Propositioning a fwb

[5kg8rgirl]

For those of you that have had this arrangement, how did it begin? I am seeing a few people, but no one serious. I have made out with a few, but haven't had sex with them. I just stopped seeing one guy bc neither of us saw it working out long term and I am in no mood for a serious relationship. However, we had great physical chemistry. I have never had a fwb, but think in this case it would be perfect. neither of us is attached to the other but he is fun and cool and insanely hot. We still text a lot. I would kind of like to suggest it, but don't know what to say. Any suggestions?

[5kg8rgirl]

Sept 25, 2012 19:58:45 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

I found my FWB online (match) and it ended up me saying something like, "I'm not ready for a serious relationship but am super attracted to you, would it be weird if we just hooked up?" You need to be blunt and keep things clear. Once boundaries get crossed and lines blur, feelings can get hurt easily.

Just an example of how we keep things clear: Recently FWB and I have been hanging out more as friends and without sex. One day, we had plans for dinner and he called and said, "Listen, we haven't had sex in a while. Are we just friends now or are we still hooking up? I'm really horny and want more than just chicken parm tonight" We had dinner and scratched an itch. We've hung out since as just friends (we're both dating around) and the lines are clear again.

Thanks, this is also a guy I met on match. We went on like 6 dates over the coarse of a month. At first it seemed like the start of a relationship, but we want completely different things out of life, so it wasn't going to work and I don't want a boyfriend right now. But, damn he is hot.

[jojoandleo]

Invite him over to "watch a movie" That's how it worked back in 2007, anyway.

[lookingup]

I agree that you have to be straight up. Just be honest; I doubt you'll get turned down.

[BlueBayou]

Sept 25, 2012 23:16:03 GMT -5 lookingup said:

I agree that you have to be straight up. Just be honest; I doubt you'll get turned down.

This totally. :Y: Just be very clear and keep to it. Carpe diem and get some! Im betting he will be jumping on it.

[roselis]

Just be straight up honest.
FWB1: We had been flirting all night and at one point I asked him to stay the night (we were at my house with friends). He did and we hooked up. We did talk about how we did not want a relationship afterwards.

FWB2: He was an ex of a friend so we were friends already. One night at a party he told me that he was attracted to me and kissed me. We made out. The next day we talked and I told him I was not ready for a relationship. He told me that he didn't want one either. We hooked up a few times after that.

As long as you are very clear and up front about it, there shouldn't be issues.