For various reasons, I bought Christmas presents for 3 adults in my family that need to be returned. It’s February, so I’m going to let the weight of needing to manage those returns go … and skip it. Because I realized that I am a grown up and no one is keeping track if I waste the $ by not returning them.
My plan? Keep one person’s and use it for myself (it’s fine/a backup jacket). Donate one person’s - it’s a bunch of plain t-shirts, so I’ll send it to the men’s shelter. Third, it’s also going to the men’s shelter.
I wish I could stamp this kind of nonsense on a postcard and mail it in October/November when my adult relatives insist on “the magic of Christmas gift giving.”
ETA: And to keep on track with the spirit of the post, these donations are totally aspirational. It’s gonna be a while before I actually land that plane.
I just remembered, I had my annual skin check on Friday. It was delayed since 2020 because covid. I get to the office 15 minutes early and find out it's at a different location that opened sometime in the previous year, 30 minutes away. Luckily the staff was really nice and said it happens all of the time and rescheduled without a no show fee.
I almost posted the other day asking about how/how often people actually clean their baseboards but decided I didn't really want to know the answer.
I’ll answer. Whenever DS comes around looking for ways to “make extra allowance”, some of the times I’ll tell him to grab the duster and go around and dust the baseboards, which he’ll do for approximately 3 minutes before coming back to announce that he’s done. That’s how often.
I have a toothache. Turns out the answer to "when will it become a problem that I haven't been to a dentist in forever?" is now. Just another thing that got neglected while being pregnant then having a baby then job hunting then having a pandemic then job hunting again then having a major health issue in 2022.
IDK, I'm one that doesn't have their shit totally together and I'm okay with it. I do have to have a clean house. Like people in this thread, we all have our thing and mine is my house needs to be clean or everything else seems to fall apart for me, lol.
My H is someone who has their shit together. He manages to keep everything afloat and he shares much of the mental load, he's a really hands-on dad. After this discussion on the board, I talked to him about it and told him he was probably the only person I could think of that totally has their shit together and he laughed and said he doesn't feel that way at all. I think we all feel like we could be/should be doing more and I don't want to put that much pressure on myself. THere's only 24 hours in the day and I sleep for nine of them!
My list is long but the funniest one (to me) is the fact that I just realized my license plate tabs were due in August and it is now Februray and I have yet to renew them.
I once forgot to renew my truck's registration for an entire year. It's not my daily driver, just a beater for hauling stuff around, but I do loan it out to friends regularly. I was mortified to find out they were driving around with expired tags. The funny thing is the late fee was less than the year registration, so its actually cheaper to just forget for a year.
I once went 12 years between dentist appointments while still paying for dental insurance. I also hate making phone calls and will avoid them as long as possible.
Here in MN there is NO late fee. IF you get a ticket say for speeding, they tack on a fine for having expired tabs and that is considered the late fee. So if you never get a ticket, you pay nothing extra.
David does the baseboard, but it's part of his allowance. His allowance was raised when he turned 14 so we gave him more responsibility. Either way, he needs to pitch in and help regardless. He lives here too and is a HUGE part of the mess, lol. Don't recall the baseboards as punishment post, I just wanted to clarify my post about David.
We live less than a mile from a Kohl's, so I'm actually not terrible about returning Amazon items bc I can just take them there.
But I have a bag of Old Navy stuff that I bought in October. I missed the return window and now I guess I need to figure out where to donate.
I also had to order a few different sizes of a uniform for DD because the sizing wasn't clear. I have had the items we aren't keeping in my office since November. The return form is even filled out. I just can't force myself to figure out how to package them pack up, and where I need to mail them.
If things are cheap enough, I will justify donating instead of returning because I've read the articles about returns going to waste. I wish I could say my reasoning is noble but really it's just easier to donate.
Post by wanderlustmom on Feb 5, 2023 21:03:39 GMT -5
My husband also doesn't 't have his shit together. My DH forgot the water bill a few years ago and my water turned off mid shower. I thought it was a mistake from the plumbing company. I am in awe of anyone who can keep up with everything--that's never been me. Our house is always clean and picked up but we have holes in the ceiling, appliances that don't work, doctors appointments that need to get scheduled, forms we forgot to fill out, texts I forgot to return. I can cry and freak out about random things and overthink the smallest thing too.
Post by puppylove64 on Feb 5, 2023 21:10:09 GMT -5
I hate making phone calls, I suck at returning texts. My kitchen sink is almost always full of dirty dishes. I feel like a pretty smart person, but I do some stupid shit sometimes. I put birthday balloons on my kiddos car at school, except I picked the wrong car 🤦🏻♀️
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Feb 6, 2023 9:10:23 GMT -5
Financially my shit is NOT together … it feels like paycheck to paycheck and I don’t mean like MM poor where the retirement accts are maxed out, there’s an e fund of 3-6 months, healthy kids college funds and a robust savings investment acct.
I don’t think there will ever be a time where that’s the case.
Most of the time I look like I just came in from cleaning the garage - I am the least put together person even when at work. I get my kid out everyday looking pretty good, pay my bills and my house is guest ready about 15% of the time so that’s winning for me.
I stand by my previous statement. Recognizing what is most important (for your situation/life/family) and Trying on those things is having your shit together.
I have clean laundry in baskets right now that could be put away. Instead I spent 4 hours yesterday evening taking my kid to a meet up we do on the opposite side of the Bay Area so they have a regular, safe space with other GNC kids. Everything in their life goes better with that support so it’s worth the hassle for me.
Perfect housekeeping is a luxury for when nothing more important or more interesting is happening. Targeted housekeeping is more my style. (Clean and functional matter more to me than picture ready.)
I was just looking this morning at cobwebs that have collected in the corners of the ceilings in our family room. I cannot tell you the last time I dusted corners or baseboards.
Phone calls and returns can burn in hell. I hate doing both.
Why is it so hard to just make a phone call to set up an appointment? I have like four I need to do, and they are all related to health issues, some of them rather urgent.
Many of my providers will allow me to make appointments online, so I do that for my physical and my mammogram. I do that for hair appointments.
I still have one outstanding appointment left for DS, and everything got moved 6 months late, but making my way though them slowly. Why are there so many?
Post by countthestars on Feb 6, 2023 11:59:45 GMT -5
I'm a hot mess express. I don't even know what is on my to-do list because I don't have one - I just let all the balls drop here and there and somehow manage to usually make up for it or pay for it later?
I don't think I have ever cleaned a baseboard separate from vacuuming.
I need all my doctors to get on board with scheduling my next appointment when I leave my current one. This is the only way I have kept up with the dentist, eye doctor and DDs pediatrician. I was inspired by those who have it together, took a deep breath and finally called for my own physical, 5 years late and my genetic testing. DD still needs a therapist, but that feels impossible to find and schedule.
I have not unpacked boxes from my move, 2 years ago. I have boxes of old clothes and toys to sell/donate. My house is an unorganized, messy disaster. I am late to work daily. My work life feels constantly behind. I don't make my bed, dirty clothes end up on the floor more than the hamper, towels usually end up on the bed rather than hung up. I don't vacuum or clean my bathroom nearly frequently enough. I'd love to hire a cleaner, but that's just another person to call, manage and figure out how to pay for.
My bills are mostly paid on time, I manage to get my kid to school and dance, feed us both and we are both relatively presentable, so even though I don't have a lot of my shit together I try really hard to focus on what I do have together, but really I'm a mess most days.
Add me to the list - I avoid phone calls and keep putting off my dermatologist and optometrist appointments. I’m almost out of contacts and my glasses are crooked. Luckily, I am able to schedule on-line for my doctor, obgyn, and the girl’s pediatrician.
My house is okay but don’t open the closets or cabinets. I’m constantly shoving things away anyone comes over.
Our stove, which is built into original 1965 cabinets in a spot that is too small for any standard modern ovens, died two years ago. “Call contractors for quotes to start kitchen remodel” has been on my to-do list for two years.
At this point I’ve just gotten used to cooking with only a toaster oven. 😂
that's so funny and I get it, our master shower didn't work for almost six months and we all showered in our super small kid bath for all that time. We thought it would be too expensive to repair and it wasn't. You can learn to live with lots of things. It's good that we aren't so obsessed with remodels. You've found other ways to cook...LOL
my master bathroom shower door broke (fell off the hinge and shattered) - found out it would be almost $2k to fix, and still look ugly - so we decided not to sink $2k into an ugly door and re-do the whole bathroom instead. For 4 years, we all used the "kids" shower until the renovation actually happened. Now my kids use the master shower and no one uses the kids shower
I cannot for the life of me seem to get my shit together lately when it comes to my volunteer position. Last year I had a major miscommunication with one of our liaisons, which means we aren't getting some work done for our group this year that we'd hoped. It's a relatively minor thing overall, just something we wanted to do but don't actually need done, but I feel bad because I dropped the ball.
And just now I sent a follow up email (late) about a celebration that's going on to see about setting up the volunteers and snacks, but then I read our meeting minutes (after sending the mail) and it seems like maybe I misremembered the meeting and we are just supplying cash? I'm so confused, and now also probably look like a giant flake. This is not a good start to my term.
Post by verycontrary247 on Feb 6, 2023 22:58:36 GMT -5
My geriatric, neurotic cat is on 2 meds daily. One at lunch and the other at dinner. Last night she took her last dinner med, so this morning I begrudgingly called the vet to request a refill then drove 35 minutes one way to pick it up. Came home, went to give her lunch med and realized I only have 4 pills left, so I'm going to have to get that refilled and pick it up within a few days.
This exact scenario has happened like 5 months in a row.
Financially my shit is NOT together … it feels like paycheck to paycheck and I don’t mean like MM poor where the retirement accts are maxed out, there’s an e fund of 3-6 months, healthy kids college funds and a robust savings investment acct.
I don’t think there will ever be a time where that’s the case.
Also dust …. I hate dusting.
I am here too. I can't even bring myself to talk to a financial planner because I'm afraid of what they will say (mainly, that we are screwed). Friends and coworkers talk about trips/remodeling/car funds/college funds/etc. and I have internal panic attacks.
I also don't have a clean/organized house. My husband has ADHD and anytime I manage to organize a space, he fills it up with shit. Literally, he took all of our toss/donate/sell stuff from the unfinished side of the basement and dumped it on the finished side as soon as I got it organized because he thought that if he saw it, he would do something. A year plus later and that has not been the case.
We get by and have a house and all of our needs met with a few extras and I try to focus on that.