4speedy, all strength and good vibes to you. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
A man is walking up and down our street screaming at the top of his lungs. It’s scary and disturbing, but I don’t want to call the police for obvious reasons. I hope he settles down and is ok soon. I’ve seen him before and he generally carries on for a while and then calms down and wanders around or goes home.
4speedy I am so sorry this is happening to you. Holding you in the light and sending you strength.
DD2 and a friend made Irish potatoes yesterday. I gave them creative control but I asked that they please make SOME in reasonable potato shapes bc everyone loves to eat them. Did they? Nope. I came back I to the kitchen to sculptures of our dog, a few pieces of poop, and several snakes. Worse yet, when the stepdad came to pick up the friend he was SO excited for the potatoes - I hope he was OK with turd sized ones 🤣
4speedy, I'm so sorry. I hope your treatment is over quickly and wishing you good health.
I mentioned last week that we wanted to start leaving the dog out of the crate sometimes. We got a Wyze camera (thanks for the rec!) and it's amazing how well that works and how easy it is for just $35. We were able to watch him this morning while I drove my son to school and now I know he spends his time watching and waiting for me to come back. LOL Walking from the window to the door is still some exercise. It was very cute. I could see him sitting by the door as I was coming up the steps. I opened the door a crack and told him to go lay on his pillow and he did it right away. He goes crazy barking when we leave and come back, so it was really nice to leave and come back without any of that noise. It's bad for him and really bad for me! He was just wagging his little tail when I came in. Some dogs are less anxious when they're not restrained so this will be a nice way to experiment. I'll still keep him crated when we're gone for long periods, but sometimes I don't even want to run a short errand because it's such a scene leaving and returning. It will be great if we can fix that problem.
Ugh, I absolutely know better. My mom was a SUM when I was growing up, I've been at enough SU meetings and know the current SUMs well enough to get the full picture of the battiness of Council, and yet. I'm really 50/50 on whether I say yes at this point.
I would probably either do one or the other. If I wasn’t a troop leader, I’d have more time for the SU. If I wasn’t the SU manager, I’d have more time for my troop. It’s a lot to do both at the same time. My co is our SU treasurer, and she is also driving herself crazy doing too much, lol.
I wish our council would approach more people who aren’t already in a troop leader position to take over the SU.
Honestly the only reason I'm even considering it is because I know the leadership teams that I'd be joining and they're both great, and the S/A troop is very self-sufficient and the adult role there is pretty minimal. Still not convinced though.
4speedy I am so sorry this is happening to you. Holding you in the light and sending you strength.
DD2 and a friend made Irish potatoes yesterday. I gave them creative control but I asked that they please make SOME in reasonable potato shapes bc everyone loves to eat them. Did they? Nope. I came back I to the kitchen to sculptures of our dog, a few pieces of poop, and several snakes. Worse yet, when the stepdad came to pick up the friend he was SO excited for the potatoes - I hope he was OK with turd sized ones 🤣
Lucy made me a very special dick-shaped one. My mom would be horrified!
Tomorrow I have my first in-person interview for a perfect job with higher pay! I'm shocked and excited! It's for a small, local business and the requirements match exactly what I want to be doing for the past 8 years and beyond. It's more focused work than my previous job and I feel like I would thrive in this position.
I've been studying the company all weekend, they pride themselves on having this balance of being warm, personable, and inviting and really knowing their trade. They are not afraid to share best practices in a way to instill trust in potential customers. They produce podcasts and youtube videos which I LOVE. It's such a perfect fit, I hope I pull through.
Also, I've been brushing up on certain skill sets I know, but really need to get a refresher. I hope they take that initiative into account.
Am I missing anything? It's been almost a decade since I did an interview! I'm brushing up and practicing. I hope I don't forget anything. Oddly, I'm pretty calm about it. I've taken the mantra of whatever happens will be.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Mar 6, 2023 15:32:05 GMT -5
pdq - this is just a vent.
FIL passed away last year. He and MIL were apparently in financial disarray and things when you die in spain are crazy and shittastic (don’t die in spain yall). To settle the estate, it’s going to end up costing us about $10k. I’m going through all of the emotions - sad, angry, disappointed. It’s especially infuriating because for years, H has been suggesting they do some fiscally responsible things - they essentially told him to butt out he’s just a kid he knows nothing. And yet here we are - on the hook for their arrogance. Gaaaah.
gretchenindisguise - what happens if you just...don't? Like, do you or anyone else stand to benefit more than the cost to you? Surely people must die without someone to do that for them so then what?
ETA: Oops, I guess I did kind of breeze by the fact that MIL is still alive. My bad.
My husband was served his divorce papers today, so I gave him a "heads up" last night. His reaction was...unexpected. Cried, apologized, but didn't get angry or ask me to reconsider. He knew that the time was up. I'm feeling ALL of the feelings today, and I should have taken a mental health day from work because I've been having trouble concentrating.
Even after all the shit he's done and put me through, I feel TERRIBLE for how sad and depressed he is right now. But I remind myself it's probably sadness because I do EVERYTHING. My life will change very little but his is about to fall apart.
I have therapy tomorrow and a couple really great friends I've been leaning on so I'm doing ok, just ready to get this over with.
Given the weirdness of the laws, I'm actually not sure what happens if we refuse or if it's even a possibility. I imagine it would put the burden of our half on BIL and reduce our relationship with MIL even more, which even given this we don't want to do. We also don't want to increase BILs burden, who is in practically in the same position as us (though stands to want to live in the house eventually).
I appreciate the validation though that it's a lot.
Post by maudefindlay on Mar 6, 2023 16:26:05 GMT -5
amandakisser if you do everything for him your life should be improved even though you will still carry the weight of parenting. My cousin was so surprised at how much more money and energy she had after her divorce.
I put up my listing for a house sitter on Friday, and so far I've had 5 people save it, but no one has actually applied. And of the people who have saved it they are all not quite the right fit for various reasons (like, couple is travelling with their dog, and at least two others aren't actually available for the entire time we'll be gone).
So today I'm starting reach out to sitters I've found myself and like their profiles. It feels so awkward.
Also, on Saturday, my local SIL was like, "oh, I could always come and stay and watch the cat." Which, if she had offered before I'd already paid to sign up for the service we probably would have just accepted. But since we're already out $150 for the service, we're calling that plan B, since it's not exactly the most convenient setup for her. @@ She has our nephew at her own home (he's 18), plus a friend of nephew is also currently living with them, and they have at least 2 cats of their own.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Mar 6, 2023 17:12:22 GMT -5
PDQ
Miss R has been suspended a 4th time this semester (that started in early January) and this time its for 4 days. Why is SO FRIGGIN HARD to get mental health diagnosis and treatment for kids ?!? I'm at my wits end bc for 5 years I've been chasing a dx, dealing with the district & insurance companies, all to figure out what is 'wrong' with her and how to mitigate it.
Post by maudefindlay on Mar 6, 2023 17:36:35 GMT -5
pinkdutchtulips That sounds awful. You are trying to do what's best for her and where is the help? Please ignore if I'm overstepping, but is her pediatrician helping or have you changed pediatricians?
pinkdutchtulips That sounds awful. You are trying to do what's best for her and where is the help? Please ignore if I'm overstepping, but is her pediatrician helping or have you changed pediatricians?
I changed pedis back in January bc her prior one had no experience with ADHD kids. Her current one has the Vandy surveys that J&I completed along w 2 of her 7 teachers. We go over results on 3/22 which is the earliest appointment. It's just that its a painstaking SLOW process that's been hindered by Covid, changes in insurance carriers/coverage, pedis (in the 5 years we've been trying to get a dx she's been seen by no fewer than 4 pedis, one of whom retired) and I'm growing increasingly frustrated that all of these behavioral issues dating back to 3rd grade (she's now in 8th) have yet to be resolved.
It grates my nerves seeing parents suspect their kid has ADHD and it seems like they fill out the survey, the pedi reviews it, a dx is made and treatment starts all w/in a few months, not years.