DD is complaining about 2 boys in her class again and I'm just tired of it. One has issues with everyone and sounds like he just struggles in general. The other one is just a jerk with checked out parents. He has apparently been telling her "I don't fucking care" when he's bothering her and she tells him to stop because she's trying to work. She's in 5th grade; being cussed at shouldn't be something she has to put up with. I don't want her to sit in another conference trying to "work things out." There is nothing to work out. She's at school, minding her business and doing her work. This problem is solely his. I'm about ready to contact his parents though I know they are unlikely to do anything at all in response but maybe they will at least think I'm a PITA and tell him to stay away from her. I'm tired of dealing with this crap.
My other random is that I'm annoyed that some places having changed their covid 'call from the parking lot to check in' protocols even though they don't have any other covid precautions in place anymore. I had to take my dog to the vet for vaccines today. Their call from the parking lot to check in has never worked well because they only have 1 phone line, it's always busy when you try to call, so you wait in your car for a long time to even tell them you are there, then they send someone out to take your info, then you wait again till a room is available, then you bring your dog in, but it's not like anyone is wearing masks anymore in their office, then they send you back to your car and send someone out to take your payment (like, why can't I just pay while I'm inside?). I get that maybe having a bunch of animals together in one waiting room isn't ideal so staying in your car until the room is ready makes some sort of sense, but they need a better system after 3 years.
No waaaaay would I be putting up with this shit in the year of our lord 2023! OMG, no.
dochas roller skating lessons sound SO retro cool!
I mentioned my son was see.i g like he was trying to play sick this morning. I'm picking him up now and he came bounding out and asked if he could stay on the playground a while. Guess he's okay. LOL He's never played sick before!!
@wise_rita it is so cool. I had no idea there was a full on roller rink a pretty short drive away! My son's friend had herbirthday party there recently. Son wasn't really getting the hang of it and they had lessons starting so I signed him up. I was a little surprised he wanted to do it. You would not believe how many people are in the lessons, from 6 to 60+ years of age! They have a skate session after the lessons so I skate with him after and we get a snack. We love it, and I will savor the time I have with my 12 year old wanting to do weird things with me. LOL
Post by maudefindlay on Mar 9, 2023 15:01:26 GMT -5
redheadk I would tell the principal your daughter will no longer sit in sessions with this child as it sends the message she has fault in this situation and implies there is something she can be doing to make it stop when clearly she cannot. And then ask his/her plans to end this situation.
My other random is that I'm annoyed that some places having changed their covid 'call from the parking lot to check in' protocols even though they don't have any other covid precautions in place anymore. I had to take my dog to the vet for vaccines today. Their call from the parking lot to check in has never worked well because they only have 1 phone line, it's always busy when you try to call, so you wait in your car for a long time to even tell them you are there, then they send someone out to take your info, then you wait again till a room is available, then you bring your dog in, but it's not like anyone is wearing masks anymore in their office, then they send you back to your car and send someone out to take your payment (like, why can't I just pay while I'm inside?). I get that maybe having a bunch of animals together in one waiting room isn't ideal so staying in your car until the room is ready makes some sort of sense, but they need a better system after 3 years.
I think this would be enough to make me change vets. Not only is that incredibly annoying for patients, I can't imagine how much extra work it is for their staff!! Next time you go in, you should ask the vet if they plan on going back to the regular walk-in process and if they say no or they don't know, give them the feedback that it's incredibly inconvenient and time consuming and it's making you consider a change.
When we brought my dog in for suspected kennel cough, they had us wait in the car and call and then brought us in a side door so he wouldn't be around other dogs and that made total sense. But otherwise, this is crap!
My other random is that I'm annoyed that some places having changed their covid 'call from the parking lot to check in' protocols even though they don't have any other covid precautions in place anymore. I had to take my dog to the vet for vaccines today. Their call from the parking lot to check in has never worked well because they only have 1 phone line, it's always busy when you try to call, so you wait in your car for a long time to even tell them you are there, then they send someone out to take your info, then you wait again till a room is available, then you bring your dog in, but it's not like anyone is wearing masks anymore in their office, then they send you back to your car and send someone out to take your payment (like, why can't I just pay while I'm inside?). I get that maybe having a bunch of animals together in one waiting room isn't ideal so staying in your car until the room is ready makes some sort of sense, but they need a better system after 3 years.
I think this would be enough to make me change vets. Not only is that incredibly annoying for patients, I can't imagine how much extra work it is for their staff!! Next time you go in, you should ask the vet if they plan on going back to the regular walk-in process and if they say no or they don't know, give them the feedback that it's incredibly inconvenient and time consuming and it's making you consider a change.
When we brought my dog in for suspected kennel cough, they had us wait in the car and call and then brought us in a side door so he wouldn't be around other dogs and that made total sense. But otherwise, this is crap!
This is one situation where I'm not going to do anything but annoyingly complain to random internet strangers, because as stupid as I find this policy at this point, in our area, good vets are still IMPOSSIBLE to get into (like, years long wait lists for new patients when you ask) and the only places actually taking new patients are these huge warehouse clinic type places that have rotating doctors and really bad reviews. We've been with this vet forever (my current dogs are 6 and 3, but we also took our other dog there before she passed), and although the office staff makes me scratch my head, the actual vets and vet techs are WONDERFUL, know my dogs, and they do get us in for any emergent issues even though they are always super busy.
I just got home from the dentist and had a chipped tooth fixed, it was a tooth that they had been watching because it had an old filling in it so it was inevitable that something was going to be done to it. It wasn't bad but it didn't occur to me that they would numb it. It's always so strange when they numb an area on top - I feel like my lower eyelid is numb.
I'm over winter and snow - we're supposed to get a decent amount again tomorrow. I just hope kid still has dance class - it's been cancelled a few times already due to winter and it bums her out when they don't have it.
I had a call with a recruiter about a potential opportunity. It all sounded so great and something I would be interested in. Until she said: It's a 12-month contract. NO! My initial contact with her when we first connected on LinkedIn I was very clear I would only consider permanent roles. Ugh, what a letdown.
I get to see my niece tonight and her new boyfriend. Her 26th birthday was last week and we're meeting up with them for dinner. I love that she still wants to hang out with us.
DD is complaining about 2 boys in her class again and I'm just tired of it. One has issues with everyone and sounds like he just struggles in general. The other one is just a jerk with checked out parents. He has apparently been telling her "I don't fucking care" when he's bothering her and she tells him to stop because she's trying to work. She's in 5th grade; being cussed at shouldn't be something she has to put up with. I don't want her to sit in another conference trying to "work things out." There is nothing to work out. She's at school, minding her business and doing her work. This problem is solely his. I'm about ready to contact his parents though I know they are unlikely to do anything at all in response but maybe they will at least think I'm a PITA and tell him to stay away from her. I'm tired of dealing with this crap.
I'm so sorry. I'd put my foot down because it is not up to your daughter to play nice anymore.
DD is also dealing with problematic boys in her 5th grade class and it's so freaking annoying. Recent example: one boy in the class that always has to sit alone at a separate desk because he won't stop touching/pushing/talking to anyone near him. Yesterday he tried to go into the girl's bathroom (allegedly). So my daughter's teacher tasked her with supervising him to the bathroom, water fountain, etc for the rest of the year. UM, I'm sorry... what?!
redheadk I would tell the principal your daughter will no longer sit in sessions with this child as it sends the message she has fault in this situation and implies there is something she can be doing to make it stop when clearly she cannot. And then ask his/her plans to end this situation.
For sure. DD is also really outspoken and has zero poker face. She is not one to stand meekly by or not stand up for herself. But I don't want her to always feel like she has to, school shouldn't have to be a battle just to complete her work uninterrupted by kids who are avoiding work. She loves learning and resents the constant disruptions. I hear about it daily, which is wearing on me. I'm glad she is passionate about school but I wish she could ignore/tune out some of this a little better.
I know they (the teachers and admin) are working on it; this kid has had behavior issues for years and there is little support from home. This is definitely an area the school could do better in (pervasive, ongoing low-level disruptive behavior) but I know it's hard and the options for responding to this sort of thing aren't great.
Booo he didn't get in to our top choice and although he got in to the second choice, we didn't get any financial aid so it's not an option
I'm sorry Will he have to continue at your neighborhood school? Has that gotten any better? I think the last I saw, they were having trouble wrapping their mind around him being twice exceptional (which, hello, where have they been the last 20 years?).
If it makes you feel any better DD is taking H to see Rick Wakeman (from YES). I used this as my birthday gift. I told H all I wanted for my birthday was not to go to that show. Not enough drugs in the world.
Booo he didn't get in to our top choice and although he got in to the second choice, we didn't get any financial aid so it's not an option
I'm sorry Will he have to continue at your neighborhood school? Has that gotten any better? I think the last I saw, they were having trouble wrapping their mind around him being twice exceptional (which, hello, where have they been the last 20 years?).
He can stay at his school for 2 more years. For some reason the district starts their GT programs in 4th so thats why we were applying this year. The school itself is great at accommodating his 2E needs but he is starting to get far enough ahead in everything but math that he is getting bored.
Its the district that can't wrap their damn heads around 2E kids! Curse of a large district I guess
Booo he didn't get in to our top choice and although he got in to the second choice, we didn't get any financial aid so it's not an option
I’m sorry. Any updates on the lawyer situation?
He didn't get into the GT school. There are 4 components to admissions testing and he knocked 2 of them out of the park. The other 2 (from testing) are so crazy low you wouldn't think it was the right kid. We have escalated as high as we can within the district and now have to get a lawyer if we want to go any further =( DH is really against it since his dad (not an ED lawyer but a lawyer) did some research and confirms that most people who pursue legal action against a school for something like this rarely win. Since its so expensive to do so and our odds are so low I don't think we will do anything more =(
He didn't get into the GT school. There are 4 components to admissions testing and he knocked 2 of them out of the park. The other 2 (from testing) are so crazy low you wouldn't think it was the right kid. We have escalated as high as we can within the district and now have to get a lawyer if we want to go any further =( DH is really against it since his dad (not an ED lawyer but a lawyer) did some research and confirms that most people who pursue legal action against a school for something like this rarely win. Since its so expensive to do so and our odds are so low I don't think we will do anything more =(
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Mar 9, 2023 19:50:50 GMT -5
My gpa who turned 100 last month has taken a steep decline healthwise. Today we got word from my aunt that it's time to start saying goodbyes - no easy feat with family spread coast to coast. We were able to coordinate a video call w my siblings across 3 time zones (Michigan, Wyoming, California) on super short notice. He perked up when he saw us + some stray great grandkids (Miss R joined the call!!). We could all tell that his time with us is running out FAST !!
Of course this is churning up all kinds of emotions with my siblings and I as we didn't have this opportunity with our mom. One day she was fine, the next gone.
Miss R wanted to drive down to LA this weekend to see him but we just can't swing that right now. She brought up the excellent point that we were denied this chance w grammie liz (my mom) to say goodbye in person but as I had to explain, a video call is just as good. So ironically she who constantly butts heads with me, for a second, became the voice of reason.
My gpa who turned 100 last month has taken a steep decline healthwise. Today we got word from my aunt that it's time to start saying goodbyes - no easy feat with family spread coast to coast. We were able to coordinate a video call w my siblings across 3 time zones (Michigan, Wyoming, California) on super short notice. He perked up when he saw us + some stray great grandkids (Miss R joined the call!!). We could all tell that his time with us is running out FAST !!
Of course this is churning up all kinds of emotions with my siblings and I as we didn't have this opportunity with our mom. One day she was fine, the next gone.
Miss R wanted to drive down to LA this weekend to see him but we just can't swing that right now. She brought up the excellent point that we were denied this chance w grammie liz (my mom) to say goodbye in person but as I had to explain, a video call is just as good. So ironically she who constantly butts heads with me, for a second, became the voice of reason.
Sorry to hear. My nearly 101 grandma has stopped eating and will be going on hospice tomorrow. She's long been ready to go, but still sad. My grandpa's been gone nearly 11 years to the month.
[mention]redheadk [/mention] my son is dealing with something similar with a girl in his class. She invades his personal space constantly, calls him fat/dumb/ugly, curses at him, makes fun of his glasses and his speech delay. Last week another classmate stood up for him, and this girl told her she was going to bring a knife to school and kill her. The school is refusing to do anything. My son comes home in tears at least once a week.
I think I have pink eye. I’ve been trying new contacts and today my one eye was bothering me all day. I even went out at lunch to buy drops. My eyes were clear all day, so I didn’t think much of it. Then I took my contacts out when I got home and they’ve been painful and crusty ever since. DH said the one looks pretty red. I’m going to try urgent care first thing tomorrow and hopefully make it in to work later. Ugh, I hate pink eye!
[mention]redheadk [/mention] my son is dealing with something similar with a girl in his class. She invades his personal space constantly, calls him fat/dumb/ugly, curses at him, makes fun of his glasses and his speech delay. Last week another classmate stood up for him, and this girl told her she was going to bring a knife to school and kill her. The school is refusing to do anything. My son comes home in tears at least once a week.
Whoa, that is awful. Do you know how to file a bullying report in your district? All of that is bullying. Here, the school has to investigate after each one and as they hit certain thresholds, more eyes are put on the situation. I would 100% escalate the knife threat over the principal's head if nothing was done about it.
Thankfully, the teachers and admin are very supportive in our case but the low level yet constant stuff is difficult to squash because individual incidents don't really warrant significant action, it's their frequency and intensity that do. There are 2 boys we deal with, one bothers DD more personally but seems to have serious impulse control issues all around, doesn't get along with most classmates, struggles academically, etc. So I know things are hard at school for him. That doesn't make it okay for him to personally target DD, though. Thankfully he is primarily one who just commits crimes of opportunity so I requested that he simply be moved away from DD in all classes and the teachers were more than happy to honor that. I talk a lot with DD about being compassionate to his struggles, differentiating between behavior that she finds annoying/frustrating that is not directed at her vs behavior/actions that ARE directed at her.
The other boy, the one who is cursing at DD, has a significant history of more serious behaviors, including threatening to bring a gun to school to kill a classmate in 3rd grade. Specifically a hand gun because a shot gun won't fit in his backpack. His parents just said that he didn't have access to their guns. Our old assistant principal told the parent of the kid who was threatened that this kid was just being silly. No ma'am. The mom (my close friend) escalated that right to the top and the AP was forced to complete all of the appropriate paperwork and provide the threatened kids mom with a copy of the report with private info redacted. Our current AP is actually really good with discipline but the number of kids in the grade with pervasive low level disruptive behaviors is overwhelming. To be clear, I have no expectation that kids won't cuss in 5th grade but saying "oh shit" because you kicked the ball out of bounds and cussing AT someone in the classroom are very different situations.
aspentosh, that's so frustrating. I'd be annoyed, too, but I can see how/why it happened. I know our teachers are overwhelmed with behavior problems. Asking a kid to monitor isn't great, though.
I'm sorry Will he have to continue at your neighborhood school? Has that gotten any better? I think the last I saw, they were having trouble wrapping their mind around him being twice exceptional (which, hello, where have they been the last 20 years?).
He can stay at his school for 2 more years. For some reason the district starts their GT programs in 4th so thats why we were applying this year. The school itself is great at accommodating his 2E needs but he is starting to get far enough ahead in everything but math that he is getting bored.
Its the district that can't wrap their damn heads around 2E kids! Curse of a large district I guess
Is he allowed to apply again or are there matriculation points? I'm sorry That's all so frustrating and unfair to him.