Post by expectantsteelerfan on Feb 8, 2023 8:17:20 GMT -5
Good luck Bernadine ,'s h and to you, I hope it all goes well.
I am not having a good morning. Dd came down this morning asking if she was signed up for camp this summer, and was NOT happy when I told her no, not yet, we hadn't even discussed it yet. Last year was the last year ds was eligible for this camp, so he and dd were signed up for the same week, and it was the 1st year dd had wanted to go, and we were all looking forward to them going (1 week sleep away YMCA camp). But dd broke her wrist the MORNING they were supposed to go and she ended up not going. We are considering looking for different camps they could both go to this year (although ds could apparently still go this year, but he would have to go for 2 weeks and it's way more expensive), but again, we haven't even really looked into anything yet. So anyway, while I'm trying to explain this to dd, I get a text from one of her friend's moms asking if dd and her friends can come over after school to work on their battle of the books stuff, and she see is, but I tell her no, she has dance, but that sets her OFF because dance is a touchy subject with her this year too. We accidentally scheduled our summer vacation to start on the day of her dance recital, so she is not going to be in the recital this year, which is a big deal, which I get, but we can't really do anything about it at this point. But every week, she complains about it. She normally loves dance, but any time there is any sort of conflict, I get the fact that she's missing the recital thrown back in my face. I have let her miss dance for anything major, but I'm not letting her just stop going for the rest of the year since she does want to keep doing dance next year, and you know, we've paid for the year and everything, and once she actually goes she does like it, she just makes it miserable for me any chance she gets.
Oh, and ds's math teacher is supposed to call me in about 15 min. to discuss his recommendation for his class placement for next year, and I hate talking to teachers on the phone. I wish he would just email me back.
Post by wanderingback on Feb 8, 2023 8:42:33 GMT -5
I was asked to be on a zoom panel today. It’s with a bunch of lawyers. Thank god for lawyers cause that is not the job for me! They also sometimes intimidate me lol but hopefully it goes well! Unfortunately I’ve had to learn/understand way more law stuff than I ever anticipated thanks to the crazy antis and republicans. Fuck them all!
Good luck to all of those that need it this morning!
I’m still coughing my head off…I really hope this z-pack helps me. Delsym (which is usually amazing for me) isn’t helping all that much, but at least the Theraflu night time drink is helping me sleep. I am such a baby when it comes to coughs. I would legitimately prefer full head congestion over having a cough. This is miserable. Eventually I will stop complaining about this, I swear.
Last night I went to run our garbage disposal and it just…didn’t work. I checked the outlet under the sink and when I went to wiggle the plug, the outlet sparked, so that’s great. Our dishwasher is also on that circuit and has been acting weird lately, so now we get to have an electrician come out today. It’s always something. Hopefully we just need the outlet replaced.
I asked DS to take the trash out this morning, but just to leave it right outside the door in the garage and I'd throw it in the bin (I had to walk right by the bin for another reason, so it just made sense). Well, I grab the bag awkwardly and quickly realized he did a terrible job tying it and garbage spilled all over the garage floor. I then proceeded to lose my shit on him and drove him to school silently. Now I'm at work almost in tears because I feel bad for losing my shit on him. Yay parenting.
Similar to expectantsteelerfan, we are having summer camp woes. C wants to go to the one she went to last year. It is $50 more expensive per week for 3 days than the one I want to send her to for 5 days. Ultimately I will just tell her no but, blah, it would be so much easier if she didn't have FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELINGS about it.
Our first counseling session last night was awesome. The counselor is great, I like his approach. He was all, 'you guys are in a great place, I feel really good about this.' and H is so receptive to it and it was nice hearing him talk about our relationship and what he loves about it, etc.
I am down to needing TWO things! And it's possible there could be more cards coming that I don't know about. I need to call the burger place to find out about a tee shirt, though.
God, I really don't want to think about summer camps yet. DD is doing online PE to get that out of the way for next school year so she'll be occupied for July, and then we're planning a couple weeks of vacation end of July into August, and then there's just a week of summer before school starts. But that still leaves the end of June and July to figure out for DS, or at least some of it since I don't want to make DD be in charge of him the whole time.
I'm in the office all week, most of it in full day reviews with other people, and I am OVER it and it's only Wednesday. It's so draining, and I'm really missing the flexibility telework gives me with DH OOT.
I've had a cold since Sunday and it doesn't seem to be getting better. It's a light day at work, so I'm taking a sick day. I was supposed to be on a work trip today, but wasn't able because MH has his own work trip and someone needed to stay at home with the kids. I'm kind of glad it was me since I'm feeling so gross!
It's DD's 12th birthday today!! Hard to believe she's already 12! I wish time would slow down.
DS is home from school today with a sore throat. Thankfully no fever or anything else, so he's just going to rest today.
I got confirmation from my upline that performance categories were all approved as submitted, so I'm excited that I'll get to share with my one employee who went above and beyond last year that he was rated as "Exceptional" for the year. It means he gets a higher merit increase, which is well deserved.
Part of my job involves preparing data and information for the HR Committee of the Board of Directors, and I'm just really thankful to have the CHRO and CEO we have. Both express great appreciation for the work that goes into what is shared with the HR Committee and are really easy-going in the preparation meetings.
Bernadine, hoping all goes well today for your H's surgery and recovery is smooth!
It's 100 day at DS' school so I will be volunteering during that activity time in his class. Then I go straight to work... in the library of his school. I love subbing at his school. The staff are over all great, I like being in the know about how DS is doing in school and it's fun getting paid to teach kids.
Good luck to you and your husband today Bernadine!
It’s a tough day as a volunteer. Already this morning I’ve attempted to smooth ruffled feathers from a contested election last night and I was also asked to complete an ADHD assessment for my rowdiest (and maybe also smartest) Girl Scout. I don’t get paid enough for this!
My H hasn't been able to fill his ADHD medication for like 2 weeks now because it's out of stock. He has kind of fallen apart productivity wise so it's very obvious what a difference the meds make for him. I feel bad for him but I am also so jealous. What he's experiencing now is every day for me! No meds work for me so I'm just flailing permanently.
I ushered Les Miserables last night and it was good but SO long. I really think they could cut some of the stuff and still have basically the same show. It was 2 hours and 58 minutes with intermission. As an usher, you're welcome to sit if there are leftover empty seats, but there weren't any so it was a LOT of standing. I got home at 11:30 so I'm definitely having a late start today.
I am so envious of all the people who have parents who aren’t bat shit crazy and are supportive of their kids and want to have great relationships with their grandchildren. My dad flipped his lid this week because of some financial stuff and thinks that we made my brother agree and he’ll get screwed - so all my fault. When in fact it was my brother WHO LIED and withheld info so that he could still get money from my dad. It’s ludicrous how my brother can never do anything wrong.
I hope it goes smoothly and you can dash out to get you some Rheb’s! I know it’s been worrying on you so you deserve a treat. I hope recovery goes well too.
I feel elderly complaining about this but I’m tired of online shopping increasingly being the default. I think it’s rippling out into all kinds of shopping. I keep finding less produce variety at the big grocery stores, more things being online only at Target or Michael’s/Joann that used to be pretty basic like knitting needles or toothpaste, even fewer sizes in shoe and clothing stores. It seems wasteful to have to have everything shipped directly to me. And time consuming. Now I have wait to get something then have to deal with customer service when I get the wrong thing followed by waiting for it to be sent out again instead of just being able to pick up the right contact solution in person when I need it.
I think there was a peak shopping time like 10 years ago where we could get really fun and varied things and basics in person and have good online options and now we are in the decline. Same with Google results and websites in general.
I am down to needing TWO things! And it's possible there could be more cards coming that I don't know about. I need to call the burger place to find out about a tee shirt, though.
Can you tell me about this? From the couple of posts I've seen, are you trying to get 50 things for your husband's 50th birthday? My husband also turns 50 this year and he does NOT want a party. Instead he's doing some bucket list items like going to the Daytona 500 and splurging on concert tickets for a two-night show from a band he's always wanted to see. Easy for me but I do want to make his actual birthday special in some way. Maybe this is an option, lol.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 8, 2023 10:12:24 GMT -5
I have spent all morning wondering why you are all just now looking at summer camp options instead of having your activities/childcare set up and shocked that these places even still have space. Yeah, that would be because you're in the northern hemisphere where it isn't currently the middle of summer. Never mind me!
I'll just be over here in my heatwave with my lack of AC trying not to melt.
D(6) is in 1st grade. The 'this color/toy etc is only for girls' is loud and strong among the kids. DS has been told his pink pants and water bottle with some pink on it are for girls. Some girls were refusing to let the boys play with the barbies at free choice time because barbies are only for girls (by DS' account). The conditioning starts so early. It makes me so sad. So far DS is standing strong because we're a colors/toys/clothes/books etc are for everyone family. It's like swimming up river.
I am down to needing TWO things! And it's possible there could be more cards coming that I don't know about. I need to call the burger place to find out about a tee shirt, though.
Can you tell me about this? From the couple of posts I've seen, are you trying to get 50 things for your husband's 50th birthday? My husband also turns 50 this year and he does NOT want a party. Instead he's doing some bucket list items like going to the Daytona 500 and splurging on concert tickets for a two-night show from a band he's always wanted to see. Easy for me but I do want to make his actual birthday special in some way. Maybe this is an option, lol.
Yes, I wanted to give him 50 things to open because, same, he didn't want a party or a fuss (and at the time we hadn't landed on going to his parents' house in FL for the actual birthday), but I wanted it to feel special. I thought of 5 or 6 main gifts, I sent an email to probably 20 or so friends of his asking them to send cards (I used a friend's address for collection) to help me out haha. I've got 11 of those that have arrived or are in the mail that I know of. And then I've tried to think of small, but not throwaway things, for the rest of them. His birthday is next Friday, we fly to FL on Wednesday, but I'm not schlepping all of this to FL so I'll give him almost all of the gifts on Tuesday evening. I'm saving #50 to take to FL, it's a portrait thing from PortraiMe that's kind of a "this is your life" collection of stuff so easy to travel with a good for a capstone gift lol.
ETA: I thought thinking of the 50 things was going to be the hardest part, but the tying of the ribbon and little numbered tags onto everything might be what does me in lol
I had my annual review yesterday and it went very well. I just reached my year anniversary in my job so this feels extra special. So happy to have the first year behind me. It was a new position with a new team. I also pivoted to a new field. So much ambiguity can be uncomfortable.
Anyways my supervisor approved my hybrid work schedule until June 2024 when we will revisit it again. I am THRILLED. To say being able to WFH has been life changing for me is an understatement. The flexibility has made me so much more happy and less stressed. I am grateful it continues to be supported. I will put up with a lot of shit if I can work from home a couple days a week lol. It is like 90% of the reason I am satisfied with my current job.
Post by gerberdaisy on Feb 8, 2023 10:51:47 GMT -5
Summer camp stress here too. First sign up was this morning and I at the last minute decided that we weren't doing it. 20 minute drive to the bus, hour bus ride to the camp, just too much. Also DD wants to do sleep over camp and need to cut somewhere. But now I'm nervous I won't get in to the other camps which has me stressed.
Can you tell me about this? From the couple of posts I've seen, are you trying to get 50 things for your husband's 50th birthday? My husband also turns 50 this year and he does NOT want a party. Instead he's doing some bucket list items like going to the Daytona 500 and splurging on concert tickets for a two-night show from a band he's always wanted to see. Easy for me but I do want to make his actual birthday special in some way. Maybe this is an option, lol.
Yes, I wanted to give him 50 things to open because, same, he didn't want a party or a fuss (and at the time we hadn't landed on going to his parents' house in FL for the actual birthday), but I wanted it to feel special. I thought of 5 or 6 main gifts, I sent an email to probably 20 or so friends of his asking them to send cards (I used a friend's address for collection) to help me out haha. I've got 11 of those that have arrived or are in the mail that I know of. And then I've tried to think of small, but not throwaway things, for the rest of them. His birthday is next Friday, we fly to FL on Wednesday, but I'm not schlepping all of this to FL so I'll give him almost all of the gifts on Tuesday evening. I'm saving #50 to take to FL, it's a portrait thing from PortraiMe that's kind of a "this is your life" collection of stuff so easy to travel with a good for a capstone gift lol.
ETA: I thought thinking of the 50 things was going to be the hardest part, but the tying of the ribbon and little numbered tags onto everything might be what does me in lol
Thanks! I think I am going to attempt this. I have until July.
D(6) is in 1st grade. The 'this color/toy etc is only for girls' is loud and strong among the kids. DS has been told his pink pants and water bottle with some pink on it are for girls. Some girls were refusing to let the boys play with the barbies at free choice time because barbies are only for girls (by DS' account). The conditioning starts so early. It makes me so sad. So far DS is standing strong because we're a colors/toys/clothes/books etc are for everyone family. It's like swimming up river.
I’ve always been vaguely disappointed in humanity, but it wasn’t until I had school-aged children and was exposed to many other goblins that I found out just how close-minded and old-fashioned/stereotypical/bigoted parenting peers gleefully raise their kids to be. They’re just perpetuating the next generation of Sean Hannity viewers.
Bernadine, thinking about you guys! I hope everything goes smoothly today.
tacokick, I’m with you! I don’t love shopping for clothes in person, but sometimes I just want to be able to go to a store to get something basic and there’s never anything decent anymore. It’s irritating.
macmars45, it makes me sad that he’s having that experience. I’ve actually been pleasantly surprised with my older one that he hasn’t been made fun of. He loves pink and always has pink or purple shoes. We paint his nails in those colors regularly. I can only recall one instance in which he came home and said a kid was being a jerk. We role played how to respond and he never let that kid bother him, but that’s the only time it’s happened. I wish your kid wasn’t dealing with this.