remember my co-worker whose BF hadn't said I Love

[GibsonGirl128]

(Hey, ProBoards, can you make the subject lines a little longer? Thanxbunches)

Remember my co-worker whose BF hadn't said I Love You after like 7 months together?

They just hit 9 months last week, and he STILL hasn't said it.

And she STILL refuses to say it first.

He's been looking at houses to buy and live in for a while as he's fixing them up, and the house he has his eye on is a 1 bedroom that's smaller than the apartment he lives in (which I think she said is only about 800-900sq ft). He plans on living in it for a year or two and then flipping it. That's awfully small for 2 people. But then again, she still doesn't even leave any stuff at his apartment (not so much as a toothbrush), so judging from this time frame, I don't think they're going to be living together anytime in the next 10 years so it's probably not even an issue.

I'm puzzled as to how this relationship still exists, really.

[doriswe]

Turn to co-worker and say "honey, he's just not that into you".

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May 18, 2012 19:09:54 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Turn to co-worker and say "honey, he's just not that into you".

Pretty much this. I think he is just filling time until something else comes along.

[GibsonGirl128]

No, I don't think so. He's the one that pursued her. He acts like he truly cares about her, is very attentive. It doesn't seem like he's just biding his time at all.

She says that growing up, showing emotion was a no no in his house. Says they weren't affectionate at all. She says it took her a long time to get him to cuddle with her and talk about his feelings.

I think he's just broken.

[imalwaysme79]

May 18, 2012 19:32:32 GMT -5 GibsonGirl128 said:

No, I don't think so. He's the one that pursued her. He acts like he truly cares about her, is very attentive. It doesn't seem like he's just biding his time at all.

She says that growing up, showing emotion was a no no in his house. Says they weren't affectionate at all. She says it took her a long time to get him to cuddle with her and talk about his feelings.

I think he's just broken.

I also grew up in a non-affectionate home, because so did my mom. That's how I was raised. Sure we got the kisses here and there, but not the smoochy cuddly huggy I love you all over the place. My exH had a huge problem with this, because I never said "I love you" first on the phone. We never did it growing up, and I continued that pattern into my relationship. One day, he actually sat down with my mom, and my mom told him all of these things, and it helped him understand a little bit more, and was a little more forgiving, but at the same time I also tried to work on it from my end. To this day, with my sisters or parents, we don't say I love you on the phone, and I know most people I know do. I am however, a very cuddly huggy person, just not the I love yous.

I still think it's odd to be in a relationship with someone for that long to not say it, and then to be looking at places to live that seems pretty obvious it's not for 2 people seems quite odd to me.

[GibsonGirl128]

She's happy, but she's constantly lamenting how he hasn't said I Love You yet, lol