Post by mustardseed2007 on Jul 31, 2023 8:05:21 GMT -5
Happy Monday! First day back after vacation and my kids were going to vacation bible school with my sister. My sister is the minister running the camp. My son is supposed to be volunteering in a classroom and also performing during the skits as the puppet thing. Instead he threw up in my sister's car on the way there.
So I'm pretty sure she's never going to speak to me again and it sure as heck is Monday.
Great weekend. Floated on the lake all day Saturday which was relaxing. Sunday ended up being a nice afternoon, so we sat out and grilled some burgers.
Dd was a mess this weekend. She's in a spat because her BFF seems to go after anyone who expressed interest in dd. The BFF is very outgoing and seems to always have something going with a few boys, while dd is more reserved. This on top of now starting to get nervous about leaving for college sent her into a funk yesterday which sequestered her in the basement binge watch One Tree Hill. She saw the Barbie movie and it inspired her to briefly to be more confident. So she wants to go back. So I may be seeing the Barbie movie this week.
I had posted already that Friday was school shopping and organization. While DS originally tried to claim we had everything and cross a lot of things off his list before we left for the store, and forgot his list at home on purpose. Once we were in the store he did a great job finding everything in half the time of his sister. Then we came home, and were organizing and he helped do that too. Progress!
Saturday I worked. I brought home the Dungeons and Dragons movie, so we watched that Saturday night. Sunday, I lounged until noon. DS cooked waffles and cooked lunch which was grilled chicken sandwiches. DH and I are implementing our weekly financial meetings, and that went well. Then DD and I went shopping. The neighbors had a party, and then asked DD to stay the night.
I have a lovely friend I’ve had since high school. She’s in town visiting her mom, and we are having dinner tonight with my BFF. I’ve known BFF since we were 12 and lovely friend since we were 14. I’m kind of dreading it. Lovely Friend is very much on the spectrum. Like WAAAAYYYY on the spectrum. And she has no idea. So picture an extremely beautiful female version of Sheldon. She’s a physician but has never had a full time position. She has an unhappy marriage where she’s just waiting for the guy to hurry up and die (he’s older than she is by quite a lot and has had prostate cancer already) because he has a great retirement nest egg sitting there. She comes from a “holy shit” level rich family, so it’s not like she’d starve if she left his horrible ass. And she’s just incredibly awkward. I do love her, I swear. But every time we meet, I’m left thinking she just desperately needs therapy and a diagnosis. She makes me feel so hopeless, especially since DS is on the spectrum and has a crazy high IQ like LF does. Is he going to be in a terrible relationship because he’s afraid otherwise he won’t have a relationship at all? Will he always be under-employed because learning new things and adapting seems too big and overwhelming and scary?
Plus I have meetings Tuesday and Wednesday that are super important but all day. In our offices almost an hour away. With dinners both nights. So we are talking 13+ hours of peopling two days in a row. I don’t need my emotional energy to be sucked out tonight.
Saturday was a fun day. DD and I went to a 3 hour taekwondo seminar with a guest instructor. We learned some extreme martial arts skills, including some cool kicks. Then DD and I were sparring partners for the second part of the seminar. I am really impressed with DD's skills. She has come so far with her confidence and technical skills. And I love that I get to watch it happen. So Sunday was spent recovering from Saturday. We met my parents at the mall to do a little back-to-school shopping and also get gift ideas for DS1 since his birthday is tomorrow. Today started with my PT jabbing needles in my arm just below my elbow. He was doing dry needling to help relieve my radial tunnel syndrome. It is not pleasant having a needle jabbed into muscles and nerves and the PT said it will feel a little worse today and tomorrow, but hopefully my arm will feel better on Wednesday.
rere, I had a friend like your DD's friend in my late 20's. It takes a toll on your self-esteem when a "friend" is badmouthing you to make themselves look better, especially in front of guys. I finally told her I'd had enough and we're no longer friends.
The weekend was busy! I had to go into the office on Friday, leaving DD2 home alone with the dog for several hours. As I was wrapping up, my sister asked if she could come over with her kids to swim, so I ran home to get the pool ready for them. Swam for a bit, then packed to leave for the beach house the next morning. Got to the beach house by 930am, but we didn't go to the beach as there were thunderstorm threats all day. It didn't actually rain until 8pm, but DH and I hung out and swam at the beach house while the kids rode their bikes to a mini golf place.
Sunday we tried to have a family day at the beach. Bad storms rolled through Sat evening so the waters were really rough - so the no swimming and shark flags were up. Easily 6-7 foot swells. Both kids were whiny and blaming us because they couldn't swim (we control the weather after all), so we finally left after a couple of hours and just went back to the house.
Today Dh and I are both working from the house, DD1 is meeting up with a friend from sleepaway camp who happens to be on vacation in the next town over. DD2 will just hang here and swim. I will work here again tomorrow, then leave tomorrow evening because we won't have water for most of the day on Wednesday here - new water heater and septic pumping. All of the activity will send my anxious dog into a frenzy, so it's definitely easier to leave. DH and the kids leave this Friday for their annual camping trip, so I'll be scrambling to get them all packed and ready this week. But then... a mom vacation!!!
Post by librarychica on Jul 31, 2023 10:52:36 GMT -5
We had a great weekend — school supply shopping, seeing a friend direct a community play — but per usual I didn’t get much of the stuff I’d planned to take care of around the house finished.
This is a busy week. We are watching my parents dog, I have Thursday and Friday off to go to the beach one last time before school starts, and I have a ton to get done M-W as a result.
Oh and random. H and I are considering relocating. If you feel like opining on where we should live, respond to the thread on that topic I’ll be creating.
Oh no mustardseed2007 ! We also dealt with puke this morning - I went to wake up DS3 and he was asleep in front of his door and there was puke in his bed. But he seemed to feel fine. He has a sensitive stomach and most of his pukes are food-related/one and done. So I threw the sheets in the washer and he's still at daycare. I hope your son feels better soon and your SIL's car is OK! I also broke a plate while unloading the dishwasher this morning. Oops.
I had fun with the little boys and friends this weekend while DH, DD, and DS1 were in Maryland with family. DS2 was thrilled that I was willing to cannonball into the pool with him Friday night. Saturday night I had a babysitter for a couple hours while I went to dinner with a friend. Yesterday I had another babysitter for several hours while I worked out and saw the Barbie movie with another friend. And the boys and I also did some playgrounds, got them haircuts, and organized the house and garage some.
Last night at 7:30 pm we went and picked up the rest of our family at the airport - it was good to all be together again. This morning DD told me she feels like she's in heaven, between a week of sleepaway camp, a week in Maryland with her extended family, and doing Dave & Busters camp again this week. She was also super happy that the temps outside here at home were 72 degrees when she got home last night, after sweltering weather on the East coast. I have my kids really busy this summer while we mostly just work like normal, so it made me feel good that she's having fun.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jul 31, 2023 11:20:51 GMT -5
We had a good weekend camping and riding with Beau's brother. It was Beau's brother's first time out with his new to him trailer. He left Friday morning and claimed a campsite in a first come, first serve campground and we joined him Friday night. Saturday we spent the day riding. We were about 3 miles away from our campsite after riding 60 miles of trails and roads when Beau got a flat tire on his bike. Luckily we were on a road and not a trail, so I rode back and grabbed the truck. We didn't have everything to fix the tire, so we called it a day riding, which I was glad because I was tired and sore. We proceeded to spend the evening eating way too much good food.
Sunday's drive home was a lot of stop and go traffic. This week will be busy getting ready to leave for a 3 night trip to a theme park in Idaho next weekend. Both of our vehicles need to be serviced so we have to take them to Beau's brother's shop, I have lots of grocery shopping to do, plus our regular gym routine.
Sunday was the big gym BBQ fundraiser at the concert in the park. We sold out of food! That was with a run to Chef's store to buy two more cases of noodles. We did 8 giant pork roasts for pulled pork and there was none left. The park was packed and it was really busy afternoon. Just from food sales we made 6k and that doesn't include snow cone sales or tip income. DD worked her butt off and it was noticed by multiple people.
I'm really sore and tired today. I also burnt my hand trying to scrap out scorched beans off the giant pot. I used the soap and water on the stove trick and the steam burnt me.
mommyatty, I have a friend like that, and it is so very draining. I keep trying with her, and it's a little easier because we always go out in a group, but she monopolizes the conversation about her crazy life and never lets anyone get a word in edgewise. She's not mean at all. She's just a bit awkward, and I never thought about the idea that there is likely a missing diagnosis there. She 100% needs therapy based on our conversations and her stress level.
But I would say this... your DS will not be your lovely friend, because you're doing everything possible to help him learn to navigate the world.
DH's cousin was diagnosed as autistic back in the late 80's - and I feel like there was NOTHING for kids like him back then. He was nonverbal for a long time, hyper-focused on certain things. Frequent meltdowns due to frustration and his inability to communicate. His mom was a strong advocate when the public school system did not want to mainstream him.
Now he's in his late 30's/maybe 40, working a full-time job that he loves, owns his own home, and is apparently in a relationship with a lovely woman (he lives far away so we only see him once a year or so). He's engaging, loves to chat, great a small talk, super friendly. DH used to babysit him a lot when he was a kid, and is just so, so happy for him. He just seems to have a very nice, happy life. But that could have gone another way if he didn't have such a great support system - like your DS has.
mae0111, The only time I saw DD she was working the snow cone station with the two senior girls 17/18yr olds. DD said that O and M included her and were nice, K was being a drama queen, and T had a bunch of friends from school there so was busy with them. So, I guess it went okay. DD got 5 snow cone shifts while most of the girls only got 2 but then she was actually working and doing more adult jobs than being a little kid. She and the two older girls she mainly worked with were the only kids tall enough to work the machine.
I should update that the pool party turned out fine. We drank WAY too much (largely due to me assuming a mixed drink that tasted mild would be mild) but were still on the tame side for this party. We ended up staying two hours later than planned (which the babysitter said was fine in advance!) but when I asked DH to grab her cash earlier in the day… he got the exact right amount. So when we came home I was trying to count out money the additional time using $2 bills (thank you in-laws!) and the result was… really embarrassing. I don’t think she’ll ever want to sit for us again. Which sucks, since the kids LOVED her.