told me she was “house broken, good with kids and other dogs.” All of this was a lie. She tried to bite a 5 year old before I instituted the “crated at all times have you have a friend over” rule.
Some folks say she should just live like that but I don’t think I can do it. I have nightmares of her slipping the lead and going after a kid. Every time the door bell rings I tense up. Maybe she can life like this but I cannot.
I am afraid the answer is going to be to euthanize her but I don’t want to hear it. The trainer basically said, well, we can try some more training. I’m waiting for the vet to call me and give her advice. I am a mess.
librarychica, I'm so sorry. That's really tough. I don't know what I would do. No advice, I'm just really sorry that you're in this spot. I'm sure you've done everything you possibly could.
librarychica, how old is she? My neighbors had to put their dog down- it bit the mom in her face, and if it was a kid and not the mom- I shudder to think. I narrowly missed her eye and she was bandaged all up when I saw her. It was pretty traumatic for them, but since they have kids, it was definitely the right decision. And since she had bit the mom, even if they didn't have kids, still the right decision. This was a bigger dog though.
Our weekend was busy but fun. Friday evening we had my work holiday party. Several people dropped out due to COVID, and between pre-ordered appetizers and having to make the room minimum, we absolutely gorged. I took home almost my whole meal and 2 more full, untouched meals that they had to order to get the tab up. The conversation was great and it was fun to get to know everyone outside of the office.
Saturday morning both kids had basketball games, and then DD1 had another one later in the afternoon. In between I took the dog for a long walk and did a million loads of laundry.
Sunday I went for a 5 mile walk with my neighbor. It was 25 degrees when we left, but no wind so it actually felt good. Came home to finish laundry and take down Christmas. Both kids had friends over. We watched the Patriots embarrass themselves and just wound down.
This will be regular week with activities every day. Instead of a basketball practice for DD1 tomorrow, she has a game. Next weekend will be absolutely insane, so I'm kind of gearing up already...
librarychica- sooner or later she’s going to go after someone in the family. I agree that’s it’s untenable for you and for her. It sounds like you’ve done everything possible. And at least you see and admit it’s a problem. I have so many scars on my hands from little dogs “who really were just the sweetest things” from when I was a vet tech. We had a code we put on the front of files telling us when there was a dog that had bitten one of us before so we could muzzle it and another code telling us when the owner was going to be a dick about it. Big dogs, the owners were rarely dicks. Little dogs? About 50/50.
I'm struggling with my boss today. She is way micromanaging me. Usually it is fine but today because a staff member came to me upset, so she let me know it was a different staff members fault, and when I said well why is that staff member interceding and freaking out? So anyway, I followed up like she wanted me to.
Then she interceded when a disc was missing, and when the cabinet was broken, and again when a staff member accidentally came in at the wrong time, and I offered to let them work. She wanted to let them know to punch out for dinner, but I assured her that they do know this information. I can't have a single thought or discussion today without her, and it really difficult because it makes me feel like she doesn't trust me.
librarychica, I was in your same situation years ago. We had a small dog who had some anxiety around people but seemed ok after he warmed up to them. At some point, our dog could not deal with other people in the house and would try to bite them. At that point, he was crated or sent to daycare/boarder if we had guests. The dog was fine at the vet, groomer, daycare/boarder so none of them believed us when we said we had an aggression problem. We tried trainers and none of it worked. Our dog was always so happy with us and DD. The last straw was when DS1 was born. One night, the dog took off after DD when she came in our room one night while we were sleeping. He didn't bite her, but we were very nervous. We called the vet in tears. She checked him over and found out that our dog had arthritis and had vision problems. We started him on some meds. After a week, same situation happened again. At that point, we had to give him up. Luckily, our vet knew a rescue that took problem dogs. It was the only reason why I agreed to give our dog away because I knew he would be euthanized otherwise. It was one of the saddest things that I have ever done, but I had to do it to protect my family. I hope you and your vet can find a solution.
We are dealing with a stinky fridge issue. Our fridge has smelled like fish for two weeks straight. We never had fish in it. We've taken everything out and cleaned all of it. I've googled and removed the drip pan in the back and cleaned that out. We've put baking soda in it. And nothing is working. So now I'm on live chat with the fridge company praying that maybe there's something they can do. The fridge is not even six months old. From my extensive googling, it seems like maybe there's something wrong with a compressor or a fan.
librarychica, have you tried another trainer? A different training methodology might be able to help. Also have your vet do a look over to make sure it's not health related and discuss options - I know my attorney has some kind of antianxiety drug for her dog that she takes daily which has helped them a lot. But if you're unable to help the problem, and/or unable to rehome her to someone with no kids/experience with dogs with her issues, euthenasia may be the kindest option for her. I'm so sorry.
Post by librarychica on Jan 9, 2023 14:44:27 GMT -5
polecat8, that sounds just like her, except she was 2 when we adopted her and now she is 4, so I doubt there are issues with eyesight.
mommyatty, there is definitely a double standard about size. H has said several times that “she can’t hurt anyone.” And that’s true, she isn’t likely to maul anybody, but when own a dog you are responsible for keeping them under reasonable control and we cannot do that with her, regardless of size.
Nice weekend. We got Dhs boots and went out for really good pizza and wings. However, I did not win the soup cookoff.
My new epi starts today. Yay for an epi. But, this means I am in training mode. But I have several meetings and deadlines to contend with. And Dd is getting her wisdom teeth out Friday.
I am gearing myself up to try a dance class tomorrow. Let's hope I dont talk myself out of it.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 9, 2023 15:56:46 GMT -5
We had a good low-key weekend. It rained all weekend, so everything needed to be indoors. Saturday was the gym, out to lunch, and some errands. Sunday Beau just wanted to watch football and I wanted to get out of the house, so I took DS to the trampoline place and Costco.
I'm covering for a coworker all week so it'll be a busy week at work. Nothing much planned except the gym after work.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 9, 2023 16:11:19 GMT -5
I had a good weekend of decluttering l, running errands, picking out tile for the house and going out to a new restaurant with the family. We also went to the big grocery store which I realized I haven’t done in a looooong time. I always get curbside from there but I never actually go into the giant heb. The kids enjoyed picking out their lunch stuff and snacks in person but boy howdy it was crowded!
Rollerblading ended up being fun and I didn't die. I only did it for about 25 minutes, but it was along the ocean and good exercise. I was SO tired later that night. I think the physical and mental energy of doing something I hadn't done in over 15 years was just a lot. But that's also why I wanted to do it again - it was a little thrilling and good to get out of my comfort zone. I do want to find a flatter area to do it. The rail trail I went on was a little more exercise than I wanted in terms of going uphill, and mildly terrifying on the way back going downhill.
We had dinner with our good friends Saturday night and they invited another couple who we know a little bit. I'm normally a more the merrier type, but the friends of our friends were just sort of....dour. The wife is an ICU nurse and I think she just sees a lot of crap and is over it. But that doesn't make for the most fun dinner companion
Tomorrow night I fly out at 9 pm (so I can be around for the kids in the evening) and then I'm on work travel for a couple of nights. Hoping I can keep up my new year eating well/light while traveling...
I skied on Saturday for the first time in 3 years and am still sore. It’s been raining a lot at our house and the creek next to us is a raging river now barely in its banks. Definitely the highest we’ve seen it and more rain to come this week. Makes me happy we spent the money to get a sump pump when we moved in 7 years ago and that there is a flood plain between us and the creek.
Add us to the rainy camp. We had some minor flooding in our crawl space since our pumps didn't work, but thankfully they were able to come out on Friday and pump out some of the water and get our pumps up and running again.. apparently when we had HVAC work done, they managed to upset the pumps. I'm not looking forward to that bill, but I'm glad they were able to get us in as soon as they were, since it's been a looooooot of rain and DH says they've been going off non-stop today. I'm pretty sure they had forecast 2" of rain in 24 hours, when by comparison we typically get 11" per YEAR.
I was wondering if all the predicted rain was really hitting CA and if it was as much as the news was showing. We don't seem to be getting as much rain as predicted with this system of storms.
Weekend was exhausting. Saturday I was up early and made scones for breakfast. DD the dog and I did zoom school for federal tax update. The morning stuff was interesting, and I had no problems following along. After lunch we spent forever on crypto currency updates and tax credits for electric vehicles and I had issues even DD and the dog deserted me. Finished seminar and drove an hour north to my brothers. Was up at 6 Sunday to eat breakfast and drive to DD's meet. Meet update is in sports. She has a really good outlook on ways to improve. The best part is her friend that used to help her at gym who is now on the east coast texted her early Sunday and they texted back and forth on the drive and she gave her the pep talk. Then I kept her up to date during the meet. This is the same friend that visited over Thanksgiving.
Busy week ahead. I have acupuncture this afternoon and I'm overdue for sure.
She is a small dog and doesn’t really do any damage when she bites but this is not tenable. I put her in my room anytime we have company over, but it’s so stressful. If she slips past a kid — she runs out to bark and snap at nearest person (yesterday it was my brother, once it was a guy coming to buy an old bed, the first person she ever bit was my mother).
I have spent thousands on training. In home, at their facility … I have put her on anti-anxiety medication. She is sweet with us — won’t hurt a fly — but a stranger, she loses her mind.
Rescues won’t take her. One referred me to the trainer I’ve already used. The rescue I got her from ghosted me and then went out of business. I would seriously punch the person who told me she was “house broken, good with kids and other dogs.” All of this was a lie. She tried to bite a 5 year old before I instituted the “crated at all times have you have a friend over” rule.
Some folks say she should just live like that but I don’t think I can do it. I have nightmares of her slipping the lead and going after a kid. Every time the door bell rings I tense up. Maybe she can life like this but I cannot.
I am afraid the answer is going to be to euthanize her but I don’t want to hear it. The trainer basically said, well, we can try some more training. I’m waiting for the vet to call me and give her advice. I am a mess.
I'm sorry. Dogs man. Have you considered muzzle conditioning her? That might help if she is outside with you, or you have people come over (as a just in case.) Muzzles aren't bad - they help keep everyone safe.
Does she seem frightened? She may very well be happy to be in her crate if people are over (away from what is stressing her). Or maybe she could have her own room?
I know this is tough. I've been there. Be kind to yourself.
Our day wrapped up with DD1 having an epic meltdown over me not allowing her to buy $20 worth of junk food before her game tomorrow.
The girls from the team want to kill time by going to the coffee shop near school for the 45 mins between school ending and warm ups starting. I said that was fine. She asked for $20. I said that was too much (because she spends every dime she gets - just finds garbage to buy) and that I would give her $5. Screaming ensued.
PDQ Another (8th session so far, 4th round) mediation was ordered. In a couple weeks. Just child support reduction which will be like 9%. Still claiming he wants shared legal custody. Recommendation to appoint a Child’s Privilege Atty was reserved. To address childrens mental health records. I believe this would come as a surprise to him.
Lawyer moms-do you think he will just accept a CS reduction and then end this
campermom, I'm not a lawyer mom. But knowing that he is ultimately extremely cheap then yes, I think the reduction of Child Support would be very pleasing to him.
On the flipside he is a narcissist, and I've seen many of them fight just to fight, so I don't see a total end to fighting. I am hopeful that it may pause some of the legal stuff, but you are always going to have shit from him. Keep documenting the crap out of the mental health stuff and perhaps the doctors can write letters etc.
We took DS for yet another round of bloodwork yesterday.. rechecking his liver and kidney function to make sure levels aren't continuing to elevate and adding in tests for food allergies. I doubt he'd suddenly become allergic to foods he eats daily, but I guess they want to rule some stuff out. The kid is sick of blood draws. Me too kid, me too.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 10, 2023 13:39:48 GMT -5
campermom, not an attorney either, but I would definitely have your attorney speak to his to see if the CS reduction would end the need for another mediation. Seems like a worthy trade for your mental health.