I know some people share a vehicle, but if you both have a vehicle that’s primarily yours, would you allow your SO to drive it?
H was talking to a coworker yesterday and CW mentioned that his truck has 160k miles on it (it’s a 2020). H commented that was a lot and CW said that they take his vehicle everywhere because his wife refuses to drive when they go places or on road trips and she won’t let him drive her vehicle. Nothing specific happened (like an accident)- she just doesn’t let him. So his vehicle has high miles and hers has barely any (which is also a source of contention I guess because he wants a new vehicle). They don’t keep separate finances.
H drives my car almost exclusively if we are going somewhere together. We almost always take my car because I drive far few miles for work and also, I HATE driving, so he does it.
But I also drive his truck, too. We have our "own" cars but are fine letting each other drive them.*
*I hate that my H turns off my lane assist, though, and never remembers to turn it back on, lol.
Post by lilypad1126 on Apr 25, 2023 7:58:37 GMT -5
Yes. We rarely ever drive each others cars but absolutely we’d let each other. I do most of our together driving bc I like to drive and H is easily distracted plus I have a newer “nicer” car. By nicer I mean, mine has all the bells and whistles and he has a super basic economy car.
But we’d absolutely drive each others if it was needed with no hesitation.
Yes because if we are together I make him drive 95% of the time regardless of which vehicle we are in.
ETA: I also drive his vehicle regularly if he is out of town or needs to drive my car/his truck for a specific reason. His is the most fuel efficient so we try to have whoever is doing the most driving that day drive it which 9/10 times is him but if the car is available then I will drive it.
While we each have the vehicle we primarily drive we can both drive whatever vehicle. I never drive H's primary car though because I hate it - I don't even really like riding in it. We have an "extra" vehicle as well that H usually drives on the weekends but I could drive it whenever. In fact - right now my truck is in the body shop thanks to being hit in the parking ramp at work so I'm driving the "extra".
Post by steamboat185 on Apr 25, 2023 8:01:43 GMT -5
My 2004 Ford Escape only has 130k miles. Where is this guy going?
We have primary cars, but we trade a lot. My car is pretty terrible in the snow so we use the other car for skiing. The idea of never letting anyone drive my car seems (even on road trips) seems very petty.
Of course. He mostly drives my car to put gas in it so I don’t have to. No way do I wish to stop him from doing my most hated chore!
This is the best! I went 6 months without having to get gas because the timing just worked out that H filled it up when needed. I hated to end that run of good luck LOL
Yes, we drive each other's cars. He drives mine more than I drive his - his is too big for me and I have the worst time parking. We take his car and split the driving on longer trips since it's bigger and we are usually transporting golf clubs and bikes on those trips.
Yes. I’ve never even considered otherwise. The only annoying thing was moving the seats and mirrors back and since we’ve gotten newer cars that’s not an issue with the driver memory settings.
Yes, and we can drive each other’s as needed. If we take his, he usually drives. However, mine is the general choice if we go somewhere, and he’s a little bit Miss Daisy and doesn’t mind at all being driven around. LOL
Yes he drives my car. He is half owner so can't say no anyway. which I wouldn't.
I do get pretty annoyed if he leaves fast food trash. I hate the smell of food in there and my husband is a fast food junkie.
He is pretty respectful about it. I still "remind" aka lecture him if he leaves it which probably annoys him but if he didn’t leave his shit in my car and I wont need to say anything. 🤣🤣
Post by fortnightlily on Apr 25, 2023 8:12:17 GMT -5
Yes. We prefer our own but don't have any issues letting the other drive it, whether the other is also in the car or not. Most of the time if we're both in either car he's the one driving it. But, we also both have good driving records. If one has a history of accidents or careless dings I could see someone being more protective of their own vehicle.
I drive if we go places together except when we’re pulling our trailer. I would drive then though too but he likes to so he does. But like others have said, H will go get my car washed or the oil changed. I’m not giving that up! Hs CW said he didn’t even get to ride in it for the test drive. He waited at the dealer. Wow.
Yes, especially when he's out of town I'll drive his car frequently because it's newer and it lets me put off putting gas in either car as long as possible. He'll drive mine if he needs more cargo space (mine is a small SUV, his is a hatchback).
DH has an SUV and I have an Accord. Whenever we are doing family things that don't require luggage or space for the dog, we take my car because I get about 2x gas mileage. When we are both in my car, the driving is pretty well split 50/50.
I used to work 45 miles from home, and thought I put a lot of miles on my car, about 35k/yr. This guys is more like 50k/year! I'd be annoyed too.
Yes, we switch up cars based on whatever we are doing. I drive our minivan 99% of the time because the kids are with me, H has a nicer car because he has client meetings. I rarely use his car, but if I needed to he wouldn't care.
Yes. DH loves his car and drives it whenever possible, but we swap when he goes camping because his car can't tow the camper.
I also love driving his car, but I need a 3rd row because I'm often carpooling.
I don't like that he has to mess with my seat, steering wheel, etc., and doesn't put anything back. In his car we each have preprogrammed settings, so I just select my profile when I drive it.
My car has typically been the family car for logistical reasons. We just got a new car, so it is currently my baby so I'm driving it a lot more than he does.
I don't drive his car very often, but I can drive it. I just really don't like driving it very much. Plus, his car is much messier than mine, so I rarely even want to go in there.
Yes, we both drive each other’s as needed. I’m curious about the coworker’s wife’s reasoning. Why is my brain assuming he leaves fast food crumbs and stray French fries and she’s tired of cleaning up after him? lol.
Oooo this is a sore spot on our house. We have my little hybrid and H’s full size truck. So, he prefers to run errands in my vehicle for gas reasons. But, I actually took his keys away a few months ago because he kept leaving it unlocked on the street. I kind of hate him driving my car for selfish reasons. And, we are passed the locking argument, and he is driving it sometimes again.
Yes, I have a SUV, DH has a truck, so we typically take my car on weekends because it's easier. Also, mine is older, so I would rather put the miles on my car.
I've driven DH's truck, but it's not my favorite because of its size.
My dad is partially blind in one eye. My mom won't let him drive her car because she doesn't want him to hit anything. It's kind of a running joke, but even my dad knows he's not the best driver. He also only drives during the day.
He drives mine sometimes because I drive the SUV and he needs it sometimes. I reluctantly agree to it when he needs the bigger car.
We had a bit of an argument for a while because he just randomly decided he wanted to use my car as his errand car and for random outings of his choosing. Um...no. It boiled down to him not wanting to put too many miles on his precious car and that since my car was cheaper, I should be okay with this. He was genuinely baffled about why I wasn't okay with this, since my car was cheaper to purchase and somewhat cheaper to own and maintain. Well just because my car isn't as fancy, doesn't mean I want a bunch of extra miles on it that would make it get older faster. Plus, he always messes with some setting, like I'll get in and he'll have switched off the auto headlights, or accidentally bumped it so the high beams are on, or changed all the AC settings so I have to redo them when I start the car, or any other number of things that only he can manage to do and have no awareness of doing it. It drives me crazy.
H’s car is a typical work vehicle - full of tools and dirty. Neither of us drive it if he isn’t going to work. My car is our family car so I drive it to work, but h and I share at all other times. Very occasionally we’ll need to go somewhere at the same time and H will drive his work car on the weekend, but we try to avoid it.
Nothing we own is off limits to the other person. H has things I never use, but I’m not expressly forbidden from them.
H didn’t know the reason, but he said it’s been that way in their entire 22 year marriage. They drive to CO to go skiing a lot plus their DD goes to college in GA and their son is in WA or OR. I can’t imagine the cost of gas for all that driving either. She drives a little SUV so it would be way cheaper. She doesn’t like to fly. Lol