Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Feb 8, 2023 17:20:14 GMT -5
My head is absolutely spinning. I found out the school psychologist suspects Lucy has autism. Or is it "is autistic"? I'm not shocked, but it's a lot to process, you know?
AND THEN. I found out how much my sister and I will inherit from my aunt's IRA and just her bank account. It's like life changing money. Plenty for an addition and a new car for me. I'm overwhelmed AF and I don't know a thing about wills or timelines for this or anything. And my aunt owned her house outright. Also she probably had life insurance too. Fuckkkk dude.
I don't know where to even start with either thing.
This is a lot at once!! I know more than my share of people who were diagnosed as autistic late in life so she’s still ahead of the game if that’s what’s going on. It might not really change much but give sort of a framework to what’s going on if that makes sense?
Very exciting re: the will. Normally probate takes like a year but if she doesn’t have debts and everyone is in agreement, you (and your sister) can often sign some paperwork saying that you’d like it to go faster. Your county should have someone who can point you in the right direction if you don’t have a lawyer or you want outside guidance. I hope it goes easily and quickly and you can use the inheritance to make your life easier any way you can!
Post by penguingrrl on Feb 8, 2023 18:12:34 GMT -5
@professorartnerd
That is a whole lot to absorb!
My 13 year old was diagnosed with autism last spring. The diagnosis alone opened so many doors for her (in her case a therapeutic school was necessary and the diagnosis made that possible). Since then we’ve come to realize H is almost certainly autistic as well, and he has thrived without any accommodations or diagnosis, but it answers questions he’s had about himself his entire life. Best of luck navigating it and know that having a diagnosis can be life-changing even if she was already doing well!
I subbed for the librarian in my DS' elementary school today. I had back to back classes all afternoon. I'm exhausted. Also, I will be buying something for one of the 1st grade teachers. Her class has a lot of challenging kids in it. I stopped by her class and told her how much I appreciate her before I left for the day.
ETA: ProfessorArtNerd it's a lot to absorb. One day at a time. Her pedi can direct you to who and how to get her an official diagnosis. You probably need a referral from them anyway.
Yesterday I learned that my mother has a box of holy cards dating back to the late 1800s. She inherited them from her mother and just adds every family member to the box. Is this a thing?
I also found out my second cousin has the love letters of my great aunt between her and her partner that date from the 50s to the early 80s. Her family refused to acknowledge she was a lesbian and called her the companion to her lover, who was an heiress of a well-known family in Chicago. Apparently, my great-grandmother threatened to report her own daughter to the police when she learned of their relationship.
I'm trying to convince my cousin that we need to get the letters to a LBGT non-profit that documents love stories that predate the Stonewall Riots.
These are both fascinating finds! I would be slapping on some white lint free gloves and reading all of this. I hope you can record the relationship with the proper group. It will be a great collection to have for history!
My head is absolutely spinning. I found out the school psychologist suspects Lucy has autism. Or is it "is autistic"? I'm not shocked, but it's a lot to process, you know?
AND THEN. I found out how much my sister and I will inherit from my aunt's IRA and just her bank account. It's like life changing money. Plenty for an addition and a new car for me. I'm overwhelmed AF and I don't know a thing about wills or timelines for this or anything. And my aunt owned her house outright. Also she probably had life insurance too. Fuckkkk dude.
I don't know where to even start with either thing.
First… breathe. Second speak to the school on your next steps. Then find a financial advisor. You got this. It may not be today, but you will take both of these items on and make it work.
And I am nodding along with your new found riches. I am in a similar situation. I am the sole heir to life changing estate. My mom was destitute and I paid her expenses many times. My dad does not have me in his will or assets. So getting money you don’t expect is overwhelming. We have a meeting with the estate attorney in a few months. My cousin is still living and we are getting everything together for when she is gone
Post by gretchenindisguise on Feb 8, 2023 21:20:42 GMT -5
@professorartnerd
I'm so happy for you re: the life changing money.
Take your time processing your daughter's new information. My guess is that with time, it'll help understand and make the path forward more clear than less.
My aunt stopped by to pack all of my moms dvds and cds. It was insane the number of duplicates she discovered.
I also donated about 7 regular sized bins full of yarn to a local craft place. They said they have a handful of ladies who knit and crochet and plan to use it to make blankets, mittens, and baby hats.
Paid to get shredded years of bank statements. Not too bad but still.
Threw away lots of things unopened Avon makeup, lotions etc. I kept any mail polish as I read unopened one may still be good.
Exhausted, but glad to be making progress.
Speaking of DVDs/CDs … trying to decide what the best way to go about getting rid of them. Donate? But it’s such a huge waste of money. Not sure if it’s worth bringing them to a resale shop. I looked up the most sought after cds and none of them are in my moms collection.
Speaking of DVDs/CDs … trying to decide what the best way to go about getting rid of them. Donate? But it’s such a huge waste of money. Not sure if it’s worth bringing them to a resale shop. I looked up the most sought after cds and none of them are in my moms collection.
Our library takes CDs and DVDs! Maybe hers/yours does too? Try to not think about the money aspect - it’s already spent, y’know?
Speaking of DVDs/CDs … trying to decide what the best way to go about getting rid of them. Donate? But it’s such a huge waste of money. Not sure if it’s worth bringing them to a resale shop. I looked up the most sought after cds and none of them are in my moms collection.
Our library takes CDs and DVDs! Maybe hers/yours does too? Try to not think about the money aspect - it’s already spent, y’know?
Ours does too - but only certain times of the year, like around their book sale but this is a great suggestion!