I feel like we didn’t start kissing them on the lips, but at some point we did, but now don’t again. Definitely more top of head or cheek to cheek kisses. But it doesn’t bother me when other people do it.
What DID bother me was a few weeks ago, FIL saying hello to me (hadn’t seen him in two years), coming at me with his hands out to place on my cheeks so I couldn’t even redirect my face. It was so incredibly uncomfortable especially since we were at a sports facility minutes before a volleyball match was starting, so a lot of people around.
Germs? I've been told it's how kids get cavities. So we don't. Lots of hugs and kisses but not on the lips.
I understand why some people don’t do it, but people get really weird about it.
I vividly remember Stella talking about how sexual kissing on the lips is, and that should be reserved for sexual encounters only…and lots of women agreed.
There’s a name I haven’t seen written in awhile. She’s probably spearheading her town’s book ban.
Post by sometimesrunner on Mar 24, 2023 20:15:18 GMT -5
We kissed both kids on the lips as babies/toddlers/preschoolers. DS is 10 and we stopped kissing on the lips awhile ago. DD is 6 and still does with me, but only sometimes does with H.
Nope. DH grew up that way, and it creeps me out. I know there's nothing actually wrong with it, but because of past abuse, it's not something I'm personally comfortable with.
DS insists on lip kisses when I say goodnight, so yes. He is almost 5, it’s not going to last forever but as long as they ask for them we will. It’s not something H or I started, no idea where he got it from lol.
I don’t have kids. I grew up with a very affectionate family, but no lip kissing. I don’t think it’s gross or sexual, but it just seems unnecessary to me.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
I have to lol at the "no because cavities." Do you also never share food/forks/a sip from a cup? I honestly don't have strong feelings on it either way but that seems like a bizarre rationale. "I'd rather not" is an ok answer.
With my kids, they take the lead because I really don't care. My son stopped somewhere around...6? My daughter is 5 and I feel like she will forever lip kiss, lol.
When I was a kid (I can't remember how old but based on the house we were in it would have been 8 at the earliest), my dad told me I had to stop kissing him on the lips and I do remember it hurt my feelings. Not like soul crushing wounded, lol, but I was definitely sad and I think I felt like he thought I was gross or something. I'd be willing to bet the delivery had something to do with it since he didn't think it was a big deal.
I have to lol at the "no because cavities." Do you also never share food/forks/a sip from a cup? I honestly don't have strong feelings on it either way but that seems like a bizarre rationale. "I'd rather not" is an ok answer.
I didn't say this, but I do try really hard to not share any of these things. Idk if it's the only child in me, but anything that touches saliva kind of grosses me out. We all have our own water bottles and I hate when I have to share that or food lol.
I never did when they were babies, and then when they became toddlers and learned to kiss, they would often go for the lips and I didn't stop them. They were kissing, and it was so cute, I didn't want to meddle by telling them how to do it.
Now that they're older (8 and 5), I never intentionally kiss them on the lips - I go for the cheek or forehead - but they sometimes move with purpose to catch my lips! I'm afraid I'm going to hurt their feelings if I tell them not to kiss me on the lips, but I'm really ok with my only lip-kissing being reserved for my H.
How weird or unkind is it for me to tell my children how to kiss me?? Anyone here scarred as a child from that conversation? lol
I think it’s fine to have the conversation. I think I was about 8 years old when I tried to kiss my dad on the lips and he told me that he’d prefer a cheek kiss because lip kisses are how him and my mom kiss. I said ok and definitely wasn’t scarred! No clue why all of a sudden at age 8 I decided I wanted to do lip kisses. Plus I have a horrible memory from young childhood but I remember that! So I definitely wasn’t scarred.
I have to lol at the "no because cavities." Do you also never share food/forks/a sip from a cup? I honestly don't have strong feelings on it either way but that seems like a bizarre rationale. "I'd rather not" is an ok answer.
With my kids, they take the lead because I really don't care. My son stopped somewhere around...6? My daughter is 5 and I feel like she will forever lip kiss, lol.
When I was a kid (I can't remember how old but based on the house we were in it would have been 8 at the earliest), my dad told me I had to stop kissing him on the lips and I do remember it hurt my feelings. Not like soul crushing wounded, lol, but I was definitely sad and I think I felt like he thought I was gross or something. I'd be willing to bet the delivery had something to do with it since he didn't think it was a big deal.
I know lots of people that don’t share food or cups within their family. Doesn’t seem too weird to me! Right now we’re at the stage where we kiss the baby a million times a day and she isn’t eating yet so obviously no sharing food. But I do think if someone does want to minimize risk of herpes transmission for example by kissing on the cheeks only multiple times per day yet still occasionally shares food or drink, that’s fine.
Yeah. Not really anymore since he's 14, but he did kiss me on the lips the other day and it was very out of place. I think he was on autopilot from when he was little or something, lol.
Post by morecoffeeplease on Mar 25, 2023 11:05:02 GMT -5
I kiss my 10 year old on the cheek and lips depending. I don’t kiss my 8 year old on the lips. He is not a physical touch kid at all while my older one is.
I don’t but I’m also think kids are germ factories and won’t eat or drink after them. I learned my lesson when my oldest was about 3yo and we were sharing a drink; I got a mouthful of chunky backwash. Never again, lol.
No judgement for those that do. It’s just not for me.
I have to lol at the "no because cavities." Do you also never share food/forks/a sip from a cup? I honestly don't have strong feelings on it either way but that seems like a bizarre rationale. "I'd rather not" is an ok answer.
With my kids, they take the lead because I really don't care. My son stopped somewhere around...6? My daughter is 5 and I feel like she will forever lip kiss, lol.
When I was a kid (I can't remember how old but based on the house we were in it would have been 8 at the earliest), my dad told me I had to stop kissing him on the lips and I do remember it hurt my feelings. Not like soul crushing wounded, lol, but I was definitely sad and I think I felt like he thought I was gross or something. I'd be willing to bet the delivery had something to do with it since he didn't think it was a big deal.
I know lots of people that don’t share food or cups within their family. Doesn’t seem too weird to me! Right now we’re at the stage where we kiss the baby a million times a day and she isn’t eating yet so obviously no sharing food. But I do think if someone does want to minimize risk of herpes transmission for example by kissing on the cheeks only multiple times per day yet still occasionally shares food or drink, that’s fine.
Right but their reasons are likely not related to cavities. It just struck me as a funny primary reason not to kiss on the mouth specifically, not "no, I don't like the sharing of germs just like we don't share cups etc." I'm all for people doing whatever makes them feel good with their mouths at every level, lol.
Post by tarzanswife on Mar 25, 2023 12:22:29 GMT -5
When they were younger, absolutely. Now that they are 14, 19 and 21, absolutely not. More to protect the inevitable head turn, "your being cringe mom" behavior that would hurt my feelings.
I have to lol at the "no because cavities." Do you also never share food/forks/a sip from a cup? I honestly don't have strong feelings on it either way but that seems like a bizarre rationale. "I'd rather not" is an ok answer.
With my kids, they take the lead because I really don't care. My son stopped somewhere around...6? My daughter is 5 and I feel like she will forever lip kiss, lol.
When I was a kid (I can't remember how old but based on the house we were in it would have been 8 at the earliest), my dad told me I had to stop kissing him on the lips and I do remember it hurt my feelings. Not like soul crushing wounded, lol, but I was definitely sad and I think I felt like he thought I was gross or something. I'd be willing to bet the delivery had something to do with it since he didn't think it was a big deal.
Post by CrazyLucky on Mar 27, 2023 11:00:33 GMT -5
As long as we're at home, 12 year DS has no issue with a kiss on the lips. 10 year old DD wants nothing to do with kisses ever but sometimes allows me to kiss her belly. One time.
my kid is 5 and still, blessedly, lets me kiss him on the lips. It is totally normal and not weird at all to me. I am already sad thinking ahead to when he is too grown for this (I imagine in the next year or so.)
Post by Queen Mamadala on Mar 27, 2023 12:43:22 GMT -5
When they were babies and toddlers. The older kids outgrew it by school-age. My 5-year-old still gives me lip kisses. My 18-year-old will pucker their lips and make kissy sounds to me and my 5-year-old. They do it fairly regularly.